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Is it weird to bring kids to a social meet?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind 
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts... |
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its certainly something we would never had considered had we had children of a young age when we started out..
little ears and a habit of repeating what they may have heard but the main reason would be it just wouldn't have felt right.. |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
Your joking right ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spare a thought though, my eldest lad is now 31 and has his father's good looks.
Must be some cougar would fancy him?
Re the OP, yep, what a weird scenario. I'd also add that i find it odd that some mothers mention their kids on here far too often. Its an adult site, keep it for adults. |
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over a year ago
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First meet is a bit odd I'd say..
I've known lasses off here though and after becoming friends have gotten to know their kids, been out to the park, museums, even gone to pick them up and occasionally drop them off at school even.
Am facebook friends with a fab friends daughter in fact.....
So definately over time it becomes ok if a friendship blossoms but right off the bat I'd think it very odd. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, it's weird. I would also not go to a play meet at someone's house if their kids are at home."
Yes we've couples who have invited us for a meet whilst there young kids are upstairs in bed, no chance, why would you do that? If you have your children, enjoy them, protect them, don't put your needs before them |
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"No way would I meet someone for the first time of a swingers site with kids in toe and I'd leave if someone brought kids along
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 i would also do the same, you just dont take them with you to discuss anything |
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over a year ago
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Yep - thats totally weird!! How can anyone with any sense think "this social is so important, and I'm so desperate to meet this couple, that rather than reschedule, I'll take the kids with me!"
As you insinuated, a social should (we hope) be relaxed and a little flirtatious.....how can you get in the mood when they've got their kids sitting at the coffee table with you?
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when we were first starting out we met a couple via a magazine for a social and they commented that their 16 year old knew what they did when they went out to meet people..
we said thanks for coming but we wont be meeting again and left straight away..
did freak us out tbh.. |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes, it's weird. I would also not go to a play meet at someone's house if their kids are at home.
Yes we've couples who have invited us for a meet whilst there young kids are upstairs in bed, no chance, why would you do that? If you have your children, enjoy them, protect them, don't put your needs before them"
what peeps forget is if kids are in the house when you meet and it gets to the wrong ears social services could say they are worried the children are being put at risk |
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We met a couple who live within 40 miles of us to a social meet and they brought their hound child with them. He was in a pushchair and asleep but we still felt very uncomfortable.
When they said that they could only meet after the child was in bed, we told them that it's not something we're comfortable with.
Keep swinging & kids separate! |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
. On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts.... On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed "
but you still played in the bed the child had just been lifted from..?
and assume that the child was moved to another bedroom..? |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts.... On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed "
But as a guy you wasn't that embarrassed and still continued, your sexual urges didn't stop you from continuing huh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We recently had a meet at someone's house and they let their dogs wander into the room. That was weird enough. "
its scarey when the 13st and decide to lick ya bollocks mid doggy  cheers for flasnback |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts.... On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed "
I would be having none of that, told the people how disgusting their behaviour was and left pronto!
It's like putting their needs first and not the child, who was obviously comfy.
Imagine if the kid had woken?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts.... On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed "
So you carried on regardless makes you worse in our eyes |
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"We recently had a meet at someone's house and they let their dogs wander into the room. That was weird enough. its scarey when the 13st and decide to lick ya bollocks mid doggy cheers for flasnback "
Lol, welcome! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts.... On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed
I would be having none of that, told the people how disgusting their behaviour was and left pronto!
It's like putting their needs first and not the child, who was obviously comfy.
Imagine if the kid had woken?
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Don't really know why he posted this as he's as bad as them, telling us how uncomfortable he felt still carried on, so I guess it was more of an inconvenience to his fun rather than the morale fact there was young child there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts.... On one occasion a couple whom I used to see regularly allowed me to go upstairs , and them removed a sleeping child from the bed that we were going to use to another room. I considered this to be totally unacceptable and felt that they should have removed the sleeping child prior to allowing me to go upstairs especially as I was naked and fired up ready for action. Luckily the child was asleep when it was moved to a different room but I still felt embarassed
I would be having none of that, told the people how disgusting their behaviour was and left pronto!
It's like putting their needs first and not the child, who was obviously comfy.
Imagine if the kid had woken?
Don't really know why he posted this as he's as bad as them, telling us how uncomfortable he felt still carried on, so I guess it was more of an inconvenience to his fun rather than the morale fact there was young child there"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks for your thoughts people! ...glad its not just us that would find it awkward/uncomfortable/weird! The first time it was suggested we were put off and politely ducked out, but with it being mentioned again by another couple had to throw the question out there...maybe its just us lol, we're either uber approachable or its some weird take on the babysitter fantasy! ...either way, not cool. |
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"Thanks for your thoughts people! ...glad its not just us that would find it awkward/uncomfortable/weird! The first time it was suggested we were put off and politely ducked out, but with it being mentioned again by another couple had to throw the question out there...maybe its just us lol, we're either uber approachable or its some weird take on the babysitter fantasy! ...either way, not cool. "
I think if you were already friends with them it would be ok, especially if the kids were entertaining themselves in the play area. But as a first meet, it's so inappropriate |
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"Bit weird, and you wont know what the other people are like, could get awkward.
On the other side I like most kids, sooo I might be more interested in them than the meet "
Be careful how that comes out could be taken the wrong way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was on a dating site and loads of profiles used to have pics up with their kids, used to put me off in case they were intending to bring them on a date lol..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
I myself wouldn't agree to a social meet if kids were going to be there . Its very weird and strange in my eyes and children are to be kept safe. Not knowing someone's back ground and invite them into your home or even meeting them in a public place where they will be near your kids is just wrong.
I have had guys that desperate to meet me they have told me to bring my kids along when I gave told them I have no sitter. Another guy said he knows someone that can look after my kids if I arrange to meet him. Not to mention the guys who want to come round my kids are in bed. They can just jog on. I myself choose to meet strangers for mutual sexual play not my children. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
I think it's definitely a wrong situation, though I do understand why someone might consider it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I have a young child. It's just wrong. I won't play at people's houses if they have kids about and neither will I bring someone to mine! Makes me shudder |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes it is bloody weird!! lol - if any meet brought kids along i'd run away so feckin fast i'd break the sound barrier!! (apart from the creepiness factor - i HATE kids)"
I was just thinking who would want a social meet with attention seeking screaming brats running about |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Weird, weird, weird!  "
..... thankfully, no Jeremy Kyle-type 'contestants' posted anything, - I was getting a little apprehensive there towards the end!! |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
Is okay to take children along to meet swingers or strangers you have chatted to on the internet? NEVER! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My daughters are 22 and 20 is I took them on a meet with me some guy would think all his birthdays had come at once "
I was just going to say the same. Except I have 4  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A couple we were going to meet years ago for a coffee wanted to bring their kids along
I said no,I wouldn't want my kids introduced to potential nutcases from the internet and didn't think they should either
For me its total madness and idiocy |
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Kids should never be present. What a skewed view of the world they'd grow up with!
Admittedly I've taken my dogs on meets but only outdoor ones and sometimes the only way I can get out is to take them for "a walk".
My youngest is 14. Swinging never ever happens in our house. Roll on him moving out though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's very weird never in a million years weird kids and fab are totally separate and never the twain should meet. That's my biggest problem with meeting because my kids come first and never push them to the side to go have sex ...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's just wrong. If someone said they were going to bring them I wouldn't go. I once had a guy ask if I was free for a coffee, it was half term so politely said I wasn't, he then suggested meeting in the park as they could play on the swings and we could chat. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I would never bring my kids to a meet with a complete stranger off the internet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Re the OP, yep, what a weird scenario. I'd also add that i find it odd that some mothers mention their kids on here far too often. Its an adult site, keep it for adults."
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By (user no longer on site)
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It would not just be wrong, weird and sick, but also absolutely fucking stupid to even consider taking a child on a meet or playing with a child under the same roof!!!!!! Wrong! Wrong! Wrong! Fucking wrong!!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials are to see if you have a connection for a sexual trust and root out any weirdos.
Why would anyone in their right mind consider bringing kids into that mix
Wrong wrong
I know I'm judging but hey when kids are involved you can't risk it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'v been asked a few times " well when they are in bed and asleep" to come round erm nope again also Iv refused to got to others houses when kids are asleep ...... It's crazy |
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Completely inappropriate and in no way putting the needs of the child first
Too many parents don't parent, keeping your child safe from harm is a main parental duty
Sadly, it is indicative of how many parents are, a child's wellbeing is secondary to their own needs
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did have a coffee with someone once and they arrived with their grandson and a bag of jam sandwiches. "
None of it is remotely good (even the dog thing worries me). But this freaks me out the most - so the parents won't even have been aware he was taken to a social meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We used to have a twitter account and were chatting to a couple, very strange as their kids were in the pictures. Reported them to the police when, in the messages, they told us that the kids play too - they were very young.
Some very sick people in the world!
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OMG yes i wouldnt dream of bringing my kids or meeting anyone that did. Im always very straight from the start about the fact I struggle for childcare and very often have to cancel because ive been let down so if people want to meet me they have to be very patient and understanding. Also that i dont meet while they are in my care under any circumstances but the amount of times I still get "i can pop round while their sleeping" is unreal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As one poster said....definite NO on a first meet....even if just social.
I have, since, met children of several people here on fab.....I am just a friend of the couple or of mummy in most cases.
One particular friend has 2 daughters (18 and 21 before any comments) who both know fully what is going on. Even so we do NOT discuss fab if they are around. I tend to pop in for a brew if in the area and passing.
Other than that it's a NO. would never arrange to "meet" when they are around.
Another close friend on here has daughter at college. I am second emergency contact if mum can't be got hold of....but again, the story is her mum and I are just friends! |
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"Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up!"
...this has been suggested to us twice now, and we've only been on here a short time! I was curious to know if we were in the minority with thinking it was weird...from the overwhelming response on here we're definitely not which is reassuring (I assume you meant inappropriate!)...although guessing anyone who does think its ok wouldnt be brave enough to post on my thread after reading the comments |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
WTF, really! That isn't just weird that is very wrong! Are people really that desperate for a fuck or some attention ( yes we all need some from time to time) but bringing said children to meet a potential fuck, can't get my head round that one!!!
" hey kids, this is mummy's potential fuck for next Thursday, what do you think" seriously, that's a head fuck !! |
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If your dogging I suppose it would be a good idea to wrap them up warm, put on a hi vis vest with reflective stripes by 3M and tell them to go over to the park for about half an hour until you flash y7our lights notifying them its ok to return |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up!
...this has been suggested to us twice now, and we've only been on here a short time! I was curious to know if we were in the minority with thinking it was weird...from the overwhelming response on here we're definitely not which is reassuring (I assume you meant inappropriate!)...although guessing anyone who does think its ok wouldnt be brave enough to post on my thread after reading the comments "
There have been similar threads before where some people have said they have people round to theirs when the kids are in bed. It does happen, and you weren't asking a daft question. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No way on this earth would we meet socially or otherwise with any children present. Anyone suggesting such would be an instant block as we obviously have very different morals. |
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over a year ago
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As the couples we play with are all over 40, we don't have the problem with youngsters, but it would still be strange if there were ANY kids about! We have met the kids of people we play with, but in a purely social setting. Of course they don't know the reason for the friendship, but neither should they.
We are in the process of meeting a couple from another site and they have told us that their kids have realised what they do. Funnily enough, our kids do because we had to tell them when we were outted in 2004. They were OK with it and we don't mention it when we see them, but they have met a few of our playmates. They treat them like any of our friends.
We have been asked to play when there are kids upstairs after a very successful social meet. They were lovely people and they assured us that the kids were asleep for the night. We declined and never heard from them again. Although we would have loved to play with them and feel we missed out a little, we are sure we made the right decision.
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over a year ago
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"If your dogging I suppose it would be a good idea to wrap them up warm, put on a hi vis vest with reflective stripes by 3M and tell them to go over to the park for about half an hour until you flash y7our lights notifying them its ok to return"
Pmsl - great answer ! |
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That is so wrong to bring kids to socials plus to have meets when children are in the house. Ive had couples ask to come to theirs whilst the young kids are in bed. Their kids safety should come first before any fun. Its just wrong wrong wrong!!!! Xx |
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over a year ago
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"Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up!"
Let me give you a clue!
"Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
That should have told you, along with the statement that they have been put off when asked to meet with kids there, that they are just asking a general question to find others views!
Your response is about as inappropriate as taking kids on a meet!  |
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"Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up!
Let me give you a clue!
"Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
That should have told you, along with the statement that they have been put off when asked to meet with kids there, that they are just asking a general question to find others views!
Your response is about as inappropriate as taking kids on a meet! "
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
wtf, no way in any circumstance ever none never |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
I would never bring kids to a social I don't care where it is that's just weird if you ask me. If you discussed it before hand, fair enough, but no def not. I keep my private life.. Just that! Private! |
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"We met a couple who live within 40 miles of us to a social meet and they brought their hound child with them. He was in a pushchair and asleep but we still felt very uncomfortable.
When they said that they could only meet after the child was in bed, we told them that it's not something we're comfortable with.
Keep swinging & kids separate!"
I know I,m some what being a Spelling police here but surely "hound Child".. but getting back to the point I agree with what you say Otherwise, It must be 5 years ago now But there was a series of programmes On the tv which portrayed different Aspects of peoples sex lives and at The time and thinking back to I knew This was wrong, It was about a couple Who had actual swinging couples/ sex partys would be more the norm at Their Home and they actually more or less Introduced their young daughter into It by when the following morning Arrived and all activity,s had Ceased The daughter would help to clean up as In changeing the bedding etc and god Knows what else she was no more than 13/14 perhaps younger, the parents seemed happy about it all and it was On national tv, It was a big house and So many bedrooms etc even a loft space It was a free for all but haveing the Daughter Involved was just not right I do remember the mother being questioned about this at the time and She said as much as that it might help To Introduce her daughter into the Swinging world unbelievable really no shame from the mother or father and This most probabily will be just one Instance but It highlighted that it Happens so don,t be surprised what might happen in the swinging world.. |
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"We understand that it can be difficult to find babysitters for some people, and although we dont have kids yet ourselves, do have a number of younglings in the family so pretty realistic with time constraints, and in 'real life' very family oriented.
Is it a bit weird however to bring kids to a social meet? Or are people generally fine with it?
If say the social meet is an afternoon tea and cake kind of social, with no expectations of anything else, just to meet for the first time and see if everyone clicks.
This has been suggested a couple of times to us now when talking about a potential meet, and personally it has put us off. Even if the kids are off playing, we'd find it difficult to get in a flirty frame of mind
Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
Let's imagine we meet for the first time for a tea and cake social and you bring your children.
I watch you blowing their noses, giving them money to buy ice- cream. I listen to your other half warning them that if they go by the road again or ask for more money they are going straight to bed when you get home. I spit on my hanky and wipe the cheese and onion from around your youngests mouth before picking the middle one up from below a swing.
Well aren't we lovely people and parents. Yes.
Do we feel sexy? No.......
Are we fucking exhausted...... and stressed. Yes.....
We have different roles in life. There's no way we can fall into the role of sexual adult while being held firmly in the mum , dad , family friend role.
Stupid idea. |
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"I did have a coffee with someone once and they arrived with their grandson and a bag of jam sandwiches.
I just hope you didn't bring the wine.
I wasn't prepared that day "
You could have had a tea party.. |
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"Kids should never be present. What a skewed view of the world they'd grow up with!
Admittedly I've taken my dogs on meets but only outdoor ones and sometimes the only way I can get out is to take them for "a walk".
My youngest is 14. Swinging never ever happens in our house. Roll on him moving out though! "
What happens if the dog trys to get in on the action humping one,s leg for Instance certainly make a change on Hamster video,s.. |
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"Kids should never be present. What a skewed view of the world they'd grow up with!
Admittedly I've taken my dogs on meets but only outdoor ones and sometimes the only way I can get out is to take them for "a walk".
My youngest is 14. Swinging never ever happens in our house. Roll on him moving out though! What happens if the dog trys to get in on the action humping one,s leg for Instance certainly make a change on Hamster video,s.. "
Got to go with a blatant obvious one here " dogging"  |
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"Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up!
Let me give you a clue!
"Im curious to know other peoples thoughts..."
That should have told you, along with the statement that they have been put off when asked to meet with kids there, that they are just asking a general question to find others views!
Your response is about as inappropriate as taking kids on a meet! "
...my post may have also had an element of hoping it'd get the response it has, in the hope that people who do think its fine will read and perhaps re think their priorities. When we declined we were told it was our loss...but no comment about the reason we declined, as if we were the odd ones! |
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"It was about a couple Who had actual swinging couples/ sex partys would be more the norm at Their Home and they actually more or less Introduced their young daughter into It by when the following morning Arrived and all activity,s had Ceased The daughter would help to clean up as In changeing the bedding etc and god Knows what else she was no more than 13/14 perhaps younger, the parents seemed happy about it all and it was On national tv, It was a big house and So many bedrooms etc even a loft space It was a free for all but haveing the Daughter Involved was just not right I do remember the mother being questioned about this at the time and She said as much as that it might help To Introduce her daughter into the Swinging world unbelievable really no shame from the mother or father and This most probabily will be just one Instance but It highlighted that it Happens so don,t be surprised what might happen in the swinging world.. "
Sounds like Radlett Parties. They used to have a hog roast in the house and the kids would help prepare the food and the rooms. After, they would help to clear up. All there on a documentary! Still, it helped us to make the decision on whether or not to try it out.
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Spare a thought though, my eldest lad is now 31 and has his father's good looks.
Must be some cougar would fancy him?
Re the OP, yep, what a weird scenario. I'd also add that i find it odd that some mothers mention their kids on here far too often. Its an adult site, keep it for adults."
Fathers do it too. I do agree though one lady mentioned her daughter who was younger than ten I think and named the local newspaper that she was going to be in. I was horrified. |
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"Seriously OP you have to ask if this is ok?? The stupidity of some folk on here never ceases to amaze! Just in case you have doubts - no it is totally appropriate!! Children and strangers ....oh i give up!
...this has been suggested to us twice now, and we've only been on here a short time! I was curious to know if we were in the minority with thinking it was weird...from the overwhelming response on here we're definitely not which is reassuring (I assume you meant inappropriate!)...although guessing anyone who does think its ok wouldnt be brave enough to post on my thread after reading the comments "
Inapproriate. God yes! Not approriate definite typo lol |
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This thread is a piss take right??
Thought I'd lost 2 months of my life and it had jumped to April fools day when I read it!!
Each to their own but that's just such a wrong thought to even come into someone's head. |
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"Kids should never be present. What a skewed view of the world they'd grow up with!
Admittedly I've taken my dogs on meets but only outdoor ones and sometimes the only way I can get out is to take them for "a walk".
My youngest is 14. Swinging never ever happens in our house. Roll on him moving out though! What happens if the dog trys to get in on the action humping one,s leg for Instance certainly make a change on Hamster video,s..
Got to go with a blatant obvious one here " dogging" "
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