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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
Us swingers are a pretty liberal minded lot so i thought i'd ask opinions on cheating....
I've been cheated on in my 1st marriage & tried but didn't succeed with forgive and forget. I'm now with a man i adore & although i never imagined i would like it, i actually enjoy us both swinging. Seeing him give/receive pleasure from another woman/women is highly arousing.
Swinging & cheating are two different things in my book. I love and accept our swinging life, however as much as i adore my partner i would never forgive or live with a cheater......
What's your thoughts? Does being a swinger make you more accepting of infidelity?
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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"cheating is cheating in our book ,,,, we play together or not at all in our relationship , just so glad we have got some fantastic friends who we play with  "
Agreed. We go to the club together, if one of us plays with someone else that's fine, if the other finds nobody takes there fancy then hey ho. Same with meets, if we aren't both in for it then neither of us are playing.... |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
I thought, perhaps rather naively, that being a swinger meant no need for secrets and cheating as really the freedom to do whatever with whoever was granted. I learnt over the years that this not so.
Swinging and cheating are two very different things, cheating by definition means one party is unaware of the other (trusted party's) activities.
I am not a fan of "beind somebody's back" kind of meets for all the complicatiions they might cause but I would not judge anybody for doing whatever they want to do. They just would not be doing it with me. |
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Cheating ain't swinging.
Cheating encourages the stigma surrounding swinging/swingers and aids misconceptions.
Cheating is about lying and sneaking about whereas swinging is about (as I perceive) being open about sex.
In my books if you encourage cheating by engaging in any sexual acts with someone you know is in a relationship/married with the guise of swinging you are only helping bring the community down.
Grabs popcorn*
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"What other's chose to do, it's their business.
I will not get involved in it.
would you even know?"
Good point this - I usually say that I would not knowingly meet attached people but of course in a club or party situation you don t know. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"What other's chose to do, it's their business.
I will not get involved in it.
would you even know?"
I don't get involved in the detail of people's situation....I just say 'do their thing with people who will do their thing with them''......
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Everybody will have there own _iews on this.
For us swinging is something we do together with the full consent of both of us. We have always said that if either of us wishes to stop then we both stop.
Cheating is going behind the others back without their knowledge or agreement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are on here as a couple and play as a couple that is swinging to us. If one us goes off and does things with out the other knowing then that is cheating. And the nasty thing about this is there is people ton here that would tempt you to cheat for there own enjoyment so be careful |
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"What's your thoughts? Does being a swinger make you more accepting of infidelity?
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Of course not.
Those trying to make excuses for themselves/others will usually bring up the whole "swinging isn't in your marriage vows so technically you're all cheating too" or "Society would condemn what you do as socially unacceptable too so get off your high horse, ect, ect" but there's a massive difference in my eyes between consenting and enjoying something together and disrespecting, lying to and deceiving the one you "love" by playing behind their back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hi to us swinging is something different.than having a partner when you swing both of you know whats happening.
when your with somebody to cheat on them is to let them down behind there back.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having known a few swinging couples who have then cheated with people they have previously swung with my worry would always be u are putting temptation into a relationship by swinging.
I don't know if I could swing in a serious relationship.
last yr I was playing with a couple who had met whilst swinging and then left their respective others for each other. I was seeing both of them individually (without the others knowledge) without realising. When I first met them as a couple and realised I had met the female before things got very awkward because both were cheating on each other. They split not long after that because he was still meeting women they had swung with on his own. |
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