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"So that's why people aren't showing the verifications we leave "No one shows my verifications. Worrying  | |||
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"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive? | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. " This is true  I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" Your the one deciding the person leaving the veri is a minger by your standards, this says more about you, than the person recieving the veri | |||
I'd imagine the person who met them didn't think they were a minger as you so eloquently put it. Some people's ugly is anothers attractive. I never really look at veris, I like to make my own mind up about a person. Who they've met before is of no concern to me. | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! "I feel the same. "Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on" Me all over | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off? If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive? " I'd be happy just to get veris! Merely putting the question out there
Must say I've not so much been put off, but I have looked at a person's page that I've messaged and not received a reply from, checked the veris and thought "I can't be worse looking than him, surely!?"
Fab can dent the ego somewhat at times! | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off? If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive? I'd be happy just to get veris! Merely putting the question out there
Must say I've not so much been put off, but I have looked at a person's page that I've messaged and not received a reply from, checked the veris and thought "I can't be worse looking than him, surely!?"
Fab can dent the ego somewhat at times!"There you go, you hit the nail on the head | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over "That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate. | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" absolutely not, beauties is in the eye and all that, all because I don't find someone attractive that does not mean the person who has their verification does not and who am.i to judge others on who they like | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off? If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive? I'd be happy just to get veris! Merely putting the question out there
Must say I've not so much been put off, but I have looked at a person's page that I've messaged and not received a reply from, checked the veris and thought "I can't be worse looking than him, surely!?"
Fab can dent the ego somewhat at times!"Some peoples egos need denting. | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate. "Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties!  | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" It does for most people we all have standards we like people who have similar standards to our own. If you don't meet mingers you are unlikely to meet someone who does. Some will say different though as people try to be politicaly correct about things. | |||
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"A minger to you may be Lady Godiva to someone else. I would display a verification from you OP and sod the consequences "Mother Teresa lives on!  | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.
Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "Our minds our weirdly wired. I hate how I feel | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.
Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "A total hottie does not necessarily a good shag make. Just saying... | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! "I need to see fatter, older, more ugly people on someones veri list befoe I'll consider a coffee even. Only my take on past veris though x | |||
"I don't like it when they have verifications from parties where the girl is paid to be there. That's about all though. " They are the type of men I try to avoid. I don't like the mindset behind it | |||
"all my veris are from grotesquely revolting looking people,quite vile creatures "Scooooooose me! I am not a bloody creature thank you! | |||
"So that's why people aren't showing the verifications we leave "Awwww bless.. | |||
"A minger to you may be Lady Godiva to someone else. I would display a verification from you OP and sod the consequences
Mother Teresa lives on! "You still would  | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.
Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties!
A total hottie does not necessarily a good shag make.
Just saying..."
What about confidence, mental attraction, that certain swagger and an utterly filthy nature? I put much more stock in that than a few photos. | |||
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"Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets "...and that's why I don't pay veris too much attention. | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.
Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "I was thinking the same thing! 
People's reasoning constantly amazes me. I guess that's what makes Fabs a fun and frustrating place! | |||
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"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol "stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" What's too many ???? | |||
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"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol "Always a voice of reason shag, living up to your name
Shouldn't you be on the other thread that said male(s) will shag anything including a male grouse shagging pile of manure.. | |||
"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. "Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about | |||
"IQ? Really? Wtf!" Deh is alredi ppl tht wnt meet u if u tlk wiv txt spk, innit? | |||
"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol
Always a voice of reason shag, living up to your name
Shouldn't you be on the other thread that said male(s) will shag anything including a male grouse shagging pile of manure.. "Thanks yes I do there lol, yes I will check the other thread as well | |||
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"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about "so your not looking for the love of your life here . | |||
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"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about so your not looking for the love of your life here . "lol no, prefer one offs cos bodybuilding and weight training is priority plus got no time for it as well, how about you? | |||
"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about so your not looking for the love of your life here . lol no, prefer one offs cos bodybuilding and weight training is priority plus got no time for it as well, how about you? "well I like to mix it up at times .. x But working out I like to do in the bed room . | |||
"Maybe this is horrible but I can get put off by some verifications... I think we all can, some just don't admit it! "I read that as 'Can get off to some verifications'
Not seen any that good! | |||
"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about so your not looking for the love of your life here . lol no, prefer one offs cos bodybuilding and weight training is priority plus got no time for it as well, how about you? well I like to mix it up at times .. x But working out I like to do in the bed room . "YEs that's good to workout in the bedroom as well, can burn loads there lol and fun activity too | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate. "Me too. Hence why I tend not to read them, never ask for them and only write them if asked to. And I try not to write anything specific about what they look like or what we got up to, since my experience has no bearing on anyone else's. | |||
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"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. " I think people are just the same as they ever were but the Internet has changed how swinging works. Sites like Fab provide more choice than ever, but with more choice comes more noise and, inevitably, more selection. | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. " well said | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. " Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" Yes yes yes immediate put off | |||
"I can't say I get worried about previous verifications they could of met cindy Crawford it doesn't mean I feel any less worthy of a meet.."
This. Being attractive doesn't automatically make you good in bed and I'm not that insecure that I won't meet men who've met women thinner or generically "better looking" than myself.
As for judging potential meets on their veris... Looks play no part what-so-ever. I MAY be put off by veris from people who are serial barebackers though...
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"I don't like it when they have verifications from parties where the girl is paid to be there. That's about all though. They are the type of men I try to avoid. I don't like the mindset behind it " I've met a few guys who have asked me not to verify them because I work at a sex club and they are scared it will put others off meeting them if they know they have met me Because obviously cause I work in a club I'm a dirty dripping whore who will contaminate the whole swinging scene
When actually I'm just a normal person and actually rather nice | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. " If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking. | |||
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"Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets "Precisely. | |||
"IQ? Really? Wtf! Deh is alredi ppl tht wnt meet u if u tlk wiv txt spk, innit?" Lol exactly this! I couldn't possibly find a person attractive if they spoke like that. How on earth is that kind of talk a turn on!? . And yes I do like talking to the person I choose to meet. So chav talk isn't sexually appealing for me. | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. " If a guy has veris from someone younger, slimmer and very pretty, they won't want a fat moose like me | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. " Agree with you. I'm not here for the swinging. I'm here for the FAB part...Friends And Benefits. Which is why I'm more choosy who I pick to have sex with. | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. If a guy has veris from someone younger, slimmer and very pretty, they won't want a fat moose like me " Yes they will,if you talk to them you will find out | |||
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"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" No as we aren't looking to meet their verifications. | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.
Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties!
Our minds our weirdly wired. I hate how I feel "When you friend requested me, I was smiling like the Cheshire cat! Couldn't believe it | |||
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"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!
I feel the same.
"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"
Me all over
That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.
Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "Was just thinking the same thing!! | |||
"I deselect people for a variety of reasons, how they conduct themselves and who they associate with may very well play a part in that. " and I never give the fact that others may deselect me a second thought. it's cool | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking. " My comment was not about screwing everyone you meet just because they are there. Thats a ridiculous notion, unless that what you like doing. There are always preferences and the right to choose. But in recent years there are elitist attitudes running through the scene. People who believe they are better than others; or where others are not 'worthy' because of a perception of low IQ, or low income or any other social status. The politics of sexual attraction are always complex, but elitism is just plain ugly IMHO. | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. If a guy has veris from someone younger, slimmer and very pretty, they won't want a fat moose like me " not true necessarily | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking. My comment was not about screwing everyone you meet just because they are there. Thats a ridiculous notion, unless that what you like doing. There are always preferences and the right to choose. But in recent years there are elitist attitudes running through the scene. People who believe they are better than others; or where others are not 'worthy' because of a perception of low IQ, or low income or any other social status. The politics of sexual attraction are always complex, but elitism is just plain ugly IMHO. " Fair enough. I make no apologies for taking what could he described as an elitist approach. Do I think I'm better than someone whose status is 'need my dik suk now'? Yeah, pretty much. Elite means different things to different people; I wouldn't pass the physical criteria for the likes of the self-proclaimed 'elite' stuff like Killing Kittens, nor would I particularly want to. But I do have a level of snobbery about intelligence, however you choose to measure that. | |||
On the original subject of the OP, I'm with Tina. I'm potentially meeting the person with the profile, not the people that have verified them. | |||
even more so if the person then hid my veri... | |||
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"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat! " Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not! | |||
"Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets " | |||
"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?" Why it's people they have slept with. They don't have to be to *your* taste. | |||
"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat! Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not!" Yeah, particularly when I go for chemistry and personality over perceived physical attractiveness ever time! | |||
"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat! Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not! Yeah, particularly when I go for chemistry and personality over perceived physical attractiveness ever time! " | |||
"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat! Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not! Yeah, particularly when I go for chemistry and personality over perceived physical attractiveness ever time! " Me too. A guy could be the best looking bloke I'd ever seen but if he said that to me he'd suddenly become very unattractive and be blocked! | |||
"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on. Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this. It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx. Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking. My comment was not about screwing everyone you meet just because they are there. Thats a ridiculous notion, unless that what you like doing. There are always preferences and the right to choose. But in recent years there are elitist attitudes running through the scene. People who believe they are better than others; or where others are not 'worthy' because of a perception of low IQ, or low income or any other social status. The politics of sexual attraction are always complex, but elitism is just plain ugly IMHO. Fair enough. I make no apologies for taking what could he described as an elitist approach. Do I think I'm better than someone whose status is 'need my dik suk now'? Yeah, pretty much. Elite means different things to different people; I wouldn't pass the physical criteria for the likes of the self-proclaimed 'elite' stuff like Killing Kittens, nor would I particularly want to. But I do have a level of snobbery about intelligence, however you choose to measure that. " | |||
"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! "Least I know its not just me who feels that way! | |||
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