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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm terrible for misreading signals that women are sending me, one time at a nightclub on holiday a lady that I'd been spending time with said to me "I'm going back to my room to change my shoes, do you want to come with me?"
I looked at her feet and said "nah those shoes look fine."
Anyone else find the opposite sex a complete mystery? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're no good with signals, you'd be a rubbish train driver, lol.
Joking aside, this is the whole difference between men and women. Our brains are wired differently.
I've missed such things in the past and my view is simple. Women shouldn't use such cryptic hints. We don't pick up on them. If they want something, they should just ask for it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm (jane) useless at picking them up.....I've been chatted up, offered drinks bought ect. And just thought they were being friendly  it's not till someone points it out to me later haha xx |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i can see the signals when it is being used on other people.... but when signals are fluttered in my direction.... haven't got a blooming clue!!!! 
for me they have to be in big flashing neon lights for me to get it....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have done the same Ata club with a couple whom dropped subtle hints during the night.
Only on the way home in the car & talking about our evening did it dawn on us, that they were interested... lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i can see the signals when it is being used on other people.... but when signals are fluttered in my direction.... haven't got a blooming clue!!!!
for me they have to be in big flashing neon lights for me to get it.... "
Phew not just me then! I did think about investing in flash cards for a while |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i can see the signals when it is being used on other people.... but when signals are fluttered in my direction.... haven't got a blooming clue!!!!
for me they have to be in big flashing neon lights for me to get it.... "
 exactly this
however I have also been called a flirt and coming onto people when I had no intention of doing so whoops I'm just abit over friendly I suppose xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm terrible I wouldn't notice someone flirting with me if they had a neon sign over their head saying so, I always assumed its just meaningless cheeky banter, I've had some right bollockings in the past from my friend for letting opportunities from guys I like slip by because I can't read the signs |
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I am terrible at reading signals! Someone was asking me out once and I was like why who else is coming with us? 
I've been accused of being flirty though when I don't mean to be so I suppose I'm bad at giving mixed messages! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i can see the signals when it is being used on other people.... but when signals are fluttered in my direction.... haven't got a blooming clue!!!!
for me they have to be in big flashing neon lights for me to get it.... "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people are worried about knock backs if they're too obvious,but sometimes the direct approach is the best way?at least you know where you stand
I thought a guy I chatted to briefly last week at a club wasn't interested so I wandered off and didn't go back to him
Turns out he was absolutely interested but too shy to say anything......wasted opportunity |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am terrible at reading signals! Someone was asking me out once and I was like why who else is coming with us?
I've been accused of being flirty though when I don't mean to be so I suppose I'm bad at giving mixed messages!"
So not only can you not read their messages you have problems reading your own?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friends are always telling me I'm getting flirted with after the event because I haven't realised.
I see most things as friendly banter I'm a chatty flirty person generally, so you tend to have to be up front with me other wise I just don't take it seriously. |
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A busty girl I really fancied in college, once told me she had no knickers on and I still missed it!
It took me years to figure it out and even that it was said lady who helped me unravel the clue 7 yrs later.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm terrible for misreading signals that women are sending me, one time at a nightclub on holiday a lady that I'd been spending time with said to me "I'm going back to my room to change my shoes, do you want to come with me?"
I looked at her feet and said "nah those shoes look fine."
Anyone else find the opposite sex a complete mystery? "
Nope.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only time I've dropped a clanger was waaaaaay back for my 18th Birthday. Some friends and I were skiing in Austria and one evening following a day on the slopes we were at a restaurant and a lady who was probably 10 years my senior asked me if I'd like to walk her back to her hotel, 30 yards away.
Being so young n dumb I totally missed the significance of the offer..........DOH!!!!!!!!!!! |
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We would have had our first swinging experience many years ago in Vegas if we could have read signals !
We were in a rooftop bar and a gorgeous American couple were chatting to us all night, they kept separating us up, very touchy feely "just luv you brits",that sort of thing,in the end they invited us down to their room, we declined and they left us their room number, after they left we were both silent for 2 minutes and then we turned to one other and said "they were both trying to pull us !"
If only it would have happened now, possibly a slightly different night lol |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I'm dreadful for this. I never believe anyone is actually serious so I take it as just flirting or being overly friendly.
Plus a couple of times I've responded to fairly overt come-ons only to be told they were just joking.
On my less confident days I wonder if they're in a pull a pig competition. |
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Here's the deal - it needs at least one of the parties to be very clear, as when both sides are indirect a failure's more likely.
I'm sociable and flirty but a lot of guys are less confident if they think I'm a tgirl. I've lost a lot of potential fun because we've both been too indirect. If you're in public you need to rely on speaking, whereas in other places you can use physical manoeuvres to speak volumes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am either useless at ready the signals or as i actually suspect.
Absolutely no one finds me in the least bit attractive and doesn't actually send any signals
Which is why jools gets all the action.
Yes I lack self confidence but surely even I would be able to read definate signals.
But can't even remember the last time a member of the opposite sex even smiled at me let alone came on to me.
Jools thinks it's coz I am lacking in self confidence and give off the wrong signals myself.
I would honestly have no idea how to give someone the come on or flirt.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Signals? I had a bit of a flashback reading this to a few subtle 'hints' from maybe 17 years ago - probably get them now but back then they all sailed way over my head I'm afraid.
As has been said I can see them when it's happening to others but not myself. Maybe it involves a different brain process interaction app vs observation app? |
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