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By *nne Callan OP Woman
over a year ago
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Bloody fussy eaters. Step son turned everything down I have offered him for lunch. I have told my bf that I want a definitive list of what his son will eat by the next visit or no more at ours. Its a battle and stresses me out terribly. My cooking aint great but I try.
All I want is some idea. I cant do the same pasta di sh every meal every weekend for the next 8 years or so. If I ask his son I just get blanked. My bf has cooked and his son will eat it but its usually special or more expensive stuff than I can afford. Grrrrr. Rant over |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bloody fussy eaters. Step son turned everything down I have offered him for lunch. I have told my bf that I want a definitive list of what his son will eat by the next visit or no more at ours. Its a battle and stresses me out terribly. My cooking aint great but I try.
All I want is some idea. I cant do the same pasta di sh every meal every weekend for the next 8 years or so. If I ask his son I just get blanked. My bf has cooked and his son will eat it but its usually special or more expensive stuff than I can afford. Grrrrr. Rant over"
Does he resent you in any way, so it isn't about your cooking, more a battle of wills.
If he isn't happy with what you cook, he knows where the kitchen is. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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When my daughter was younger it was no choice. I decided what was going to be cooked. It was put in front of her. If she didn't eat it she waited until the next meal time.
And no snacks between meals either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my daughter was younger it was no choice. I decided what was going to be cooked. It was put in front of her. If she didn't eat it she waited until the next meal time.
And no snacks between meals either. "
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By *nne Callan OP Woman
over a year ago
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His mum works and can give him the food he likes. We have to do one meal that we all have due to lower income. He probably wants mum and dad back together but I didnt even know his dad when t hey split.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get his dad to cook something less expensive and see if he eats that. The kid probably is playing you up. I had 2 step kids. One of them refused to eat anything I made him but would eat it at his nans house. So frustrating. I got his dad to cook every time they came to stay with us. It worked. Eventually they both came to live with us and learned to eat what was on offer or do without. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How old is the boy and how long have his mum and dad been seperated? This isn't about the food it's about him dealing with his father being with someone new. You don't know if his mother isn't whispering things like you being the reason his father left or words to that effect. He's a child who doesn't understand the complexities that go with two adults not being together anymore. For you to say he can eat what you cook or not come round anymore is not very nice at all considering that you are the adult. I don't like to refer to children as "baggage" but when you get with a man that has responsibilities from his last relationship you need to (within reason) put your feelings aside and help with the transition for this child to adjust to the way things are now. |
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I think as the adult you need to come to a solution that isn't stopping a young boy from seeing his dad. That is never going to end well. Any father I know would sooner walk away from a relationship than not see their child.
Get him involved in the meal preparation, get his dad involved, go shopping together, seek the mothers help. Even just grin and bare it if he is not at yours very often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think as the adult you need to come to a solution that isn't stopping a young boy from seeing his dad. That is never going to end well. Any father I know would sooner walk away from a relationship than not see their child.
Get him involved in the meal preparation, get his dad involved, go shopping together, seek the mothers help. Even just grin and bare it if he is not at yours very often. "
100% agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my daughter was younger it was no choice. I decided what was going to be cooked. It was put in front of her. If she didn't eat it she waited until the next meal time.
And no snacks between meals either. "
So if she didn't eat it or like it would you have cooked her the same meal again in the future or never given it to her again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When my daughter was younger it was no choice. I decided what was going to be cooked. It was put in front of her. If she didn't eat it she waited until the next meal time.
And no snacks between meals either. "
We had this is our oldest girl when she was young and we dealt with it in the exact same way and she hated it.
These days she eats almost anything.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's different with your own children though, this is a step son. It's more psychological than just not eating. He'll eat what his mother makes him, he'll eat what his father has prepared, he blanks the op when she asks him what he wants, the op said she thinks he wants his parents back together.
If the boy only comes over on a weekend can't you treat him and have a take away of his choice, order a pizza or a cheaper alternative would be to get the freshly prepared ones from asda, take him with you so he can choose the toppings and be involved.
Without knowing the in's and out's of this situation none of us can really advise what to do. Would have to know how long you and his father had been together and how often you've been having the son over. Do you and the step son get on in general or if it's just the food?
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"It's different with your own children though, this is a step son. It's more psychological than just not eating. He'll eat what his mother makes him, he'll eat what his father has prepared, he blanks the op when she asks him what he wants, the op said she thinks he wants his parents back together.
If the boy only comes over on a weekend can't you treat him and have a take away of his choice, order a pizza or a cheaper alternative would be to get the freshly prepared ones from asda, take him with you so he can choose the toppings and be involved.
Without knowing the in's and out's of this situation none of us can really advise what to do. Would have to know how long you and his father had been together and how often you've been having the son over. Do you and the step son get on in general or if it's just the food?
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Unless he's 36 then he can sod off and get his own takeaway...  |
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By *nne Callan OP Woman
over a year ago
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"How old is the boy and how long have his mum and dad been seperated? This isn't about the food it's about him dealing with his father being with someone new. You don't know if his mother isn't whispering things like you being the reason his father left or words to that effect. He's a child who doesn't understand the complexities that go with two adults not being together anymore. For you to say he can eat what you cook or not come round anymore is not very nice at all considering that you are the adult. I don't like to refer to children as "baggage" but when you get with a man that has responsibilities from his last relationship you need to (within reason) put your feelings aside and help with the transition for this child to adjust to the way things are now. "
I said to my bf that him and his ex need to give me a list that his son will eat before he comes again. I have asked for this before. I just need information so I can work rounf it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I said to my bf that him and his ex need to give me a list that his son will eat before he comes again. I have asked for this before. I just need information so I can work rounf it"
Well that isn't too unreasonable to ask for. I do that when my 5 year old daughter has friends over for tea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How old is the boy and how long have his mum and dad been seperated? This isn't about the food it's about him dealing with his father being with someone new. You don't know if his mother isn't whispering things like you being the reason his father left or words to that effect. He's a child who doesn't understand the complexities that go with two adults not being together anymore. For you to say he can eat what you cook or not come round anymore is not very nice at all considering that you are the adult. I don't like to refer to children as "baggage" but when you get with a man that has responsibilities from his last relationship you need to (within reason) put your feelings aside and help with the transition for this child to adjust to the way things are now.
I said to my bf that him and his ex need to give me a list that his son will eat before he comes again. I have asked for this before. I just need information so I can work rounf it"
As has been mentioned, it very likley has nothing whatsoever to do with the food |
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