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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does loads and loads of verifications on peoples profiles put you off? And I dont mean just social meets. I have 14 but some of those are repeated meets. Im talking those with 100+  |
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over a year ago
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depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really "
it would put me off tbh. I know this site is for sex but surely it doesnt mean u have to sleep with everyone lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I meet straight/Bi guys who prefer no verifications as there "straight" which is fine with me though some people need them."
"straight" you mean in denial  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does loads and loads of verifications on peoples profiles put you off? And I dont mean just social meets. I have 14 but some of those are repeated meets. Im talking those with 100+
You could have a million and it wouldn't put me off  "
You old romantic. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really it would put me off tbh. I know this site is for sex but surely it doesnt mean u have to sleep with everyone lol x"
What if a profile shows 5 but hides 200?
What if someone with 3 on Fab has 1000 on another site?
What if someone with 10 meets daily at clubs and shags 3000 people a year?
You will never know someone's true sexual history so making decisions based on volumes of veri's is fundamentally flawed. Some only show a few, some show none, some only show social veri's. Some verify every meet, including repeats, as if it was a competition.
There are better ways to decide who to meet sand who not to than a simple number!
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"depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really it would put me off tbh. I know this site is for sex but surely it doesnt mean u have to sleep with everyone lol x
What if a profile shows 5 but hides 200?
What if someone with 3 on Fab has 1000 on another site?
What if someone with 10 meets daily at clubs and shags 3000 people a year?
You will never know someone's true sexual history so making decisions based on volumes of veri's is fundamentally flawed. Some only show a few, some show none, some only show social veri's. Some verify every meet, including repeats, as if it was a competition.
There are better ways to decide who to meet sand who not to than a simple number!
A"
And some have been around a long time and had people leave the site so veri's have gone. Might look like they've met hardly anyone but isn't the case.
If someone had 300 veri's and has been here 3 years that's only 2 a week for example.
I don't judge on number of veri's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All verifications mean to me is that the person is who they say they are, punctual, safe to be with etc - other than that they are superfluous!
I have no intention of displaying any more veris as I have decided - shock horror - that I wish to keep my sex life private from now on - as is mine and everyone else's right.
If people don't like that then they can obviously choose not to meet me. Xxx |
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"depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really it would put me off tbh. I know this site is for sex but surely it doesnt mean u have to sleep with everyone lol x"
That's just a tad judgemental as people on here can do whatever they please quite frankly, some ladies/couples enjoy the club scene or gangbang evenings of which they may end up with several verifications.
I think it's best not to judge others and just let people enjoy themselves how they want to |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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On the other hand if we see a profile with for example 30 veris and they're all social and we get a request for a meet, we're likely to be skeptical and be thinking there might be a no show in the cards. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"On the other hand if we see a profile with for example 30 veris and they're all social and we get a request for a meet, we're likely to be skeptical and be thinking there might be a no show in the cards. "
Why?
Many only show social veri's - as the point of a veri is to confirm your existence.
Not a feedback/rating system of how good/bad a shag you are, the length of your bits, whether you are a dyson or an Electrolux, and where your bodily fluids were deposited.
Multiple social veri's actually look better in a lot of cases as it shows personality rather than a 3rd party's perception on sexual prowess!
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"On the other hand if we see a profile with for example 30 veris and they're all social and we get a request for a meet, we're likely to be skeptical and be thinking there might be a no show in the cards.
Why?
Many only show social veri's - as the point of a veri is to confirm your existence.
Not a feedback/rating system of how good/bad a shag you are, the length of your bits, whether you are a dyson or an Electrolux, and where your bodily fluids were deposited.
Multiple social veri's actually look better in a lot of cases as it shows personality rather than a 3rd party's perception on sexual prowess!
A"
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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago
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Try not to judge on veri's.. Saying that one profile said don't meet single men then a string of veri's from men only.... And another said looking for select people not notches on bedpost.... With a huge list of veri's in short time... Made us chuckle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a fair amount of verifications both from play dates and hosting at a club and hope this helps people make a decision on if they want to play with us or off they want to come to our club night, we would hope that people wouldn't be put off by the amount we have, actually thinking about it, if someone was put off by the amount of profiles they haven't read our profile anyway so I guess we are not missing out |
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The verifications you choose to show are a self selection of the best (or perhaps only) things others have had to say about you.
We look in the verifications for tidbits that tell us a bit more about the person than they might otherwise write about themselves (usually in a complimentary way of course!).
It's not a hard rule, but we 'like' to see people who are active (at least a few veris per year) but not obsessive (several per week), as that tells us they're at a similar level of intensity to ourselves, so helps us to gauge that it's likely to be a better match for us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really it would put me off tbh. I know this site is for sex but surely it doesnt mean u have to sleep with everyone lol x
That's just a tad judgemental as people on here can do whatever they please quite frankly, some ladies/couples enjoy the club scene or gangbang evenings of which they may end up with several verifications.
I think it's best not to judge others and just let people enjoy themselves how they want to "
We all judge people that's how we decide who we want to meet, people are free to shag whoever they wish, but people are also free to not meet them people because they've slept with half of fab, if someone has lots and lots of play veris then yes it would put us off, we only look to meet now and then and would like the other people to be the same, if this is someone's way of life and there just here to fuck owt then we aren't interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would not put us off. We are after meeting people we find attractive and have a bit of spark with, so the fact they have met a lot of people from a site designed to enable people to meet lots of other people for adult fun is not an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending."
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending.
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site. "
As I said early we all judge people, not everyone is your cup of tea, too big, too small, wrong colour, too old, too young, not enough teeth, sleeps with too many people, everyone has the right to refuse to meet anyone for what ever reason, you don't meet everyone who messages you? You make a judgement on the message and there profile, veris is just another way of choosing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending.
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site.
As I said early we all judge people, not everyone is your cup of tea, too big, too small, wrong colour, too old, too young, not enough teeth, sleeps with too many people, everyone has the right to refuse to meet anyone for what ever reason, you don't meet everyone who messages you? You make a judgement on the message and there profile, veris is just another way of choosing"
That's fair enough. It is a lot different than going by physical looks etc, it's a moral judgement on that person, which to us seems out of place on a swinger site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending.
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site.
As I said early we all judge people, not everyone is your cup of tea, too big, too small, wrong colour, too old, too young, not enough teeth, sleeps with too many people, everyone has the right to refuse to meet anyone for what ever reason, you don't meet everyone who messages you? You make a judgement on the message and there profile, veris is just another way of choosing
That's fair enough. It is a lot different than going by physical looks etc, it's a moral judgement on that person, which to us seems out of place on a swinger site."
It's not a moral judgement, we're not paying the shouldn't do it or that there morally wrong for do it, we are saying it's not what we are looking for and we wouldn't be a match so wouldn't meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending.
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site.
As I said early we all judge people, not everyone is your cup of tea, too big, too small, wrong colour, too old, too young, not enough teeth, sleeps with too many people, everyone has the right to refuse to meet anyone for what ever reason, you don't meet everyone who messages you? You make a judgement on the message and there profile, veris is just another way of choosing
That's fair enough. It is a lot different than going by physical looks etc, it's a moral judgement on that person, which to us seems out of place on a swinger site.
It's not a moral judgement, we're not paying the shouldn't do it or that there morally wrong for do it, we are saying it's not what we are looking for and we wouldn't be a match so wouldn't meet them"
Wouldn't be a match because they meet to often-moral judgement. It's fine, just be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We couldn't care less how little or how many verifications anybody has, it is a moral judgement if you choose not to see people with loads as it has no justification, the question remains...
Why would you not meet people who have lots of verifications? Is it as sense of moral superiority?
There are 2 kinds of verification snobs on here, some wont meet because of so many, some wont meet because of none or a small amount.
On the point of displaying verifications, I think it's frankly rude if someone goes to the trouble of writing a verification and you don't display it for at least a while x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We couldn't care less how little or how many verifications anybody has, it is a moral judgement if you choose not to see people with loads as it has no justification, the question remains...
Why would you not meet people who have lots of verifications? Is it as sense of moral superiority?
There are 2 kinds of verification snobs on here, some wont meet because of so many, some wont meet because of none or a small amount.
On the point of displaying verifications, I think it's frankly rude if someone goes to the trouble of writing a verification and you don't display it for at least a while x"
We wouldn't meet them because we are looking for the same as us, meet every so often and like I bit of fun but it's not the be all and end all for us, we have come across people who only want to fuck anything and have found them quite pushy and not the type of people we are looking for, and if that makes us morally superior and veri snobs then pass me a monicle and call me or snooty pants |
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I always try and read the verifications if possible before making a decision. For instance someone with 50+ may well have met the majority at clubs or parties etc which wouldnt bother me. However if they were all from different blokes on meets id tend to give it a miss but thats my personal choice and not to influence others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We couldn't care less how little or how many verifications anybody has, it is a moral judgement if you choose not to see people with loads as it has no justification, the question remains...
Why would you not meet people who have lots of verifications? Is it as sense of moral superiority?
There are 2 kinds of verification snobs on here, some wont meet because of so many, some wont meet because of none or a small amount.
On the point of displaying verifications, I think it's frankly rude if someone goes to the trouble of writing a verification and you don't display it for at least a while x
We wouldn't meet them because we are looking for the same as us, meet every so often and like I bit of fun but it's not the be all and end all for us, we have come across people who only want to fuck anything and have found them quite pushy and not the type of people we are looking for, and if that makes us morally superior and veri snobs then pass me a monicle and call me or snooty pants"
Basically they want to feel superior/classier whatever, to people who use the site to have lots of sex. Pretty preposterous, but hey ho, it takes all sorts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ha ha ha, your blathering on about people been judgemental, and your judging us, what a hypocrite,
At no point have we said we are superior and made any comment about anyone, people are free to do as they wish, as are we and it's up to us how we run our profile, |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Nope its a swingers site! Theres people in everyday life that hide sleeping with hundreds of people! I prefer honesty  "
The veris I have don't reflect my number of meets. I've had some who didn't do veris and I've also been on other sites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We couldn't care less how little or how many verifications anybody has, it is a moral judgement if you choose not to see people with loads as it has no justification, the question remains...
Why would you not meet people who have lots of verifications? Is it as sense of moral superiority?
There are 2 kinds of verification snobs on here, some wont meet because of so many, some wont meet because of none or a small amount.
On the point of displaying verifications, I think it's frankly rude if someone goes to the trouble of writing a verification and you don't display it for at least a while x
We wouldn't meet them because we are looking for the same as us, meet every so often and like I bit of fun but it's not the be all and end all for us, we have come across people who only want to fuck anything and have found them quite pushy and not the type of people we are looking for, and if that makes us morally superior and veri snobs then pass me a monicle and call me or snooty pants
Basically they want to feel superior/classier whatever, to people who use the site to have lots of sex. Pretty preposterous, but hey ho, it takes all sorts"
Yes the do want to feel morally superior to people who use this site for sex, as for the pushy comment we've never come across a pushy couple on a meet, perhaps they've jyst had a bad experience with a couple that had lots of verifications
We consider ourselves NON PUSHY in the extreme and all that have met us I would hope agree xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe chastisy belts should be handed out 
we have a fair few mostly gathered at large socials all at once, are we naughty
Her
Yes you should be spanked severely with a wet flip flop  "
 Now your talking
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I find it hilarious that people can criticise others for having too many veris on a site specifically designed for people to meet with the potential for a sexual encounter (whether you that happens or not).
And the 'we don't meet people who will fuck anything' is, quite frankly, rude and insulting to people you have never met, not to mention making huge assumptions about total strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending.
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site.
As I said early we all judge people, not everyone is your cup of tea, too big, too small, wrong colour, too old, too young, not enough teeth, sleeps with too many people, everyone has the right to refuse to meet anyone for what ever reason, you don't meet everyone who messages you? You make a judgement on the message and there profile, veris is just another way of choosing"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not many people I have met for social there has been a spark. I think im quite select on who I'd want my wicked way with.It would put me off if list of verifications were never ending.
Not talking about about social meets per se, I mean sexually. People judge far too much on here, which is surprising given the site.
As I said early we all judge people, not everyone is your cup of tea, too big, too small, wrong colour, too old, too young, not enough teeth, sleeps with too many people, everyone has the right to refuse to meet anyone for what ever reason, you don't meet everyone who messages you? You make a judgement on the message and there profile, veris is just another way of choosing
That's fair enough. It is a lot different than going by physical looks etc, it's a moral judgement on that person, which to us seems out of place on a swinger site."
So swingers don't have morals? Speak for yourself.... |
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"depends - you can have loads from one evening and not one you had had sex with - if we saw a profile and it was a different person each night and every night all the time we would maybe think on it - then again that might be the case and you would never know as they dont show all and/or the table - so inm chatting bollocks really it would put me off tbh. I know this site is for sex but surely it doesnt mean u have to sleep with everyone lol x"
You use the site as you like and don't worry about what anyone else does. It's none of your business.  |
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By *ashes83Couple
over a year ago
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Lots can be a little intimating to newbies (you don't want to disappoint if you get a chance to meet and play)
We have stuck to people around the same stage as us that we will learn with.
but I have reached out and bombarded a few with 101 question about there experiences. Lol
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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If I want to meet someone what does it matter to me who else they've met? It's none of my business. That's kind of the point of NSA.
They either appeal to me or they don't. Their veris may give me an idea whether there would be mutual interest but I don't place that much importance on them. I'd rather make up my own mind. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't care whether people think I have too many or too few veris. If they're not happy with the amount of people I meet and/or play with then they're not the type of person I wish to meet. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"On the other hand if we see a profile with for example 30 veris and they're all social and we get a request for a meet, we're likely to be skeptical and be thinking there might be a no show in the cards.
Why?
Many only show social veri's - as the point of a veri is to confirm your existence.
Not a feedback/rating system of how good/bad a shag you are, the length of your bits, whether you are a dyson or an Electrolux, and where your bodily fluids were deposited.
Multiple social veri's actually look better in a lot of cases as it shows personality rather than a 3rd party's perception on sexual prowess!
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Some people just don't get it "
Ridiculous!
We're looking to meet and want to meet likeminded, a mix of both would be great/ideal "for us" to make an informed choice. Meet someone with no meets but socials displayed? No. We'll stick to what we can see and will go off of that. Not even going to answer the stuff about about how good of a shag point that was made by the other poster, pfft. As for telling us that veris are to only confirm whether you're real or not, says who?? Veris are whatever we want to interpret from them and can or cannot form an opinion of a profile for us. It will definitely play a part in any dialogue we have with anyone either to dispel our doubts or confirm but most likely to form new ones. Veris help us to build an overall picture, nowhere near the overall picture, dialogue mainly does that as well as other factors. Very good meets so far, only one not to our liking and only one no show. Everyone we've met has turned out exactly as we expected and people we've actually liked so our decision making process is working for us and no reason to change it either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really couldn't give a flying fig to how many verifications a person may or may not have!
As an aside to the op and the comments from people about not wanting to fuck everyone on the site etc etc the people who really poss me off are the ones always on line, messaging etc but only want looking to meet in a few months time, saying oh we have a real life lol, so get off here and let people who want to meet, meet x"
How does someone been on here planning months in advance stop others from meeting? What about those who never meet and are only here to chat? Should they get off here too? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I only show social veris. Who I have met for sex and what we did is nobody's business but mine and that/those of the person(s) involved.
I wouldn't trust a veri to tell me if someone was a good shag anyway.
I show veris to prove I'm real, that I'm who I say I am and my photos are mine. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Really couldn't give a flying fig to how many verifications a person may or may not have!
As an aside to the op and the comments from people about not wanting to fuck everyone on the site etc etc the people who really poss me off are the ones always on line, messaging etc but only want looking to meet in a few months time, saying oh we have a real life lol, so get off here and let people who want to meet, meet x"
Have you ever thought they might be saying that instead of 'sorry, we don't want to meet you'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really couldn't give a flying fig to how many verifications a person may or may not have!
As an aside to the op and the comments from people about not wanting to fuck everyone on the site etc etc the people who really poss me off are the ones always on line, messaging etc but only want looking to meet in a few months time, saying oh we have a real life lol, so get off here and let people who want to meet, meet x
How does someone been on here planning months in advance stop others from meeting? What about those who never meet and are only here to chat? Should they get off here too?"
Or how about those that do meet but don't leave veris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Really couldn't give a flying fig to how many verifications a person may or may not have!
As an aside to the op and the comments from people about not wanting to fuck everyone on the site etc etc the people who really poss me off are the ones always on line, messaging etc but only want looking to meet in a few months time, saying oh we have a real life lol, so get off here and let people who want to meet, meet x
Have you ever thought they might be saying that instead of 'sorry, we don't want to meet you'?"
If they are not adult enough to say that not missed anything have we? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only show social veris. Who I have met for sex and what we did is nobody's business but mine and that/those of the person(s) involved.
I wouldn't trust a veri to tell me if someone was a good shag anyway.
I show veris to prove I'm real, that I'm who I say I am and my photos are mine."
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