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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is how I feel about women and sex in general at the moment. Just a total lack of interest.
In fact, anyone could proposition me in the most seductive manner possible and it still would most likely not even raise a twitch.
Bleurgh. |
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over a year ago
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I've felt like this since Xmas. The army guy I dated last year came home and told me he thought it was best not to see each other again as it was getting too serious, since then I can't be arsed with anybody. I've turned my messages off so I can look for people myself but even when I find someone I like the look of I can't get myself into the mindset of wanting to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've felt like this since Xmas. The army guy I dated last year came home and told me he thought it was best not to see each other again as it was getting too serious, since then I can't be arsed with anybody. I've turned my messages off so I can look for people myself but even when I find someone I like the look of I can't get myself into the mindset of wanting to meet them. "
I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore. "
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!"
That's exactly what I want, but with every woman I meet it's just wham bam thank you ma'am and never to be seen again. It's just so depressing.
Well done on the American Psycho quote by the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aw x I just got in from a lush evening with my fwb x
He cooks... He does all the right things x and loves to cuddle up as well... 
Life isn't great for me but this makes it goooooooood xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!
That's exactly what I want, but with every woman I meet it's just wham bam thank you ma'am and never to be seen again. It's just so depressing.
Well done on the American Psycho quote by the way "
Would have thought it easier for a guy to get a female to want more than a shag? Just continue to dangle your carrot, women often want what they can't have, don't let it be known that you want more than a brief encounter and they'll probably want to hang around more!
I've met Christian Bale twice, he's welsh you know! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!
That's exactly what I want, but with every woman I meet it's just wham bam thank you ma'am and never to be seen again. It's just so depressing.
Well done on the American Psycho quote by the way
Would have thought it easier for a guy to get a female to want more than a shag? Just continue to dangle your carrot, women often want what they can't have, don't let it be known that you want more than a brief encounter and they'll probably want to hang around more!
I've met Christian Bale twice, he's welsh you know!"
Nah, women are probably even harder work to date than they are to fuck. The whole fairytale story of the princess looking for a white knight is bullshit. Well, for me at least.
And no he ain't, he was born and raised right here in Bournemouth, I'll have you know!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all get times like that...just....meh...and flat...Might be good to find someone regular, get to know, develop the drive back maybe?
Not dating if you can't be arsed but just a decent fwb maybe if your sick of random beds...
Just a thought... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could find a decent Fuck buddy/Fwb everyone I want to meet and would be perfect are always too far away. Sods law lol"
Im sure some potentials will be available soon  spring is in the air   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could find a decent Fuck buddy/Fwb everyone I want to meet and would be perfect are always too far away. Sods law lol Im sure some potentials will be available soon spring is in the air
Do the men near you hibernate?
They must do round my way. Bloody sick. "
Are you from a race of squirrel people? Perhaps that's the issue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish I could find a decent Fuck buddy/Fwb everyone I want to meet and would be perfect are always too far away. Sods law lol Im sure some potentials will be available soon spring is in the air
Do the men near you hibernate?
They must do round my way. Bloody sick.
Are you from a race of squirrel people? Perhaps that's the issue? "
Maybe that's where I'm going wrong. In fact that's definitely it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wish I could find a decent Fuck buddy/Fwb everyone I want to meet and would be perfect are always too far away. Sods law lol Im sure some potentials will be available soon spring is in the air
Do the men near you hibernate?
They must do round my way. Bloody sick.
Are you from a race of squirrel people? Perhaps that's the issue?
Maybe that's where I'm going wrong. In fact that's definitely it. "
There's always an answer....in that case, the post above is correct, it's almost spring and the men will be out soon enough... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you all feel like this and not interested, should you not delete profiles and take a break? If it's not fun for you then why have a profile offering? Just a thought! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you all feel like this and not interested, should you not delete profiles and take a break? If it's not fun for you then why have a profile offering? Just a thought! "
No need to delete profile can just hide and still take part in banter with people, keep in touch. When the blues go you just unhide and ready to go again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!
That's exactly what I want, but with every woman I meet it's just wham bam thank you ma'am and never to be seen again. It's just so depressing.
Well done on the American Psycho quote by the way "
Maybe you need to be clearer on your profile that you realise it isn't a dating site but you are looking for something more substantial?
Our tastes, our needs, our desires evolve over time. Maybe if you are looking for a certain someone, you should perhaps spell it out.
It might limit your offers from those seeking nsa, but may open the floodgates to those wanting the opportunity for something more permanent. |
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By *rawftyMan
over a year ago
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"I've felt like this since Xmas. The army guy I dated last year came home and told me he thought it was best not to see each other again as it was getting too serious, since then I can't be arsed with anybody. I've turned my messages off so I can look for people myself but even when I find someone I like the look of I can't get myself into the mindset of wanting to meet them. "
shame chin up misses.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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18 months ago I had the perfect fwb, he took me out, cuddled me, we had deep conversations then he'd fuck me senseless. Shame my slutty pussy got the better of me - I fucked someone else so he left me 
Thought the grass was greener - clearly not... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isnt this down to meeting someone you fancy/like/has potential for more though?
because those times ive came across a guy ive had serious interest in i couldnt even look at another man in a remotely sexual context |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"18 months ago I had the perfect fwb, he took me out, cuddled me, we had deep conversations then he'd fuck me senseless. Shame my slutty pussy got the better of me - I fucked someone else so he left me
Thought the grass was greener - clearly not... "
sounds like he was more than a fwb then.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"18 months ago I had the perfect fwb, he took me out, cuddled me, we had deep conversations then he'd fuck me senseless. Shame my slutty pussy got the better of me - I fucked someone else so he left me
Thought the grass was greener - clearly not...
sounds like he was more than a fwb then...."
Yeh, we were with a couple one night and he mouthed 'love you' to me as I was sucking the other guys cock, kinda freaked me out, maybe I should have mentioned this instead of panicking and doing what I did? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"18 months ago I had the perfect fwb, he took me out, cuddled me, we had deep conversations then he'd fuck me senseless. Shame my slutty pussy got the better of me - I fucked someone else so he left me
Thought the grass was greener - clearly not...
sounds like he was more than a fwb then....
Yeh, we were with a couple one night and he mouthed 'love you' to me as I was sucking the other guys cock, kinda freaked me out, maybe I should have mentioned this instead of panicking and doing what I did?"
Yes I think that would have been an idea, obviously after you'd finished the job in hand
Fwb / fb ~ it's all about boundaries and if feelings change they need to be talked about as it changes the dynamics of the 'relationship'. x |
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!
That's exactly what I want, but with every woman I meet it's just wham bam thank you ma'am and never to be seen again. It's just so depressing.
Well done on the American Psycho quote by the way "
It also sounds like the same symptoms as displayed by the main character played by Michael Fessbender in the 2011 film Shame... overindulgence in meaningless sex.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep I can totally relate to what the Op said...
My sex drive is MEH at the moment..  "
think what we all need jenna is a night of madness no sex just get mad ...
ive so missed those nights ....
men .... well i cant say im missing them enough to care at min ....
but am missing my girly madness. though
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!"
If i only i were closer too you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Careful people don't let swinging mix in with emotions. You blue people are sounding very much so on the depression side of things. Every day is a blessing, don't forget that!"
Wow, you got depression from all that?
Because I didn't.
What I read was a group of individuals who were in touch with themselves, realising that a cycle of meaningless sex / one night stands / NSA hook ups were ultimately un-fulfilling, and that they wanted something different.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Careful people don't let swinging mix in with emotions. You blue people are sounding very much so on the depression side of things. Every day is a blessing, don't forget that!
Wow, you got depression from all that?
Because I didn't.
What I read was a group of individuals who were in touch with themselves, realising that a cycle of meaningless sex / one night stands / NSA hook ups were ultimately un-fulfilling, and that they wanted something different.
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Well put.
Totally get that which is why sometimes being a couple in this lifestyle is more rewarding as you emotional support and comfort to fall back on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Careful people don't let swinging mix in with emotions. You blue people are sounding very much so on the depression side of things. Every day is a blessing, don't forget that!
Wow, you got depression from all that?
Because I didn't.
What I read was a group of individuals who were in touch with themselves, realising that a cycle of meaningless sex / one night stands / NSA hook ups were ultimately un-fulfilling, and that they wanted something different.
Well put.
Totally get that which is why sometimes being a couple in this lifestyle is more rewarding as you emotional support and comfort to fall back on. "
I see where you're coming from - however I was in a relationship and we were on here as a couple. Sadly, she terminated our 3 1/2 relationship (via email) so that she could run off and shack up with a 'devious cunty sack of shit' she met off here.
Id never be on here again as a couple - and to be honest its made me very cynical of the scene as a whole and peoples motives; which is why I find it difficult to motivate myself to meet anyone. Plus, I don't do one-nighters as I'm looking for something more on the FWB end of the spectrum.
I'm on the thin end of a very thin wedge which what I want! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!
That's exactly what I want, but with every woman I meet it's just wham bam thank you ma'am and never to be seen again. It's just so depressing.
Well done on the American Psycho quote by the way "
You are both on the wrong site |
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I don't even bother searching local women anymore, never mind messaging them. I think this runs deeper than I first thought. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what I want anymore.
I know what I don't want and that's just a one off fuck, I want a guy to go to Asda with, I want a guy to watch films with and smooch on the sofa and spoon in bed and all that bollox.
My mind is totally not in the right headspace for one off meets, I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip!"
I've been feeling like that for ages too. Don't necessarily want someone in my life totally, but do want something more than just sex. And before anyone says this isn't the place to find that, I'm here to chat with Fab friends and read the forums. Besides, stranger things have happened lol. |
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Yeah it happens... I used to travel to the Far East a lot. Where women are thrown at you like confetti...
After a while, at some point, your half way through the deed & think, "I don't need to be here"....
That's the problem with nsa (that and the patriot act).
Then you find the minds you like, you actively and almost exclusively hunt them...
For me I call them the Thunder Godess...
When we connect, the energy is undeniable, it's electric... You can't get enough... Imagination, filth, energy and trust collide...
All you want to do is fuck this perfect type of person for you...
Find one or two... He/she will bring you back to life & you will thank them for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is how I feel about women and sex in general at the moment. Just a total lack of interest.
In fact, anyone could proposition me in the most seductive manner possible and it still would most likely not even raise a twitch.
Bleurgh."
I felt like this up until early January.
Now though, I'm a freakin' menace to society. Horny as.... 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you all feel like this and not interested, should you not delete profiles and take a break? If it's not fun for you then why have a profile offering? Just a thought! "
Nobody can message me and I'm not offering anything. It clearly states on my profile what I want. I like the forums on here so I won't be deleting my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Then you find the minds you like, you actively and almost exclusively hunt them...
For me I call them the Thunder Godess...
When we connect, the energy is undeniable, it's electric... You can't get enough... Imagination, filth, energy and trust collide...
All you want to do is fuck this perfect type of person for you...
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There is a male equivalent of this and I consider myself extremely luck to have 2 men in my life who are exactly that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hear that a lot....
Then things start to change..."
One of the benefits of being in a stable relationship already I guess....no desire or need for strings..... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Careful people don't let swinging mix in with emotions. You blue people are sounding very much so on the depression side of things. Every day is a blessing, don't forget that!
Wow, you got depression from all that?
Because I didn't.
What I read was a group of individuals who were in touch with themselves, realising that a cycle of meaningless sex / one night stands / NSA hook ups were ultimately un-fulfilling, and that they wanted something different.
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People's needs, wants and attitudes evolve - it's human nature.
There's nothing wrong with seeking something different.
And to those stating people are 'on the wrong site'? Why?
Is it impossible to find someone via Fab or any other internet site that you decide to venture into a relationship with? I'm pretty sure there's a fair de couples on here that would disagree with you!
There's no shame in taking a break, changing your outlook or stating that you aren't averse to more than casual hook ups. If you go headlong into a search for a 'perfect partner' you run the risk of attracting those saying the right things for the wrong reasons. Just go with the flow, don't rush into anything and like any other means of meeting people in the real world - maintain a realistic sense of expectation and keep a level head.
You never know what - and more importantly who - is just around the corner!
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I felt like that once, it was the longest 10 minutes of my life
Seriously though, if you're feeling a bit jaded, take a break, go for a few long walks, chill out in the fora if that's your thing...oh, and have a ratch down the back of your sofa in case your mojo has gone down there - if it hasn't, you'll probably find a few pens, enough loose change for a bag of Haribo and the remote control that went missing 3 televisions ago |
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"I hear that a lot....
Then things start to change...
One of the benefits of being in a stable relationship already I guess....no desire or need for strings....."
That I suppose would be the appeal...
Among other things of cause;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hear that a lot....
Then things start to change...
One of the benefits of being in a stable relationship already I guess....no desire or need for strings....."
Exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fuck me !!! you lot need a good solid shagging.
All joking aside, feel for you all, too much soul searching makes the abyss deeper, take it from me and have a hug |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i just cant be assed at min . kids house and getting my own company up and running are doing me in .
but off to cjs at weekend with a mate so ... ya never know lol
guess its just me time i need and noone taking up my me time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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After reading some of the post's by the singles on here, really makes us appreciate what we have.
Next year will be 30years together and will still have as much sex as we did when we were 19..
In fact probably more, we have cuddles every day, we kiss and tell each other we love each other twice or more a day.
We are a solid unit and still very much in love.
But honestly cheer up guy's and don't get despondent if a ugly twat like me can bag a hottie like jools there is hope for everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah it happens... I used to travel to the Far East a lot. Where women are thrown at you like confetti...
After a while, at some point, your half way through the deed & think, "I don't need to be here"....
That's the problem with nsa (that and the patriot act).
Then you find the minds you like, you actively and almost exclusively hunt them...
For me I call them the Thunder Godess...
When we connect, the energy is undeniable, it's electric... You can't get enough... Imagination, filth, energy and trust collide...
All you want to do is fuck this perfect type of person for you...
Find one or two... He/she will bring you back to life & you will thank them for it."
You're right. I never really thought of it in these terms before.
I actually found this.... but knocked it on the head cos I ended up actually having feelings for him .... and he just messaged me to ask if I'd reconsider Haha!
Ummm nope (Severe relationship allergies see) |
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