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over a year ago
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I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening 
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time 
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them?  |
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them? "
That is the perfect reply because she would never believe it but think you have a great sense of humour  |
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them?
That is the perfect reply because she would never believe it but think you have a great sense of humour "
Ha, yes didn't think of that.
Might just say so |
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So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too. |
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"In your younger Days?
Blimey those Pornos start young 
Gimp"
Well, was 10 years ago I did my first shoot.
'Younger days' seems quite appropriate wording |
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them? "
Was it a woman ? |
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them?
That is the perfect reply because she would never believe it but think you have a great sense of humour
Ha, yes didn't think of that.
Might just say so "
If she looks at you like then just make out it's a joke, if she gets closer to listen to all the details then you are in |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too. "
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples. |
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them? "
guess it depends if you want to take it any further really. Would you want to continue swinging with a partner? Do you know their thoughts on porn and people in the porn industry?
I find it amusing that you dont like to label sexuality yet essentially you are labeling your interactions on here and on dates. why not just go with the flow? |
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too.
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples."
I think I'd be less objective to a swinging site, than an ex porn star, if I wasn't a swinger anyway. As it is I'd be really interested in both.
But your first post kind of reads that you are happy to fuck women from here, but not date them.
However, that could also be that it is early and I've had very little sleep this bank holiday weekend. |
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too.
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples."
Why would you break it to anyone? At all ? This is ONE date you've had isn't it ? And if you date them for years and then get married is there any reason really to tell them about your past sex life ? Unless you murder your meets there's just nothing happening except sex. |
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too.
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples."
After one date do you even need to tell her?
I think you're actually dying too though
Just be honest and say what you want to say to her,if she likes you then it won't matter,if she doesn't then it won't matter either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why do you class it as double standards?
The expectation of a date is a date, the expectation of no strings sex is exactly that.
You don't go to a football match to watch Phantom of the Opera. The two are very different.
Your date probably knows there's no double standard, she may surprise you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too.
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples.
Why would you break it to anyone? At all ? This is ONE date you've had isn't it ? And if you date them for years and then get married is there any reason really to tell them about your past sex life ? Unless you murder your meets there's just nothing happening except sex. "
Yes first date. Just come to mind after having a text about not wanting to jump straight into bed and me being a gentleman 
I see your point though, guess I wouldn't expect to be told about somebodies sex life prior.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You seem to use the term ex porn star as a USP, trust me from experience its certainly not. "
Wasn't quoting it as a USP, I quoted it as something that might be seen as a downfall in another persons eyes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why do you class it as double standards?
The expectation of a date is a date, the expectation of no strings sex is exactly that.
You don't go to a football match to watch Phantom of the Opera. The two are very different.
Your date probably knows there's no double standard, she may surprise you.
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"You seem to use the term ex porn star as a USP, trust me from experience its certainly not.
Wasn't quoting it as a USP, I quoted it as something that might be seen as a downfall in another persons eyes "
Then maybe the use of the cheeky devil emo was a poor choice, set the wrong tone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ha, don't think a doctor would diagnose that just because when I meet somebody beyond fab I'm somewhat a gentleman and wouldn't want them feeling like a fuck object "
My experience of Fab may be somewhat different to yours. Being a 'gentleman' isn't part time for me, my behaviors are my behaviors wherever I am.
I try not to underestimate the women I share my time with. I don't see the women I have met on Fab or myself solely as a 'fuck object'.
If you're new date is right for you she probably won't care about your past, just your future.
As long as you afford her the same privacy of her past it may never come up. |
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too.
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples.
Why would you break it to anyone? At all ? This is ONE date you've had isn't it ? And if you date them for years and then get married is there any reason really to tell them about your past sex life ? Unless you murder your meets there's just nothing happening except sex.
Yes first date. Just come to mind after having a text about not wanting to jump straight into bed and me being a gentleman
I see your point though, guess I wouldn't expect to be told about somebodies sex life prior. "
Okay. I wasn't going to say this BUT............ No lady messages a first date and mentions SEX..... k ?
Thank you for not humping me .....ewwwwwwwwww |
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Ha, don't think a doctor would diagnose that just because when I meet somebody beyond fab I'm somewhat a gentleman and wouldn't want them feeling like a fuck object
My experience of Fab may be somewhat different to yours. Being a 'gentleman' isn't part time for me, my behaviors are my behaviors wherever I am.
I try not to underestimate the women I share my time with. I don't see the women I have met on Fab or myself solely as a 'fuck object'.
If you're new date is right for you she probably won't care about your past, just your future.
As long as you afford her the same privacy of her past it may never come up."
Your first line is why you deserve respect and when im mature enough i'll give it to you .... the respect.
P.S. I've always liked your underpants as well as your views. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So you meet someone on here, you get on amazingly well, you have al the same things in common, but you fuck her, and won't take it any further, because you met her here?
Damn, I lost the face palm emo too.
No, if I met somebidy off here and there was a mutual attraction and so on I wouldn't be objective - however if I didn't meet them on here it's pretty hard to break to them what you've been getting upto via a website which I've been having mutual consentual no strings sex with singles and couples.
Why would you break it to anyone? At all ? This is ONE date you've had isn't it ? And if you date them for years and then get married is there any reason really to tell them about your past sex life ? Unless you murder your meets there's just nothing happening except sex.
Yes first date. Just come to mind after having a text about not wanting to jump straight into bed and me being a gentleman
I see your point though, guess I wouldn't expect to be told about somebodies sex life prior.
Okay. I wasn't going to say this BUT............ No lady messages a first date and mentions SEX..... k ?
Thank you for not humping me .....ewwwwwwwwww "
Really, well you'd be entirely wrong and I quote "thank you for dinner, it was lovely (miss compliments), was lovely to share an evening with somebody who's intentions were not motivated soley to ply me with wine with the hopes of getting into my knickers, you were a gentleman.
^think that explains it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Ha, don't think a doctor would diagnose that just because when I meet somebody beyond fab I'm somewhat a gentleman and wouldn't want them feeling like a fuck object
My experience of Fab may be somewhat different to yours. Being a 'gentleman' isn't part time for me, my behaviors are my behaviors wherever I am.
I try not to underestimate the women I share my time with. I don't see the women I have met on Fab or myself solely as a 'fuck object'.
If you're new date is right for you she probably won't care about your past, just your future.
As long as you afford her the same privacy of her past it may never come up."
I'm always a gentleman and respect others, however, meeting for casual sex and then meeting somebody to date are different.
I don't rock up to meets thinking I'm looking for a wife, chances are if I meet somebody for casual sex they just want that, I give them what they want and leave, if they want it to happen again or they want to see me again and the feeling is mutual then great - but I don't have to be a total gentleman and show my good qualities as a person to somebody who just wants me to be a better fuck than the last person they met for sex. |
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"You seem to use the term ex porn star as a USP, trust me from experience its certainly not.
Wasn't quoting it as a USP, I quoted it as something that might be seen as a downfall in another persons eyes "
but what are the actual chances of anyone making the connection that you were in whatever porn film made up to 10 years ago?
minimal to say the least.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You seem to use the term ex porn star as a USP, trust me from experience its certainly not.
Wasn't quoting it as a USP, I quoted it as something that might be seen as a downfall in another persons eyes
but what are the actual chances of anyone making the connection that you were in whatever porn film made up to 10 years ago?
minimal to say the least.."
Blabber mouths, being in the company of d*unken mates - always a possibility!
And when dating there is always the 'what have you done in life that you regret? question'
That's normally a good point to say rather than risk them finding out and being made to feel bad for not telling them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them? "
Nah...good for you
She couldn't keep up with her pretense and just wanted you to know she liked sex that much  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it's double standards I have the same standards as you. I fuck men from here the first time I meet them ,I have no intentions of dating them. If I met a man with intentions of dating for something more than just sex I would want to wait a while to get to know him before having sex. I don't understand some of the attitudes of the people commenting. Why shouldn't you treat someone you want a serious relationship with as special? |
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It's not double standards though is it? I understand that anyone I have sex with other than A is on a no strings basis, they understand that too or at least claim to. I don't lack respect for them I just don't want to be in a relationship with them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it's double standards I have the same standards as you. I fuck men from here the first time I meet them ,I have no intentions of dating them. If I met a man with intentions of dating for something more than just sex I would want to wait a while to get to know him before having sex. I don't understand some of the attitudes of the people commenting. Why shouldn't you treat someone you want a serious relationship with as special? "
Glad I'm not the only one to think like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not double standards though is it? I understand that anyone I have sex with other than A is on a no strings basis, they understand that too or at least claim to. I don't lack respect for them I just don't want to be in a relationship with them. "
Exactly, meeting off here isn't with the intention of anything more than sex where as meeting beyond here is very different.
Just felt a bit double standard being one way on here and not wanting to jump into bed when dating.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's double standards I have the same standards as you. I fuck men from here the first time I meet them ,I have no intentions of dating them. If I met a man with intentions of dating for something more than just sex I would want to wait a while to get to know him before having sex. I don't understand some of the attitudes of the people commenting. Why shouldn't you treat someone you want a serious relationship with as special? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have crazy double standards!
Meet off here, fuck, enjoy, move on.
If I go on an actual date - would never fuck and they'd be lucky to even get a kiss at the end of the evening
From last nights date I just had a text saying it was lovely meeting somebody who wasn't all about sex - oh how people jump to conclusions in a short time
Now do I reply telling them i'm an ex porn star who's into the swing scene and casual uncomplicated sex or do I continue dating without telling them?
That is the perfect reply because she would never believe it but think you have a great sense of humour
Ha, yes didn't think of that.
Might just say so
If she looks at you like then just make out it's a joke, if she gets closer to listen to all the details then you are in "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am out of practise on this dating lark, do people really tell all about their past sex life to a new date?
No you don't.
OP, keep your mouth shut and enjoy her company."
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I am different on here than I am when dating.
Here I connect with people and then arrange a meet for fun.
In dating I spend time getting to know them. Me as the person I am; the whole person and my body comes last. They don't get to know all about my fun on here until a suitable time. If I am dating then I am not swinging. I hide my account.
I went on a vanilla date and on the second date I asked what he normally does on a second date and his answer was ;fuck her. He was quite surprised I wouldn't fuck him on date too. He had to get to know me first before anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like she's had a lot of dates and fucked them on the first date, missed a trick there buddy!
Depends what you want out of this girl, if you want to date with the view to having a relationship then as things progress the conversations may involve asking when you last had sex, you could say you are on a naughty site where you meet ladies for fun but would delete the profile if needs be.
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