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A question for the ladies
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"There are many sexy, sassy, ballsy, ladies on these forums, ladies who know what they want and not afraid to get it. So a question to you ladies, have you always been this confident, even in your younger years, or has your confidence increased since swinging. I must admit I feel a lot more confident now than I did a year ago. For once Im proud of my curves and ok, whilst I would be lying if I said I like the roll of fat on my tummy, ive realised that its ok to not look like Kate Moss. I havent been swinging for very long and still feel a bit shy to say no to people in clubs that I dont want to play with. That doesnt mean I play with them all, i just hide my face in my partners shoulder and he tells them no. I accept Ive got a lot to learn in relation to etiquette etc. Did it all come naturally or have you ladies made mistakes along the way "My confidence has been up n down but this is usually due to life experiences and not specifically swinging...i was a good girl when i was younger...wouldnt have dreamt of doing some of the stuff i have done recently ,years ago, but i have to say i am comfortable in my own skin, in answer to the OPs question swinging hasnt been specifically responsible for my confidence as it is now | |||
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Lastly, I have witnessed how unhappy my mum was for staying with my father because she did not have the means to support herself, let alone the rest of us, during yet another one of his d*unken episodes that resulted in my mum, myself and my siblings bunking off to stay in a hotel while my dad was d*unk inside our family home.
Hence I vowed when I was 14, shortly before I was sent over here to school, that I would never be dependent on a man.
I worked my socks off to get good grades in order to go to uni.
Having a professional qualification that guarantees good enjoyable and well paid jobs for life certainly helps to build up my confidence and self-esteem, by being able to support my lifestyle etc...
Like I was fed up of not being able to find any decent clothes off the peg that fit, so I have them made to measure. Having clothes that fit and make me look good is a real confident booster!
I am comfortable in my own skin, and enjoy my own company. I do not need to be part of a collective in order to feel secure.
I am like Marmite, either you love me or you hate me. I speak my own mind, and my opinions are my own, and I do not give a flying f**k whether anyone agree or disagree with them! 
I am definitely not shy, or afraid to be a lone voice amongst a sea of oppositions! | |||
and no im not trying to get into your nicks !
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"Ive always been a bossy boots and know EXACTLY what i want....alllll my life "Really? It doesn't show at all. | |||
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"I got here by accident and it says on my birth certificate that my father was the milkman "full cream, mmm | |||
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"No! I had a domineering husband who sapped my confidence for years, a boss that made me feel equally useless and I just wanted to disappear. I used to dress in black, navy, brown and grey. I wanted to be invisible. One day I just had enough!!! I remember my boss going on about something and dismissed me with the words - "I don't even know what you do around here!" I went into the office and told my staff to type up the briefings, letters EXACTLY how he'd written them. They asked me to check and I said no, just pp them and send them out. A few days later he came into the office and started looking through the day book - we had to staple his original to the file copy. After a while he coughed and said "oh, we've been getting complaints that the standard of work coming out of the department is slacking, and the executives are complaining. I asked him to be specific, explain what he meant. He took out a pile of correspondence and said, these haven't been corrected. I looked at it and said, "well, that's what you wrote" he said yes, but you always correct it. I looked at him and said - "now you know what I do...I make you look good!" That was the turning point for me - I changed, I realised I'm quite a smart, funny, person and I was being subjugated by my husband and boss. I decided that I was going to leave my husband, but there was no way was I going to be a single parent, so waited until my youngest went to secondary school and I left. I kept my head down, getting to know me and finding out what I liked. The first time I went shopping after leaving my husband I was confused - I didn't know what cereal I liked for heaven's sake as I always bought what the family wanted. When I discovered internet dating that was a shock, as men just wanted to jump my bones. I felt appalled and flattered in equal measure, but found I couldn't put myself in a position where men dominated me again. I don't recognise the woman I was. This new me is fearless, confident, ballsy, yes, arrogant at times, and enjoying the fun of playing with men. The thing is the men I play with HAVE to be successful, alpha males outside the bedroom for me to really enjoy them. I have a couple that are really lovely men, and I enjoy playing with them as they are a great laugh and the look on their faces when I have a new toy is a huge turn on. The others, it's just a buzz having them - with one I'll call him when I know he's about to go into a meeting and tell him he's needed. I had a mental block at work once and needed light relief - called him out of work to come and wank for me in my office. "love it! | |||
"No! I had a domineering husband who sapped my confidence for years, a boss that made me feel equally useless and I just wanted to disappear. I used to dress in black, navy, brown and grey. I wanted to be invisible. One day I just had enough!!! I remember my boss going on about something and dismissed me with the words - "I don't even know what you do around here!" I went into the office and told my staff to type up the briefings, letters EXACTLY how he'd written them. They asked me to check and I said no, just pp them and send them out. A few days later he came into the office and started looking through the day book - we had to staple his original to the file copy. After a while he coughed and said "oh, we've been getting complaints that the standard of work coming out of the department is slacking, and the executives are complaining. I asked him to be specific, explain what he meant. He took out a pile of correspondence and said, these haven't been corrected. I looked at it and said, "well, that's what you wrote" he said yes, but you always correct it. I looked at him and said - "now you know what I do...I make you look good!" That was the turning point for me - I changed, I realised I'm quite a smart, funny, person and I was being subjugated by my husband and boss. I decided that I was going to leave my husband, but there was no way was I going to be a single parent, so waited until my youngest went to secondary school and I left. I kept my head down, getting to know me and finding out what I liked. The first time I went shopping after leaving my husband I was confused - I didn't know what cereal I liked for heaven's sake as I always bought what the family wanted. When I discovered internet dating that was a shock, as men just wanted to jump my bones. I felt appalled and flattered in equal measure, but found I couldn't put myself in a position where men dominated me again. I don't recognise the woman I was. This new me is fearless, confident, ballsy, yes, arrogant at times, and enjoying the fun of playing with men. The thing is the men I play with HAVE to be successful, alpha males outside the bedroom for me to really enjoy them. I have a couple that are really lovely men, and I enjoy playing with them as they are a great laugh and the look on their faces when I have a new toy is a huge turn on. The others, it's just a buzz having them - with one I'll call him when I know he's about to go into a meeting and tell him he's needed. I had a mental block at work once and needed light relief - called him out of work to come and wank for me in my office.
love it!"me too lol | |||
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