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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do?"
ignore and block them.
On similar lines we have had people contact us because we have met people they have met, they seem to think that means we will meet them too...no idea why. |
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"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans 
Gimpus"
oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said  |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
I'd ask if they preferred the truth or what they wanted to hear. Both of which is not my business to divulge 
What I find strange are the ones that go "I see you met Ahabs, am a friend of his. Lets meet". Makes me think "wtf???" |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
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What I find strange are the ones that go "I see you met Ahabs, am a friend of his. Lets meet". Makes me think "wtf???""
oh i have had that one..... using my name as a "name drop"....
or the best one "well you met _abio, why will you not meet me!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do?"
tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol "
I'm still down there!
Obviously not one of my better ones  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol
I'm still down there!
Obviously not one of my better ones "
I have you tied up in toilet paper...not trying very hard are u...!
anyway...bringing down some left over haggis for your dinner x |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol
I'm still down there!
Obviously not one of my better ones
I have you tied up in toilet paper...not trying very hard are u...!
anyway...bringing down some left over haggis for your dinner x"
Is it that extra strong loo paper?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do?"
say very little . I hate that and why I don't show a lot here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans
Gimpus
oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said "
Its only Wrong when you get caught, And how many times do i have to say the Rubber Sheet goes down FIRST 
Gimp |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do  "
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
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so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly  |
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"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans
Gimpus
oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said
Its only Wrong when you get caught, And how many times do i have to say the Rubber Sheet goes down FIRST
Gimp"
of course, sorry  . It's just he was struggling so much when I unwrapped him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
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Uncle Charlie says he'll get back to you soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This does my head in! I usually respond that everyone is different and wants different things, and reiterate whatever I have said in the veri already.. Send. Block. Delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly "
Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.  |
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly
Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it. "
I was set up!  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I either say nothing on the grounds of discretion, or make up a lurid event, involving us gate crashing a wedding, both shouting there is an impediment at the psychological moment, as the groom belongs to us, then saying wrong wedding and please carry on, before seeing just how much you have to do to get thrown out of a burger king and then rounded off the meet by trying to kidnap a penguin.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly
Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.
I was set up! "
It's your loss. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do?"
I find this kinda creepy. Tell them to do one! |
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"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do
I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.
so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly
Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.
I was set up!
It's your loss. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans
Gimpus
oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said
Its only Wrong when you get caught, And how many times do i have to say the Rubber Sheet goes down FIRST
Gimp
of course, sorry . It's just he was struggling so much when I unwrapped him "
dear oh dear it seems you will need refresher Training Always carry a Cattle Prod |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would anyone use a verification to determine the suitability of a potential playmate(s)?
Everyone [on fab] has a suckable cock or a sweet tasting pussy; we are not to be passed by and would defo meet again so what is the use?
Its the ingratiated ingratiating themselves to the ingratiated if you get my drift? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its a kind of despicable thing to do discretion and respect wise. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who enquired about me in any way and certainly wouldn't entertain discussing a third party. Its just naughty!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its a kind of despicable thing to do discretion and respect wise. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who enquired about me in any way and certainly wouldn't entertain discussing a third party. Its just naughty!!! "
I have to say I agree 99%, but if something really awful happened or there was a risk to someone I think id indicate that I wouldn't be meeting them again.
But then again I don't suppose I'd get or show any verification from that person/meet in this case.
Everyone we've met so far are lovely so would prob just ignore message.
Dx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hence my veris are private, on request only. I've lost friends like this in the past. Smacks of insecurity or stalking to me, not the ideal recipie for a good meet I suspect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nobody has asked me about any of mine. i think the veri should be enough though and they shouldn't message. i wouldn't tell them anything if they did ask, i'd say find out for yourself. |
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When we first joined, we met 2 couples for coffee, one after the other. Loved the first couple, the second seemed alright.
A couple of days later the first couple contacted us to say that the second couple had seen them leave us, and got in touch with them. Basically they implied that we weren't good enough and the first couple should meet them instead!
Bloody cheek! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The question is whether its worse hiding your veris: apparently some people believe if they can't see the (type of) people you meet then you're not worth meeting."
i keep all but my last one hidden....if anyone I'm planning to meet desperately wants to see them I'll show them briefly....
If folk don't like them generally being hidden though....tough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do?
A gentleman never tells
Yes, but what would YOU do? "
Ohh tell all |
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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago
South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire |
We find it spooky when people target us because of who we have seen or ask after people we have seen.
When messaged and asked what we think of a couple/person we have seen we just say 'read the Veri we left them'. Then inform the people of what is going on...
If at a meeting/party and someone asks after a couple/person we just say they were nice and you should drop them a message.. We don't get drawn on any detail. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The question is whether its worse hiding your veris: apparently some people believe if they can't see the (type of) people you meet then you're not worth meeting."
Yeah but Ahabs my darling...... I don't and never have given a shit about what people think of me for hiding mine
It doesn't stop me from having lots of fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,
Oh and to try and work out if they are real "
Good job, we don't believe all we read, or I'd have you down as a right willy wonka |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,
Oh and to try and work out if they are real
Good job, we don't believe all we read, or I'd have you down as a right willy wonka "
Oi, I have very presentable verie thank you, Only the one thought
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for
What do you do?"
Tell them to 0121 do one. I think it's the height of rudeness when people do this. It has happened to me alot. Here's an idea, have a bit of faith in your own judgement and find out what people are like for yourself folks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,
Oh and to try and work out if they are real
Good job, we don't believe all we read, or I'd have you down as a right willy wonka
Oi, I have very presentable verie thank you, Only the one thought
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oh I bet it is |
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