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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A long time ago.. 12 years to be precise. I started chatting to a man on line. It soon became on the phone. It took two years before we finally met. I took a risk went to the other end of the country because I felt I had to know. Within that 15 hours in his company I fell in love. It was quite an affair over a number of years.it has to be said and at times very painful for us both. He went on and married someone else and for two and a half years we didn't speak. Until just before new year there was an email out of the blue. Just reading his words brought back every emotion I'd tried to forget. Suddenly I'd gone back in time. Some feelings never truly leave. Life just makes you put them to the side to move on.
So in answer to your question I know it truly is possible. However in a day and a half I'd be surprised x
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I was chatting to a guy online when I was about 14. I'd never met him, still haven't. I thought I was in love with him. When I was 17 he broke my heart to the extent that I wouldn't go to college, wouldn't eat, couldn't sleep etc. He disappeared for 3 years. In that time I got married. Then about a month before my husband kicked me out, he popped up on Facebook and we started chatting. I realised that I did love him. It brought up old feelings. I started distancing myself from my husband when I realised that the old feelings I had for this guy were stronger than my then current feelings for my husband. It wasn't deliberate. I think there will always be something there, but I don't love him any more. I've decided never to meet him incase those feelings come back tenfold. Especially as he has a girlfriend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I developed feelings for my FWB a few months before we met.Just on line and cam chat. We still friends into our 8th year.
A day and a half no I dont think its more than lust .. fun but who knows.."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure what it is but there is certainly a strange feeling in my stomach when I read her messages!!"
I've definitely had that in a very short space of time. Are you going to meet up soon? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just enjoy what you have for however long it lasts
if it makes you feel good then go with it.. just try to include logic and reality "
This. If it makes you tingle in your head and body, roll with it and make it last. |
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I've experienced this and then we met put it down to lust and experience...nothing came of it as real life is do much more different than the internet. We can be whoever we want over the internet. In real life we are exposed to who we really. |
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"I've experienced this and then we met put it down to lust and experience...nothing came of it as real life is do much more different than the internet. We can be whoever we want over the internet. In real life we are exposed to who we really. "
Who we really are
And so instead of do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? "
Honestly, that's a bit scary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've not myself, but had 2 women on here get strong feelings for me (one of them a very popular user), to the point where one of them got really angry if I met someone else and almost became a stalker. She still messages me now occasionally on KIK but I keep it quick, I had to block her on here, I don't like the idea of ignoring people totally  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure what it is but there is certainly a strange feeling in my stomach when I read her messages!!
I've definitely had that in a very short space of time. Are you going to meet up soon? "
Maybe In time we will, there's a sea between us at moment  but on positive it isn't an ocean |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I experienced it with someone last year on a dating site. We spoke online and over the phone for over a month. Things got very intense when the BF word got mentioned. I had to slow it down, until we met.
Today, we are really good mates(who occasionally have sex) and if things were different, I know we'd be in a relationship.
I hope the OP doesn't let thing run away, but enjoys these exciting times. |
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I can get anticipation and eagerness but not form a relationship out of a profile and messages.
There are some fantastic people that I've seen here but I don't think that I do them justice, before I've met them and got to know them. |
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"just enjoy what you have for however long it lasts
if it makes you feel good then go with it.. just try to include logic and reality "
Wise words. Yes, I have been completely bewitched by people online before, sometimes fairly suddenly.
Don't trust it 'til you meet, but sometimes you can feel just the same when you do - good luck, enjoy the ride whatever it is!
I like the James Taylor song, 'Secret of Life' - it says 'No-one knows how we got to the top of the hill, but since we're on our way down, we might as well enjoy the ride!!'
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? "
...can def relate to wat has happened to you..mine went a step further to meets and then fell in complete lust/love...lol..be careful hold tight to our heart!!..x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"just enjoy what you have for however long it lasts
if it makes you feel good then go with it.. just try to include logic and reality
This. If it makes you tingle in your head and body, roll with it and make it last. "
I would agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"just enjoy what you have for however long it lasts
if it makes you feel good then go with it.. just try to include logic and reality
This. If it makes you tingle in your head and body, roll with it and make it last.
I would agree! "
just dont get too consumed by fantasy land.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Firmly stuck in reality here unfortunately - but trying to make that reality a whole lot better "
fingers crossed it all works out for you,, if it sadly doesnt just look back and remember how good it felt at the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"just enjoy what you have for however long it lasts
if it makes you feel good then go with it.. just try to include logic and reality
This. If it makes you tingle in your head and body, roll with it and make it last.
I would agree!
just dont get too consumed by fantasy land.. "
Dangerous places.....those bubbles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? "
Ive been talking to someone for over two years and finally made plans to go meet him valentines weekend, both admitted that we have feelings from getting to know each other... wonder if it will be the same in reality though |
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone?
Ive been talking to someone for over two years and finally made plans to go meet him valentines weekend, both admitted that we have feelings from getting to know each other... wonder if it will be the same in reality though "
Keep an open mind and have no expectations and don't get your hopes up but enjoy it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? "
No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yep. This is why I don't tend to meet single guys.. I have found it happens both ways. It's much easier to go to a party where there is no build up or expectation.. I have fun and leave and that's it.
Although saying that. I've only met two guys on my current and old profile, who I've really felt a strong connection with. One turned out to be married, and the other... Well who knows. Time will tell.  |
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I do think a day and a half is a bit quick to fall for someone, how can you possible my know all about her life.
I've got a few guys that I see regularly one of them over eight years, I'm very fond of them but would never fall for them
Also none of them are type to have a proper relationship with, we have sex, good old natter a few messages back and forth between meets |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? "
I've been intrigued by and lusted after people but I've never felt like I've fallen for them so quickly (and without meeting).
Hearing that someone felt this way (about me, obviously) would have me heading for the hills  |
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"After messaging a certain fab lady on here for about a day and a half I am finding myself completely intrigued by the effect she has had, just wondered if anyone else had ever had this before even meeting someone? "
Yes. After a couple of messages starting 17 November 2013, met on 24 not been apart since, been living together for the last six months.  |
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