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Why are some people rude and arrogant?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive? |
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"I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive?"
Because they are damaged and defensive usually.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Damaged and defensive - could be. Maybe it's also the intellectual incompatibility in some cases?
Howso??"
I mean different priorities in life, different _iews, etc. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
They respond arrogantly too, you mean?
Why on earth did you message them in the first place?
Yes, some people are rude and arrogant but I have also found that arrogance is an accusation that can be chucked around fairly freely at times by those hurt because someone's preferences exclude them or because someone said no.
One person may see arrogance where someone else may not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One person may see arrogance where someone else may not."
Agree. The "tolerance" level is different from person to person. But still, there are some general concepts about what is rude and what is not. |
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Because they can be.
i've been accused of such things in the past because of a perceived 'tone' in my writing style. Sorry, but tone can't really be ascertained via text!
When i've met people in real life they were shocked at how lovely I really am!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you have sex (only sex) with someone who is generally rude and arrogant, BUT has the best body you've ever seen?"
Depends. Are we allowed to gag them? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Would you have sex (only sex) with someone who is generally rude and arrogant, BUT has the best body you've ever seen?"
nope.... however i am not the one complaining about the same behaviour you are exhibiting now with the "name calling"
rudeness???????? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When i've met people in real life they were shocked at how lovely I really am! "
I've encounter that workwise many times - someone sounds very rude on emails, but turns out to be a very nice person in real life. |
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"Damaged and defensive - could be. Maybe it's also the intellectual incompatibility in some cases?
Howso??
I mean different priorities in life, different _iews, etc."
OK, but I have yet to find someone who is purely arrogant without there being some kind of 'issue' underlying it. Usually the most arrogant people are the most damaged and insecure. If they merely feel superior, they are still suffering poor socialisation at best! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive?"
Perhaps because people are people? Perhaps because your approach is wrong? Perhaps because of a number of possibilitiies. Perhaps we cannot respond properly without specifics. Probably because not everyone likes everyone. |
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"I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive?"
. Fab members are representative of real life . Those whom you consider to be rude can just be ignored. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Would you have sex (only sex) with someone who is generally rude and arrogant, BUT has the best body you've ever seen?"
Not a snowball's chance on hell. I decline men, regardless of physical attraction if I don't like their attitude.
It's not uncommon on here for me to get messages from (physically) really hot guys that either are crude from the outset or go straight from an initial hello message to specifics about what they want to do with me etc.
They assume because they're hot I'll jump into bed without knowing anything about them. Uh, no. I need to feel there's a connection with someone first. Physical appeal is not enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best advice I can give , and even I don't follow my advice lol.
Keep it classy, just a tad sassy and never trashy.
Remember your profile can be armour to hide behind . So if they are rude always be polite and pass on by
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive?
Perhaps because people are people? Perhaps because your approach is wrong? Perhaps because of a number of possibilitiies. Perhaps we cannot respond properly without specifics. Probably because not everyone likes everyone."
But nearly everyone likes biscuits!
(Now look what your biscuit obsession has done!  )
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are just like that ... Life has made them some how like it .. Bitter and become rude and arrogant, And at times its a cover up for a person who is really unhappy and think the world owe them something so have this chip on their shoulder in life. |
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When i've met people in real life they were shocked at how lovely I really am!
I've encounter that workwise many times - someone sounds very rude on emails, but turns out to be a very nice person in real life."
I think some people take me far too seriously. Yes I can be opinionated and lacking in tact at times, but i'm generally poking fun at myself. My profile for example, some might see it as arrogant. I see it as my sparkling wit trying to push through the frustration. But i'm not that fussed, if people don't see it for what it is, we're probably incompatible. |
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actually its hard to know what anyones like from a few lines of a profile
i have a dry sense of humor which doesnt translate well in emails and in real life im quite shy which can be misinterpreted as unfriendly
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When i've met people in real life they were shocked at how lovely I really am!
I've encounter that workwise many times - someone sounds very rude on emails, but turns out to be a very nice person in real life.
I think some people take me far too seriously. Yes I can be opinionated and lacking in tact at times, but i'm generally poking fun at myself. My profile for example, some might see it as arrogant. I see it as my sparkling wit trying to push through the frustration. But i'm not that fussed, if people don't see it for what it is, we're probably incompatible. "
I think your profile is actually funny - in a sweet way you're cool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive?
Perhaps because people are people? Perhaps because your approach is wrong? Perhaps because of a number of possibilitiies. Perhaps we cannot respond properly without specifics. Probably because not everyone likes everyone.
But nearly everyone likes biscuits!
(Now look what your biscuit obsession has done! )
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Nowt wrong with a bourbon between two or more consenting adults. I have checked the statute books and it is permitted. At the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean here, and elsewhere too.
Some profiles are full of arrogance as well, and respond appropriately too.
Unless there are people who find rudeness and arrogance attractive?"
What exactly are you classing as rude and arrogant? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here I think that some get their egos massaged so much they begin to believe their own hype and become arrogant arsewipes
Some have become jaded with all the wrong people getting in touch and havn't discovered that filters will make their lives easier so they just get huffy and whingy instead
Some are just the same in real life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was called arrogant by a man once. I'm as opposite of arrogant you can get,he just didn't understand what I was saying "
I think it's possible to misunderstood someone... but it doesn't give a right to call them arrogant etc |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I think it's possible to misunderstood someone... but it doesn't give a right to call them arrogant etc"
now the alarms are going off
isn't that exactly what you did in your opening post... and in your title to the thread  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I think it's possible to misunderstood someone... but it doesn't give a right to call them arrogant etc
now the alarms are going off
isn't that exactly what you did in your opening post... and in your title to the thread "
It looks very much like that to me. |
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"actually its hard to know what anyones like from a few lines of a profile
i have a dry sense of humor which doesnt translate well in emails and in real life im quite shy which can be misinterpreted as unfriendly
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Same here. |
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When i've met people in real life they were shocked at how lovely I really am!
I've encounter that workwise many times - someone sounds very rude on emails, but turns out to be a very nice person in real life.
I think some people take me far too seriously. Yes I can be opinionated and lacking in tact at times, but i'm generally poking fun at myself. My profile for example, some might see it as arrogant. I see it as my sparkling wit trying to push through the frustration. But i'm not that fussed, if people don't see it for what it is, we're probably incompatible.
I think your profile is actually funny - in a sweet way you're cool."
Thanks! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Big difference between arrogance and self belief/ confidence but sometimes people mix up the two. Arrogance is often borne out of lack of self confidence to hide an insecurity (which I guess we all have sometimes).
Confidence is hugely attractive and very sexy in both men and women. Arrogance is a bit offputting, to mee anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find a certain amount of arrogance attractive
Arrogance or self-confidence?
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Hmm self-confidence bordering on arrogance, I don't like it when it spills over into nastiness to others. |
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