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Reality of Fab.?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since you joined has this site provided you with what you hoped for or not.?
Me first - yes on the whole, met some real nice guys and made some good friends for life I hope. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it's always been a bit of an uphill battle for me, then it felt like an upwall battle, these days it feels like an up OUTCROP battle where said outcrop is made of smooth, highly greased plastic and my fingers are partially melted butter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't really have any expectations. I only joined to chat to one guy on here and didn't expect to get messaged because it's a swinging site, i didn't think there'd be loads of singles on here.
I think i'm sad at how easy it is for people to cheat on someone over the internet. But only know about it because people are more honest about it on here, other sites are probably the same but they hide it. Wasn't expecting it though.
I'm not talking about genuine swingers who know each other are fucking others, i mean the ones who don't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"heartbreak and dissapointment when it comes to men
but i enjoy the online social community that is the forum so stick around "
The forum is the only reason I'm still on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, it havent worked out for me. I gues the perfect dream can never be realised in reality. But on the other hand I enjoy using the forum and chat room and upload pics and also made loads of online friends here x.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the whole yes it has. A few curve balls and near misses have been thrown in for good measure too. I have no regrets about the experiences I've had. I hope to continue the exploration in the near future. I see no reason that Fab, or rather the people on here, won't be able to do that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm doing champion 
The wonder horse ? 
And now we know why the avatar works so well! "
oh i say 
love this site -having a blast just wish more free time to see everybody - ultimate bonus was meeting W plus friends we share |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is what it is, just like life, some ups, some downs, come across some right bellends and then there are some lovely members.
I've not regretted the ride so far  |
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It's been great and I didn't have such high expectations, as like to not over estimate things. My needs change and my main surprise has been the amount of effort that coping with simple inbox and admin can warrant.
I've got to know some lovely people though some family tragedies curtailed things for a while. So I've been a bit disengaged at times, not able to put as much in as I'd like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is what it is, just like life, some ups, some downs, come across some right bellends and then there are some lovely members.
I've not regretted the ride so far "
Where you to? |
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As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is what it is, just like life, some ups, some downs, come across some right bellends and then there are some lovely members.
I've not regretted the ride so far
Where you to?"
Currently on the sofa 
I'm in the Rhondda at the min. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Predominantly we joined to explore our sexual boundaries and have fun...seeing that we are now closer than ever and stronger as a couple as a result, we have definitely found what we hoped to!
We've had experiences that we've learnt a lot from, made some amazing friends, and have just got home from a social that has us both ridiculously excited about the next meet
Fab is awesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums. "
Pretty much the same for me really, had no expectations when I joined so it's worked okay for me so far. I chat to a few people regularly and quite enjoy the forums, if anything more happens it happens, no pressure or expectations, just take things as they are.
I can't take myself seriously which helps on here, I think most of those who have some sort of problem with the site have unattainable expectations and would benefit from chilling out and going with the flow a bit more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haven't met anyone yet. I'm shy in person, maybe it's the fear of rejection but on here, am surprised with what I've said to women, and what they've said back. In a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mainly yes
I've met some great people, had a few party invites and generally had a good time on here
I've had a few disappointments too but the good times greatly out weigh the bad that's why I'm still here
Would like to meet someone local for regular meets, that's not happened yet, had a few offers but not from anyone where its worked out
But we can't have it all |
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By *ridmusCouple
over a year ago
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"As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums. "
My sentiments exactly...
And great pics! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I signed up to verify a couple of friends, and was overwhelmed by messages. This was in July last year, after a Stint of 9 months in Madrid. I arranged a couple of meets but got cancelled on last minute over the summer. I went back to uni in Sept, and swore myself off relationships, sex, men, women, etc.
Three weeks into term a certain blithering idiot, his words, not mine, has moved into my house more or less, and has taken up a special place in my life. 6 months later and its gone so fast, met a lovely couple and had my first foursome, started involving a close friend in our sexy times too, my attitudes to love and sex have changed, and one thing my mum noticed since ive been back in London: I'm not comfort eating anywhere near as much as I used to. So you could say, in an indirect way, fab had helped me to lose weight too! (and he likes LONG walks in the countryside so there's that element of 10 mile walks too).
It doesn't come without its own issues, jealous women and crazy exes, but on the whole its been an amazing experience, so much more than I ever bargained for! Especially considering I was there to verify a friend! |
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"As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums.
My sentiments exactly...
And great pics! "
Thanks. Great pics yourself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Since you joined has this site provided you with what you hoped for or not.?
Me first - yes on the whole, met some real nice guys and made some good friends for life I hope. "
Yes it has provided me with what I wanted most of the time.
I have realised though that often the fantasy is much better than real life in certain situations. |
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I joined seven years ago seeking compatible playmates and that's exactly what I found. The last meet I had in November 2013 is snoring beside me.
Through the site I've discovered clubs, something I enjoy with the other half.
There's still plenty of six around, I just don't want it at present. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"heartbreak and dissapointment when it comes to men
but i enjoy the online social community that is the forum so stick around
The forum is the only reason I'm still on here!"
Why did you go off sex? |
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"As soon as I took the pressure off myself of actually trying to find a meet I've really started to relax and enjoy being here.
Just having fun on the forums from now on and if anything else happens then that's just a bonus. Have come across some really nice people on the forums. "
This ^^^ I this, totally agree. |
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"I joined seven years ago seeking compatible playmates and that's exactly what I found. The last meet I had in November 2013 is snoring beside me.
Through the site I've discovered clubs, something I enjoy with the other half.
There's still plenty of six around, I just don't want it at present."
I prefer the 69 to the six  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its what you make of it!
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True. I have good days and bad days. I try to be nice to people and I am learning to live with rejection. I have met some lovely people and some not so lovely ones. Still here though. I do enjoy the forums more than some of the random messages I get.
If I was more proactive I could meet more often but I would rather have a few good friends than a hundred aquaintances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Came here because we wanted to go to clubs And the forums and club re_iews kept us up to date on what's happening out there.
However by using the site tools and keeping in touch with people we have met along the way the site presents a lot of opportunities that sadly we can't find the time to do as much as we want.
The site works well for us but we are in a lucky position of choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I must be naive, was expecting a bit more. I'm certainly no male model, but I'm polite, clean, discreet, may even say dapper. But rarely even get a reply to my messages, which don't just consist of 'hi'. So I think I may just have to concede I'm not for it, not the other way around, not bitter, I guess I just don't stand out from the rest?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So far I am really liking this site, I haven't been here long, but I have had some great chats, met some fantastic people. Next step is visiting a club for me, so I will take my time, plus I expect nothing from anybody on this site.
I haven't changed, I have been open and honest, and I think that has helped me to be fair
Have acted out some fantasies, but still have alot more to try  |
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"I am having a ball!
Just the one? 
Or do you mean you're collecting souvenirs? "
I like to think she means it more in the sense of the Black Lace song...
We're having a gangbang, we're having a ball
We're having a gangbang, up again'st the wall!...etc |
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
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"I am having a ball!
Just the one?
Or do you mean you're collecting souvenirs?
I like to think she means it more in the sense of the Black Lace song...
We're having a gangbang, we're having a ball
We're having a gangbang, up again'st the wall!...etc "
That's exactly what I mean.
Souvenir collecting is frowned upon isn't it?
As should quoting Black Lace songs!
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"I am having a ball!
Just the one?
Or do you mean you're collecting souvenirs?
I like to think she means it more in the sense of the Black Lace song...
We're having a gangbang, we're having a ball
We're having a gangbang, up again'st the wall!...etc
That's exactly what I mean.
Souvenir collecting is frowned upon isn't it?
As should quoting Black Lace songs!
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Weird thing is that's now the second time I've quoted Black Lace lyrics in a post. I think I may have a serious problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally different to my expectations!
When I was single I loved going and pulling in a nightclub. I love the chase.
And it's virtually impossible to find "the chase" buzz here.
Being married doesn't help though.
But most guys are "hi yeah I'd fuck ya" and then I'm not interested. That doesn't turn me on in the slightest.
Having said that there's a couple of guys I chat to who are more like mates and I do get excited by the fact that at any point the mood of our conversations can change to something incredibly hot and flirty.
My favourite Fab buddy so far was a guy who just wanted repeat social meets just looking for new mates in the area. The complete lack of any expectation of anything more made me desperate to fuck him. He couldn't believe I was even interested in him like that for some reason, and that turned me on more!
But finding meets like that is rare.
I am looking forward to going to a club for the first time with my husband though.
And a spontaneous MFM with my husband was hot for different reasons, no chase required on that one!
I do prefer a psychological connection though, not just physical. And that takes time. |
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"Totally different to my expectations!
When I was single I loved going and pulling in a nightclub. I love the chase.
And it's virtually impossible to find "the chase" buzz here.
Being married doesn't help though.
But most guys are "hi yeah I'd fuck ya" and then I'm not interested. That doesn't turn me on in the slightest.
Having said that there's a couple of guys I chat to who are more like mates and I do get excited by the fact that at any point the mood of our conversations can change to something incredibly hot and flirty.
My favourite Fab buddy so far was a guy who just wanted repeat social meets just looking for new mates in the area. The complete lack of any expectation of anything more made me desperate to fuck him. He couldn't believe I was even interested in him like that for some reason, and that turned me on more!
But finding meets like that is rare.
I am looking forward to going to a club for the first time with my husband though.
And a spontaneous MFM with my husband was hot for different reasons, no chase required on that one!
I do prefer a psychological connection though, not just physical. And that takes time."
Ladies like this is what makes fab for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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found a few meets - one started out a bit disappointing but because of someone else on here it turned into the best night recently....
so on the whole yes, I am enjoying being on fab...it works for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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met a few who I am happy to call friends who I would never have met any other way. A few others - but oh so much time wasted chatting to those who have no intention of meeting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and no.
A female friend got me on here. She gets a decent amount of meets and sold it to me lol.
After being here a while I realised the reality. I've adjusted accordingly.
Does that answer the question or not I dunno. |
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By *immy2xMan
over a year ago
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Im not gay pr bi. I came here with the expectation of lots of uncomplicated sex. But its hard here for nice average looking guys when the ladies are here specifically to fulfill certain fantasies that often involves threesomes with oyher guys, hence thr meed i think for a single guy to be at least a bit bi here.
I get much more action on dating sites which is a shame cause there i have to lie about my intentions and people can get hurt. But thats just how it goes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had no idea what to expect when I joined. I love that I've chatted to, and met people, who otherwise I never would have if I hadn't signed up.
The patter on the forums is brilliant and something I enjoy, but as for anything else is a bonus…forget that! There's way too many fantastic people to met not to make an effort. |
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"I joined seven years ago seeking compatible playmates and that's exactly what I found. The last meet I had in November 2013 is snoring beside me.
Through the site I've discovered clubs, something I enjoy with the other half.
There's still plenty of six around, I just don't want it at present.
I prefer the 69 to the six "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since you joined has this site provided you with what you hoped for or not.?
Me first - yes on the whole, met some real nice guys and made some good friends for life I hope. "
Personally i had no expectations when i joined and i was pleasantly surprised and decided the old way of swinging was the old way this was easier
now 7 years on no issues, i use the site when i want to and meet when i want to |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I use the site as and when I want to, sometimes to chat, sometimes to meet, sometimes to attend parties and socials and I find it has met my expectations. Let s face it I would not have been here for the length of time that I have.
I would say that some of the disappointment single guys may experience can be associated with not having completed their profiles and possibly only presenting cock shots.
Same with some couples looking for the elusive single bi-female : As somebody else said on a different thread a few days ago....
If you look at your own profile - would you meet that person based on what you are seeing/ reading? If the answer is anything less than an overwhelming "Yes" then maybe the profile needs an update?
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