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To have or to be ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...
Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...
Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...
Is having more important than being?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Love is nothing but power, you tell a woman you love them and all you are doing is giving them the power to break your heart. "
Well my thread was about that but I do see where you come from mate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Chaque acte de rébellion exprime une nostalgie de l'innocence et un appel à l'essence de l'être.
According to Camus anyway. I like rebelling and being."
Albert Camus was right, I do believe it is linked  |
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"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...
Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...
Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...
Is having more important than being?
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On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...
Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...
Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...
Is having more important than being?
On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here. "
Very inhuman indeed...leaves you feeling lonely and craving emotional contact |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...
Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...
Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...
Is having more important than being?
On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here.
Very inhuman indeed...leaves you feeling lonely and craving emotional contact"
and although for some the fuck and go thing is what they do and up to them - we prefer the connection which is more than just the physical- if its not there its not going to happen for us - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for many people they get their emotional fulfilment elsewhere, and are here to fulfil their sexual needs only.
I don't actually 'care' about any of my NSA 'friends', i don't wish them dead or anything like that, but if they had drama in their lives i wouldn't give a shit about it. Honestly do just fuck them off if they try and offload their shit onto me, i'm not here for that. NSA basically means not here to deal with your shit.
Probably does sound horrible but i just don't want to invest myself in people who don't give a shit about me. I'm happy for that to go both ways. |
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"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...
Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...
Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...
Is having more important than being?
On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here.
Very inhuman indeed...leaves you feeling lonely and craving emotional contact"
It can indeed - but as the last few posts have shown, the whole of life is represented here, some want more, some want less. It can become something of a numbers game if your selection process is based on the 'haves', it's really hard to search for the imponderables. But if you are lucky every now and then a true connection of some depth is made, and then maybe it's worth it. |
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If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.
Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.
For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for many people they get their emotional fulfilment elsewhere, and are here to fulfil their sexual needs only.
I don't actually 'care' about any of my NSA 'friends', i don't wish them dead or anything like that, but if they had drama in their lives i wouldn't give a shit about it. Honestly do just fuck them off if they try and offload their shit onto me, i'm not here for that. NSA basically means not here to deal with your shit.
Probably does sound horrible but i just don't want to invest myself in people who don't give a shit about me. I'm happy for that to go both ways."
Absolutely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.
Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.
For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though."
Yes it was my point... have instead of being and you'll meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I care too much."
Never stop caring
You will shrivel up inside and be sad
I care and like you have regular 'friends' who I'm quite fond of.
I'm glad some men care too as when I've had trouble it's guys from fab who have stepped in to help me out for no reward other than a cuppa  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.
Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.
For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though."
My profile also mentions non-physical attributes that I prefer too, such as a sense of adventure. I see that as having just as much as with physical attributes. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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It's possible to 'have' physical attributes that are unappealing to.
Having a flipping great wart on the end of your nose, for example. 
Hmmm.
Yes, I see what you mean. What one has can be important.
Particularly when it's a diamond encrusted platinum credit card. Or genital warts. |
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"If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.
Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.
For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though.
My profile also mentions non-physical attributes that I prefer too, such as a sense of adventure. I see that as having just as much as with physical attributes."
Yes personality traits are important to me but on here I go for physical attraction first. I'd be deluding myself and any potential meet if I said otherwise. |
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"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.
Oscar Wilde.
A nice quote but I wouldn't want someone to treat me like something I wasn't "
I think if someone loves you you aren't ordinary to them. I also think that you can't choose who to love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm starting to think I care too much.
Never stop caring
You will shrivel up inside and be sad
I care and like you have regular 'friends' who I'm quite fond of.
I'm glad some men care too as when I've had trouble it's guys from fab who have stepped in to help me out for no reward other than a cuppa "
Sometimes I think I care more about others' well being than my own. I never put myself first. |
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"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other."
I can too. I can also like someone I don't
find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.
I can too. I can also like someone I don't
find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them."
Some toys are just to be looked at,not for touching. |
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I can find someone attractive because of their self. I can have sex with them, even if I don't find them particularly attractive. To a degree anyway.
Funnily enough it doesn't go the other way. I cannot have sex with beautiful people who are ugly in their self.
But I do go for looks first here, it is a visual media after all. |
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"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.
I can too. I can also like someone I don't
find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them.
Some toys are just to be looked at,not for touching. "
That's very true. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.
I can too. I can also like someone I don't
find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can see why it's hard for single people, we as a couple can easily be quite cold and blunt in what we want because we have each other to fall back on emotionally so don't get that lonely feeling,
but we are quite specific what we want and at the end of the day we are here for sex, we can have a laugh and a giggle but looks is the main factor for us |
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