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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do people try and ensure they don't miss those hidden gems when bombarded with messages? Surely you sometimes miss those worth talking to? x"
You're clearly a very good looking guy OP, persevere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can't ensure it, simple as that.
However I do cast my eye down the avatars in my inbox and if they're eye catching I'll investigate further. 
Maybe the hidden gems need to make themselves unhidden  |
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haha well thank you ladies 
I just find people state on there profile to send one message and not to pester, hence if someone isn't reading your messages or mass deleting how are you meant to get noticed? surely that just leads you to think they saw you and are uninterested and if you actually take note of what the profile says you aren't going to message again... x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"haha well thank you ladies
I just find people state on there profile to send one message and not to pester, hence if someone isn't reading your messages or mass deleting how are you meant to get noticed? surely that just leads you to think they saw you and are uninterested and if you actually take note of what the profile says you aren't going to message again... x"
Yes that's true it's a tricky one.
Maybe use the forums / chat rooms alongside messaging to get noticed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do people try and ensure they don't miss those hidden gems when bombarded with messages? Surely you sometimes miss those worth talking to? x"
I always think this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"haha well thank you ladies
I just find people state on there profile to send one message and not to pester, hence if someone isn't reading your messages or mass deleting how are you meant to get noticed? surely that just leads you to think they saw you and are uninterested and if you actually take note of what the profile says you aren't going to message again... x"
oh I noticed you noticed me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah, forums tend to be a bit more interactive than simply messaging. The issues then arise when you click with someone but than cant PM them because of their filters lol  x"
Yes but if the click feeling is mutual they can either message you or lift their filters to see whether you PM... |
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Yeah i guess that's true but i doubt very many people think to adjust filters to allow the occasional person to message.
Plus if they aren't the sort of people to message first then you are at a loss surely? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah i guess that's true but i doubt very many people think to adjust filters to allow the occasional person to message.
Plus if they aren't the sort of people to message first then you are at a loss surely? x"
Ah well I have before whilst commenting in a forum thread and bingo it worked!
Mine is an age filter to help reduce the incoming mail but it's not set in stone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah i guess that's true but i doubt very many people think to adjust filters to allow the occasional person to message.
Plus if they aren't the sort of people to message first then you are at a loss surely? x
Ah well I have before whilst commenting in a forum thread and bingo it worked!
Mine is an age filter to help reduce the incoming mail but it's not set in stone."
Yep I'm the same.....I'm soon to be meeting someone outside my age preference that I wouldn't be if it wasn't for the forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah i guess that's true but i doubt very many people think to adjust filters to allow the occasional person to message.
Plus if they aren't the sort of people to message first then you are at a loss surely? x"
lol,,yea you filter out my kinda girl,,nasty,nasty,bad boy |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"haha well thank you ladies
I just find people state on there profile to send one message and not to pester, hence if someone isn't reading your messages or mass deleting how are you meant to get noticed? surely that just leads you to think they saw you and are uninterested and if you actually take note of what the profile says you aren't going to message again... x"
I would say that if someone reads but doesn't reply but doesn't delete, or doesn't read, then they may be interested but didn't get round to replying.
If they read and delete soon after then they may be interested but it's a bit less likely.
I look at the profile of everyone who messages me, but many messages I leave to reply to later and don't get round to it.
In that case I can't see any problem with sending another message a month or so later.
If they don't reply with a no thanks, or block you (!), I'd say it's fine to message again after a while.
What isn't so good, and which happens a lot in my experience, is messaging again after a few weeks when someone has said no thanks, as if they haven't messaged before. Doing that usually results in a block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah i guess it could work then, just more often than not it doesn't which is a shame.
So you think its ok to re message people who haven't read yur previous message as long as its been a while? x"
have you any brothers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah i guess it could work then, just more often than not it doesn't which is a shame.
So you think its ok to re message people who haven't read yur previous message as long as its been a while? x"
I think so because sometimes peoples circumstances change,I know ive met up with people who months or even longer previously I hadn't met up with for some reason or other
Others may disagree though,we all use the site differently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm soon to be meeting someone outside my age preference that I wouldn't be if it wasn't for the forum
Can't think who... 
No.....the name escapes me now.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yeah i guess it could work then, just more often than not it doesn't which is a shame.
So you think its ok to re message people who haven't read yur previous message as long as its been a while? x"
Imo yes it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah i guess that's true but i doubt very many people think to adjust filters to allow the occasional person to message.
Plus if they aren't the sort of people to message first then you are at a loss surely? x"
I move my age filters around to keep mail down to a manageable amount. If I say no thanks I usually block. If I read and don't reply it's because I want to come back and have a longer look |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"in that case i may have to give it a try... and whats the opinion after you have tried a few times to no end? x"
Give up, or make a note and try again in 6 months, if you're still here and still interested.
Plus hotlist them and keep an eye out for them putting up meet requests. They may be more likely to reply when they're actively looking. |
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