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 personally I wouldn't describe myself as a cheapskate because I prefer and am happy to meet halfway and I don't see what's wrong with doing that. If you don't want to meet someone beyond local, don't enter a conversation with them  | |||
"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." Well said in my opinion  | |||
"i but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." us getting laid...... | |||
"i but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying. us getting laid......" It takes two.... | |||
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"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." Sounds to me like you want them to put more effort in than you. That's way more off putting than cheapskates! Why shouldn't they suggest meeting half way of its all fair distance to travel? You are obviously interested enough to wanting fuck then, just not if it involves any effort on your part. If neither of you can accommodate why does the guy have to pay for the room? Go halves. (unless he is going to stay the whole night and you aren't. | |||
"OP. You expect a person to travel 100 miles to meet you but you shun driving 50 miles to meet them halfway! I do understand the part about the hotel but calling someone a cheapskate is a little cheeky. I've always learnt, don't expect anyone to do something you wouldn't do yourself. -Mr." I agree with you Mr.... | |||
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"OP. You expect a person to travel 100 miles to meet you but you shun driving 50 miles to meet them halfway! I do understand the part about the hotel but calling someone a cheapskate is a little cheeky. I've always learnt, don't expect anyone to do something you wouldn't do yourself. -Mr." ^^^ this | |||
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"i but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying. us getting laid...... It takes two.... " | |||
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"I'd say it's a perfectly reasonable thing to expect to meet halfway if you both want to meet up. Sounds to me more like you feel you're 'doing the guy a favour' by 'allowing' him to meet you and therefore he has to do all the running. Surely it's a mutual thing? " | |||
"And then there's others who expect you to pay for everything. Erm, no thanks darls. "Oi, Pops, buy us a coffee would ya?  | |||
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"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." Well after reading this all i can say is crap, by what youve written your as much or even more of a cheapskate than the people you refer to, at leat they are willing to compromise on costs but your not. You know how difficult it is for guys to get meets so your useing this to your advantage by asking them to pay for everything just to meet you, never have i read such a selfish attitude before are you staying on fabs much longer | |||
"And then there's others who expect you to pay for everything. Erm, no thanks darls.
Oi, Pops, buy us a coffee would ya? "Oh okay then!  | |||
"Gee thanks personally I wouldn't describe myself as a cheapskate because I prefer and am happy to meet halfway and I don't see what's wrong with doing that. If you don't want to meet someone beyond local, don't enter a conversation with them " | |||
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"And then there's others who expect you to pay for everything. Erm, no thanks darls. "Go halves on a Greggs sausage roll with you Popeye...  | |||
"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." lol, someone got more than they bargained for, we agree with all of the the post since the OP, sounds like you want it all your own way and swinging isnt about that, there is more than one person involved you know  | |||
"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." So in short anyone that wants to meet you has to travel and sort accommodation? And anyone that doesn't is a cheapskate? Seriously? | |||
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"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying. So in short anyone that wants to meet you has to travel and sort accommodation? And anyone that doesn't is a cheapskate? Seriously? " Because we're worth it! *flicks hair*  | |||
"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." Exactly the same here! | |||
"There's one upside to this post OP....., There'll be some poor sucker who doesn't read the forum who 'will' jump through your hoops in the slim hope of getting you horizontal. "'Some poor sucker' ? She's female, if she puts a meet up and stipulates her conditions she'll still get dozens of responses from single guys. Tis the way of the fab world. | |||
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"And then there's others who expect you to pay for everything. Erm, no thanks darls.
Go halves on a Greggs sausage roll with you Popeye... "Grrr, why you showing your cleavage. Now i'd have to say yes! That's just manipulative! | |||
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"So just to clarify..... your a cheapskate who doesent like cheapskates in case the whole experience costs you something or you may have to get off your backside and travel a couple miles yourself instead of the other person putting in all of the effort? " Listen. Will you stop speaking sense please?! What's wrong with you smart arse!?  | |||
"OP. You expect a person to travel 100 miles to meet you but you shun driving 50 miles to meet them halfway! I do understand the part about the hotel but calling someone a cheapskate is a little cheeky. I've always learnt, don't expect anyone to do something you wouldn't do yourself. -Mr." | |||
"So just to clarify..... your a cheapskate who doesent like cheapskates in case the whole experience costs you something or you may have to get off your backside and travel a couple miles yourself instead of the other person putting in all of the effort? Listen. Will you stop speaking sense please?! What's wrong with you smart arse!? "I think the OP is banged to rights The democratic process comes through again | |||
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"So just to clarify..... your a cheapskate who doesent like cheapskates in case the whole experience costs you something or you may have to get off your backside and travel a couple miles yourself instead of the other person putting in all of the effort? Listen. Will you stop speaking sense please?! What's wrong with you smart arse!? "I occasionally get these little patches of clarity among the circus of my normal blithering idiocy.....happens to the best of us....still....sorry man....i'll try not to let it happen again  | |||
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"If I'm honest the guys I have met have done most of the driving for us to meet,if not all! However,I don't expect this and I'm really grateful when they do. I certainly don't expect it and treat men with a little more respect than the op,as most women here do "I think most fellas are happy to drive travel....I know I've done a fair bit...but only when its appreciated ya know....if it's because the lady doesent think I'm worth making any effort as there are loads of other more convinient guys then no....I wouldn't walk next door for them. | |||
"Don't get personal about the poster when answering the post please. "Okey dokey! | |||
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"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." go halfs simples | |||
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"Tbh I would rather travel to meet someone halfway, and offer to pay for half of everything if I was that bothered about meeting in a hotel. Otherwise I would feel like I was taking advantage! The only time I would presume the guy to pay would be to get into a club as it would cost him more without me, and I would probably be free without him "This is something that really used to get on my tits... I was totally free alone, £40 for him, £20 a couple. I'd agree to go in as a cpl and be asked to pay half!! No chance, you pay the £20 and a thank you and a bottle of £1 water wouldn't go a miss! | |||
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"Tbh I would rather travel to meet someone halfway, and offer to pay for half of everything if I was that bothered about meeting in a hotel. Otherwise I would feel like I was taking advantage! The only time I would presume the guy to pay would be to get into a club as it would cost him more without me, and I would probably be free without him
This is something that really used to get on my tits... I was totally free alone, £40 for him, £20 a couple. I'd agree to go in as a cpl and be asked to pay half!! No chance, you pay the £20 and a thank you and a bottle of £1 water wouldn't go a miss!"for that deal you could have at least a | |||
"The only time I would presume the guy to pay would be to get into a club as it would cost him more without me, and I would probably be free without him "I would expect him to pay his share of the entry, so the total less what it would cost me alone, unless we'd arranged something different. He's still usually getting a good deal since couples entry is usually less than for a single man. | |||
"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men!" Not unless you let them? And if you you're that desparate to allow yourself to be taken advantage of then more fool you | |||
"i but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying. us getting laid...... It takes two.... "this.. | |||
"Tbh I would rather travel to meet someone halfway, and offer to pay for half of everything if I was that bothered about meeting in a hotel. Otherwise I would feel like I was taking advantage! The only time I would presume the guy to pay would be to get into a club as it would cost him more without me, and I would probably be free without him
This is something that really used to get on my tits... I was totally free alone, £40 for him, £20 a couple. I'd agree to go in as a cpl and be asked to pay half!! No chance, you pay the £20 and a thank you and a bottle of £1 water wouldn't go a miss!for that deal you could have at least a "Haha all drinks were £1 never got offered though and never asked! | |||
"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men!" ...really?.. | |||
"The only time I would presume the guy to pay would be to get into a club as it would cost him more without me, and I would probably be free without him
I would expect him to pay his share of the entry, so the total less what it would cost me alone, unless we'd arranged something different. He's still usually getting a good deal since couples entry is usually less than for a single man."Personally, I always pay my way and 9/10 men have taken advantage of my generosity and I always get lumbered with buying all the drinks. However, if it was £10 for a woman £40 for a guy and £20 for a couple wouldn't it be polite for the guy to offer to pay, that way he's saving £20 and your saving £10, why should he benefit wholely from the discount? (Not that I ever heed my own advice!! ) | |||
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"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men! ...really?.." Not all single women, many are decent And even then, only if we allow them to | |||
"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men! ...really?.. Not all single women, many are decent And even then, only if we allow them to " I often lol at how many on here, especially on this forum, have their balls in someone else's handbag. | |||
"But, it's effectively that isn't it? If you don't want to entertain meets that are miles away, just cut off contact from that initial point so that they get the idea that this meet won't be happening. I surely wouldn't appreciate it if someone messaged me back and showed me some initial interest, to only turn around and say 'no, i cannot meet you, you are too far away'. Erm, you knew that right from the outset and you knew we'd have to come to some sort of compromise if it did go ahead. "Not that you are wrong but I certainly wouldn't agree with this. I personally only ever messaged people I knew it was achievable to reach, and expected the same. In the beginning I sometimes missed checking there location before entering into conversation. They were nice and attractive and had message therefore stupidly assumed they had read my profile and messaged as they thought we seemed suited. Some even would have wrong location on. In the end I deleted any message, without even reading, that didn't have a location on that I knew I could reach. And stated that I would do that in my profile. | |||
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"Equality in everything except when it come's to paying the bills, then its back to good old fashioned values of its a gentlemen's duty to pay for everything the lady desires." What a load of rot | |||
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"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men!" a) You can say no b) Not all women are the same. One less than stellar attitude from a woman is no justification for implying we're all the same. | |||
"Equality in everything except when it come's to paying the bills, then its back to good old fashioned values of its a gentlemen's duty to pay for everything the lady desires." Would you like a bigger brush to spread that tar with? | |||
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"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " people can suggest what they want however whether the people to whom that message is aimed will find it acceptable is another matter.. and why is she in control, that to me hints at a less than equal footing or that she is giving 'something away'.. all a bit of a dated concept.. by all means treat ladies as ladies with respect, decency and manners yes but the days of 'the little woman or the bimbo' on ones arm for many are in another era.. | |||
"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men!" Speak for yourself, nobody on here has one iota of power over me.... We can be as fickle as the ladies or anyone else for that matter....if your happy jumping through hoops then that's your call....I won't. | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " Bit of turd on your nose there fella..... | |||
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"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. Bit of turd on your nose there fella....." | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. Bit of turd on your nose there fella....." | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " When we meet people, we meet as equals. Your attitude sucks as much as the OP's.  | |||
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"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol "will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake? | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " Fucking hell mate, so what if she's a single lady? that doesn't give her the right to get everything paid for her. She shouldve just told him sorry you're too far etc and stop wasting his time. | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. When we meet people, we meet as equals. Your attitude sucks as much as the OP's. " | |||
"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake?"It's the cola bottles he loves | |||
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"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake?"Yes I would with the shake and the haribos would sweeten the deal, the cola buttons are my fav. | |||
"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake?
It's the cola bottles he loves"Yes it is, its my favorites as well, yummie | |||
"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake?
It's the cola bottles he lovesYes it is, its my favorites as well, yummie "I'm making notes here fella....mimieux and will be fetching some to jaydees in May for ya | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. When we meet people, we meet as equals. Your attitude sucks as much as the OP's. " this | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. When we meet people, we meet as equals. Your attitude sucks as much as the OP's. " | |||
"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake?
It's the cola bottles he lovesYes it is, its my favorites as well, yummie
I'm making notes here fella....mimieux and will be fetching some to jaydees in May for ya "Yes good you do and lol get few bags should be ok for all | |||
"Same with me. I don't go more than 2 miles, why should I always travel lol will you travel a few more miles if we bought you some gummy bears and a protein shake?
It's the cola bottles he lovesYes it is, its my favorites as well, yummie
I'm making notes here fella....mimieux and will be fetching some to jaydees in May for ya Yes good you do and lol get few bags should be ok for all ":D :D :D | |||
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"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men! ...really?.. Not all single women, many are decent And even then, only if we allow them to I often lol at how many on here, especially on this forum, have their balls in someone else's handbag." You mean they WISH they did. | |||
"I always go halves on hotels and will travel to meet half way. Would never expect the guy/couple/female to pay for everything. OP, I think it's you being a cheapskate in all honesty." | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " I spoil my Lady friends by talking to em before I bang em, I'm certainly not going to pay for the privilege, Jeez people will be suggesting I worry about their pleasure next
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"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " And here, single guys, is the reason that SOME women think the sun shines out of the her their fanjita and you must all bow down to their glory and jump through their many hoops to be able to sip at their furry (or non furry) cup of life....jess Christ man get a grip!!! If you want to spoil someone do it because you like them, not because they are in control!! | |||
"Surely just another example of how single women hold the power over single men! Not unless you let them? And if you you're that desparate to allow yourself to be taken advantage of then more fool you" | |||
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"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. " And that's why some women think they are in control because people like you make stupid statements like that | |||
"The op is a single lady if the people want to meet her she is in control and they should make every effort to keep her happy I think she has every right to suggest they pay, as I always spoil my lady friends. And that's why some women think they are in control because people like you make stupid statements like that" | |||
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"my original post was made because on my last visit here, I,m not on here every day, I was asked by 2 separate guys to meet, one was 110 miles away, the other was 100. I DONT want to travel that sort of distance to meet, and I wasn't that interested in either of them, and yet, I was asked to travel halfway by both, why should I ?? they instigated the chat, not me. Then both asked if they could stay at mine, I cant always accommodate. Both guys yesterday struck me as being cheap, so its not a case of me being up my own ass, the only support I seem to have got here is from Short Curvy Blonde who actually got what I was trying to say I think. I make my own money, I,m happy to pay half of a meal or night out or whatever, but I wont be driving halfway up the country to meet people I only have a passing interest in, maybe I didn't make myself clear enough, maybe I,m not as clever as the learned smart clever lot who post every day here, for that I apologise." Yes, some guys will be cheeky and ask you to travel etc even if you put in your profile you don't, amongst many other things I hear. So set your filters and do your own searching for guys failing that get used to the chancers.....there you go, advice | |||
"I often fantasise about a woman driving 75 miles and whisking me off to a country hotel for a couple of nights of passion all at her expense. It happened once, it could happen again"
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" the only support I seem to have got here is from Short Curvy Blonde" Hey I offered to front you a MacDonalds! | |||
"Then both asked if they could stay at mine, I cant always accommodate." Your profile says you can accommodate and says not one word about only being able to do so sometimes. If a guy is driving a hundred miles to see you AND you say you can accommodate, it seems perfectly reasonable for him to ask if he can stay over! | |||
"my original post was made because on my last visit here, I,m not on here every day, I was asked by 2 separate guys to meet, one was 110 miles away, the other was 100. I DONT want to travel that sort of distance to meet, and I wasn't that interested in either of them, and yet, I was asked to travel halfway by both, why should I ?? they instigated the chat, not me. Then both asked if they could stay at mine, I cant always accommodate. Both guys yesterday struck me as being cheap, so its not a case of me being up my own ass, the only support I seem to have got here is from Short Curvy Blonde who actually got what I was trying to say I think. I make my own money, I,m happy to pay half of a meal or night out or whatever, but I wont be driving halfway up the country to meet people I only have a passing interest in, maybe I didn't make myself clear enough, maybe I,m not as clever as the learned smart clever lot who post every day here, for that I apologise." Well that's the thing though isn't it, you should have posted what you have said here instead of what you did post and the comments perhaps would have gone a different way. People can only post on what is said, we are not mind readers. I wouldn't call someone being prepared to travel 100 miles a cheapskate though as its insulting on those of us who might be able to afford that or halfway even but not the hotel. And to be honest, I am now finding it difficult to understand the point in posting anyway. Lots of guys/women/couples are prepared to travel and should know they may or may not be successful in meeting | |||
"my original post was made because on my last visit here, I,m not on here every day, I was asked by 2 separate guys to meet, one was 110 miles away, the other was 100. I DONT want to travel that sort of distance to meet, and I wasn't that interested in either of them, and yet, I was asked to travel halfway by both, why should I ?? they instigated the chat, not me. Then both asked if they could stay at mine, I cant always accommodate. Both guys yesterday struck me as being cheap, so its not a case of me being up my own ass, the only support I seem to have got here is from Short Curvy Blonde who actually got what I was trying to say I think. I make my own money, I,m happy to pay half of a meal or night out or whatever, but I wont be driving halfway up the country to meet people I only have a passing interest in, maybe I didn't make myself clear enough, maybe I,m not as clever as the learned smart clever lot who post every day here, for that I apologise." Fair point. Apologies and have a good day. x | |||
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"my original post was made because on my last visit here, I,m not on here every day, I was asked by 2 separate guys to meet, one was 110 miles away, the other was 100. I DONT want to travel that sort of distance to meet, and I wasn't that interested in either of them, and yet, I was asked to travel halfway by both, why should I ?? they instigated the chat, not me. Then both asked if they could stay at mine, I cant always accommodate. Both guys yesterday struck me as being cheap, so its not a case of me being up my own ass, the only support I seem to have got here is from Short Curvy Blonde who actually got what I was trying to say I think. I make my own money, I,m happy to pay half of a meal or night out or whatever, but I wont be driving halfway up the country to meet people I only have a passing interest in, maybe I didn't make myself clear enough, maybe I,m not as clever as the learned smart clever lot who post every day here, for that I apologise." I still don't get the point of this. Did they know you weren't that interested in them? Had you been discussing meeting up? Nothing in your profile states how far you are willing to travel so why would it be odd for anyone to assume that you would meet them half way? Are men supposed to be mind readers As well now? As for the passing dig at the regular posters...childish. | |||
"is it just me or does anyone else find obvious cheapskates annoying ? they want to meet but are 100 miles away so they want to meet halfway ? why should I drive 50 miles for a random meet, when there are loads of much more local people around. Another is asking to stay at my place, I live in a shared house, can accommodate sometimes but not always, if you are that keen then rent a hotel room ! seems to me that some guys just want a cheapie at their convenience, I don't want champagne and roses, but I aint subsidising you getting laid. annoying." . Good post . Your profile does state localish couples so it is clear that you only wish to meet local people. If they want to travel, it is only right that they pay the hotel expense . No one asked these cheapskates to contact you . | |||
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