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over a year ago
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It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me.  |
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I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!! |
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"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me. "
Just out of interest - what are these 'morals behind swinging' you speak of ?
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!! "
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me.
Just out of interest - what are these 'morals behind swinging' you speak of ?
S x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not here to make anyone feel good because they think I should
I have made loads of friends in the last 7 years of swinging but Im never going to have enough time in the world to meet everyone I fancy the pants off let alone feeling I have to find time to meet up with people I don't fancy
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!!
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?. "
Of course not. I've attended a few large scale socials/parties and wouldn't of played with a lot of the people I've met and I'm sure the feeling was mutual for those people but I can still talk to them.
There are many posts on here from people who think that we should fuck anything though even if we aren't attracted to them. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like."
If I met everybody who expressed an interest in meeting me, I'd never have time to do anything else  That would include finding, contacting and meeting people who appeal to me.
Why would I meet people I know I won't want to have sex with? I'm not looking for hundreds of new friends, particularly not when those "friends" are actually just wanting to persuade me to fuck them, even when I've told them I'm not interested.
Some people on here think anything short of a block is a "maybe" so I've no idea what signal meeting someone I have no interest in would send!
Sure, an ongoing friendship with the people I do click with and meet is ideal but I'm not looking for random new "friends".
My time is my own. I don't owe it to anybody else just because they want to meet me.
Obviously I'm going to make best use of my time by prioritising meeting people I think I'll be attracted to.
If anyone else wants to meet socially, they're free to attend any of the site socials.
I'm not a social charity. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!!
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?. "
A group social and setting aside time for multiple one-to-one meets are very different things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!!
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?.
Of course not. I've attended a few large scale socials/parties and wouldn't of played with a lot of the people I've met and I'm sure the feeling was mutual for those people but I can still talk to them.
There are many posts on here from people who think that we should fuck anything though even if we aren't attracted to them. "
I'm sorry if what I wrote implied that sense. No one is forced onto anything. What I meant to say is all people are beautiful and what I noticed from the forum that some users write the most hurtful things. Meeting someone doesn't always meet you're going home with them. You could meet someone just to go out and enjoy their company whether good looks or not. But everyone has the right to do what they please. |
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"As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like"
This doesn't make any sense what so ever..
Looks are subjective for a start..we are here to swing with people we find attractive..I've got plenty of butt ugly average looking mates..why do I want even more?swinging is about friendships and sex!why waste time on people you don't even want to be friends with let alone fuck!
"look love,he's fucking minging,and I definitely wont get turned on watching his cock trying to poke his head over his 50" waist but lets meet him anyway..lets just have more friends we don't want that will not be friends anyway!
That's not what swinging is about..that's called going to the pub and being forced to talk to the bloody regulars. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!!
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?. "
I don't know what an M&G is but if I was in a bar and someone I didn't find attractive spoke to me with obvious intentions he wanted sex I would make my excuses and move away. I'm here to meet for sex,with men who fit my criteria. I can't possibly chat to everyone just in case they become more attractive over time. This is where your first messages help,with me anyway. |
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!!
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?.
Of course not. I've attended a few large scale socials/parties and wouldn't of played with a lot of the people I've met and I'm sure the feeling was mutual for those people but I can still talk to them.
There are many posts on here from people who think that we should fuck anything though even if we aren't attracted to them.
I'm sorry if what I wrote implied that sense. No one is forced onto anything. What I meant to say is all people are beautiful and what I noticed from the forum that some users write the most hurtful things. Meeting someone doesn't always meet you're going home with them. You could meet someone just to go out and enjoy their company whether good looks or not. But everyone has the right to do what they please. "
I could and probably would but I don't have time to meet people I'm not attracted to on the off chance they might turn out to be a good laugh and we can have a night out anyway. Time is precious and I have friends already that I can do that with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We certainly dont have to meet everyone who pops in with a message.. Some don't even have time to go through all of them. All I want to say, which no one noticed, its nice to be nice to people and not to deal with them differently for the way they look. Some people don't do respect and politeness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!! "
as we are easy anf should meet anyone as its a sex site  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Although people use this site in a variety of ways, which is perfectly reasonable, I think it's as much of a mistake to consider this a social site as it is to consider it a fuck site.
It's a swinging site. It has a social aspect but the basic purpose is to meet people with whom you want to swing. That means meeting people you find attractive.
Would getting meets but being told, "ok, I've met you and I still don't fancy you", actually feel any better? I doubt it. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"We certainly dont have to meet everyone who pops in with a message.. Some don't even have time to go through all of them. All I want to say, which no one noticed, its nice to be nice to people and not to deal with them differently for the way they look. Some people don't do respect and politeness. "
By "being nice" you seemed to be suggesting meet, even if you don't want to shag them.
I don't have the time, energy or inclination to be that nice.
If that's not what you meant by "being nice", please clarify what you think we should be doing? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Although people use this site in a variety of ways, which is perfectly reasonable, I think it's as much of a mistake to consider this a social site as it is to consider it a fuck site.
It's a swinging site. It has a social aspect but the basic purpose is to meet people with whom you want to swing. That means meeting people you find attractive.
Would getting meets but being told, "ok, I've met you and I still don't fancy you", actually feel any better? I doubt it."
And attractive is in many forms and shapes as well and what's not to your liking is someone else's dream. Don't have to meet anyone you don't like just be nice about the way you dismiss it.
I haven't said you need to meet them or do anything with them. I only said it's hurtful and sad to see someone not able to do something they like because people find them unattractive.
Like I said every one has the right to do what they want. I was only referring to how it made me feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some people use this how they wish to but on messages its clear to see some people think its a hook up sex site and attraction isn't important (it is to me)
I use this to socialise, meet and play with like minded people who i find attractive, i like and can have fun with.
I dont care what people think, the only thing i care about is my well being and my safety. I know what the site is and as a single i respect this. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I wonder sometimes, when I see these posts proclaiming that too much emphasis is placed on looks and people should meet people they don't find attractive, if the tables were turned and it was men that found getting meets easy, how polite they'd be to all "the women who wouldn't get a first, never mind a second, look in the real world". The ones they message anyway and then bitch about when they have the audacity to say no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people don't do respect and politeness.
I always message ladies with "Would you do me the honour of having a fuck with you"  "
Crawly lick arse
Did I see it was your birthday?
Happy birthday x |
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"I wonder sometimes, when I see these posts proclaiming that too much emphasis is placed on looks and people should meet people they don't find attractive, if the tables were turned and it was men that found getting meets easy, how polite they'd be to all "the women who wouldn't get a first, never mind a second, look in the real world". The ones they message anyway and then bitch about when they have the audacity to say no."
they would still moan lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wonder sometimes, when I see these posts proclaiming that too much emphasis is placed on looks and people should meet people they don't find attractive, if the tables were turned and it was men that found getting meets easy, how polite they'd be to all "the women who wouldn't get a first, never mind a second, look in the real world". The ones they message anyway and then bitch about when they have the audacity to say no."
I speak for myself. Getting meets is not an issue. I never looked down on a persons offer or ignored for their looks.
It's nothing personal though I feel you're upset by the post. It's simply is what it is and that's what I read and see. I just wrote what I felt and what I was thinking about. Though I did apologize if it did offend anyone. It's not meant to, this is aforum and everyone can write what they think.
I believe you didn't understand what I wrote in the OP and only talked about meeting in the last past and I didn't prolong onto the subject because you can't force someone to meet a person. Though manners are important. But thank you for sharing your thoughts.  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I wonder sometimes, when I see these posts proclaiming that too much emphasis is placed on looks and people should meet people they don't find attractive, if the tables were turned and it was men that found getting meets easy, how polite they'd be to all "the women who wouldn't get a first, never mind a second, look in the real world". The ones they message anyway and then bitch about when they have the audacity to say no.
I speak for myself. Getting meets is not an issue. I never looked down on a persons offer or ignored for their looks.
It's nothing personal though I feel you're upset by the post. It's simply is what it is and that's what I read and see. I just wrote what I felt and what I was thinking about. Though I did apologize if it did offend anyone. It's not meant to, this is aforum and everyone can write what they think.
I believe you didn't understand what I wrote in the OP and only talked about meeting in the last past and I didn't prolong onto the subject because you can't force someone to meet a person. Though manners are important. But thank you for sharing your thoughts. "
So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean? |
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"I wonder sometimes, when I see these posts proclaiming that too much emphasis is placed on looks and people should meet people they don't find attractive, if the tables were turned and it was men that found getting meets easy, how polite they'd be to all "the women who wouldn't get a first, never mind a second, look in the real world". The ones they message anyway and then bitch about when they have the audacity to say no.
I speak for myself. Getting meets is not an issue. I never looked down on a persons offer or ignored for their looks.
It's nothing personal though I feel you're upset by the post. It's simply is what it is and that's what I read and see. I just wrote what I felt and what I was thinking about. Though I did apologize if it did offend anyone. It's not meant to, this is aforum and everyone can write what they think.
I believe you didn't understand what I wrote in the OP and only talked about meeting in the last past and I didn't prolong onto the subject because you can't force someone to meet a person. Though manners are important. But thank you for sharing your thoughts.
So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?"
Come n do us, just to be nice |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I wonder sometimes, when I see these posts proclaiming that too much emphasis is placed on looks and people should meet people they don't find attractive, if the tables were turned and it was men that found getting meets easy, how polite they'd be to all "the women who wouldn't get a first, never mind a second, look in the real world". The ones they message anyway and then bitch about when they have the audacity to say no.
I speak for myself. Getting meets is not an issue. I never looked down on a persons offer or ignored for their looks.
It's nothing personal though I feel you're upset by the post. It's simply is what it is and that's what I read and see. I just wrote what I felt and what I was thinking about. Though I did apologize if it did offend anyone. It's not meant to, this is aforum and everyone can write what they think.
I believe you didn't understand what I wrote in the OP and only talked about meeting in the last past and I didn't prolong onto the subject because you can't force someone to meet a person. Though manners are important. But thank you for sharing your thoughts.
So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?Come n do us, just to be nice "
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Right let's be blunt here, we are a married couple who meet for sex, yes we liked to have a laugh and a giggle but when all said and done we are here for sex, if we meet a single man Mrs l needs to be attracted to them, and then when we meet it's about sex, she doesn't need a shoulder to cry on she doesn't need a man to make her laugh she doesn't need a man to ask her how her days been? That is my job, what we want is a man who turns up is reasonable articulate and can do the do, and Then leave us alone to enjoy our time together, yes it's a bit clinical but at the end of the day it's mostly about sex, |
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" So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?"
Let me give you an example of an incident that took place a few weeks ago. A two people were talking to each other for a while then one asks for a face picture after all that time of talking it was only reasonable to see who you're talking to. They do send a face picture and then... Nothing. The person wouldn't reply or write back. Being nice in that case would be in being honest about whatever you feel. I don't know why you're insisting that I said you have to meet the whole lot!.. I was only referring to a few cases that I have seen here. I just had someone send me a message yesterday that I wouldn't think twice of being attracted to not for the looks but for the preference, and I was still the nice person that I always am and wrote back explaining why I'm not interested. That's just me, I like to be respectable to others and mind my manners which doesn't make me a bad person. In my normal day in tr normal life I have I'm the same when I deal with people I don't frown upon the "not good looking" or dismiss one that talks to me. It's nice to be nice.  |
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"Right let's be blunt here, we are a married couple who meet for sex, yes we liked to have a laugh and a giggle but when all said and done we are here for sex, if we meet a single man Mrs l needs to be attracted to them, and then when we meet it's about sex, she doesn't need a shoulder to cry on she doesn't need a man to make her laugh she doesn't need a man to ask her how her days been? That is my job, what we want is a man who turns up is reasonable articulate and can do the do, and Then leave us alone to enjoy our time together, yes it's a bit clinical but at the end of the day it's mostly about sex, "
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"Right let's be blunt here, we are a married couple who meet for sex, yes we liked to have a laugh and a giggle but when all said and done we are here for sex, if we meet a single man Mrs l needs to be attracted to them, and then when we meet it's about sex, she doesn't need a shoulder to cry on she doesn't need a man to make her laugh she doesn't need a man to ask her how her days been? That is my job, what we want is a man who turns up is reasonable articulate and can do the do, and Then leave us alone to enjoy our time together, yes it's a bit clinical but at the end of the day it's mostly about sex, "
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" So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?
Let me give you an example of an incident that took place a few weeks ago. A two people were talking to each other for a while then one asks for a face picture after all that time of talking it was only reasonable to see who you're talking to. They do send a face picture and then... Nothing. The person wouldn't reply or write back. Being nice in that case would be in being honest about whatever you feel. I don't know why you're insisting that I said you have to meet the whole lot!.. I was only referring to a few cases that I have seen here. I just had someone send me a message yesterday that I wouldn't think twice of being attracted to not for the looks but for the preference, and I was still the nice person that I always am and wrote back explaining why I'm not interested. That's just me, I like to be respectable to others and mind my manners which doesn't make me a bad person. In my normal day in tr normal life I have I'm the same when I deal with people I don't frown upon the "not good looking" or dismiss one that talks to me. It's nice to be nice. "
It's not ideal that the person blanked you after you'd chatted for a while (I'm assuming it's you, because why else would you give a shit). The comparisons with 'real life' are utterly meaningless however. For every person whose message I delete where in real life i might say hi, there's another who I could probably have arrested for coming at me uninvited with their cock. It is not the same thing, and being a bit blunt doesn't make anyone ignorant, rude or horrible.
I'm not a swinger, for me this site facilitates me meeting and getting to know some people for specific reasons. However I don't think wasting time chatting and leading on people you have no interest in meeting, just to be 'nice' is part of the swinging ethos, if one exists either. |
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Many of my long established friends of the last decade are off singers websites
Many of whom I've never been intimate with
So I don't see that the comment you made is true of everyone to be fair
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I agree after a prolonged exchange of messages, cutting someone dead because you don't like their photo is rude and unnecessary.
I don't agree that it should be considered mandatory to reply to every message on the basis of being nice.
For one thing, I'd only get a fraction of the messages I get if others were nice and read my profile and didn't message me when they don't fit what I'm looking for.
A few weeks ago (when my profile wasn't hidden) a smoker messaged me, (which is far from unusual). It says twice on my profile that I won't meet smokers. Rather than just delete, like I normally would, I sent a reply saying I don't meet smokers. He sent a reply saying he appreciated my reply. He appreciated me spending my time replying to him even though he couldn't be bothered to spend his checking if I meet smokers, (it's in the summary with my age range, so not difficult to find).
Is that nice? Messaging someone who has already said they won't be interested and expecting a reply? |
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" So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?
Let me give you an example of an incident that took place a few weeks ago. A two people were talking to each other for a while then one asks for a face picture after all that time of talking it was only reasonable to see who you're talking to. They do send a face picture and then... Nothing. The person wouldn't reply or write back. Being nice in that case would be in being honest about whatever you feel. I don't know why you're insisting that I said you have to meet the whole lot!.. I was only referring to a few cases that I have seen here. I just had someone send me a message yesterday that I wouldn't think twice of being attracted to not for the looks but for the preference, and I was still the nice person that I always am and wrote back explaining why I'm not interested. That's just me, I like to be respectable to others and mind my manners which doesn't make me a bad person. In my normal day in tr normal life I have I'm the same when I deal with people I don't frown upon the "not good looking" or dismiss one that talks to me. It's nice to be nice.
It's not ideal that the person blanked you after you'd chatted for a while (I'm assuming it's you, because why else would you give a shit). The comparisons with 'real life' are utterly meaningless however. For every person whose message I delete where in real life i might say hi, there's another who I could probably have arrested for coming at me uninvited with their cock. It is not the same thing, and being a bit blunt doesn't make anyone ignorant, rude or horrible.
I'm not a swinger, for me this site facilitates me meeting and getting to know some people for specific reasons. However I don't think wasting time chatting and leading on people you have no interest in meeting, just to be 'nice' is part of the swinging ethos, if one exists either. "
Actually it's not about me. Why I care? Because it could've happened to me so I felt what they felt.
Ms. Anna The OP is about what I saw, read, and heard and how it effects the way I feel. But some took it personally as if I'm telling them what to do. I'm not.
I was only bothered because I saw people calling it a sex site.. . If that's the case then those people who have no chance might as well go for a real sex site and have it paid for If that's the case.
Being nice has nothing to do with swinging, it's who you are. And again I'm not implying anything. It's only the way I feel. |
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"I agree after a prolonged exchange of messages, cutting someone dead because you don't like their photo is rude and unnecessary.
I don't agree that it should be considered mandatory to reply to every message on the basis of being nice.
For one thing, I'd only get a fraction of the messages I get if others were nice and read my profile and didn't message me when they don't fit what I'm looking for.
A few weeks ago (when my profile wasn't hidden) a smoker messaged me, (which is far from unusual). It says twice on my profile that I won't meet smokers. Rather than just delete, like I normally would, I sent a reply saying I don't meet smokers. He sent a reply saying he appreciated my reply. He appreciated me spending my time replying to him even though he couldn't be bothered to spend his checking if I meet smokers, (it's in the summary with my age range, so not difficult to find).
Is that nice? Messaging someone who has already said they won't be interested and expecting a reply? "
Ms. Voluptuous my intentions are good. I've only been here awhile not much. I like to be good to people because that's what I would expect back. I only hate for someone to be treated less or different for the way they look. I would also hate to feel that this is a sex site as some imply. However the fact remains that everyone is free to think, say, or do what they want. Again the OP is about how it is reflected on ye way I feel. |
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"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me."
Why do we ruin the image for you? What we do doesn't affect on what you do or how you choose to do things.
All the things you mention are alien to us. We are the total opposite and are here for the sex. That's not to say we don't have a conversation first and during, but we are not into socials or making "friends". We just meet people for sex and fun. |
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" So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?
Let me give you an example of an incident that took place a few weeks ago. A two people were talking to each other for a while then one asks for a face picture after all that time of talking it was only reasonable to see who you're talking to. They do send a face picture and then... Nothing. The person wouldn't reply or write back. Being nice in that case would be in being honest about whatever you feel. I don't know why you're insisting that I said you have to meet the whole lot!.. I was only referring to a few cases that I have seen here. I just had someone send me a message yesterday that I wouldn't think twice of being attracted to not for the looks but for the preference, and I was still the nice person that I always am and wrote back explaining why I'm not interested. That's just me, I like to be respectable to others and mind my manners which doesn't make me a bad person. In my normal day in tr normal life I have I'm the same when I deal with people I don't frown upon the "not good looking" or dismiss one that talks to me. It's nice to be nice.
It's not ideal that the person blanked you after you'd chatted for a while (I'm assuming it's you, because why else would you give a shit). The comparisons with 'real life' are utterly meaningless however. For every person whose message I delete where in real life i might say hi, there's another who I could probably have arrested for coming at me uninvited with their cock. It is not the same thing, and being a bit blunt doesn't make anyone ignorant, rude or horrible.
I'm not a swinger, for me this site facilitates me meeting and getting to know some people for specific reasons. However I don't think wasting time chatting and leading on people you have no interest in meeting, just to be 'nice' is part of the swinging ethos, if one exists either.
Actually it's not about me. Why I care? Because it could've happened to me so I felt what they felt.
Ms. Anna The OP is about what I saw, read, and heard and how it effects the way I feel. But some took it personally as if I'm telling them what to do. I'm not.
I was only bothered because I saw people calling it a sex site.. . If that's the case then those people who have no chance might as well go for a real sex site and have it paid for If that's the case.
Being nice has nothing to do with swinging, it's who you are. And again I'm not implying anything. It's only the way I feel. "
Mr. Youno2much - you're saying that your approach is nice, and implying that others who don't follow your approach are not nice. And trust me, I'm not taking it personally, you don't know me so you don't understand that actually I'm fucking lovely You'll be a lot happier with yourself and the site if you spend less time worrying about how other people do things and fictional people in fictional situations and whether they might or might not be being nasty to each other. |
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"PS we only meet people that are attractive to me ( Mrs )...if they are not attractive to me , I wont go there.
I hope they do the same to me "
Mrs. Rugby it ruins the image for me because it's a swinging site. It's meant to have an extra excitement and a boost to ones life on both social and sexual, but if it's only about Sex then in I would only be used as someone else's pleasure and not mutual. No offense should be taken since this is only my on preference. |
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" Ms. Anna The OP is about what I saw, read, and heard and how it effects the way I feel. But some took it personally as if I'm telling them what to do. I'm not.
I was only bothered because I saw people calling it a sex site.. . If that's the case then those people who have no chance might as well go for a real sex site and have it paid for If that's the case.
Being nice has nothing to do with swinging, it's who you are. And again I'm not implying anything. It's only the way I feel.
Mr. Youno2much - you're saying that your approach is nice, and implying that others who don't follow your approach are not nice. And trust me, I'm not taking it personally, you don't know me so you don't understand that actually I'm fucking lovely You'll be a lot happier with yourself and the site if you spend less time worrying about how other people do things and fictional people in fictional situations and whether they might or might not be being nasty to each other. "
Ms. Anna I did not imply anything. Whoever felt something they felt it on their own terms. I did not say you or her or he or she. And those fictional situations are a reality for some. I'm happy with no bother on me thank you the fact that I'm a nice person.. Is a fact lol I didn't say you're not nice because you're not doing the same things I'm doing "not you as in anybody who felt I implied so" even though the OP is very clear yet it's misunderstood. I'm glad that you're a lovely person |
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I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad! |
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad! "
Hahaha!! well thank God I'm not attacked again! |
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad! "
How should we reject the good looking, gym fit ones who are really nasty? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"PS we only meet people that are attractive to me ( Mrs )...if they are not attractive to me , I wont go there.
I hope they do the same to me
Mrs. Rugby it ruins the image for me because it's a swinging site. It's meant to have an extra excitement and a boost to ones life on both social and sexual, but if it's only about Sex then in I would only be used as someone else's pleasure and not mutual. No offense should be taken since this is only my on preference. "
No offence taken. But it upsets you that people don't use the site the same way as you, enough to start a thread on it saying it how it effects you....nothing of what other people do should effect you.
When we signed up it didn't tell us we need to do things certain ways. If we don't want to go to socials and just use our spare time having sex with someone we fancy having sex with instead it just means we only meet people who like the same as us. The people who like socials can obviously do the same.
Win win all round. |
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"PS we only meet people that are attractive to me ( Mrs )...if they are not attractive to me , I wont go there.
I hope they do the same to me
Mrs. Rugby it ruins the image for me because it's a swinging site. It's meant to have an extra excitement and a boost to ones life on both social and sexual, but if it's only about Sex then in I would only be used as someone else's pleasure and not mutual. No offense should be taken since this is only my on preference.
No offence taken. But it upsets you that people don't use the site the same way as you, enough to start a thread on it saying it how it effects you....nothing of what other people do should effect you.
When we signed up it didn't tell us we need to do things certain ways. If we don't want to go to socials and just use our spare time having sex with someone we fancy having sex with instead it just means we only meet people who like the same as us. The people who like socials can obviously do the same.
Win win all round. "
Yep! That's about the size of it. |
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
How should we reject the good looking, gym fit ones who are really nasty? "
Be mean and nasty!!!!! |
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" Ms. Anna The OP is about what I saw, read, and heard and how it effects the way I feel. But some took it personally as if I'm telling them what to do. I'm not.
I was only bothered because I saw people calling it a sex site.. . If that's the case then those people who have no chance might as well go for a real sex site and have it paid for If that's the case.
Being nice has nothing to do with swinging, it's who you are. And again I'm not implying anything. It's only the way I feel.
Mr. Youno2much - you're saying that your approach is nice, and implying that others who don't follow your approach are not nice. And trust me, I'm not taking it personally, you don't know me so you don't understand that actually I'm fucking lovely You'll be a lot happier with yourself and the site if you spend less time worrying about how other people do things and fictional people in fictional situations and whether they might or might not be being nasty to each other.
Ms. Anna I did not imply anything. Whoever felt something they felt it on their own terms. I did not say you or her or he or she. And those fictional situations are a reality for some. I'm happy with no bother on me thank you the fact that I'm a nice person.. Is a fact lol I didn't say you're not nice because you're not doing the same things I'm doing "not you as in anybody who felt I implied so" even though the OP is very clear yet it's misunderstood. I'm glad that you're a lovely person "
I have no idea what you're getting at now so I'm bowing out.
(Ps it's Mrs, not Ms) |
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"PS we only meet people that are attractive to me ( Mrs )...if they are not attractive to me , I wont go there.
I hope they do the same to me
Mrs. Rugby it ruins the image for me because it's a swinging site. It's meant to have an extra excitement and a boost to ones life on both social and sexual, but if it's only about Sex then in I would only be used as someone else's pleasure and not mutual. No offense should be taken since this is only my on preference.
No offence taken. But it upsets you that people don't use the site the same way as you, enough to start a thread on it saying it how it effects you....nothing of what other people do should effect you.
When we signed up it didn't tell us we need to do things certain ways. If we don't want to go to socials and just use our spare time having sex with someone we fancy having sex with instead it just means we only meet people who like the same as us. The people who like socials can obviously do the same.
Win win all round. "
I appreciate your concern as one should not be affected by what people do or say. Ofcourse you are free to do whatever you feel like doing with whoever you like. Win win all around here! (Flowers) -- they don't have the emoji for it but great to have imagination |
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By *othwayMan
over a year ago
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad! "
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then? |
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" I have no idea what you're getting at now so I'm bowing out.
(Ps it's Mrs, not Ms)"
I'm sorry I didn't check your profile to find out whether its a Mrs or a Ms. Pleasure talking with you Mrs. Anna. |
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" So what is it you think we should be doing, if you weren't saying we should meet people even if we don't fancy them? What does "being nice" mean?
Let me give you an example of an incident that took place a few weeks ago. A two people were talking to each other for a while then one asks for a face picture after all that time of talking it was only reasonable to see who you're talking to. They do send a face picture and then... Nothing. The person wouldn't reply or write back. Being nice in that case would be in being honest about whatever you feel. I don't know why you're insisting that I said you have to meet the whole lot!.. I was only referring to a few cases that I have seen here. I just had someone send me a message yesterday that I wouldn't think twice of being attracted to not for the looks but for the preference, and I was still the nice person that I always am and wrote back explaining why I'm not interested. That's just me, I like to be respectable to others and mind my manners which doesn't make me a bad person. In my normal day in tr normal life I have I'm the same when I deal with people I don't frown upon the "not good looking" or dismiss one that talks to me. It's nice to be nice. "
And here's where your version of 'polite' is different to mine, because telling someone why you won't fuck or meet with them is just rude. And fuck me you come across as entitled. I dictate what I do with my time and I joined a swinging site for fun not for a pity party or for blind dates or to find unattractive people I can 'have a laugh with'.
Your version of 'nice' is clearly very different from a lot of people's, and I'm not going for your version over mine.
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over a year ago
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.  "
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive! |
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Excuse me, Can I have your attention please!... Thank you
Apparently some are still thinking that I'm implying things about other people. Just to clarify things the OP is about what I seen and and heard around since I had the account and how it's affecting me.
Now that on the side, these are my own views and what I'd like to see being the normal around here. It doesn't mean you have to do it or im forcing you to do something. So for those who took things a bit personally, The OP is very clear who ever misunderstood and took things to heart they did so on their on terms. I was simply sharing my view, people can agree or disagree, support it or dismiss it. But shouldn't be attacked for them.
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Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Excuse me, Can I have your attention please!... Thank you
Apparently some are still thinking that I'm implying things about other people. Just to clarify things the OP is about what I seen and and heard around since I had the account and how it's affecting me.
Now that on the side, these are my own views and what I'd like to see being the normal around here. It doesn't mean you have to do it or im forcing you to do something. So for those who took things a bit personally, The OP is very clear who ever misunderstood and took things to heart they did so on their on terms. I was simply sharing my view, people can agree or disagree, support it or dismiss it. But shouldn't be attacked for them.
Thank you. "
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive! "
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex "
What about couples who meet singles for threesomes? Is that swinging or casual sex? Are the couple still swingers? Is the single person swinging?
What about gangbangs? |
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"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex "
But no mention of cock milking in a bush near Penge? |
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"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex
What about couples who meet singles for threesomes? Is that swinging or casual sex? Are the couple still swingers? Is the single person swinging?
What about gangbangs?"
YEs maibe the couples wanna expand it to singles, as they might just wanna play with one rather than 2. |
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By *othwayMan
over a year ago
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
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How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love. |
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"As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like.
If I met everybody who expressed an interest in meeting me, I'd never have time to do anything else That would include finding, contacting and meeting people who appeal to me.
Why would I meet people I know I won't want to have sex with? I'm not looking for hundreds of new friends, particularly not when those "friends" are actually just wanting to persuade me to fuck them, even when I've told them I'm not interested.
Some people on here think anything short of a block is a "maybe" so I've no idea what signal meeting someone I have no interest in would send!
Sure, an ongoing friendship with the people I do click with and meet is ideal but I'm not looking for random new "friends".
My time is my own. I don't owe it to anybody else just because they want to meet me.
Obviously I'm going to make best use of my time by prioritising meeting people I think I'll be attracted to.
If anyone else wants to meet socially, they're free to attend any of the site socials.
I'm not a social charity."
And now I don't need to type my two-penneth. 100 % agree. I volunteer in a charity shop. I am not a charity. My time is precious. I meet people who I find attractive, physically or mentally. |
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love."
Oh dear. We agreed with you.
You then commented your not attracted to us and we again agreed as that's your choice.
And now your saying how do you know because we have not seen you??!?!?
Your effectively arguing with yourself at this point!!!?!
Crikey!!!!!!!!!!! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Did'nt holly willybooby say that when she first met her husband she did not find him attractive. So basically first meets can be deceptively misleading"
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Did'nt holly willybooby say that when she first met her husband she did not find him attractive. So basically first meets can be deceptively misleading"
Except most here aren't looking for husbands or wives and don't have the time to chat and meet everyone on the off-chance attraction develops. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love.
Oh dear. We agreed with you.
You then commented your not attracted to us and we again agreed as that's your choice.
And now your saying how do you know because we have not seen you??!?!?
Your effectively arguing with yourself at this point!!!?!
Crikey!!!!!!!!!!! "
I understood what you wrote.
Some see whatever suits their agenda best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did'nt holly willybooby say that when she first met her husband she did not find him attractive. So basically first meets can be deceptively misleading"
That may be true but Im on a swinging site,Im married and Im not looking for the first in a line of dates with anyone |
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love.
Oh dear. We agreed with you.
You then commented your not attracted to us and we again agreed as that's your choice.
And now your saying how do you know because we have not seen you??!?!?
Your effectively arguing with yourself at this point!!!?!
Crikey!!!!!!!!!!!
I understood what you wrote.
Some see whatever suits their agenda best."
He also made the classic school boy error of thinking he was talking to the female.
Amateur hour. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!! "
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love.
Oh dear. We agreed with you.
You then commented your not attracted to us and we again agreed as that's your choice.
And now your saying how do you know because we have not seen you??!?!?
Your effectively arguing with yourself at this point!!!?!
Crikey!!!!!!!!!!!
I understood what you wrote.
Some see whatever suits their agenda best.
He also made the classic school boy error of thinking he was talking to the female.
Amateur hour. "
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"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me. "
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"Although people use this site in a variety of ways, which is perfectly reasonable, I think it's as much of a mistake to consider this a social site as it is to consider it a fuck site.
It's a swinging site. It has a social aspect but the basic purpose is to meet people with whom you want to swing. That means meeting people you find attractive.
Would getting meets but being told, "ok, I've met you and I still don't fancy you", actually feel any better? I doubt it."
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"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex
What about couples who meet singles for threesomes? Is that swinging or casual sex? Are the couple still swingers? Is the single person swinging?
What about gangbangs?"
Does it really matter what you call it? If you like it do it, if you don't don't. What you call it really doesn't make any difference at all. Does it? |
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" Swinging suicide
If what a person feels about something and expresses it in a full front honest manner, so be it "
I don't think it's swinging suicide at all,its just an expression of thoughts that were given in a nice way and have encouraged discussion
I've seen far worse examples of people expressing their opinions
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex
What about couples who meet singles for threesomes? Is that swinging or casual sex? Are the couple still swingers? Is the single person swinging?
What about gangbangs?
Does it really matter what you call it? If you like it do it, if you don't don't. What you call it really doesn't make any difference at all. Does it?"
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" Swinging suicide
If what a person feels about something and expresses it in a full front honest manner, so be it
I don't think it's swinging suicide at all,its just an expression of thoughts that were given in a nice way and have encouraged discussion
I've seen far worse examples of people expressing their opinions
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Despite what it says on your profile, you're clearly way too tolerant and nice for this thread.
And a very lovely arse to. he he |
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"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably."
I'll have to add you to the 'too nice and tolerant' list to if you keep saying things like that. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"This is better than watching telly
And lots of men wonder why they get nowhere "
No they don't. It's because there are too many single men, the women are too arrogant, rude and picky and the site isn't run properly (according to their definition of how it should be).
A lot seem quite certain those are the reasons they can't get meets.
It couldn't be anything they are doing wrong! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
I'll have to add you to the 'too nice and tolerant' list to if you keep saying things like that. "
Give me 5 minutes and I'll make up for it. |
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quite narrow minded, wife swapping is just part of swinging, but 3somes, gangbangs, cuckolding, amongst others are all part of swinging too, singles are swingers too, its singles meeting singles that is casual sex. |
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"Swinging, also known as wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior, couples and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. So to sum it up its for couples, singles use it for casual sex
quite narrow minded, wife swapping is just part of swinging, but 3somes, gangbangs, cuckolding, amongst others are all part of swinging too, singles are swingers too, its singles meeting singles that is casual sex."
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over a year ago
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love."
I can categorically state that I do not find you attractive. You could show me your face and be handsome,I still wouldn't find you attractive |
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"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
I'll have to add you to the 'too nice and tolerant' list to if you keep saying things like that.
Give me 5 minutes and I'll make up for it."
It's been over 10 now and you not said anything wrong or bad yet. LOL |
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love.
I can categorically state that I do not find you attractive. You could show me your face and be handsome,I still wouldn't find you attractive"
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
I'll have to add you to the 'too nice and tolerant' list to if you keep saying things like that.
Give me 5 minutes and I'll make up for it.
It's been over 10 now and you not said anything wrong or bad yet. LOL"
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love.
I can categorically state that I do not find you attractive. You could show me your face and be handsome,I still wouldn't find you attractive
Ha ha agree "
No strings attached compliment.
I find you(her) very attractive even if we have nothing in common, or you don't find me attractive and I'm a single guy outside your age range. Be kidding myself if I said otherwise.
As for you(him). I'm not that good at judging the sexual attractiveness of other guys and there are not as many pics of you to judge from bur you don't look fat or over weight so I guess you're probably quite attractive to. |
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"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
I'll have to add you to the 'too nice and tolerant' list to if you keep saying things like that.
Give me 5 minutes and I'll make up for it.
It's been over 10 now and you not said anything wrong or bad yet. LOL
May I carry over some of my credit from yesterday?"
As your being super nice to me today you can do what ever you like. |
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quite narrow minded, wife swapping is just part of swinging, but 3somes, gangbangs, cuckolding, amongst others are all part of swinging too, singles are swingers too, its singles meeting singles that is casual sex.I got it from Wikipedia the definition lol."
oh yes the font of all knowledge lol, it is a definition not the definition. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with the OP. Carry on meeting people who you find attractive. But reject the ugly ones nicely!!!!
Because after-all if they are ugly they already feel bad!
Your not attractive to me. Its subjective then?
That's a given. We don't find people attractive in the traditional sense so we are all different.
Your not all that you know. I don't find you attractive at all love! It must be subjuctive!
Uh we are agreeing with you. It is subjective and what's attractive to one person is a complete turn off to others.
Bit like us to you.
How do you know love!
You're judging someone you haven't seen. On what basis do you know you don't like me. You might like me a lot love.
I can categorically state that I do not find you attractive. You could show me your face and be handsome,I still wouldn't find you attractive
Ha ha agree
No strings attached compliment.
I find you(her) very attractive even if we have nothing in common, or you don't find me attractive and I'm a single guy outside your age range. Be kidding myself if I said otherwise.
As for you(him). I'm not that good at judging the sexual attractiveness of other guys and there are not as many pics of you to judge from bur you don't look fat or over weight so I guess you're probably quite attractive to."
Ahhhhhh shucks!!!!! 
You are a nice guy!! |
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over a year ago
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"The URL clearly states its a swingers site
That means"fuck site"
No it doesn't
Yes it does fuckkkkkkkkk. "
No it doesn't. There's a difference between a swingers site and a sex site and this isn't a sex site |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me. "
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"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me.
Morals? In a relationship. Discretion. Ah, yes "
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over a year ago
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!! "
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"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably."
Thank you! Just felt like I was being attacked for speaking my mind |
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over a year ago
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" Swinging suicide
If what a person feels about something and expresses it in a full front honest manner, so be it
I don't think it's swinging suicide at all,its just an expression of thoughts that were given in a nice way and have encouraged discussion
I've seen far worse examples of people expressing their opinions
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Well I'm glad you look at it as an expression of ones thoughts |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
Thank you! Just felt like I was being attacked for speaking my mind "
Disagreeing with you isn't attacking you.
Your OP perhaps didn't make your point clearly, or was misunderstood, and people didn't agree with what we thought you were saying.
You discussed it and clarified your view without getting rude and you got your point across. You handled it well.
I may not entirely agree with you but it'd be a weird and boring place if we all agreed all of the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you 'swing' you fuck, you use this site to meet people for sex well I do and im sure majority of people do"
You don't have to fuck to swing.
I'm not here for sex so not everyone uses it for the same reasons |
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over a year ago
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"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
Thank you! Just felt like I was being attacked for speaking my mind
Disagreeing with you isn't attacking you.
Your OP perhaps didn't make your point clearly, or was misunderstood, and people didn't agree with what we thought you were saying.
You discussed it and clarified your view without getting rude and you got your point across. You handled it well.
I may not entirely agree with you but it'd be a weird and boring place if we all agreed all of the time."
"Hats off" true.. Having different opinions shouldn't cause harm. It was an interesting discussion at least now I have more insight about different views instead of looking through one narrow sight turns out there'sa spectrum |
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"When you 'swing' you fuck, you use this site to meet people for sex well I do and im sure majority of people do"
There is a difference, sex might be the by product of why many are here, but that is where the difference lies between swinging as The Lifestyle and fucking
It's also the reason why so many on here moan about not getting meets. they approach it as a sex site rather than the swinging site that it is |
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over a year ago
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"When you 'swing' you fuck, you use this site to meet people for sex well I do and im sure majority of people do
There is a difference, sex might be the by product of why many are here, but that is where the difference lies between swinging as The Lifestyle and fucking
It's also the reason why so many on here moan about not getting meets. they approach it as a sex site rather than the swinging site that it is "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Swinging suicide
I don't see why. Even if not everyone agrees with it, it's a fair enough point of view and it's been expressed reasonably.
Thank you! Just felt like I was being attacked for speaking my mind
Disagreeing with you isn't attacking you.
Your OP perhaps didn't make your point clearly, or was misunderstood, and people didn't agree with what we thought you were saying.
You discussed it and clarified your view without getting rude and you got your point across. You handled it well.
I may not entirely agree with you but it'd be a weird and boring place if we all agreed all of the time.
"Hats off" true.. Having different opinions shouldn't cause harm. It was an interesting discussion at least now I have more insight about different views instead of looking through one narrow sight turns out there'sa spectrum "
Stick around and you'll find out what being attacked actually means when someone takes others disagreeing less well than you did! Things get a bit lively in here sometimes. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me.
Morals? In a relationship. Discretion. Ah, yes
As long as the sex is good I'm happy. xxx"
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over a year ago
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""Hats off" true.. Having different opinions shouldn't cause harm. It was an interesting discussion at least now I have more insight about different views instead of looking through one narrow sight turns out there'sa spectrum
Stick around and you'll find out what being attacked actually means when someone takes others disagreeing less well than you did! Things get a bit lively in here sometimes."
I don't mind someone disagreeing with what I felt. However I do mind those that took it to heart and were a bit aggressive in their post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've talked with one or 2 women that admitted being embarassed for getting sex through here so that might be why some women call it a swingers site...... |
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"I've talked with one or 2 women that admitted being embarassed for getting sex through here so that might be why some women call it a swingers site......"
Because it is a swingers site. Its called swinging coz it was aimed for couples only, then single women and men joined the scene |
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"It's becoming increasingly confusing. Just can't help but think why do some folks believe that this site is just about the F* and nothing more. It gives a very wrong impression that everyone here is just about the quick F*. I'm not here for sex only, I meet lovely people and become friends with them. Swinging has more to it than what some people think. Though I'm not that experienced but from the little knowledge I have, I can see swinging as a life style full of people you know and care for as well as bein social and active. It makes me feel bad thinking that there are people here whom are just about the sex. I respect them and hold nothing against them but I like this site and I like the morals behind the swinging concept and the idea of ones freedom and people whom are only after sex to some level ruine the image for me. As well as some who'd only meet good looking people which is very hurtful and sad. You don't have to sleep with them but you also don't have to dismiss them based on how they look like. But all are respected and to each the right to have their own need and demands and I wouldn't belittling anyone and not trying to offend either. Just sharing a bit of what I've noticed lately with the site and how it's effecting me. "
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"I dont know why theres this ongoing thing of people trying to justify this isnt a sex site are you embarassed or something?"
Because not everyone here is looking for sex for some last thing on there mind.....Some like just looking at pics . Some just like to chat with friends, Some just like to read forums, Some just like to feel part of something to fit in . Some it just make them feel good people fabing there pics .......... some never meet for sex here so why and need to feel embarrassed. Its a site people chat and no big deal.
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"I've talked with one or 2 women that admitted being embarassed for getting sex through here so that might be why some women call it a swingers site......"
And some swingers don't see singles as swingers .. just casual sex. Over the years here been loads of post on this .
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"I dont know why theres this ongoing thing of people trying to justify this isnt a sex site are you embarassed or something?"
theres a simple answer to this, because this is a swinging site, there are sex sites out there, we cant name them because of rules but they are the type you can take your pick from the women and part with a bit cash to get the sex you want and it comes under the name of escorting, those are sex sites, this is blatantly a swingers site. |
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"I've talked with one or 2 women that admitted being embarassed for getting sex through here so that might be why some women call it a swingers site......"
1 or 2, lol
Then there are woman who are secure enough to know exactly why they are here and understand swinging. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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""Hats off" true.. Having different opinions shouldn't cause harm. It was an interesting discussion at least now I have more insight about different views instead of looking through one narrow sight turns out there'sa spectrum
Stick around and you'll find out what being attacked actually means when someone takes others disagreeing less well than you did! Things get a bit lively in here sometimes.
I don't mind someone disagreeing with what I felt. However I do mind those that took it to heart and were a bit aggressive in their post. "
I think you are reading a different thread to me, there was only one aggressive post I had to take off and that wasn't aimed at you.
People challenging your view or telling you their own is not a bad thing, after all the forum wouldn't work if we were all agreed on everything |
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""Hats off" true.. Having different opinions shouldn't cause harm. It was an interesting discussion at least now I have more insight about different views instead of looking through one narrow sight turns out there'sa spectrum
Stick around and you'll find out what being attacked actually means when someone takes others disagreeing less well than you did! Things get a bit lively in here sometimes.
I don't mind someone disagreeing with what I felt. However I do mind those that took it to heart and were a bit aggressive in their post.
I think you are reading a different thread to me, there was only one aggressive post I had to take off and that wasn't aimed at you.
People challenging your view or telling you their own is not a bad thing, after all the forum wouldn't work if we were all agreed on everything "
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm still bemused as to why anyone would think it's not fair for me to only meet people I find attractive.
Those that aren't my cuppa tea are bound to appeal to others. It's not like I'm saying no one should meet them!!
You are free to do what you like. I was only talking about how it reflects on myself. However think you're in a M&G and someone comes up to you and talks to you, if they are not attracting you physically, are you going to walk away from them and ignore them for the way they look?. "
Surely that's the point - in real life you don't walk away and ignore people because of the way they look - you are polite and sociable. Swinging is an escape from real life where we fulfil our fantasies - it gives us the chance to meet, and fuck, those that turn us on for whatever reason.
The corollary is that in real life you don't walk up to someone in a bar, chat for five or ten minutes and then fuck them - in a swinging club you can.
There is no need to criticise people for not carrying the values of one side of life to the other. |
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If you think it's a swinging site then for you it's a swinging site. If you think it's a sex site then for you it's a sex site. Surely the important thing is, are you getting what you want out of the site, not what you call it.
When I first joined this site I thought it was just another sex site but free. I acted accordingly and was pretty disappointed with the results. I now use it more like a social site by chatting in the rooms, joining in on the forums and going along to various parties and socials. I'm really enjoying myself on here now.
The thing is finding what works for you. If treating it like a free sex site works for you then do that. If treating it as a more social, swinging site works for you then treat it like that.
And if whatever you are doing is not working for you then change it. |
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over a year ago
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"If you think it's a swinging site then for you it's a swinging site. If you think it's a sex site then for you it's a sex site. Surely the important thing is, are you getting what you want out of the site, not what you call it.
When I first joined this site I thought it was just another sex site but free. I acted accordingly and was pretty disappointed with the results. I now use it more like a social site by chatting in the rooms, joining in on the forums and going along to various parties and socials. I'm really enjoying myself on here now.
The thing is finding what works for you. If treating it like a free sex site works for you then do that. If treating it as a more social, swinging site works for you then treat it like that.
And if whatever you are doing is not working for you then change it."
You're a wise man, well said! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you think it's a swinging site then for you it's a swinging site. If you think it's a sex site then for you it's a sex site. Surely the important thing is, are you getting what you want out of the site, not what you call it.
When I first joined this site I thought it was just another sex site but free. I acted accordingly and was pretty disappointed with the results. I now use it more like a social site by chatting in the rooms, joining in on the forums and going along to various parties and socials. I'm really enjoying myself on here now.
The thing is finding what works for you. If treating it like a free sex site works for you then do that. If treating it as a more social, swinging site works for you then treat it like that.
And if whatever you are doing is not working for you then change it."
Great post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you think it's a swinging site then for you it's a swinging site. If you think it's a sex site then for you it's a sex site. Surely the important thing is, are you getting what you want out of the site, not what you call it.
When I first joined this site I thought it was just another sex site but free. I acted accordingly and was pretty disappointed with the results. I now use it more like a social site by chatting in the rooms, joining in on the forums and going along to various parties and socials. I'm really enjoying myself on here now.
The thing is finding what works for you. If treating it like a free sex site works for you then do that. If treating it as a more social, swinging site works for you then treat it like that.
And if whatever you are doing is not working for you then change it."
Exactly true... |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"If you think it's a swinging site then for you it's a swinging site. If you think it's a sex site then for you it's a sex site. Surely the important thing is, are you getting what you want out of the site, not what you call it.
When I first joined this site I thought it was just another sex site but free. I acted accordingly and was pretty disappointed with the results. I now use it more like a social site by chatting in the rooms, joining in on the forums and going along to various parties and socials. I'm really enjoying myself on here now.
The thing is finding what works for you. If treating it like a free sex site works for you then do that. If treating it as a more social, swinging site works for you then treat it like that.
And if whatever you are doing is not working for you then change it."
This .
It's the ones that rant, complain and whine and try to change everyone else that have me beating my head against my desk.
But I don't exclude people based on looks, so you shouldn't either. I do/don't do x, y or z so you should/shouldn't too.
I want to meet you and you're on a sex site so you have a duty to meet me, (otherwise you are a tease/all talk/a pic collector/a timewaster/a fake).
Sometimes it's everyone else that's doing it wrong. |
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