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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There was a good post on this yesterday and got to big but it did make me think . People asking for gifts. I think its wrong and maybe if a gift is given it is because they wished to and not a person asking in there profile add here .. I even think fab should stop it too people asking for gifts . Going in half on hotel is fine .. I ask for nothing as for me .. if they drive to me that it .. as I know for some that's a lot there petrol . I Over the years have had flowers and wine but I never ever asked and I at times make them dinner and spoil them too in lots of ways so they go home thinking I was worth there petrol and happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are some so hard up here they would meet people who ask for things.?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have taken flowers to ladies, and a bottle of something nice to drink.

But if someone asked us for things that would have to go out of the window it is desparate.

Her

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By *estmidscoupleCouple over a year ago

West Midlands

we are meeting a guy on Thurs and he has offered to buy drinks but have said no as felt guilty accepting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a woman who wanted a gift of underwear for her "to feel she was special". Like a fool I agreed and then she wanted me to get a hotel room in Yarmouth. (Well it is cheaper than 3 hours with an escort I thought.)

Later she did the same trick on another guy i know so i guess she was an escort. You live and learn.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a few gifts but I have never asked

it's a difficult one as I dont want or expect anything but if someone has put the thought into buying you something does it seem rude to turn it down?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I met a woman who wanted a gift of underwear for her "to feel she was special". Like a fool I agreed and then she wanted me to get a hotel room in Yarmouth. (Well it is cheaper than 3 hours with an escort I thought.)

Later she did the same trick on another guy i know so i guess she was an escort. You live and learn.

"
Yes you do learn your right. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who the hell asks for gifts?! Like what??

I've been bought wine and quite regularly dinner and drinks at a social meet (even though I always want to go halves). Can't imagine ever asking for a gift.. I'm too expensive anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've had a few gifts but I have never asked

it's a difficult one as I dont want or expect anything but if someone has put the thought into buying you something does it seem rude to turn it down?"
Well that's ok as you never asked in the first place so its sweet really . I just think some here get taken for mugs at times and its sad to see as some lovely people on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One woman brought a mag to mine on our 3rd meet and showed me this magazine to pick a gift out!

I was refusing but her face dropped to the floor i felt so bad

So it sounds bad i just ramdomly said ok then i will have that, thankyou so much!...

It felt so akward, but she was so happy then lol

I gave the gift away to friends who joined up here, it was a bondage set.

Usually im not into all that. I accom and maybe cook lunch, dinner, provide drinks or whatever such as a shower too. Only gift i like is a few good orgasms lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One woman brought a mag to mine on our 3rd meet and showed me this magazine to pick a gift out!

I was refusing but her face dropped to the floor i felt so bad

So it sounds bad i just ramdomly said ok then i will have that, thankyou so much!...

It felt so akward, but she was so happy then lol

I gave the gift away to friends who joined up here, it was a bondage set.

Usually im not into all that. I accom and maybe cook lunch, dinner, provide drinks or whatever such as a shower too. Only gift i like is a few good orgasms lol. "
WOW it must be rear a woman asking a woman for a gift ... yes a orgasm is the best gift .. your right. xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had a couple bring a bottle of wine to a meet. That was unexpected and very much aporeciated. If the people are in your place for a few hours the least they get is some tea, coffee and biscuits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some people get common curtasy mixed up with gifts, to a lot of people taking a bottle of wine or flowers to a woman when invited to her home is just seen as manners where as others see you as a prostitue

Funny how people see things different

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't ask anyone to buy me anything but its nice when they do, a lot of men are on here because they are too tight to pay an escort and realy we are all just unpaid prostitutes, theres not much difference realy.

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS over a year ago

Epsom

If someone wishes to rip my knickers off me ,, id expect nice replacements.. x

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Personally if I am entertaining at mine I will always ask what they prefer to drink etc to make sure I have in what they like, I would find it a slight if they turned up empty handed (unless they had travelled a fair distance)

But I would class that as having manners and not delivering gifts x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if im going to a party or someones house i would bring a bottle or soemthing.

but i wouldn't expect anything if they was coming to mine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If someone wishes to rip my knickers off me ,, id expect nice replacements.. x"

its always my good stuff not my ok stuff

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By *Ryan-Man over a year ago

In Your Bush

I usually get given cookies

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think some people get common curtasy mixed up with gifts, to a lot of people taking a bottle of wine or flowers to a woman when invited to her home is just seen as manners where as others see you as a prostitue

Funny how people see things different "
yes There is a big difference your right.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

For some, the swinging world is like a credit union. It is the best place to secure goods, cash and services.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never expect anything to be bought for me. Even when i travel i dont expect a chip in for petrol money. Ive chose to travel there why should they pay? Only thing id ask for is halfsies on a hotel. Or maybe a drink at the pub.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how people see things different "

are you deliberately misreading this thread?

Its about women DEMANDING things before a meet.

if it asks for money, or demands you buy her dinner, or demands you pay for a hotel room - like the women yesterday - don't matter what she calls herself, she's a prostitute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Funny how people see things different

are you deliberately misreading this thread?

Its about women DEMANDING things before a meet.

if it asks for money, or demands you buy her dinner, or demands you pay for a hotel room - like the women yesterday - don't matter what she calls herself, she's a prostitute.

"
Seen it on profiles a list of things they need before a meet .. made me smile and think are people that hard up they would meet there needs and do that .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how people see things different

are you deliberately misreading this thread?

Its about women DEMANDING things before a meet.

if it asks for money, or demands you buy her dinner, or demands you pay for a hotel room - like the women yesterday - don't matter what she calls herself, she's a prostitute.

Whats wrong with being a prostitute though, no worst than being an unpaid prostitute is it. If the bloke doesn't like it he can block them like he would block anyone else he didn't like.

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By *iggy1Woman over a year ago

DORCHESTER

A man once told me, the only thing you have to buy a woman to get her in bed, is a cup of coffee! That maybe true but not nice to point it out lol

I have spoken to three men, who all seem to have been in contact with the same woman who asks for money for rent, food ect,strangely non of them have met her, but I bet she's making a lot of money from this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" A man once told me, the only thing you have to buy a woman to get her in bed, is a cup of coffee! That maybe true but not nice to point it out lol

what makes you think she is making a lot of money, is it because shes good looking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how people see things different "

People just don't know the rules of savoir-vivre.

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By *iggy1Woman over a year ago

DORCHESTER

" A man once told me, the only thing you have to buy a woman to get her in bed, is a cup of coffee! That maybe true but not nice to point it out lol

what makes you think she is making a lot of money, is it because shes good looking."

I have no idea what she looks like or I know is one of the guys "loan" her £160..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" A man once told me, the only thing you have to buy a woman to get her in bed, is a cup of coffee! That maybe true but not nice to point it out lol

what makes you think she is making a lot of money, is it because shes good looking.

I have no idea what she looks like or I know is one of the guys "loan" her £160.."

Well more fool him I guess, shes either good looking or is up for anything, who knows what he gets in exchange.

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By *eyondCuriousWoman over a year ago

Shrewsbury

A woman once heavily hinted for me to pay her gbh fine or she faced possible arrest...

Her

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By *iggy1Woman over a year ago

DORCHESTER

" A man once told me, the only thing you have to buy a woman to get her in bed, is a cup of coffee! That maybe true but not nice to point it out lol

what makes you think she is making a lot of money, is it because shes good looking.

I have no idea what she looks like or I know is one of the guys "loan" her £160..

Well more fool him I guess, shes either good looking or is up for anything, who knows what he gets in exchange.

He got absolutely nothing, they never met, yes some men are desperate idiots

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I don't ask anyone to buy me anything but its nice when they do, a lot of men are on here because they are too tight to pay an escort and realy we are all just unpaid prostitutes, theres not much difference realy."

if your happy to see yourself as such then that's down to you..

pretty much guess you are in a very small minority in thinking that though..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I said a lot on the thread last night because I was genuinely surprised by the attitude that's still prevalent of insisting the man involved pays for everything. Maybe it's a generational thing, but I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I earn my own money and I'm independent in my everyday life so I wouldn't want this to be any different.

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By *utumnWoman over a year ago

leeds

How very very wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" some men are desperate idiots

This is basically the long and short of it. I'd rather meet men with enough self respect not to get rinsed by women taking advantage.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How very very wrong"

whats very very wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I said a lot on the thread last night because I was genuinely surprised by the attitude that's still prevalent of insisting the man involved pays for everything. Maybe it's a generational thing, but I wouldn't be comfortable with it. I earn my own money and I'm independent in my everyday life so I wouldn't want this to be any different. "
You sound like me .. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never had anyone even hint at wanting a gift before

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Eh...you are...have some respect for yourself...

Just because ppl use a swinging site does not make them unpaid prostitutes... I have plenty money but don't wish to use escorts (nothing against them and each to their own) but why would I want to... We are here for fun,friends and good time's not to earn a living... Iv personally never had demands made to bear gifts,I have a block button though and wouldn't hesitate to use it if I was...

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By *utumnWoman over a year ago

leeds

""a lot of men are on here because they are too tight to pay an escort and realy we are all just unpaid prostitutes, theres not much difference realy.""

THAT is very very wrong, although, if it pleases YOU to think that, then so be it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Eh...you are...have some respect for yourself...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I give them the pleasure of my company which is priceless, what more do they expect

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone know of a good swinging hotel for next week in the sun ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or more....if your a good girl....hehe..

..x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Or more....if your a good girl....hehe..

..x"

For the foxy op...x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never had anyone ask me for a gift, if I ever do my sense of manners would be so offended that I would cut all lines of contact!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How very very wrong"
Yes wrong .If a man made me ever feel like a unpaid prostitute I would never never meet him for me its free but a two way thing for us both to have fun not just his needs I have needs too .

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By *asmanian TigerMan over a year ago

lala land

"There was a good post on this yesterday and got to big but it did make me think . People asking for gifts. I think its wrong and maybe if a gift is given it is because they wished to and not a person asking in there profile add here .. I even think fab should stop it too people asking for gifts . Going in half on hotel is fine .. I ask for nothing as for me .. if they drive to me that it .. as I know for some that's a lot there petrol . I Over the years have had flowers and wine but I never ever asked and I at times make them dinner and spoil them too in lots of ways so they go home thinking I was worth there petrol and happy.

Wow such a nice post I was losing faith in humanity

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a generous person. I love buying gifts (and also for myself!). But to demand or expect something is cheap in every definition of the word.

Moreover, what I found utterly distasteful was the pride shown by those who can find and exploit those who are desperate THEN show utter contempt for those who didn't approve of their manipulative ways of getting free stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a generous person. I love buying gifts (and also for myself!). But to demand or expect something is cheap in every definition of the word.

So, you're still ok to pay me in diamonds next week, right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how people see things different

are you deliberately misreading this thread?

Its about women DEMANDING things before a meet.

if it asks for money, or demands you buy her dinner, or demands you pay for a hotel room - like the women yesterday - don't matter what she calls herself, she's a prostitute.

Whats wrong with being a prostitute though, no worst than being an unpaid prostitute is it. If the bloke doesn't like it he can block them like he would block anyone else he didn't like."

Says the one that will meet men not her type, if they bring you a present.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how people see things different

are you deliberately misreading this thread?

Its about women DEMANDING things before a meet.

if it asks for money, or demands you buy her dinner, or demands you pay for a hotel room - like the women yesterday - don't matter what she calls herself, she's a prostitute.

Whats wrong with being a prostitute though, no worst than being an unpaid prostitute is it. If the bloke doesn't like it he can block them like he would block anyone else he didn't like.

Says the one that will meet men not her type, if they bring you a present. "

Yeah I just thought of that, seeing as others are meant to be doing it.

not that many men who contact me are my type so if you don't ask you don't get and anyway its good if it puts some people off who im not that interested in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a generous person. I love buying gifts (and also for myself!). But to demand or expect something is cheap in every definition of the word.

So, you're still ok to pay me in diamonds next week, right? "

After you snaffled my pecan pastry? No fucking chance!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Funny how people see things different

are you deliberately misreading this thread?

Its about women DEMANDING things before a meet.

if it asks for money, or demands you buy her dinner, or demands you pay for a hotel room - like the women yesterday - don't matter what she calls herself, she's a prostitute.

Whats wrong with being a prostitute though, no worst than being an unpaid prostitute is it. If the bloke doesn't like it he can block them like he would block anyone else he didn't like.

Says the one that will meet men not her type, if they bring you a present.

Yeah I just thought of that, seeing as others are meant to be doing it.

not that many men who contact me are my type so if you don't ask you don't get and anyway its good if it puts some people off who im not that interested in.

If your not interested, just say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Check out forpurelustx....

80dropping to 60 for time......

An your moaning about gifts....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a generous person. I love buying gifts (and also for myself!). But to demand or expect something is cheap in every definition of the word.

So, you're still ok to pay me in diamonds next week, right?

After you snaffled my pecan pastry? No fucking chance! "

God you're so cheap. Don't you have any self respect not realising you have to pay?

I'm not just some free prostitute who'll drop her knickers in a back alley.

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By *quirrelMan over a year ago

East Manchester

I have met some truly amazing and wonderful people on the site, and I hope there are more out there to meet.

One meet a few weeks ago I brought a bottle and we had a drink and chatted for 2 hours, exchanging text numbers as she wanted to meet again I left.

For the next week my texts went unanswered and I eventually contacted her through the site, she couldn't see me again as her benefits had been sanctioned for 14 weeks and with no money coming in she couldn't afford the cost of heating or lighting or a top up voucher for her phone.

So, I took her out and instead of heading for a club or the pub as I promised we went to the local Asda, filled a trolley with enough food (but no alcohol and I wouldn't buy cigarettes for anyone)to survive on until emergency funds were approved and I bought a takeaway on the way back. I am not blowing my own trumpet here but if anyone asks for a gift you have to weigh up if its an extravagance or a necessity of life they are asking for, and then decide.

My Reward? a thanks, a kiss and a promise to "pay it forward" when she is able.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have met some truly amazing and wonderful people on the site, and I hope there are more out there to meet.

One meet a few weeks ago I brought a bottle and we had a drink and chatted for 2 hours, exchanging text numbers as she wanted to meet again I left.

My Reward? a thanks, a kiss and a promise to "pay it forward" when she is able.

That's a generous thing to do, but no, I don't think it's ok to ask someone else for the "necessities of life" either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a generous person. I love buying gifts (and also for myself!). But to demand or expect something is cheap in every definition of the word.

So, you're still ok to pay me in diamonds next week, right?

After you snaffled my pecan pastry? No fucking chance!

God you're so cheap. Don't you have any self respect not realising you have to pay?

I'm not just some free prostitute who'll drop her knickers in a back alley. "

I'm sorry. You are so much better than me and I only deserve your time if I can balance my inadequacies with gifts and cash.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"I have met some truly amazing and wonderful people on the site, and I hope there are more out there to meet.

One meet a few weeks ago I brought a bottle and we had a drink and chatted for 2 hours, exchanging text numbers as she wanted to meet again I left.

My Reward? a thanks, a kiss and a promise to "pay it forward" when she is able.

That's a generous thing to do, but no, I don't think it's ok to ask someone else for the "necessities of life" either. "

this!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Read both threads on this... And to be honest it makes me cringe that there are women out there who actually make demands and even give lists of what they expect from Men they meet

Have they got no shame?! Jeeese..

General manners mean we don't go no where empty handed.. But, thats our choice! If someone said we ' had' to bring this n that. We need money for gas, booze fags... Blah blah ... Fuck right off!!! It aint happening at all!

Are some very unhinged people about.. Thank goodness we havn't had experience of this first hand!

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By *ondimentsCouple over a year ago

Southampton

When visiting someone's home, whether vanilla friends or meets here, we'll take a little something, chocolates or wine. We'd never make it a condition for people to meet us, or meet those that do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One woman brought a mag to mine on our 3rd meet and showed me this magazine to pick a gift out!

I was refusing but her face dropped to the floor i felt so bad

So it sounds bad i just ramdomly said ok then i will have that, thankyou so much!...

It felt so akward, but she was so happy then lol

I gave the gift away to friends who joined up here, it was a bondage set.

Usually im not into all that. I accom and maybe cook lunch, dinner, provide drinks or whatever such as a shower too. Only gift i like is a few good orgasms lol. WOW it must be rear a woman asking a woman for a gift ... yes a orgasm is the best gift .. your right. xx

I never asked for a gift she kept on offering, i kept refusing lol seeing her so upset i just randomly chose one lol its not a habit it was to shut her up and make her happy lol it worked too

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