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"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile "You shall be punished for this. | |||
"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile "Even if they're called Dom. | |||
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"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile
Even if they're called Dom."One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom | |||
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"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile
Even if they're called Dom.
One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom "Dom Dom? Was he mates with Tom Tom? | |||
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"Do you have to be a slut to be submissive? " No (though I realise it was clearly a rhetorical question). And personally the title of the thread only serves to highlight the condescending and patronising tone of the opening post and how uninformed the poster probably is | |||
"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile "ah you mean Dim Doms lol | |||
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"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile ah you mean Dim Doms lol"Im sure I ate some of those from the Chinese last week | |||
"It is funny when the Dom/sub 'experts' pop up. They like to create the impression there's a secret Dom/sub religion that only the privileged few can know and master. It really isn't that hard or exclusive." Im no expert nor do I claim to be,Im just sick of men who say they're dominant when all it means is that they're a selfish rough fuck | |||
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"It is funny when the Dom/sub 'experts' pop up. They like to create the impression there's a secret Dom/sub religion that only the privileged few can know and master. It really isn't that hard or exclusive. Im no expert nor do I claim to be,Im just sick of men who say they're dominant when all it means is that they're a selfish rough fuck " | |||
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"Domination and Submissive are the words applied. Unfortunately in a lot of cases your correct. So called Doms are complete F#*k wits who do not have a clue of what is really required or expected x" Out of interest, what makes you a Dom worth listening to? | |||
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"Going by what the ladies post on there profile terminology. No ones came back to tell me who the real controlling person is in that situation? " you missed a reply then, a lady said it pperfectly, so read back | |||
"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx" Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone | |||
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"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone " | |||
"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex " so is it a case that they have not got a clue but that youre the dom every sub is looking for?? sounds more like a wannabe rant!! | |||
"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone "But don't forget to add what you want to say | |||
"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile
Even if they're called Dom.
One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom "What if they like to play safe and promote the use of a conDom?... Are you saying then that you like to bareback??!!! *runs and hides | |||
"You haven't got a clue have you???" Who? | |||
"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile Dick...or.....Dom.....or.....dickdomhead?????
Even if they're called Dom.
One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom " | |||
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"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex " In all honesty, the submissive retains full control at all times. | |||
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"You haven't got a clue have you???" No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually. And here's why... Being submissive does not mean being a slut. And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive. Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut. Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut. If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different. Some just prefer the guy to take control. And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut". Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not). Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".  | |||
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"You haven't got a clue have you??? No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually. And here's why... Being submissive does not mean being a slut. And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive. Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut. Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut. If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different. Some just prefer the guy to take control. And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut". Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not). Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut". "Could you say all that again without the aggression maybe? | |||
"You haven't got a clue have you??? No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually. And here's why... Being submissive does not mean being a slut. And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive. Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut. Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut. If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different. Some just prefer the guy to take control. And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut". Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not). Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".
Could you say all that again without the aggression maybe? "haha...I was just sayin.... | |||
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"Controlling person? You mean the sub? I hope you mean the sub otherwise you are the one needing to understand what it means. Without the subs willingness you have nothing. "100% agree with this, the submissive is the one with the real control, they can end what ever is happening as soon as they like. | |||
"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile "i often end up telling the "dom" guys what to do ..so many are full of shit.. | |||
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"You haven't got a clue have you??? No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually. And here's why... Being submissive does not mean being a slut. And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive. Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut. Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut. If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different. Some just prefer the guy to take control. And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut". Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not). Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".
Could you say all that again without the aggression maybe? ". good girl! I think that you might be the dom lol | |||
"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone
But don't forget to add what you want to say"Don't go bullying him now. | |||
"Yet another thread which reinforces why I will not find what I seek on here. " I can cope with the misconceptions. What would prevent me from delving into BDSM with most on here is the inability to truly understand and apply negotiation and consent. crystal | |||
"You haven't got a clue have you??? No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually. And here's why... Being submissive does not mean being a slut. And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive. Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut. Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut. If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different. Some just prefer the guy to take control. And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut". Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not). Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut". "This | |||
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"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex " 'Submissive Sluts' Grrrr. I'm fed up of people thinking those words are interchangeable or paired. | |||
"Yet another thread which reinforces why I will not find what I seek on here. I can cope with the misconceptions. What would prevent me from delving into BDSM with most on here is the inability to truly understand and apply negotiation and consent. crystal" . now that is deep! Loving the female response to this thread! | |||
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"There's a new game We like to play you see A game with added reality You treat me like a dog Get me down on my knees We call it master and servant We call it master and servant It's a lot like life This play between the sheets With you on top and me underneath Forget all about equality Let's play master and servant Let's play master and servant It's a lot like life And that's what's appealing If you despise that throwaway feeling From disposable fun Then this is the one Domination's the name of the game In bed or in life They're both just the same Except in one you're fulfilled At the end of the day Let's play master and servant Let's play master and servant Let's play master and servant Come on, master and servant" . | |||
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"Who switched on this threads 'Depeche' mode? " . i know! There's always one to let loose with the lyrics ay | |||
"There's a new game We like to play you see A game with added reality You treat me like a dog Get me down on my knees We call it master and servant We call it master and servant It's a lot like life This play between the sheets With you on top and me underneath Forget all about equality Let's play master and servant Let's play master and servant It's a lot like life And that's what's appealing If you despise that throwaway feeling From disposable fun Then this is the one Domination's the name of the game In bed or in life They're both just the same Except in one you're fulfilled At the end of the day Let's play master and servant Let's play master and servant Let's play master and servant Come on, master and servant" ohhh yes. *drooool*. Had me a totally DM couple of hours yesterday on youtube yesterday. Live concerts - forwarded to 3/4 way through when Dave is topless and sweaty.  | |||
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"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex so is it a case that they have not got a clue but that youre the dom every sub is looking for?? sounds more like a wannabe rant!!" Definitely not a rant I was replying to the guy who was completely off cue. Anal I think is the word I'm looking for x | |||
"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex " Surely though, as with many things, there is a scale. Every individual/partnership will end up at a different place within that scale. Some - will be at the extreme end and others on the lightly dabbling end. Plus there will be movement within this as you gain trust with another person or your experience increases. I agree with what others have said though that it is all to do with getting inside the mind. The power is definitely not all with one of the parties, and personally I feel it often lies more with the submissive partner. Not a view always agreed with, but it's how I see it. | |||
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"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all. The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub. It's what appeals to individuals/couples and how important communication is between the Dom and Sub to make sure boundaries and limits are respected. which will obviously be different to every person. I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it. Jason " You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic. But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm. I read so many posts where its evident all someone wants to do is get their misogynistic/misandrist rocks off, bark orders like General Melchett or just have a selfish rough shag. They disguise it under a 'D/s' wrapper and its anything but that. Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. | |||
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"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all. The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub. It's what appeals to individuals/couples and how important communication is between the Dom and Sub to make sure boundaries and limits are respected. which will obviously be different to every person. I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it. Jason You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic. But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm. I read so many posts where its evident all someone wants to do is get their misogynistic/misandrist rocks off, bark orders like General Melchett or just have a selfish rough shag. They disguise it under a 'D/s' wrapper and its anything but that. Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. " | |||
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"Lots of people are getting hooked up on the word slut.. All of us on here are sluts.. "Speak for yourself | |||
"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all. The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub. It's what appeals to individuals/couples and how important communication is between the Dom and Sub to make sure boundaries and limits are respected. which will obviously be different to every person. I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it. Jason You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic. But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm. I read so many posts where its evident all someone wants to do is get their misogynistic/misandrist rocks off, bark orders like General Melchett or just have a selfish rough shag. They disguise it under a 'D/s' wrapper and its anything but that. Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. " Well Said! | |||
"Lots of people are getting hooked up on the word slut.. All of us on here are sluts..
Speak for yourself "I can't, my mistress does all the talking | |||
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"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile "nice one lol x | |||
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"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all. The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub. It's what appeals to individuals/couples and how important communication is between the Dom and Sub to make sure boundaries and limits are respected. which will obviously be different to every person. I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it. Jason You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic. But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm. I read so many posts where its evident all someone wants to do is get their misogynistic/misandrist rocks off, bark orders like General Melchett or just have a selfish rough shag. They disguise it under a 'D/s' wrapper and its anything but that. Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. " well at least somebody gets it! | |||
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"Controlling person? You mean the sub? I hope you mean the sub otherwise you are the one needing to understand what it means. Without the subs willingness you have nothing. "I agree completely. But once that trust has been built with that guidance, approval and understanding of you. You are totally lost without them. | |||
"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex " Let me guess... You saw a profile of a woman you wanted to meet. It said she's submissive. You sent her a message commanding her to "Kneel, slut" and told her she would meet you, how she would present herself, what she would do for you and what you would do to her. She either: - Blocked you (hopefully) - Declined to meet you - Told you that she has limits that don't gel with what you want, or told you she needs to get to know you a bit and establish trust first. You are having a hissy fit because, in your head, saying you are Dom entitles you to exactly what you want, when you want it, from anyone and everyone who identifies as submissive. They say they are submissive so obviously they want to be told what to do and will enjoy doing exactly what you want, for the joy of 'serving' a total stranger. If they say no, that clearly means they are not really submissive and don't understand what they are asking for. You'll deny it, obviously, but I'd bet money on it. It's you, OP, that blatantly has no clue at all about the nature of D/s. Capitalising submissive was an indication and everything you've said screams that you don't know what you're on about. There are responsibilities to being Dominant and a sub has a right, always, to be treated with respect, regard and care, to have limits and to say no. Saying you're Dominant is not a meal ticket to getting your cock sucked, being selfish and/or rough or anything else, even though a lot of men on here seem to think it is. I also tend to avoid men who claim they are Dominant on here, even if they say they can meet without D/s (since I am very, very far from sub). Usually they turn out to be arrogant, entitled, pushy and selfish. Put '50 Shades' down, you're not doing yourself any favours. And since we're on the subject of representing yourself accurately, perhaps you should take a realistic look at yourself and lead by example. I'm not just talking about your claim of being a Dominant, ridiculous though that is. | |||
"There are so many subs and doms on here now, it's seems to be Fabs new in thing. I am neither sub nor dom and ignore any message with all that malarkey in it "50 Shades has a lot to answer for. Plus men who can't get a meet suddenly think "Hey, if I find a woman who says she's sub, I can command her to meet me. She'll dress and act exactly as I say and I'll get my cock sucked as much as I like. Plus, since she's sub, she'll love it and totally get off on it so I don't need to concern myself with her pleasure. Brilliant!" And a "Dom" is born. | |||
"Do you have to be a slut to be submissive? No (though I realise it was clearly a rhetorical question). And personally the title of the thread only serves to highlight the condescending and patronising tone of the opening post and how uninformed the poster probably is" ^ yup! | |||
"Im just sick of men who say they're dominant when all it means is that they're a selfish rough fuck "^ yup again | |||
"There are so many subs and doms on here now, it's seems to be Fabs new in thing. I am neither sub nor dom and ignore any message with all that malarkey in it "I'm with you. With so many arguing about the right and wrong way of doing this, it doesn't seem like you get much out of it!  | |||
"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up! Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex Let me guess... You saw a profile of a woman you wanted to meet. It said she's submissive. You sent her a message commanding her to "Kneel, slut" and told her she would meet you, how she would present herself, what she would do for you and what you would do to her. She either: - Blocked you (hopefully) - Declined to meet you - Told you that she has limits that don't gel with what you want, or told you she needs to get to know you a bit and establish trust first. You are having a hissy fit because, in your head, saying you are Dom entitles you to exactly what you want, when you want it, from anyone and everyone who identifies as submissive. They say they are submissive so obviously they want to be told what to do and will enjoy doing exactly what you want, for the joy of 'serving' a total stranger. If they say no, that clearly means they are not really submissive and don't understand what they are asking for. You'll deny it, obviously, but I'd bet money on it. It's you, OP, that blatantly has no clue at all about the nature of D/s. Capitalising submissive was an indication and everything you've said screams that you don't know what you're on about. There are responsibilities to being Dominant and a sub has a right, always, to be treated with respect, regard and care, to have limits and to say no. Saying you're Dominant is not a meal ticket to getting your cock sucked, being selfish and/or rough or anything else, even though a lot of men on here seem to think it is. I also tend to avoid men who claim they are Dominant on here, even if they say they can meet without D/s (since I am very, very far from sub). Usually they turn out to be arrogant, entitled, pushy and selfish. Put '50 Shades' down, you're not doing yourself any favours. And since we're on the subject of representing yourself accurately, perhaps you should take a realistic look at yourself and lead by example. I'm not just talking about your claim of being a Dominant, ridiculous though that is." Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved  | |||
"Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved "It's not a generally well regarded thing to claim here, as a result of attitudes like those displayed by the OP. There are better sites for pursuing interests in D/s and BDSM if they happen to appeal. It is possible to find BDSM and D/s here and those with knowledge and the right attitude can be picked out from the sea of chancers and wannabes by anyone who knows what they're on about, but some here will always be put off by it, based on the behaviour of the Dumbinants. | |||
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"Do you have to be a slut to be submissive? " Not at all. Scarlett is very submissive when we play but would be very angry if referred to as a Sub Slut. | |||
"Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved
It's not a generally well regarded thing to claim here, as a result of attitudes like those displayed by the OP.
There are better sites for pursuing interests in D/s and BDSM if they happen to appeal.
It is possible to find BDSM and D/s here and those with knowledge and the right attitude can be picked out from the sea of chancers and wannabes by anyone who knows what they're on about, but some here will always be put off by it, based on the behaviour of the Dumbinants."Yeah I'm on fet as well just enjoy this side of things as well. nothing wrong with wanting a little bit of both worlds haha | |||
"Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved
It's not a generally well regarded thing to claim here, as a result of attitudes like those displayed by the OP.
There are better sites for pursuing interests in D/s and BDSM if they happen to appeal.
It is possible to find BDSM and D/s here and those with knowledge and the right attitude can be picked out from the sea of chancers and wannabes by anyone who knows what they're on about, but some here will always be put off by it, based on the behaviour of the Dumbinants.
Yeah I'm on fet as well just enjoy this side of things as well. nothing wrong with wanting a little bit of both worlds haha"I never said there was. You were the one complaining about not feeling able to mention D/s on your profile here. They're different worlds. If you want both, fine, but you have to accept the nature and limitations of both. | |||
