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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've just turned down a really quite sexy woman on here, nothing odd about the profile, she's been here long enough, but is playing without hubbies knowledge, not my thing unfortunately. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's nowt wrong with you. You just don't wish to be a party in a marriage wrecking. Good on ya"
I was kinda hoping for a bit of abuse when I replied with "sorry, but.." As it's not often I get propositioned, bit she just read/deleted 
And no, I don't want to be a part of anything like that, too complicated and not fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've just turned down a really quite sexy woman on here, nothing odd about the profile, she's been here long enough, but is playing without hubbies knowledge, not my thing unfortunately. "
Did you get her number?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's nowt wrong with you. You just don't wish to be a party in a marriage wrecking. Good on ya
I was kinda hoping for a bit of abuse when I replied with "sorry, but.." As it's not often I get propositioned, bit she just read/deleted
And no, I don't want to be a part of anything like that, too complicated and not fun"
I doubt anyone playing away would give you abuse for saying no. You're doing the right thing which leaves them without a leg to stand on. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I've just turned down a really quite sexy woman on here, nothing odd about the profile, she's been here long enough, but is playing without hubbies knowledge, not my thing unfortunately. "
I'm the same. I've declined some ridiculously hot men because they're attached and cheating.
I don't blame anyone who does meet married people because they're not breaking any promises or trust. I wish I could meet married people but I just can't do it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's nowt wrong with you. You just don't wish to be a party in a marriage wrecking. Good on ya
I was kinda hoping for a bit of abuse when I replied with "sorry, but.." As it's not often I get propositioned, bit she just read/deleted
And no, I don't want to be a part of anything like that, too complicated and not fun
I doubt anyone playing away would give you abuse for saying no. You're doing the right thing which leaves them without a leg to stand on."
I expected it as most people in the wrong don't like it insinuated so |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If this is not a new stand you are taking why are you surprised at your response? Or was it because she was hot? Would your reaction be less if she was a Munter?"
Tbh the title was pretty much tongue in cheek |
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"If this is not a new stand you are taking why are you surprised at your response? Or was it because she was hot? Would your reaction be less if she was a Munter?
Tbh the title was pretty much tongue in cheek "
Oh, ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If this is not a new stand you are taking why are you surprised at your response? Or was it because she was hot? Would your reaction be less if she was a Munter?
Tbh the title was pretty much tongue in cheek "
So it's a white knight thread to highlight what a fantastic guy you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's nowt wrong with you. You just don't wish to be a party in a marriage wrecking. Good on ya
I was kinda hoping for a bit of abuse when I replied with "sorry, but.." As it's not often I get propositioned, bit she just read/deleted
And no, I don't want to be a part of anything like that, too complicated and not fun
I doubt anyone playing away would give you abuse for saying no. You're doing the right thing which leaves them without a leg to stand on.
I expected it as most people in the wrong don't like it insinuated so"
Youll find a lot of the married people on here have absolutely no desire to inflict themselves on anyone who doesn't want to be party to it, so I'm really surprised you expected abuse. I'm also kind of surprised you're clearly expecting a pat on the back from everyone else though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If this is not a new stand you are taking why are you surprised at your response? Or was it because she was hot? Would your reaction be less if she was a Munter?
Tbh the title was pretty much tongue in cheek
So it's a white knight thread to highlight what a fantastic guy you are."
Based on the opening few posts it obviously worked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like these threads because I can read through the posters and see just how many of the people who proclaim they'd never meet anyone who cheats have messaged me trying to do just that. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
Shropshire/Midlands |
At least she was honest enough to tell you from the outset and I commend you for standing by your morals. Obviously, she must be used to/expected to be rejected by not being abusive. Just goes to show that not all go by type. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I think I'm absolutely stupid for opting not to meet married people.
The point that I wouldn't know someone was married is a perfectly valid point. As is that I'd not be cheating on anyone.
For all I know the partner knows and ignores it or is cheating themselves. Maybe they don't deserve to be "protected" by me from possible hurt.
I have this conversation with myself every time a hot married guy contacts me. And I kick myself every time I say no. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's nowt wrong with you. You just don't wish to be a party in a marriage wrecking. Good on ya
I was kinda hoping for a bit of abuse when I replied with "sorry, but.." As it's not often I get propositioned, bit she just read/deleted
And no, I don't want to be a part of anything like that, too complicated and not fun
I doubt anyone playing away would give you abuse for saying no. You're doing the right thing which leaves them without a leg to stand on.
I expected it as most people in the wrong don't like it insinuated so
Youll find a lot of the married people on here have absolutely no desire to inflict themselves on anyone who doesn't want to be party to it, so I'm really surprised you expected abuse. I'm also kind of surprised you're clearly expecting a pat on the back from everyone else though "
I understand that, I don't want anyone to partake in any of my fetishes, for example, if they don't like the idea of it. So I don't force it on them. But I didn't like the nature of the message I received, and the scenario surrounding it, and struggle to understand it. Being honest about it upfront as she was is great and that's what I look for in people. But why cheat on someone? Surely life would be better if people like that if they weren't having to sneak around and tell the inevitable, "you're gonna laugh when I tell you why I had to stay at work late" stories and such |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's nowt wrong with you. You just don't wish to be a party in a marriage wrecking. Good on ya
I was kinda hoping for a bit of abuse when I replied with "sorry, but.." As it's not often I get propositioned, bit she just read/deleted
And no, I don't want to be a part of anything like that, too complicated and not fun
I doubt anyone playing away would give you abuse for saying no. You're doing the right thing which leaves them without a leg to stand on.
I expected it as most people in the wrong don't like it insinuated so
Youll find a lot of the married people on here have absolutely no desire to inflict themselves on anyone who doesn't want to be party to it, so I'm really surprised you expected abuse. I'm also kind of surprised you're clearly expecting a pat on the back from everyone else though
I understand that, I don't want anyone to partake in any of my fetishes, for example, if they don't like the idea of it. So I don't force it on them. But I didn't like the nature of the message I received, and the scenario surrounding it, and struggle to understand it. Being honest about it upfront as she was is great and that's what I look for in people. But why cheat on someone? Surely life would be better if people like that if they weren't having to sneak around and tell the inevitable, "you're gonna laugh when I tell you why I had to stay at work late" stories and such"
I'm not criticising you for a second for not wanting to meet a married person, that wasn't the point of my posts.
"Why cheat on someone" is another post entirely and the answer is not as blissfully simple as you'd like to make out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I'm absolutely stupid for opting not to meet married people.
The point that I wouldn't know someone was married is a perfectly valid point. As is that I'd not be cheating on anyone.
For all I know the partner knows and ignores it or is cheating themselves. Maybe they don't deserve to be "protected" by me from possible hurt.
I have this conversation with myself every time a hot married guy contacts me. And I kick myself every time I say no."
That doesn't sound stupid at all, it's about doing what you're know you're comfortable with and not doing what you're not comfortable with. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I think I'm absolutely stupid for opting not to meet married people.
The point that I wouldn't know someone was married is a perfectly valid point. As is that I'd not be cheating on anyone.
For all I know the partner knows and ignores it or is cheating themselves. Maybe they don't deserve to be "protected" by me from possible hurt.
I have this conversation with myself every time a hot married guy contacts me. And I kick myself every time I say no.
That doesn't sound stupid at all, it's about doing what you're know you're comfortable with and not doing what you're not comfortable with. "
I meant to write I wouldn't know if someone was married if I met them in a club.
I don't understand why I'm uncomfortable with it. Logically, I can see it both ways but in reality it doesn't feel right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meant to write I wouldn't know if someone was married if I met them in a club.
I don't understand why I'm uncomfortable with it. Logically, I can see it both ways but in reality it doesn't feel right."
Im the same,I never ask in a club but if Im told on here I back off,not really for morality reasons but more for logistical ones
I met a guy last week,started to play,it became obvious he was attached so I stopped because not only did he make me feel uncomcortable he was paranoid I may accidentally leave a mark on him  |
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