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over a year ago
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So today or tonight I should say I confessed to my close friends that I fancy older than women not just like as in a few years like 40 years plus , its not serious as it sounds but to me its something that pesters me day in day out , I just thought f**k it so I told them , they instantly started telling me I'm weird and that its stupid it upset me in a way I don't really know why because its not serious ? Its just something close to my heart which needs to be said , I'm not a weirdo because I like older women ,its not a fantasy or whatever its because I genually fancy them and I have since I was likkle kid you know , so what are you fabbers thoughts on this I even told them I would like a relationship with an older woman if I could and then they judge blah blah its just a load of bs to me , I just want to be me I'm not hiding behind a mask anymore. So its like I come out in a way haha.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your friends sound very shallow to me.
I like older men, we all like different things, you've said you like older women and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!
You'll find in life that some people are judgemental, some aren't. Some people know who they are and what they want, others spend their entire lives not knowing who they are.
There is nothing wrong with you OP x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They are judgemental pricks to be honest and they always assume stuff just does my nut in they are littrelly nut cases I just want to be who I am "
Then be you, sounds like you may have outgrown them a little  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's your life , so go for what you want. It's good to know your own mind and I've known many couples with age gaps. In some the guy is older and in others, the lady. Just because your likes don't mirror your friends - that doesn't make you wrong. |
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I'm guessing they are a similar age to you op and at 18 lads can still be very immature! It also wouldn't surprise me if one or more of them like similar things but it's easier for them to take the piss at your expense! They'll grow up one day! Probably! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not weird to like older women,but may I suggest you toughen up a bit,an 18 year old shouldn't get upset over a bit of banter from his mates.I'm sure those same mates would jump at the chance of enjoying an older woman's sexual advances |
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If you knew how many men find older women attractive, you'd know that they probably also do and have reacted in such a way as to deny it.
A bit like some straight men on here with a love of cock, and not their own. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm guessing they are a similar age to you op and at 18 lads can still be very immature! It also wouldn't surprise me if one or more of them like similar things but it's easier for them to take the piss at your expense! They'll grow up one day! Probably! "
They don't understand like what its like they treat me like I'm there little brother just because I'm a little quieter than what they are im just sick of letting stuff stay on my mind all the time , if they don't like who I am f**k them  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So when you become 40 years old yourself will you fancy older women ie 70 year olds ?"
Maybe the woman Im with is that age when I'm 40 , love is love |
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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago
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If they think that's weird they must lead sheltered lives. Milf porn is one of the most popular kinds. Stick to your guns, you are who you are. Or get new friends, they sound like dicks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm guessing they are a similar age to you op and at 18 lads can still be very immature! It also wouldn't surprise me if one or more of them like similar things but it's easier for them to take the piss at your expense! They'll grow up one day! Probably! "
This. 
Cheer up OP. If they witter on too much just pretend you were messing around so they will leave you alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So when you become 40 years old yourself will you fancy older women ie 70 year olds ?
Maybe the woman Im with is that age when I'm 40 , love is love "
Do your friends know youre on a swingers site looking for older women.
Dating sites might be another option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They are judgemental pricks to be honest and they always assume stuff just does my nut in they are littrelly nut cases I just want to be who I am "
As a test, ask what they think of kelly brooke. Then ask if they would do kelly brooke in 30 years time. There's your answer and it should hopefully break the ice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with you just ignore and enjoy your life!
On the flip side I wonder if people would be as supportive if an older guy says he prefers younger women!
Maybe that's a post for another day!?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So when you become 40 years old yourself will you fancy older women ie 70 year olds ?
Maybe the woman Im with is that age when I'm 40 , love is love
Do your friends know youre on a swingers site looking for older women.
Dating sites might be another option."
I told them I was on dating site I knew what they would of been like if I told them it was a swingers site, but I haven't even tried a dating site in my life , maybe that's another thing to try |
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"If you knew how many men find older women attractive, you'd know that they probably also do and have reacted in such a way as to deny it.
A bit like some straight men on here with a love of cock, and not their own. "
...or like big women but go yuk when out with their mates.
Op, I operate on a "need to know" basis. Being yourself doesn't mean you need to share the minutiae of your life with your nearest and dearest.
Our "private life" private being the operative word, means just that. If you do share you have to be prepared for the micky taking. It doesn't mean you're friends are shallow or mean...it's banter amongst mates.
I hope you find what you're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So today or tonight I should say I confessed to my close friends that I fancy older than women not just like as in a few years like 40 years plus , its not serious as it sounds but to me its something that pesters me day in day out , I just thought f**k it so I told them , they instantly started telling me I'm weird and that its stupid it upset me in a way I don't really know why because its not serious ? Its just something close to my heart which needs to be said , I'm not a weirdo because I like older women ,its not a fantasy or whatever its because I genually fancy them and I have since I was likkle kid you know , so what are you fabbers thoughts on this I even told them I would like a relationship with an older woman if I could and then they judge blah blah its just a load of bs to me , I just want to be me I'm not hiding behind a mask anymore. So its like I come out in a way haha. "
Before I joined Fab, this would have sounded weird to me but I've had my eyes opened and I'm more enlightened than what I was and I was open minded before here. My guy I see is younger than me (35), so do what you want and maybe get some new friends too. Sounds like you have outgrown them. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So today or tonight I should say I confessed to my close friends that I fancy older than women not just like as in a few years like 40 years plus , its not serious as it sounds but to me its something that pesters me day in day out , I just thought f**k it so I told them , they instantly started telling me I'm weird and that its stupid it upset me in a way I don't really know why because its not serious ? Its just something close to my heart which needs to be said , I'm not a weirdo because I like older women ,its not a fantasy or whatever its because I genually fancy them and I have since I was likkle kid you know , so what are you fabbers thoughts on this I even told them I would like a relationship with an older woman if I could and then they judge blah blah its just a load of bs to me , I just want to be me I'm not hiding behind a mask anymore. So its like I come out in a way haha.
Before I joined Fab, this would have sounded weird to me but I've had my eyes opened and I'm more enlightened than what I was and I was open minded before here. My guy I see is younger than me (35), so do what you want and maybe get some new friends too. Sounds like you have outgrown them. Good luck "
I'm 18 on the outside but inside I'm a grown man if that makes any sense maybe I should get the pub and start making friends with some men rather then boys haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you knew how many men find older women attractive, you'd know that they probably also do and have reacted in such a way as to deny it.
A bit like some straight men on here with a love of cock, and not their own.
...or like big women but go yuk when out with their mates.
Op, I operate on a "need to know" basis. Being yourself doesn't mean you need to share the minutiae of your life with your nearest and dearest.
Our "private life" private being the operative word, means just that. If you do share you have to be prepared for the micky taking. It doesn't mean you're friends are shallow or mean...it's banter amongst mates.
I hope you find what you're looking for."
Discretion..... a word disappearing from modern times......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Whatever floats your boat go with it, don't worry about what others think, I'm sure if they publically shared what they're in to or like that would raise a few eyebrows too!
And I'm sure a few cougars / MILFs on here will have pricked up their ears on reading this so who knows, maybe you might get lucky! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you knew how many men find older women attractive, you'd know that they probably also do and have reacted in such a way as to deny it.
A bit like some straight men on here with a love of cock, and not their own.
...or like big women but go yuk when out with their mates.
Op, I operate on a "need to know" basis. Being yourself doesn't mean you need to share the minutiae of your life with your nearest and dearest.
Our "private life" private being the operative word, means just that. If you do share you have to be prepared for the micky taking. It doesn't mean you're friends are shallow or mean...it's banter amongst mates.
I hope you find what you're looking for."
This.
Being judged by those you interact with is just the reality of life. At your age I'd have most likely judged any mate who revealed what you have in a similar way to your friends. At the least there would have been some banter.
Toughen up and learn to guard your privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whatever floats your boat go with it, don't worry about what others think, I'm sure if they publically shared what they're in to or like that would raise a few eyebrows too!
And I'm sure a few cougars / MILFs on here will have pricked up their ears on reading this so who knows, maybe you might get lucky!"
Well I have got a meet on the weekend with a special lady so .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sentences and a comma or two wouldn't go amiss OP so I could actually uberstand what the hell you are on about  "
Maybe try a little harder to understand or just read another thread? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever floats your boat go with it, don't worry about what others think, I'm sure if they publically shared what they're in to or like that would raise a few eyebrows too!
And I'm sure a few cougars / MILFs on here will have pricked up their ears on reading this so who knows, maybe you might get lucky!
Well I have got a meet on the weekend with a special lady so .... "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sentences and a comma or two wouldn't go amiss OP so I could actually uberstand what the hell you are on about "
Its hard being scouse sometimes haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you knew how many men find older women attractive, you'd know that they probably also do and have reacted in such a way as to deny it.
A bit like some straight men on here with a love of cock, and not their own.
...or like big women but go yuk when out with their mates.
Op, I operate on a "need to know" basis. Being yourself doesn't mean you need to share the minutiae of your life with your nearest and dearest.
Our "private life" private being the operative word, means just that. If you do share you have to be prepared for the micky taking. It doesn't mean you're friends are shallow or mean...it's banter amongst mates.
I hope you find what you're looking for.
Discretion..... a word disappearing from modern times...... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing wrong with you just ignore and enjoy your life!
On the flip side I wonder if people would be as supportive if an older guy says he prefers younger women!
Maybe that's a post for another day!?! "
Nothing wrong with that either as long as it's legal, who gives a crap what people think as long as the folks involved are happy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm 18 on the outside but inside I'm a grown man if that makes any sense maybe I should get the pub and start making friends with some men rather then boys haha "
At 18 I thought I was too.
I mean no disrespect and am not saying you're not after all I don't know you, but I was still very much a boy at 18 even though I believed otherwise at the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Society likes you to hide anything that does not fit with the usual, primates do this type of judging.... "
Very true, I've spent all of my adult life trying to fit into societies mold... The vanilla road is not for everyone... Only wished I realised that sooner...
OP, go for it! |
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Yes, an 18 year old wanting to have relationship with a woman 40 years older than himself is weird. Forget all the preference and whatever turns you on bullshit, it's just not natural.
Spotting a particular female who is decades older than you and thinking "Yeah, I'd fuck her" is a lot different to thinking you would like to date anyone who is old enough to be your grandmother. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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it does sound weird, you might like them now but then get bored with them and prefer someone of your own age.
sometimes we like to be different and try different things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ok I'm just back from my Darby and Jone meeting and I put this question to my fellow pensioners.
But I'm afraid I've forgot the answer.
I'll ask again at bingo tonight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your friends sound very shallow to me.
I like older men, we all like different things, you've said you like older women and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!
You'll find in life that some people are judgemental, some aren't. Some people know who they are and what they want, others spend their entire lives not knowing who they are.
There is nothing wrong with you OP x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I'm just back from my Darby and Jone meeting and I put this question to my fellow pensioners.
But I'm afraid I've forgot the answer.
I'll ask again at bingo tonight. "
somebody say bingo??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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thing is people change their minds about things all the time, you didn't realy expect your friends to not be surprised that you liked much older women, a lot of people think the same but they don't say anything, they probably might do behind your back though, your mates are just being honest. |
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"If you knew how many men find older women attractive, you'd know that they probably also do and have reacted in such a way as to deny it.
A bit like some straight men on here with a love of cock, and not their own.
...or like big women but go yuk when out with their mates.
Op, I operate on a "need to know" basis. Being yourself doesn't mean you need to share the minutiae of your life with your nearest and dearest.
Our "private life" private being the operative word, means just that. If you do share you have to be prepared for the micky taking. It doesn't mean you're friends are shallow or mean...it's banter amongst mates.
I hope you find what you're looking for."
this.. |
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How sad that so called friends treated you that way. I've had people I've known be dicks and shallow about my life course and choices - and let some of them go.
I think it reflects the tight jacketed minds some choose to construct.
Maybe question if there's some other driver to you telling them and you may be better choosing some friends more wisely. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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when I was 17 I fancied a man who was 70, I didn't have full sex with him though, at the time I didn't think anything of it, only now I realise why people would think it was strange. |
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"So today or tonight I should say I confessed to my close friends that I fancy older than women not just like as in a few years like 40 years plus , its not serious as it sounds but to me its something that pesters me day in day out , I just thought f**k it so I told them , they instantly started telling me I'm weird and that its stupid it upset me in a way I don't really know why because its not serious ? Its just something close to my heart which needs to be said , I'm not a weirdo because I like older women ,its not a fantasy or whatever its because I genually fancy them and I have since I was likkle kid you know , so what are you fabbers thoughts on this I even told them I would like a relationship with an older woman if I could and then they judge blah blah its just a load of bs to me , I just want to be me I'm not hiding behind a mask anymore. So its like I come out in a way haha. "
Yeah no one's gonna shag you for a sob story.
Lisa Ann is over 40 for example I bet everyone of your mates has cracked one off to her. |
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"So today or tonight I should say I confessed to my close friends that I fancy older than women not just like as in a few years like 40 years plus , its not serious as it sounds but to me its something that pesters me day in day out , I just thought f**k it so I told them , they instantly started telling me I'm weird and that its stupid it upset me in a way I don't really know why because its not serious ? Its just something close to my heart which needs to be said , I'm not a weirdo because I like older women ,its not a fantasy or whatever its because I genually fancy them and I have since I was likkle kid you know , so what are you fabbers thoughts on this I even told them I would like a relationship with an older woman if I could and then they judge blah blah its just a load of bs to me , I just want to be me I'm not hiding behind a mask anymore. So its like I come out in a way haha.
Yeah no one's gonna shag you for a sob story.
Lisa Ann is over 40 for example I bet everyone of your mates has cracked one off to her. "
This ain't no sob story it how I feel uts something that's close to me what I wouldnt normally say anything about |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So today or tonight I should say I confessed to my close friends that I fancy older than women not just like as in a few years like 40 years plus , its not serious as it sounds but to me its something that pesters me day in day out , I just thought f**k it so I told them , they instantly started telling me I'm weird and that its stupid it upset me in a way I don't really know why because its not serious ? Its just something close to my heart which needs to be said , I'm not a weirdo because I like older women ,its not a fantasy or whatever its because I genually fancy them and I have since I was likkle kid you know , so what are you fabbers thoughts on this I even told them I would like a relationship with an older woman if I could and then they judge blah blah its just a load of bs to me , I just want to be me I'm not hiding behind a mask anymore. So its like I come out in a way haha.
Yeah no one's gonna shag you for a sob story.
Lisa Ann is over 40 for example I bet everyone of your mates has cracked one off to her.
This ain't no sob story it how I feel uts something that's close to me what I wouldnt normally say anything about"
Bollocks no teenage boy has ever been teased for liking 40 year old.
50 or 60 sure your into ridicule territory but 40 nah that's still milf/cougar ages and so common as to not even be worth mentioning.
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