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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have a slight issue.
Lady is far more about penetration than any kind of foreplay, So it often gets skipped. I like it (giving and recieveng), but it's hard not to be drawn in when a women just wants to be penetrated.
Lady cums much quicker than me, normally I would be proud of how long I can last but actually its a bit inconvenient. Because although she can cum several times, she has what you might call a 'final' cum, after which she wont have any more. And if I haven't cum yet, this can be frustrating as although she still enjoys the sex, its not quite the same for either of us.
Lady and I have discussed it, and whilst we do agree that giving me a head start with some foreplay would be a good idea, in the heat of the moment the plan is always forgotten.
How can I gently remind her before we start that it would benefit us both for a bit of a warm up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How about her finish you off with a blow job after she has finished
Saying that I have met loads of guys who dont give a shit once they have cum so made me smile a bit to see a woman doing it 
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"How about her finish you off with a blow job after she has finished
Saying that I have met loads of guys who dont give a shit once they have cum so made me smile a bit to see a woman doing it
Sorry "
Blow job would be a step backwards surely. We still have the sex, its just not the same.
I'm going to pretend the 'making me smile' comment as solidarity rather than gleeful schadenfreude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How about her finish you off with a blow job after she has finished
Saying that I have met loads of guys who dont give a shit once they have cum so made me smile a bit to see a woman doing it
Sorry
Blow job would be a step backwards surely. We still have the sex, its just not the same.
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A blow jobs a step backwards?  really?
I love a guy to go down on me after I've had a shag, and before and during) I suppose it depends what you like, I've never seen oral as a step backwards |
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"How about her finish you off with a blow job after she has finished
Saying that I have met loads of guys who dont give a shit once they have cum so made me smile a bit to see a woman doing it
Sorry
Blow job would be a step backwards surely. We still have the sex, its just not the same.
A blow jobs a step backwards? really?
I love a guy to go down on me after I've had a shag, and before and during) I suppose it depends what you like, I've never seen oral as a step backwards "
Maybe its a guy thing. Or me thing. Just always felt blow jobs were a step on the way to sex.
But then I'm more of a handjob guy. |
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In fact oral after she has cum can keep her rolling for ages.
As for the ops problem...cant help.
Oh hold on. How about some postits round the bedroom and some 'Don't forget to suck this' undercrackers
Sorry for not being serious |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Remind her before you start?
Was hoping to find something subtle.
Not 'Oi Darlin' don't forget to suck it first'."
Your question was how to remind her before you start.
Unless you have a written memorandum prepared or are both fluent in sign language, I really can't think of a more practical solution than verbal communication. How you phrase it is up to you. |
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"Remind her before you start?
Was hoping to find something subtle.
Not 'Oi Darlin' don't forget to suck it first'.
Your question was how to remind her before you start.
Unless you have a written memorandum prepared or are both fluent in sign language, I really can't think of a more practical solution than verbal communication. How you phrase it is up to you."
Suck this bitch? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Dare I tell her she cums too quick so I'll have to sub her off...
Post its are unsubtle but might work.
Thanks for the ideas, the serious ones are definitely food for thought.
Just to be clear this is only really a problem when her last cum is siginifcantly before my mine. Often we time it nicely.
She also doesn't know if it'll be her last until its happened, so she can hold off. Not that she really can do it anyway.
Interestingly there is a lot of help out there for men who current to quick, a d ridicule to be fair.
Not a lot for women. |
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"Remind her before you start?
Was hoping to find something subtle.
Not 'Oi Darlin' don't forget to suck it first'.
Your question was how to remind her before you start.
Unless you have a written memorandum prepared or are both fluent in sign language, I really can't think of a more practical solution than verbal communication. How you phrase it is up to you."
Well that essentially was the question. How could something like that be discussed at the time without spoiling the mood, baring in mind that by this point she is already turned on and craving penetration.
Its an easy conversation outside of the heat of the moment, but a bit tricky at the time itself. |
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"Well that essentially was the question. How could something like that be discussed at the time without spoiling the mood, baring in mind that by this point she is already turned on and craving penetration.
Its an easy conversation outside of the heat of the moment, but a bit tricky at the time itself."
If you cannot communicate in or before "the heat of the moment," there are likely to be unresolved issues. Try it. You are about to get intimate so express that verbally. No need to feel embarrassed. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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OP - try orgasm denial.
You will get off on the tease - and she will explode on the final act? It can last exactly how long as you want... hours the whole day - I have lasted a full 12 hours of tease. Some talk on here of days of denial.. this is doable but on a regular sex life ... a good amount of tease will get you both off very well.
It is eruption, with scale! |
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"Well that essentially was the question. How could something like that be discussed at the time without spoiling the mood, baring in mind that by this point she is already turned on and craving penetration.
Its an easy conversation outside of the heat of the moment, but a bit tricky at the time itself.
If you cannot communicate in or before "the heat of the moment," there are likely to be unresolved issues. Try it. You are about to get intimate so express that verbally. No need to feel embarrassed."
Thanks but its not about embarrassment, its about handling it sensitively, and not ruining the moment.
I don't think anyone would like to be told they cum too quickly just before sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP - try orgasm denial.
You will get off on the tease - and she will explode on the final act? It can last exactly how long as you want... hours the whole day - I have lasted a full 12 hours of tease. Some talk on here of days of denial.. this is doable but on a regular sex life ... a good amount of tease will get you both off very well.
It is eruption, with scale!"
Now that is an idea I like. Not only hopefully solving the problem but turning it to my advantage.
Its a different angle to why I was thinking, exactly why I asked on here really.
I have done this with her before, but not for this reason.
Top marks. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Now that is an idea I like. Not only hopefully solving the problem but turning it to my advantage.
Its a different angle to why I was thinking, exactly why I asked on here really.
I have done this with her before, but not for this reason.
Top marks."
dont tell her you are going to - dick in ... cock to mouth - finger to clit - holes, alternates, tempos, maybe some restraints to keep her hands steady or positioned. A good gauge chain and D-clips work well better than pad locks (as you can easily lose the key) if you get comfy mixing it up in the future. Otherwise there are obvious position changes, obvious toys, vibs... all that turn on and by accident - turn off just at the most inappropriate of peaks - just when you need a brew You can be very wicked in leaving 'hot spots', but with denial it is in the mastery of the denial before the eventual giving that. Maybe discussion would be useful prior but all depends on the woman and how relaxed toward sex she is, |
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"Well that essentially was the question. How could something like that be discussed at the time without spoiling the mood, baring in mind that by this point she is already turned on and craving penetration.
Its an easy conversation outside of the heat of the moment, but a bit tricky at the time itself.
If you cannot communicate in or before "the heat of the moment," there are likely to be unresolved issues. Try it. You are about to get intimate so express that verbally. No need to feel embarrassed.
Thanks but its not about embarrassment, its about handling it sensitively, and not ruining the moment.
I don't think anyone would like to be told they cum too quickly just before sex."
Then prepare how you will say it. I cannot add anymore. Surely the solution is, as they say, in your hands. If you are not embarrassed, then just work out in advance what words you will use. Noone here knows her like you do. |
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"Well that essentially was the question. How could something like that be discussed at the time without spoiling the mood, baring in mind that by this point she is already turned on and craving penetration.
Its an easy conversation outside of the heat of the moment, but a bit tricky at the time itself.
If you cannot communicate in or before "the heat of the moment," there are likely to be unresolved issues. Try it. You are about to get intimate so express that verbally. No need to feel embarrassed.
Thanks but its not about embarrassment, its about handling it sensitively, and not ruining the moment.
I don't think anyone would like to be told they cum too quickly just before sex.
Then prepare how you will say it. I cannot add anymore. Surely the solution is, as they say, in your hands. If you are not embarrassed, then just work out in advance what words you will use. Noone here knows her like you do."
Not that I don't welcome your attempts to help. But what you're suggesting is merely the mechanism I was already, decided on. Without answering the question of how.
You've essentially repeated my question back to me as a solution to the question.
Once again, thanks, but I think we were at crossed wires. |
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With the proviso that the solution is in your own hands. Do you want people to dictate the words for you? That really would not work. Take responsibility. |
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"With the proviso that the solution is in your own hands. Do you want people to dictate the words for you? That really would not work. Take responsibility."
I was asking for suggestions, not exact instructions. Perhaps if that wasn't clear to you from the question, it could have been from the fact I have feedback I gave to you and others with suggestions.
I have explained the situation to you many times, if you haven't grasped it, perhaps leave it alone.
It seems to be only you who hasn't full understood my meaning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With the proviso that the solution is in your own hands. Do you want people to dictate the words for you? That really would not work. Take responsibility.
I was asking for suggestions, not exact instructions. Perhaps if that wasn't clear to you from the question, it could have been from the fact I have feedback I gave to you and others with suggestions.
I have explained the situation to you many times, if you haven't grasped it, perhaps leave it alone.
It seems to be only you who hasn't full understood my meaning."
Ah, then I shall leave it alone. I hope you find the right suggestion from other more sensible posters. |
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