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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
Had a conversation with another single male who was complaining about timewaisters after his meet got cancelled . On asking why his meet failed his crux was that the women he was meeting had to look after her kids.
I was dumbfounded at that moment. Is this man in the minority of people who's priorities are misplaced and perceptions of priorities is misplaced or are there more like him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm ok saying that someone has wasted my time if they decide to do something with their kids at short notice instead of doing something with me.
Because they have wasted my time, it's a fact.
But that's one of the reasons I'm not really interested in meeting people who have kids - you always seem to get let down at the last minute. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm afraid to say our kids would always come first and if a meet had to be cancelled for some reason regardless of how late it was and the fella got the hump I'd call it a lucky escape. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Upset and letting off steam but real life sometimes gets in the way.
If a meet is cancelled before I have left home then I don't see that as a timewaster: they have contacted and told me why they can't meet.
If I turn up to a meet and they are a no-show and no contact after then either they have been run-over or they intended to waste my time. I usually arrange to meet where I can find something else to do so it's not a complete waste of time. It's then just annoying and a small diversion of time.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm afraid to say our kids would always come first and if a meet had to be cancelled for some reason regardless of how late it was and the fella got the hump I'd call it a lucky escape. "
 yes family first always. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are lots of ways you can take this story.
She obviously arranged a sitter beforehand.
How much notice did she give him?
It COULD have been the perfect excuse to cancel all because she couldn't be asked.
We don't know the full story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the circumstances though doesn't it. If the children are ill, or childcare arrangements have fallen through at the last minute or something then obviously any sane person should prioritise their children and everyone would understand that.
But if someone has arranged a meet without actually having sorted their childcare arrangements out and then just cancelled on the other person, I can see how that would be annoying. |
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"Had a conversation with another single male who was complaining about timewaisters after his meet got cancelled . On asking why his meet failed his crux was that the women he was meeting had to look after her kids.
I was dumbfounded at that moment. Is this man in the minority of people who's priorities are misplaced and perceptions of priorities is misplaced or are there more like him? "
Did you express your dumbfounded feelings to the guy online? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on the circumstances though doesn't it. If the children are ill, or childcare arrangements have fallen through at the last minute or something then obviously any sane person should prioritise their children and everyone would understand that.
But if someone has arranged a meet without actually having sorted their childcare arrangements out and then just cancelled on the other person, I can see how that would be annoying. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My daughter always comes first and I would expect no less of anybody else. If that puts people off meeting me then their loss as far as I'm concerned, I'd rather meet people with a little more patience. |
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"There are lots of ways you can take this story.
She obviously arranged a sitter beforehand.
How much notice did she give him?
It COULD have been the perfect excuse to cancel all because she couldn't be asked.
We don't know the full story. "
Absolutely!! |
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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Had a conversation with another single male who was complaining about timewaisters after his meet got cancelled . On asking why his meet failed his crux was that the women he was meeting had to look after her kids.
I was dumbfounded at that moment. Is this man in the minority of people who's priorities are misplaced and perceptions of priorities is misplaced or are there more like him?
Did you express your dumbfounded feelings to the guy online?"
Nope let him talk to be honest. The only thing i did ask him though was don't you think her kids come first. To which he replied she never said she had kids. That was the end of the conversation to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest there are that many people on here who cancel at the drop of a hat that its hard to know who's genuine and who's not, if I believed everyone who cancelled on me because a family member had suddenly been rushed into hospital or died I'd stop meeting for the good of everyones health because I'd be convinced I was jinxed 
Maybe she was a time waster and dont even have kids or maybe her sitter let her down, who knows and that's the problem we don't so we trust our instincts and if it happens a lot we do tend to think....another time waster  |
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