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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
nothing ventured nothing gained |
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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago
Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14 |
"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
I sometimes think I'm not even playing the same ball game, let alone in the same league  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, will always message someone. They may not like us or think we're not in their league but that's for them to decide and the worst that can happen is they say 'no thanks'
We're adult enough to be able to handle the rejection and not naive enough to think everyone we message is gonna say yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hate that saying...........nobody is out of anybodys league, you either like them or not........."
Your out my league won't let me message you as I'm not site supporter yet lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
I do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. I don't see people in leagues. If I see someone I like I'll message them. No point sitting back waiting and wishing. At least if they tell me to get lost I can concentrate on my next victim   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so much out my league but there are some hotties that I just assume wouldn't want to meet me  "
You never know until you ask, we did that but then were very pleasantly surprised when a couple who we thought wouldn't look twice said yes and are still chasing us for a meet. We're just trying to get a mutually agreeable time to do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
Yep, all the time!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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worst that can happen is they delete your message?
we don't like laugh at your messages or looks if we reject you, we just delete and carry on doing whatever we was doing.
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"If I get super hot men messaging me I think they're taking the piss   "
If a guy messages me with a toned body and the profile says that they goto the gym, I tend to reject them, as I would only disappoint them if I got naked.
I've yet to have a woman message me, so no idea what I'd do then  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope. I don't see people in leagues. If I see someone I like I'll message them. No point sitting back waiting and wishing. At least if they tell me to get lost I can concentrate on my next victim "
I doubt you get many turning you down when you look that fab though! |
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"Not so much out my league but there are some hotties that I just assume wouldn't want to meet me
You never know until you ask, we did that but then were very pleasantly surprised when a couple who we thought wouldn't look twice said yes and are still chasing us for a meet. We're just trying to get a mutually agreeable time to do it."
I may well be brave then and message someone on my hotlist  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it
Yep, all the time! "
I'd have pictured you on the other side being the one leagues above!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so much out my league but there are some hotties that I just assume wouldn't want to meet me
You never know until you ask, we did that but then were very pleasantly surprised when a couple who we thought wouldn't look twice said yes and are still chasing us for a meet. We're just trying to get a mutually agreeable time to do it.
I may well be brave then and message someone on my hotlist "
Good on ya, you've nothing to lose if they say no. Go back to per.............I mean admiring from afar. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
if i get the thanks but no thanks message i tell myself ... "it because I was out of their league.!"
If you find them attractive... Message away whats ya got to lose... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm surprised that so many of you that are very attractive also feel the same, especially women and couples!
I do realise it's a daft thing to do but I just do it without thinking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if i get the thanks but no thanks message i tell myself ... "it because I was out of their league.!"
If you find them attractive... Message away whats ya got to lose... "
yup - we say their loss |
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"Not so much out my league but there are some hotties that I just assume wouldn't want to meet me
You never know until you ask, we did that but then were very pleasantly surprised when a couple who we thought wouldn't look twice said yes and are still chasing us for a meet. We're just trying to get a mutually agreeable time to do it.
I may well be brave then and message someone on my hotlist
Good on ya, you've nothing to lose if they say no. Go back to per.............I mean admiring from afar."
Done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought like that until I went to the forum party, loads of people that I thought were way out of my league chatting and saying hi. Now I just think were all people, why not say hello... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get nervous that a guy is gonna see me as a pity fuck these days. I have psoriasis and although I warn them about it and they say it's ok, I feel like they are doing it to "be nice".
I don't want to be a pity fuck for anyone. So it's put me off meeting at the moment. If I knew a guy genuinely didn't care then I'd be ok. But I don't know them well enough to gauge how they really feel about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes of course we have, who hasn't? Such a silly question really....
I/mean, our advances to her Majesty & her corgies have just been unanswered. So humiliated and feel she is above our swinging status Oh well she's just a stuck up granny! PMSL
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I thought like that until I went to the forum party, loads of people that I thought were way out of my league chatting and saying hi. Now I just think were all people, why not say hello..."
See, even I am nice! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I messaged someone who thought they were too good to reply to me I'd just forget it. As many have said no-one is better than anyone else we just have preferences. I try and reply to all messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I never punch above my weight. I like a guy to think wow when he's with me.. Not Jesus she should hit the gym
More often!
That's not to say I pick ugly blokes I don't!! I just wouldn't chase the Adonis, I live in the gym and sleep under a sunbed type. I like a manly man who can give as good as he gets.
Saying that if i come across a Jamie Dornan look alike I will be on it like a car bonnet! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get nervous that a guy is gonna see me as a pity fuck these days. I have psoriasis and although I warn them about it and they say it's ok, I feel like they are doing it to "be nice".
I don't want to be a pity fuck for anyone. So it's put me off meeting at the moment. If I knew a guy genuinely didn't care then I'd be ok. But I don't know them well enough to gauge how they really feel about it."
If your psoriasias bothers them, then they arent worth a second thought or anything else. You look good and they would be lucky to meet you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hate that saying...........nobody is out of anybodys league, you either like them or not........."
Agree absolutely!!
Just go for it - the worst that can happen is they don't reply or turn you down! - The best is that you have an amazing meet and make a new friend! xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well here's the thing - when we used to meet couples the answer was yes . Yet we met and played with lots that i considered way out if my league .
Since our main play now primarily centres around my wife playing and me watching , the answer is a definate no . Perhaps her reputation precedes her or so many others see her as attractive as I do , but we do seem to attract some real hotties
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My fwb is waaaaay out of my league! I dunno what he sees in me!
blimey your hair is growing back quickly - sorry to go off topic "
5 months its taken! It needs to hurry up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
Yep all the time
I do it a lot when guys mail me too, if I get w message and I look at the pic and think there is no way he will like me I don't bother to reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do yes but that's because of my own insecurities. "
Stead on you'll have all the women you do message thinking you only message them because they're not hot |
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
The worst they can say to you is not for them
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it
Yep all the time
I do it a lot when guys mail me too, if I get w message and I look at the pic and think there is no way he will like me I don't bother to reply "
It is shocking to me that someone as attractive as you feels the same way! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it
Yep all the time
I do it a lot when guys mail me too, if I get w message and I look at the pic and think there is no way he will like me I don't bother to reply
It is shocking to me that someone as attractive as you feels the same way!"
I'm not attractive though, the problem is though my pics are me and how I look on a photo you can hide the bits you don't like, like saggy belly and boobs, sadly in the flesh I come as I am and when my clothes come off how I look is me and I can't hide it in real life and I don't think many men want to look at my saggy bits, so you take pics that show you at your best then worry what they will think when they see you at your worse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had I applied that rationale, I'd have met virtually nobody on here. As it happens, I've met and am due to meet more stunners
And a lot of it is in the mind. Once I stopped telling myself people wouldn't possibly talk to me/notice me, I've been delighted (if not surprised) who has done. That's on and off the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody ever messages me is this cos people think I'm out of there league or I'm just plain ugly and no one wants to chat? X"
Because there are about 300,000 guys on here, fishing in a pond of women and couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My fwb is waaaaay out of my league! I dunno what he sees in me!
blimey your hair is growing back quickly - sorry to go off topic
5 months its taken! It needs to hurry up! "
looking good |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it
Yep all the time
I do it a lot when guys mail me too, if I get w message and I look at the pic and think there is no way he will like me I don't bother to reply
It is shocking to me that someone as attractive as you feels the same way!
I'm not attractive though, the problem is though my pics are me and how I look on a photo you can hide the bits you don't like, like saggy belly and boobs, sadly in the flesh I come as I am and when my clothes come off how I look is me and I can't hide it in real life and I don't think many men want to look at my saggy bits, so you take pics that show you at your best then worry what they will think when they see you at your worse "
I just had a perv... Where could the saggy bits have gone? You've got an amazing body my dear! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
All the time, i will occasionally wink them just on the off chance they may be interested. Sometimes it pays off sometimes it doesn't. |
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
I think this too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it
All the time, i will occasionally wink them just on the off chance they may be interested. Sometimes it pays off sometimes it doesn't. "
ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it"
I think most people have insecurity issues, and I don't know that I would want to meet anyone that can honestly say they have none. |
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By *mids LadMan
over a year ago
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Yes, see someone or a profile I like but don't message as always think "there's no way they will ever reply". I usually just send a wink instead lol. Feel that most women I like are out of my league, both on here and in real life ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there is no harm in trying. We are all the same beauty is on the inside but can understand what your saying. There are some hot hot fellas on here I'd probably never message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever look at a profile and refrain from messaging them as you think they are well out of your league? I find I've been doing this a lot recently and was wondering how others view it
I think most people have insecurity issues, and I don't know that I would want to meet anyone that can honestly say they have none."
I'm afraid I really dont.Its nothing to do with thinking I'm hot or not..I'm just realistic.Pretend to be nothing more than I am. I dont have a buff bod,smart suits,the biggest cock etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, always, especially lately. "
I don't know why, nothing better than a voluptuous young lady, lady's are meant to have curves. if any guy said they didn't like curves, I'd question there sexuality really please...
clean, intelligent, good communicator.. most important "warm wet and accommodating!" but if the lady real fine.... "I got plenty spit to wet that pussy up... lmao! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think anyone is "out of my league" because I know people all have their own tastes and desires, which may not match mine.
However, I'm more hesitant when it comes to contacting someone vastly different to me. I do tend to assume, almost certainly incorrectly at times, that fit, gym-loving or sporty types would be looking for the same and wouldn't be interested in a fat, unfit woman.
It's not that I think they are better than me in any way, just too different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of your profiles iv looks at and you should be thinking why you think some people wouldn't meet you as a lot of you are really looking great and your profiles look great to but as a lot have said make contact and find out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Ive message anyone i fancy if they don't reply its their loss "
Its no ones loss, they don't know you so don't know what the actual loss is.
Its a stupid and redundant saying |
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