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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?"
If a profile so much as mentions the words , delete , block , you must ect I instantly stop reading. I then go and prey that they find the strength to be a better person and not have the need to seek a feeling of empowerment on a swinging site |
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over a year ago
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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?"
Yep, far rather see a list of what she wants me to do to her, or a least a balance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't put me off, I can understand why people do it.
The negativity I don't like is whinging or self pity, both are manipulative and trying to get pity meets always puts me right off someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i am surprised to see people actually do read profiles  we made ours as short and simple as we could thinking that it would be easier for people to understand  nope we still get random friend invites still get asked if we meet couples meet separately  |
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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago
Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14 |
Its great to have likes and dislikes and to have a preference with regards to who you share your personal space with. But there are some that would be a lot shorter if they said what they do want rather than don't want. Unfortunately I'm ruled out on most do lists as I seem to be a short arse on here. |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
here and there, thereabouts |
We didn't start off with 'donts' on our profile but it became clear that the option was op them on our profile or spend a time replying to each message thats clearly not a fit, or ignore messages(which am not keen on)... So we put them on there.
We tried for a sensible balance, and don't mind them on profiles as long as its not all 'donts' |
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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?"
A profile that is ranting rather than stating in few sentences what specification they are looking for don't seem really sincere as they would never go by the rules they set for themselves.
It's mostly an attention seeking but show off strategy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though. |
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Find them quite amusing in a strange kinda way! Deff not the kind of people we would wanna meet... Ranty, drama filled, and negative profiles..., can't be doing with all that fuss and crap .. . At all!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most definitely. Some I've read are like ransom demands and make me feel the person would be no fun whatsoever ! This probably isn't the case but they don't come across well, they seem uptight and stand offish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have tried to get a balance on mine. I have done the ranty stuff when I get horrid messages for days in a row then I go back and re word. Now I hope it is a balanced delightful read about how wonderful and amazing I am.... Or that it just says I am pretty down to earth. Either fine by me! I do totally understand how it would put people off but I can also totally understand how it ends up like that!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is wrong with outlining what you want, and who you want it off...? Maybe other people like to scroll through endless amounts of shitty messages from people they have no interest in, or ever likely to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is wrong with outlining what you want, and who you want it off...? Maybe other people like to scroll through endless amounts of shitty messages from people they have no interest in, or ever likely to meet."
Indeed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely, a total and complete put off. Knowing what one wants is fine, however the negative writting suggests no fun... Completely the opposite of why I'm here. |
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"What is wrong with outlining what you want, and who you want it off...? Maybe other people like to scroll through endless amounts of shitty messages from people they have no interest in, or ever likely to meet."
nothing wrong with it at all! Is the way some choose ta do it that is the point... Some do choose ta do it in a ranty, negative, shitty way... Others express themselves in different ways but still get their points across |
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"What is wrong with outlining what you want, and who you want it off...? Maybe other people like to scroll through endless amounts of shitty messages from people they have no interest in, or ever likely to meet."
Nothing wrong at all with that but there's a way of doing it without the negativity. |
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"What is wrong with outlining what you want, and who you want it off...? Maybe other people like to scroll through endless amounts of shitty messages from people they have no interest in, or ever likely to meet.
Nothing wrong at all with that but there's a way of doing it without the negativity. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After reading so many and also getting serious rants via messages about veri's, my way or the highway, etc - I made a point of NOT putting anything on there other than a few things I like.
If someone likes what they read and see they are welcome to ask me anything without getting a tirade of abuse. |
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"What is wrong with outlining what you want, and who you want it off...? Maybe other people like to scroll through endless amounts of shitty messages from people they have no interest in, or ever likely to meet.
Nothing wrong at all with that but there's a way of doing it without the negativity. "
I agree
There is a way of stating what you want without coming over as self obsessed, people on here want fun not to feel like they need to fill out an application form to even mail you |
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"I think informative not negative as they can save you wasting your time. "
I just don't like it when i _iew or read yes read profiles and they are written in CAPITAL LETTERS I WILL BLOCK YOU DELETE YOU NO BLACK, FAT, MUST BE 9# PLUS I LIKE FIT A MAN'S MAN MUSCLE I am so fucking bothered go on block me and what???? |
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"I think informative not negative as they can save you wasting your time.
I just don't like it when i _iew or read yes read profiles and they are written in CAPITAL LETTERS I WILL BLOCK YOU DELETE YOU NO BLACK, FAT, MUST BE 9# PLUS I LIKE FIT A MAN'S MAN MUSCLE I am so fucking bothered go on block me and what???? "
Almost worth sending a copy and paste 'fancy a fuck' with a Lynx adorned cock pic |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
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"I think informative not negative as they can save you wasting your time.
I just don't like it when i _iew or read yes read profiles and they are written in CAPITAL LETTERS I WILL BLOCK YOU DELETE YOU NO BLACK, FAT, MUST BE 9# PLUS I LIKE FIT A MAN'S MAN MUSCLE I am so fucking bothered go on block me and what???? "
If they've had bad experiences I guess it makes it more understable though, even as simple as people just persisting when told no thanks?
Not saying I find that type of text appealing myself but I can see why people would resort to it- reduces what goes into the inbox. |
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"I think informative not negative as they can save you wasting your time.
I just don't like it when i _iew or read yes read profiles and they are written in CAPITAL LETTERS I WILL BLOCK YOU DELETE YOU NO BLACK, FAT, MUST BE 9# PLUS I LIKE FIT A MAN'S MAN MUSCLE I am so fucking bothered go on block me and what????
Almost worth sending a copy and paste 'fancy a fuck' with a Lynx adorned cock pic "
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By (user no longer on site)
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When you are looking for a specific type of meet ,and your inbox is filled up on a daily basis with messages from people who don't read your profile it can be frustrating .
So , while we do find negative profiles less than enticing , we can understand why they do it !
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"I think informative not negative as they can save you wasting your time.
I just don't like it when i _iew or read yes read profiles and they are written in CAPITAL LETTERS I WILL BLOCK YOU DELETE YOU NO BLACK, FAT, MUST BE 9# PLUS I LIKE FIT A MAN'S MAN MUSCLE I am so fucking bothered go on block me and what????
If they've had bad experiences I guess it makes it more understable though, even as simple as people just persisting when told no thanks?
Not saying I find that type of text appealing myself but I can see why people would resort to it- reduces what goes into the inbox."
I don't think it will stop the usual suspects from messaging some people never learn all it will do is drive the genuine guys away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wouldn't put me off, I can understand why people do it.
The negativity I don't like is whinging or self pity, both are manipulative and trying to get pity meets always puts me right off someone."
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"When you are looking for a specific type of meet ,and your inbox is filled up on a daily basis with messages from people who don't read your profile it can be frustrating .
So , while we do find negative profiles less than enticing , we can understand why they do it !
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If that's the case then maybe they should block all users and actively search for what they want, the hunter become the hunted so to speak. My fb did it to very good effect, no hassle, no abuse, no time wasters and some good meets including me lol |
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It says a lot about a person when given the opportunity to speak about themselves in any way, their first thought is to make a list of things they hate.
It reminds me of my miserable old carnt of an auntie.
Q. Do you want coffee or tea auntie?
A. I bloody hate hot chocolate.
WTF!? |
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"When you are looking for a specific type of meet ,and your inbox is filled up on a daily basis with messages from people who don't read your profile it can be frustrating .
So , while we do find negative profiles less than enticing , we can understand why they do it !
If that's the case then maybe they should block all users and actively search for what they want, the hunter become the hunted so to speak. My fb did it to very good effect, no hassle, no abuse, no time wasters and some good meets including me lol"
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"My experience is.. People don't read anyhow so just put what you like. My profile states what im not looking for and yes you have guessed it, they still mail... So..."
Perhaps they do read and do it anyway.. for a laugh..to see if the recipient will bite ... to see if they can cause a thread to be posted...or simply to chance their arm because they like your bum pic. As I said earlier some folks just like to be contrary  |
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"My experience is.. People don't read anyhow so just put what you like. My profile states what im not looking for and yes you have guessed it, they still mail... So...
Perhaps they do read and do it anyway.. for a laugh..to see if the recipient will bite ... to see if they can cause a thread to be posted...or simply to chance their arm because they like your bum pic. As I said earlier some folks just like to be contrary "
Haha.. They dont get a reaction, just deleted. |
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"It says a lot about a person when given the opportunity to speak about themselves in any way, their first thought is to make a list of things they hate.
It reminds me of my miserable old carnt of an auntie.
Q. Do you want coffee or tea auntie?
A. I bloody hate hot chocolate.
WTF!?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It says a lot about a person when given the opportunity to speak about themselves in any way, their first thought is to make a list of things they hate.
It reminds me of my miserable old carnt of an auntie.
Q. Do you want coffee or tea auntie?
A. I bloody hate hot chocolate.
WTF!?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My experience is.. People don't read anyhow so just put what you like. My profile states what im not looking for and yes you have guessed it, they still mail... So...
Perhaps they do read and do it anyway.. for a laugh..to see if the recipient will bite ... to see if they can cause a thread to be posted...or simply to chance their arm because they like your bum pic. As I said earlier some folks just like to be contrary
Haha.. They dont get a reaction, just deleted. "
If it works for you |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
here and there, thereabouts |
"I think informative not negative as they can save you wasting your time.
I just don't like it when i _iew or read yes read profiles and they are written in CAPITAL LETTERS I WILL BLOCK YOU DELETE YOU NO BLACK, FAT, MUST BE 9# PLUS I LIKE FIT A MAN'S MAN MUSCLE I am so fucking bothered go on block me and what????
If they've had bad experiences I guess it makes it more understable though, even as simple as people just persisting when told no thanks?
Not saying I find that type of text appealing myself but I can see why people would resort to it- reduces what goes into the inbox.
I don't think it will stop the usual suspects from messaging some people never learn all it will do is drive the genuine guys away. "
Yep I guess there's that risk... Then there's also the flip side that if you dislike the shouty profile it's an additional filter for you(genuine guys) too. |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
here and there, thereabouts |
"When you are looking for a specific type of meet ,and your inbox is filled up on a daily basis with messages from people who don't read your profile it can be frustrating .
So , while we do find negative profiles less than enticing , we can understand why they do it !
If that's the case then maybe they should block all users and actively search for what they want, the hunter become the hunted so to speak. My fb did it to very good effect, no hassle, no abuse, no time wasters and some good meets including me lol"
I quite like doing the hunting, but purs is open and perhaps the shouty profiles like the best of both lol |
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Maybe I am doing something wrong and should change my profile to read .....
I AM LOOKING FOR FIT WOMEN
MUST HAVE SEXY LEGS!!
A VERY TIGHT CUNT!!
NICE FIRM BOOBS!!
AND AN ARSE TO DIE FOR!!
OH AND YOU MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMMODATE.
Believe it or not some man do have feelings and a brain what about the connection the chemistry ????? Or is it just about the sex! !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe I am doing something wrong and should change my profile to read .....
I AM LOOKING FOR FIT WOMEN
MUST HAVE SEXY LEGS!!
A VERY TIGHT CUNT!!
NICE FIRM BOOBS!!
AND AN ARSE TO DIE FOR!!
OH AND YOU MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMMODATE.
Believe it or not some man do have feelings and a brain what about the connection the chemistry ????? Or is it just about the sex! !!!"
You forgot to say;
DON'T SEND FANNY PICS, I KNOW WHAT ONE LOOKS LIKE AND YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!
Unless you like fanny pics haha ! |
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"I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though."
My thinking is, a ranty negative shouty profile is more likely to put off some of the confident men with a bit of self-respect that I'd like to meet, than to deter the one line chancers who don't read it anyway. So I'd be shooting myself in the foot.
Also I've discovered the world doesn't end even if you have pages and pages of dross messages. I just delete them |
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"I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though.
My thinking is, a ranty negative shouty profile is more likely to put off some of the confident men with a bit of self-respect that I'd like to meet, than to deter the one line chancers who don't read it anyway. So I'd be shooting myself in the foot.
Also I've discovered the world doesn't end even if you have pages and pages of dross messages. I just delete them "
Thank you xx |
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"Maybe I am doing something wrong and should change my profile to read .....
I AM LOOKING FOR FIT WOMEN
MUST HAVE SEXY LEGS!!
A VERY TIGHT CUNT!!
NICE FIRM BOOBS!!
AND AN ARSE TO DIE FOR!!
OH AND YOU MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMMODATE.
Believe it or not some man do have feelings and a brain what about the connection the chemistry ????? Or is it just about the sex! !!!
You forgot to say;
DON'T SEND FANNY PICS, I KNOW WHAT ONE LOOKS LIKE AND YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!
Unless you like fanny pics haha !"
Hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You can get precisely the same information across in a SHOUTY THOUGH SHALL AND THOUGH SHALL NOT! way,
Or you can do it nicely, and the choice of how it's done is a reflection of the person writing it....as someone above said, its a filter in it's self
Example.
'TALL GUYS ONLY NEED APPLY!'
vs,
'I'm a tall lady, and I like my men to be taller than me, so please only the lovely chaps over five ten, thankyou! x'
It amounts to the same thing, and those who ignore it put nicely, will ignore it in caps too...
Those who read and listen, will read and listen to it put either way....
The only thing it may do, is put off the folk who fit your criteria and think sod this, what a moody shit this is! I'm off to find someone pleasant sounding.
That's my tuppence worth anyhow....
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I try not to judge someone simply by their profile text.very easy to misunderstand what they may being trying to put across.
Those that have nothing tells me that the cant be bothered putting the effort in and to me suggests they are just on for a quick fix instead of actually enjoying the lifestyle. |
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"I try not to judge someone simply by their profile text.very easy to misunderstand what they may being trying to put across.
Those that have nothing tells me that the cant be bothered putting the effort in and to me suggests they are just on for a quick fix instead of actually enjoying the lifestyle."
You look like George Clooney |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
here and there, thereabouts |
"Maybe I am doing something wrong and should change my profile to read .....
I AM LOOKING FOR FIT WOMEN
MUST HAVE SEXY LEGS!!
A VERY TIGHT CUNT!!
NICE FIRM BOOBS!!
AND AN ARSE TO DIE FOR!!
OH AND YOU MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMMODATE.
Believe it or not some man do have feelings and a brain what about the connection the chemistry ????? Or is it just about the sex! !!!"
4/6 ain't bad.... But since you put it all shouty and blunt now I know not to message you and waste your time    |
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"Maybe I am doing something wrong and should change my profile to read .....
I AM LOOKING FOR FIT WOMEN
MUST HAVE SEXY LEGS!!
A VERY TIGHT CUNT!!
NICE FIRM BOOBS!!
AND AN ARSE TO DIE FOR!!
OH AND YOU MUST BE ABLE TO ACCOMMODATE.
Believe it or not some man do have feelings and a brain what about the connection the chemistry ????? Or is it just about the sex! !!!
4/6 ain't bad.... But since you put it all shouty and blunt now I know not to message you and waste your time "
Shit bollocks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I try not to judge someone simply by their profile text.very easy to misunderstand what they may being trying to put across.
Those that have nothing tells me that the cant be bothered putting the effort in and to me suggests they are just on for a quick fix instead of actually enjoying the lifestyle."
Bit the profile is the shop window.....if it's crap I move on, there are tons of other women on the site to chat to and I don't want to start taking my time that early on to understand the reasons behind their shoutyness....again, just my tuppence worth....
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"I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though.
My thinking is, a ranty negative shouty profile is more likely to put off some of the confident men with a bit of self-respect that I'd like to meet, than to deter the one line chancers who don't read it anyway. So I'd be shooting myself in the foot.
Also I've discovered the world doesn't end even if you have pages and pages of dross messages. I just delete them "
You obviously have more time on your hands than I do
I think some people just like any kind of attention lol |
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"I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though.
My thinking is, a ranty negative shouty profile is more likely to put off some of the confident men with a bit of self-respect that I'd like to meet, than to deter the one line chancers who don't read it anyway. So I'd be shooting myself in the foot.
Also I've discovered the world doesn't end even if you have pages and pages of dross messages. I just delete them
You obviously have more time on your hands than I do
I think some people just like any kind of attention lol "
Leaving aside the first point I fail to see how writing my profile so that it doesn't put off the people I'd like to meet means I'm desperately seeking attention. |
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"I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though.
My thinking is, a ranty negative shouty profile is more likely to put off some of the confident men with a bit of self-respect that I'd like to meet, than to deter the one line chancers who don't read it anyway. So I'd be shooting myself in the foot.
Also I've discovered the world doesn't end even if you have pages and pages of dross messages. I just delete them
You obviously have more time on your hands than I do
I think some people just like any kind of attention lol
Leaving aside the first point I fail to see how writing my profile so that it doesn't put off the people I'd like to meet means I'm desperately seeking attention. "
Perfect profile Anna at list I know exactly what you are looking for |
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"I'm glad it puts people off. Less mail to reply to. Unfortunately as this site attracts "all-kinds" and I'm being polite saying that, one has to set some parameters. I still get my fair share of dross in my mailbox though.
My thinking is, a ranty negative shouty profile is more likely to put off some of the confident men with a bit of self-respect that I'd like to meet, than to deter the one line chancers who don't read it anyway. So I'd be shooting myself in the foot.
Also I've discovered the world doesn't end even if you have pages and pages of dross messages. I just delete them
You obviously have more time on your hands than I do
I think some people just like any kind of attention lol
Leaving aside the first point I fail to see how writing my profile so that it doesn't put off the people I'd like to meet means I'm desperately seeking attention. "
Oh dear I didn't just mean you lol and I didn't use the word desperately. I just think some people have obviously got more time to sift through endless messages. Sorry if you are confused lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yes.. I am here for fun, so a negative ranty profile outlining demands do's and dont's doesn't really scream "fun person!" to me....."
My only demand so to speak is a social, treat everyone as individuals and not into catogaries |
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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?
If a profile so much as mentions the words , delete , block , you must ect I instantly stop reading. I then go and prey that they find the strength to be a better person and not have the need to seek a feeling of empowerment on a swinging site"
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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First half of my profile is my list of dont's but I like to think I communicate them in a non ranty, non demanding sort of way (and I add a coupla jokes too). I agree a profile in SHOUTY CAPS is off putting but it can be another filter...
Anyone brave enough or arsed enough to read beyond my list of dont's will hopefully see that I'm a fairly reasonable sort of lunatic and to be honest, the profile has worked for me for the last 4 years or so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Completely.
I'm sure that it's more annoying to read message after message of unwanted nonsense from idiots, but the long screeds of text that read like a lecture from the headmaster/mistress are off-putting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes. This site is supposed to be about fun. Too much negativity in a profile just puts a damper on the whole thing.
It's not so bad if it's a single sentence just mentioning things that they won't do (I have such a sentence on mine), but when it's a string of Do's, Don'ts and exact requirements, I just move on to the next profile.
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"You can get precisely the same information across in a SHOUTY THOUGH SHALL AND THOUGH SHALL NOT! way,
Or you can do it nicely, and the choice of how it's done is a reflection of the person writing it....as someone above said, its a filter in it's self
Example.
'TALL GUYS ONLY NEED APPLY!'
vs,
'I'm a tall lady, and I like my men to be taller than me, so please only the lovely chaps over five ten, thankyou! x'
It amounts to the same thing, and those who ignore it put nicely, will ignore it in caps too...
Those who read and listen, will read and listen to it put either way....
The only thing it may do, is put off the folk who fit your criteria and think sod this, what a moody shit this is! I'm off to find someone pleasant sounding.
That's my tuppence worth anyhow....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?"
It's hard to get past the first sentence to be honest ........... then onward & upwards, - so to speak  |
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By *bfoxxxMan
over a year ago
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Filters me out.
I know that even if we met, I wouldn't like them.
If they can't manage to be on this site without getting so wound up, it's not problem.
BLOCK THEM for having negative profiles.
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The ones that say no bi guys or not looking for men are fine, it's when they do want to meet and put up a lengthy and detailed list of demands and what's and preferences I think 'let 'em get on with it'.
It a turn off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can get precisely the same information across in a SHOUTY THOUGH SHALL AND THOUGH SHALL NOT! way,
Or you can do it nicely, and the choice of how it's done is a reflection of the person writing it....as someone above said, its a filter in it's self
Example.
'TALL GUYS ONLY NEED APPLY!'
vs,
'I'm a tall lady, and I like my men to be taller than me, so please only the lovely chaps over five ten, thankyou! x'
It amounts to the same thing, and those who ignore it put nicely, will ignore it in caps too...
Those who read and listen, will read and listen to it put either way....
The only thing it may do, is put off the folk who fit your criteria and think sod this, what a moody shit this is! I'm off to find someone pleasant sounding.
That's my tuppence worth anyhow....
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By *rtemisia OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Can't say I've ever seen a man on here with a ranty, demanding profile."
Can't say I have either. Plenty of 'will fill rest in laters' amongst the boys, but the ranty profiles are always either couples or women. |
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We find negativity really unappealing and wouldn't want any of it on our profile, nor play with others who have!
Theres a sentence regarding single guys on our profile which we hope is an example of stating our position in a positive way for example xx |
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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?"
Most definitely . Don't mind reading about likes and dislikes. But not a whole set of rules. |
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No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done! |
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over a year ago
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Yes because when someone spends more time moaning about what they don't want or like rather than anything that they do I just think what a bleedin misery
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"No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done! "
But I have seen those with that kind of profile complaining about people ignoring what their profile says |
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"No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done!
But I have seen those with that kind of profile complaining about people ignoring what their profile says "
so have I,then they make it more negative and moan about people not reading it |
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"No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done!
But I have seen those with that kind of profile complaining about people ignoring what their profile says
so have I,then they make it more negative and moan about people not reading it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one can message me anyway so my profile isn't meant to invite people to message, it's more for people I do message for them to read it and see what it is I'm looking for so they can decide if they want to respond to my message. |
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"No one can message me anyway so my profile isn't meant to invite people to message, it's more for people I do message for them to read it and see what it is I'm looking for so they can decide if they want to respond to my message. "
Thats far too sensible! |
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First impressions can make it a turn off but sometimes the negatives come from the fact that they've had bad experiences on this site or elsewhere. I've found that 99% of the people I've met or messaged are well mannered however their profile reads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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read one or two like that this morning - research of course - and i felt if i met them they would fire this all at me and then sit back and say right then now lets hear about you - whereas i like to think if you read ours you feel you could come into the lounge - have a hug and sit and natter over a coffee Sx |
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"No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done! "
Other people know their target market would be put off by a negative ranty profile so write theirs accordingly. It's got nothing to so with wanting loads of messages or an ego massage.
My general test is "does this make me sound like a cunt". If it's really negative and ranty, I wouldn't want to message that person so I wouldn't expect the men I want to meet do either. |
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And, for what it's worth, you didn't come across as 'confused' earlier in the thread, Anna, despite the passive-aggressive accusation.
Precious types also a turn off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a profile is simply a long line of dont's and won'ts, does it put you off? Even if they don't apply to you?
If a profile so much as mentions the words , delete , block , you must ect I instantly stop reading. I then go and prey that they find the strength to be a better person and not have the need to seek a feeling of empowerment on a swinging site"
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"No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done!
But I have seen those with that kind of profile complaining about people ignoring what their profile says "
True! |
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"First impressions can make it a turn off but sometimes the negatives come from the fact that they've had bad experiences on this site or elsewhere. I've found that 99% of the people I've met or messaged are well mannered however their profile reads."
I think my verifications speak for themselves. I may have a slightly negative profile but it is only in response to the messages I receive and in the hope that some will read it and not message.
Passive aggressive? Oh dear is someone hoping to make themselves feel superior? Lolol. Try harder. |
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"No, as some people have limited time to meet, don't need their egos massaging with hundreds of messages and just want to appeal to their target market.
It may put off some, but I've never seen someone with that type of profile starting a "why can't I get a meet" thread. If a profile puts me off for whatever reason then we're not compatible...job done! "
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Yeah I agree it does put you off and like other guys have mentioned there is little point in going any further. Its a shame as some of us do have a brain (and personality) that resides outside of our lower regions and I guess it would be nice for more people (both sexes) to be more positive and not so harsh. After all we all have feelings and rejection is a tough one to deal with...well for most people anyhow.
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The original question by the OP was to ask if negative profiles put people off.
Answer is yes.
If the negative profile writers are happy about that is a different question.
Some say yes, some say no depending on your preference for false negatives (putting off nice people) or false positives (not putting people off and deleting more messages)
Why does it have to be a competition to see whose opinion or preference is the most correct.
And additional sly little digs is just a tiny bit pathetic. What is it you're trying to win so badly that you'd make yourself look stupid? |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
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It's about getting the balance right, one or two lines tell me nothing but if it's too long I'm not going to through it all and try and work out what they are after.We have kept ours about right (ppersonal opinion only).
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