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"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?" I think that's a load of BS!!!! | |||
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"Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle." They might be really nice guys! I go for looks personally, although my taste in looks might not be the same as other peoples. | |||
"Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen "  | |||
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"Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle." See funny thing is, not that I'd ever have the chance, but I wouldn't shag either, they are not my idea of good looking | |||
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"Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen " | |||
"[Removed by poster at 25/01/15 11:33:22]" Stupid phone  What I was trying to say is for me looks can spark the initial attraction but it's personality that keeps my interest. The way I like to meet is different to how others choose to meet so they might not be so interested in the other persons personality | |||
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"I go for men who are easy on my eye and an animal in the bedroom...however they do need to engage my brain. As long as they can make me laugh they are almost there " Men with loads of tattoos will get my pulse racing | |||
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"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?" Guys think with their dicks. End of. (Not all, but majority) | |||
"I would say that often for both men and women, appearance is what gets you noticed initially but personality is what takes things further or makes them last. I think both sexes can also start to find someone attractive once they get to know them, even if they didn't to begin with." Spot on x | |||
"I would say that often for both men and women, appearance is what gets you noticed initially but personality is what takes things further or makes them last. I think both sexes can also start to find someone attractive once they get to know them, even if they didn't to begin with. Spot on x" If you are gorgeous that is!! | |||
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"Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle." So they have no personality your saying ? | |||
"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't?" Because the first bites with the eye 
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him | |||
"Someone can have the looks & personality of Fred West, but if he has a big cock... I might suck it. but I would keep the lights on and the door unlocked "Pmsl I need a face I can look at as I orgasm or I just dont do it the same..... No phwoar no fuck. Sorry | |||
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"Someone can have the looks & personality of Fred West, but if he has a big cock... I might suck it. but I would keep the lights on and the door unlocked
Pmsl
I need a face I can look at as I orgasm or I just dont do it the same..... No phwoar no fuck. Sorry "So where does the 'Phwoar' come from? | |||
"Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen " Saved me typing... | |||
"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't? Because the first bites with the eye
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him "I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good? | |||
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"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't? Because the first bites with the eye
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him
I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?"You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive | |||
"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't Because the first bites with the eye
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him
I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?
You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that
To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol
I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here
Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive "I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol | |||
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"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?" I thinks it's true. I was amazed on the dating sites by stories from men who had put up with a totally unbalanced harridan of a woman just 'cos she looked hot. I based an amusing profile on their stories! I'm a sucker for good looks, but I also know I can be entranced by personality and find looks way less important. I think more women are like that than men. | |||
"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't Because the first bites with the eye
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him
I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?
You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that
To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol
I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here
Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive
I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol"Tell me what your looking for and I'll help you look, cause I'm nice like that | |||
"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't Because the first bites with the eye
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him
I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?
You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that
To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol
I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here
Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive
I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol
Tell me what your looking for and I'll help you look, cause I'm nice like that "Lol erm Dark hair or natural blond , age 27 -34 , into outdoor activities like mountain biking climbing, skiing , no children not wanting children, adventurous , able to orgasm, enjoys ' cunninglingus, articulate , inquisitive , likes science xx likes spicy food and red wine xx  | |||
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"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important? And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't Because the first bites with the eye
I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him
I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?
You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that
To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol
I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here
Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive
I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol
Tell me what your looking for and I'll help you look, cause I'm nice like that
Lol erm
Dark hair or natural blond , age 27 -34 , into outdoor activities like mountain biking climbing, skiing , no children not wanting children, adventurous , able to orgasm, enjoys ' cunninglingus, articulate , inquisitive , likes science xx likes spicy food and red wine xx "Bloody hell I only ment looks wise, I'm good but I'm not that good, your on your own | |||
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..... That's why after a couple of pints everyone looks gorgeous to me "Fancy a drink | |||
"Looks are important. Even if they look like a catwalk queen if that person is a fucking idiot it won't happen. I think its a mixture of both. I know what I like when I see it. I know who I want after chatting. " | |||
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"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play." Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick. | |||
"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?" Completely disagree, although sometimes it's the looks that get your attention to start with | |||
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"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play. Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick." I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex | |||
"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play. Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick. I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex " totally agree with you but even on here I still have standards just like in real life I won't just fuck anyone | |||
"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play. Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick. I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex " You still need to be somewhat compatible personality wise, as you don't just meet someone then climb into bed with them - there's a mental journey between bar and bedroom. | |||
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"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play. Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick." You do realise attraction isn't something we think about and actively, consciously decide? You can rationalise what strong and virile means for as long as you like but people are only going to find attractive those people they are wired to find attractive. In the evolutionary theory sense it's a very base instinct, completely removed from conscious thought. I tend to be attracted to fair men far more often than I am to dark haired men. I can't explain or justify it. I just am. | |||
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"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me. "
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"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.
"Like a peacock - come for the feathers, stay for the bird. AYOW! AYOW! | |||
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"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play. Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick. I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex You still need to be somewhat compatible personality wise, as you don't just meet someone then climb into bed with them - there's a mental journey between bar and bedroom." True but there are lots of things I'd over look on here that I wouldn't if after a relationship For example I wouldnt have a relationship with someone who ate meat, or went out shooting rabbits or fishing as a hobby etc but I would meet a meat eater off here because its only for sex and so long as we got on I'm good, but when it come to sharing my life I couldn't live with someone who did the above they would have to have the same interests as me for us to get on and in a relationship those interests go deeper than can he make me laugh There are other examples too but I won't woffle on lol | |||
"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.
Like a peacock - come for the feathers, stay for the bird.
AYOW! AYOW!"Peacocks have really tiny brains though. There's no much going on there beyond strutting, tail management, eating, sleeping and other basic biological functions. They'd be dull meets, I reckon. | |||
"I need looks and personality in equal measure it seems I'm quite particular "Nothing wrong with that | |||
"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.
Like a peacock - come for the feathers, stay for the bird.
AYOW! AYOW!
Peacocks have really tiny brains though. There's no much going on there beyond strutting, tail management, eating, sleeping and other basic biological functions. They'd be dull meets, I reckon."They'd do well on here though, they're attention seeking and needy | |||
"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking. I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring. Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated. This would be in the case of a relationship. For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play. Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs. Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick. I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex You still need to be somewhat compatible personality wise, as you don't just meet someone then climb into bed with them - there's a mental journey between bar and bedroom. True but there are lots of things I'd over look on here that I wouldn't if after a relationship For example I wouldnt have a relationship with someone who ate meat, or went out shooting rabbits or fishing as a hobby etc but I would meet a meat eater off here because its only for sex and so long as we got on I'm good, but when it come to sharing my life I couldn't live with someone who did the above they would have to have the same interests as me for us to get on and in a relationship those interests go deeper than can he make me laugh There are other examples too but I won't woffle on lol" haha exactly couldn't be with someone you didn't fancy or get on with really could you don't think I could fuck anyone who I didnt fancy to be honest never have so why should I start now ! | |||
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"True but how can you get turned on by someone you don't fancy ?" All they need to do is to give good oral and its fine | |||
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"People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless." Then there's hope for me yet | |||
"Haha yeah good point I suppose " hehe and thanks yes, fun one | |||
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"People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless. Then there's hope for me yet "Oh hush you! | |||
"I think for both sexes it would have to be a mixture of both looks and personality - but I imagine for everyone there has to be an initial spark there, and that has to come down to looks in my opinion." | |||
"People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless. Then there's hope for me yet
Oh hush you!"Haha | |||
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"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me. " Spot on! | |||
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"I actually think women are more shallow on looks tbh" Yes Absolutely All women think exactly the same as do all men Sorry , I'm in a grump | |||
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"i dont agree the amount of knock backs ive had from women because they are so disapointed when i send a face pic sorry but single women expect brad pitt on here women who are part of a couple are much more kinder " We don't expect Brad Pitt. However, we're not, (most of us), looking for relationships. We're here to fulfil fantasies. If you aren't the stuff of our fantasies then, sorry, we may well decline. As for being 'kind', really? We should meet you to be 'kind'? | |||
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"I think the nature of this site dictates that most will go fo looks to begin with " | |||
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"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts? Guys think with their dicks. End of. (Not all, but majority)" Totally not true.some may but not all. And certainly not the majority .that would be like say in most women are shallow | |||
"I actually think women are more shallow on looks tbh" Shallow for one, discerning for another... | |||
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"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me. I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do. Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes. " It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off | |||
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"I like hot men. But if its like talking to a brick wall or a child then I'm turned off. Gotta have the banter!" But great bants plus ugly and out of shape...? | |||
"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me. I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do. Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes. It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off" It want a complaint, just an observation. I wasn't getting many replies so I lost weight and stuck some artsy type pics up. Problem solved. My personality has remained the same.... | |||
"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me. I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do. Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes. It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off It want a complaint, just an observation. I wasn't getting many replies so I lost weight and stuck some artsy type pics up. Problem solved. My personality has remained the same...." Artsy type pics are always a winner it seems, and a god personality wins most encounters | |||
"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me. I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do. Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes. It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off It want a complaint, just an observation. I wasn't getting many replies so I lost weight and stuck some artsy type pics up. Problem solved. My personality has remained the same.... Artsy type pics are always a winner it seems, and a god personality wins most encounters" Folk are quite easy to please. As I say, the one think that was holding me back was my size (44inch waist I was) I figured my personality was ok as I never had any real issues in real life, face to face so I changed what a felt needed changing for on here and that was just my weight....my profile text is more or less the same and I'm still me so it was the looks that swung the balance. As I say, it's not a complaint, soon as I twigged what I needed to do I just got on and lost 5 or 6 stone, swapped out some pics, keeps everyone happy, job done. | |||
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"Give me an ample, average looking guy who replies and is nice to talk to over a guy with a God complex who thinks he is too hot to talk to you anyday x"N likes rally hot guys who are also good to talk to, but they are few and far between | |||
"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?" On here I'd say a lot of the guys are looking for something quick on the sly. The women seem to be looking for size! | |||
