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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I recently discovered a female friend of mine on Facebook had either blocked me or left the site (no idea which, she just appears as 'Facebook User' now). Basically, I messaged my male friend who is a mutual friend and asked if he knew what happened. He said he doesn't know, but that if she has blocked me, it's most likely because of 'creepy' and 'sleazy' comments I leave on her pictures.

Now all I recall ever saying on any of her pictures are things like "You look really pretty here", etc. Yet my friend insists it looks like I'm creeping so I could possibly obtain naked pics or something. This deeply offended me and has bothered me ever since it was mentioned because one thing I do not appreciate is being painted in an unflattering image which, in my opinion, is not warranted.

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Aww did your ego take a bashing after she blocked you....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's creepy and sleazy if they're not attracted to you, otherwise it's flirting.

I had family on Facebook and I wouldn't want to receive compliments like that from anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends how regularly you're doing it too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends if it's the odd comment it would not hurt if it was on a lot of the pics then it could come across as creepy and a bit sleazy.

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

Is your 'friend' Snow White? I happen to know Creepy and Sleazy were her two least favourite dwarfs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends how regularly you're doing it too"

Probably about two or three pictures from what I can remember.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unless you've got that kind of slightly flirty relationship with your female friends then yep. I don't interact with my male friends like this so it would feel pretty creepy tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I recently discovered a female friend of mine on Facebook had either blocked me or left the site (no idea which, she just appears as 'Facebook User' now). Basically, I messaged my male friend who is a mutual friend and asked if he knew what happened. He said he doesn't know, but that if she has blocked me, it's most likely because of 'creepy' and 'sleazy' comments I leave on her pictures.

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?"

This is only the opinion of one person and may not be the reason she blocked you at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it is unrequited it will seem sleazy. The dynamic of your friendship and how frequent the comments are will potentially compound that impression

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All of the above plus depends on your relationship with her. Some friends I would appreciate complements from, others I'd know were having a laugh but, yes, some would come across as sleazy as they are ex colleagues or friends of friends. Definitely un welcome. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?

This is only the opinion of one person and may not be the reason she blocked you at all"

The fact that the OP hasn't just dismissed the suggestion and views the suggestion as a ppossiblereason to me suggests he believes their may be some validity in it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!"

Have you tried finding out why she blocked you instead of fixating on this being the reason when it may not be

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!

Have you tried finding out why she blocked you instead of fixating on this being the reason when it may not be "

As stated in the post, I messaged my friend. He doesn't know. It only happened a couple of hours ago.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

Was it definitely "you look really pretty here" ?

Or is it possible that after a few sherbets one night you posted "i'd love to spill my man fat on them puppies", "that skirt could do with being a bit shorter" and "that bloke you're draped over may be better looking than me but I have a beard and a huge wang!"

These things can happen you know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?

This is only the opinion of one person and may not be the reason she blocked you at all

The fact that the OP hasn't just dismissed the suggestion and views the suggestion as a ppossiblereason to me suggests he believes their may be some validity in it"

Agreed but it still may not be the reason I personally think he's just accepting this is why hes been blocked because its been suggested to him and he can't think of another reason off the top of his head

I think we have all said things in the past that has offended someone when we have not ment to, it could be something he said in all innocence that's offended her but because he's not realised he's over looked the real reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was it definitely "you look really pretty here" ?

These things can happen you know!

Speaking from experience are we?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did you upload a cock pic by mistake?

That could possibly do it?

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Was it definitely "you look really pretty here" ?

These things can happen you know!

Speaking from experience are we?

Nah - I've never been on Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The woman in question may not have even blocked me, she may have just left Facebook. I'm not interested in that, what I am interested in is how an innocent compliment on someone's aesthetics can be viewed in the wrong context. Yes, she was a friend. Yes, we occasionally messaged. We were never flirty, but we got on well. She knew my humour, I knew hers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't have anyone as a Facebook friend I would consider to be creepy or sleazy if they commented on my photos.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was it definitely "you look really pretty here" ?

These things can happen you know!

Speaking from experience are we?

Nah - I've never been on Facebook.

No shit I though I was the only person is the UK who's never had a face book account

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

"Was it definitely "you look really pretty here" ?

These things can happen you know!

Speaking from experience are we?

Nah - I've never been on Facebook.

No shit I though I was the only person is the UK who's never had a face book account

Nope, me neither

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Was it definitely "you look really pretty here" ?

These things can happen you know!

Speaking from experience are we?

Nah - I've never been on Facebook.

No shit I though I was the only person is the UK who's never had a face book account

Nope, me neither"

Maybe we should start an "I'm not on Facebook" Facebook page?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The woman in question may not have even blocked me, she may have just left Facebook. I'm not interested in that, what I am interested in is how an innocent compliment on someone's aesthetics can be viewed in the wrong context. Yes, she was a friend. Yes, we occasionally messaged. We were never flirty, but we got on well. She knew my humour, I knew hers."

Are you actually friends in any sense other than on Facebook? If so, couldn't you just ask? And if your only contact with her is via Facebook, then you're not really friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are you actually friends in any sense other than on Facebook? If so, couldn't you just ask? And if your only contact with her is via Facebook, then you're not really friends."

Just Facebook (she lives in Australia).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!"

It doesn't matter what you think or how you'd interrupt it, it only matters how she does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you actually friends in any sense other than on Facebook? If so, couldn't you just ask? And if your only contact with her is via Facebook, then you're not really friends.

Just Facebook (she lives in Australia)."

Doesn't sound like it's going to leave a massive hole in your life then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!

It doesn't matter what you think or how you'd interrupt it, it only matters how she does. "

I doubt she found anything I said on her photos offensive. I could be wrong, but that's just what I assume based on how well I know her. This is more to do with my male friend's accusation that I come across creepy when I genuinely didn't think I did.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing creepy about compliments unless it was incessant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends how many pictures you did it on. If it is just like one every so often I guess that would be ok, but us girls notice lol.

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!

It doesn't matter what you think or how you'd interrupt it, it only matters how she does.

You didn't think you did, he thought you did. That's interpretation - not much you can do about it. Especially where the written word is concerned and there is no emotional context. We've all had a text or e-mail misconstrued at some point, that's the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!

It doesn't matter what you think or how you'd interrupt it, it only matters how she does.

you kinda do, in your profile I have to say.

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By *AM2214Man over a year ago

Manchester Area

It doesn't sound like she was/is a friend you actually know. So the lass might have genuinely found it creepy.

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

"I don't get the whole idea that if I compliment a woman, but she doesn't compliment me, then THAT'S creepy/sleazy.

I personally know of a couple of women who regularly compliment me on my photos, but I never reciprocate. Do I think they're sleazy? Fuck no!

It doesn't matter what you think or how you'd interrupt it, it only matters how she does.

you kinda do, in your profile I have to say."

Ah, that'll help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you actually friends in any sense other than on Facebook? If so, couldn't you just ask? And if your only contact with her is via Facebook, then you're not really friends.

Just Facebook (she lives in Australia).

Doesn't sound like it's going to leave a massive hole in your life then. "

No but it sounds like it's dented his ego

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

She's not blocked you. If she had she would have disappeared. She's deactivated her profile. The 'facebook user' thing comes up when the person has shut down their account.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they were pictures from 2008 and you only randomly commented a few days ago, then I'm not surprised she thinks your sleezy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?"

one of your other posts state you wanked over one of her pics. NOW THATS SLEAZY

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple over a year ago

Brighton

Well, if the OP comes across on FB like they have been doing here recently... yeah, creepy and sleazy seems apt.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

I have had customers and male friends tell me I'm pretty and it just really grosses me out. Didn't ask and didn't want to know. Context means a lot.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

Simple...people love the word offended...its the most annoying word in the English language at the moment.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I have had customers and male friends tell me I'm pretty and it just really grosses me out. Didn't ask and didn't want to know. Context means a lot."

Maybe they just liked the beard?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She might have blocked you due to starting a relationship with a jealous boyfriend. Happened to me.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe she saw your post about how much you detest koala bears, and she herself works in a Koala rescue centre, treating the poor little guys who've been neglected and abused..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?

one of your other posts state you wanked over one of her pics. NOW THATS SLEAZY "

WTF! That was about a female friend on Fab! Someone who openly encourages men to wank over her pictures!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a guy I was friends with just said I looked nice or pretty on a Facebook pic no I wouldn't think it was creepy or sleazy, if I'm friends with someone on fb then it's because they are my friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook. "

Not a real life friend then ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

Not a real life friend then ? "

How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

Not a real life friend then ?

How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments. "

Well was he being serious or was he taking the piss? Just ask him. Unless he's not a real life friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

Not a real life friend then ?

How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments.

Well was he being serious or was he taking the piss? Just ask him. Unless he's not a real life friend

He is a real-life friend and I know he was being serious. I've already asked him and am still waiting to hear back from him. Not much else I can do till then.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Move on

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

Not a real life friend then ?

How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments.

Well was he being serious or was he taking the piss? Just ask him. Unless he's not a real life friend

He is a real-life friend and I know he was being serious. I've already asked him and am still waiting to hear back from him. Not much else I can do till then."

Excellent - end of thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...this is assuming this actually HAPPENED and it's not yet another post directly out of the OP's fucking head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?"

I have messaged a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

Not a real life friend then ?

How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments.

Well was he being serious or was he taking the piss? Just ask him. Unless he's not a real life friend

He is a real-life friend and I know he was being serious. I've already asked him and am still waiting to hear back from him. Not much else I can do till then."

If he;s a real life friend why would he lie? He clearly thinks you are sleazy

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

OP, with regards to the lady, it does sound likes she's deactivated rather than unfriended/blocked you. If that as the case you wouldn't be able to see anything at all.

With regard to your male friend, it may be that he's just guessing, or is saying that to upset you for some unknown reason. Perhaps he is attracted to her or is annoyed at you about something?

Is there another mutual friend that you can ask to find out why she's left Facebook? If so I wouldn't mention what your friend has said, just ask if she's alright.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple."

Cool.

To answer your question ~ if I like someone, then no I wouldn't find it creepy / sleazy for someone to comment like you have described.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook. "

Ah wel. Then there's nothing nore to discus. You will never know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments. "

Maybe the confusion is because in your opening post you said:

"Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?"

Which suggests that it was very much about her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When friends do weird things, it isn't always about you, and publicly speculating about why can make things weird.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments.

Maybe the confusion is because in your opening post you said:

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?

Which suggests that it was very much about her

It's not about her, it's about my comments being misconstrued. The fact I mentioned the woman in question was simply to explain the origin of the story.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple."

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

You seem to be getting your boxers in a bunch over something your friend assumes might of happened, if the lady didn't say it was creepy or sleazy and if she has deactivated her profile then it's just your friends opinion, she may not even have seen the comment

Unbunch your boxers and carry on as normal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments.

Maybe the confusion is because in your opening post you said:

Do women really feel this way from an innocent compliment?

Which suggests that it was very much about her

It's not about her, it's about my comments being misconstrued. The fact I mentioned the woman in question was simply to explain the origin of the story. "

How is it being misconstrued? Just because you decided halfway through the thread it was about your mates comments doesn't alter what you put in your opening post

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple.

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive"

Right, what exactly is your problem with me? Every single comment I see is negative. All I asked was a simple question about complimentary comments being taken in the wrong light. How on earth is that needy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How is it being misconstrued? Just because you decided halfway through the thread it was about your mates comments doesn't alter what you put in your opening post"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Uh oh....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How is it being misconstrued? Just because you decided halfway through the thread it was about your mates comments doesn't alter what you put in your opening post

I think I made it pretty obvious in the opening post that it was about my friend's comments and not about her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple.

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive

I don't have a problem with you

Mine are far from the only negative comments on this thread. But you seem to be incapable of taking on any of the responses presumably because they aren't saying what you want to hear.

She is someone you've never met, who may or may not have blocked you for a the reason that your friend has speculated about - why even give it a second thought? let alone seek out affirmation from more strangers online that the comments that they have never seen were misconstrued and you weren't at all sleazy. Does that not strike you as just a bit needy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple.

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive

I don;lt have a problem with you

Mine are far from the only negative comments on this thread. But you seem to be incapable of taking on any of the responses presumably because they aren;t saying what you want to here.

I am not cut up about losing her on Facebook. Little bit disappointed (if she did block me), but when a good friend of mine tells me I came across creepy or sleazy towards her when there were genuinely no ulterior motives, it made me want to question whether these type of compliments were acceptable or misleading. Is that really so hard to understand?

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By *afadaoMan over a year ago

Staines

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple.

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive

I don;lt have a problem with you

Mine are far from the only negative comments on this thread. But you seem to be incapable of taking on any of the responses presumably because they aren;t saying what you want to here.

Easy to understand. Do you understand that no-one here can provide a definitive answer therefore it's pointless? Speak to your pal, see what he says.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple.

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive

I don;lt have a problem with you

Mine are far from the only negative comments on this thread. But you seem to be incapable of taking on any of the responses presumably because they aren;t saying what you want to here.

But for the reasons stated above surely the opinion of a 'good friend' who actually saw the comments is far more valid than the opinion of strangers?

You seem intent on ignoring him and posts on here that give the answer you don;t want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If a guy I was friends with just said I looked nice or pretty on a Facebook pic no I wouldn't think it was creepy or sleazy, if I'm friends with someone on fb then it's because they are my friend

This

Us ladies it seems have forgotten how to receive a genuine compliment

sorry but there is a lot of jumping on the band wagon going on here.

Sorry OP but I think it's a case of her deactivating her account rather than blocking you and tbh I think you picked the wrong friend to ask as I think he sounds like a petty jealous man who wants to dent your ego

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Just blinkin' ask her. Or if she's not someone you're close to don't worry about it.

I can't ask her! She is unviewable on Facebook.

Not a real life friend then ?

How many times do I have to keep saying it? This isn't primarily about her, it's about my friend's perception of me based on my photo comments. "

is this friend also aware about your recent waiting about outside an ex girlfriends place of work..?

that added to this latest thing may have lead him to think the way he said he does about you and the fb thing..?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You seek approbation and you won't find it here.

There are so many factors that could have caused the situation on Facebook your friend could even be telling you that because he quite fancies her himself.

She's not blocked you so that's a positive. The problem with comments in text form they can be misconstrued very easily and you don't know the lady in question that well by the sound of it. She could have been of a delicate disposition after all.

No point worrying over the what ifs in life chap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you ask a female friend who knows you on / off Facebook what they think ~ get a female point of view as opposed to a mans?

I have messaged a couple.

This much angst about a facebook friend that you've never actually met. Messaging people on FB and starting a thread on here trying to second guess her motives

Neediness is so attractive

I don;lt have a problem with you

Mine are far from the only negative comments on this thread. But you seem to be incapable of taking on any of the responses presumably because they aren;t saying what you want to here.

But for the reasons stated above surely the opinion of a 'good friend' who actually saw the comments is far more valid than the opinion of strangers?

You seem intent on ignoring him and posts on here that give the answer you don;t want"

My friend's opinion is valid, but it's the male point of view. The whole point of the post was to gather female opinion.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"My friend's opinion is valid, but it's the male point of view. The whole point of the post was to gather female opinion. "

the only female who can give you her point of view seems to have done so, from her perception of what you posted ..

unless people on here saw the same posts you made toward her be they male or female they can only give you a subjective opinion based on what you say you said..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends how regularly you're doing it too"

this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If she's not attracted to you then posting on one pic is a compliment, posting on a second pic sounds a little alarm, and posting on a third pic begins to get creepy and I'd probably unfriend you. Annie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive never found you creepy or sleazy! True to your username yes but thats more endering then anything else . x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think this would make me ponder how I post if this happened. It could be a misunderstanding, or someone with a thin skin, or it could be you posted compliments that often she didn't like it. Either way, I think it's best to try to avoid things that can be taken the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP you do have some traits that you have demonstrated on here that do not show you in a positive light.

The thread when another male came back to the site demonstrated some very bizarre jealous behaviour from you.

So if your personality is the same on here and on Facebook then perhaps her blocking you was justified. Is your friend telling you the full story?

Of course the above could be just bollocks and not worth worrying about it's the flipping internet FFS

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

FUCK the TV tonight! This thread is where it's at!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuck me this is better than Hollyoaks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Popcorn??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP you do have some traits that you have demonstrated on here that do not show you in a positive light.

The thread when another male came back to the site demonstrated some very bizarre jealous behaviour from you.

So if your personality is the same on here and on Facebook then perhaps her blocking you was justified. Is your friend telling you the full story?

Of course the above could be just bollocks and not worth worrying about it's the flipping internet FFS "

Oh you mean Ejay? The same guy I wrote a positive thread about last week?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck me this is better than Hollyoaks"

No shit!

OP..just let it die off the page.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Fuck me this is better than Hollyoaks

No shit!

OP..just let it die off the page.

Wise words.

Goodnight!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuck me, when I were a lad (if that's possible)...........if we had a problem with each other we'd converse like adults and sort the problem. This sounds more like something for a teenager than an allegedly grown man.

A random woman who has blocked you is causing you this much stress. Move on ffs! There's plenty others out there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm thinking it's not the OP that's lost it here ffs

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

If you are going to post please don't attack people when doing it.

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