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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've noticed recently that when I'm served in a shop, the person serving often never makes eye contact. They look down, even give you your change without looking in your eyes. I think it's far nicer to catch someone's eye, even give a smile!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've noticed recently that when I'm served in a shop, the person serving often never makes eye contact. They look down, even give you your change without looking in your eyes. I think it's far nicer to catch someone's eye, even give a smile!
I totally agree and when you've caught there eye give it them back 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always do, I can't stand weak willed people, and lack of eye contact - along with giggling after each sentence - is a sign of lacking confidence."
This brings out the comforting side of me. I like to help people who are lacking in confidence to feel better about themselves. |
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I often apologise for staring into a beautiful pair of eyes. I am sure it seems creepy to them, but I am a sucker for lovely eyes and if she maintains eye contact I just enjoy it to the point they can get uncomfortable.
A simple apology and off I tootle, happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish (sometimes) that I had the 'Crazy Eyes' (from Orange is the New Black) vibe going on.
That would break the monotony of having to sit through boring meetings. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In everyday life yes eye contact does not bother me but in quite an insecure person so if its someone I like or fancy I get all flustered and find it hard to make eye contact |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often apologise for staring into a beautiful pair of eyes. I am sure it seems creepy to them, but I am a sucker for lovely eyes and if she maintains eye contact I just enjoy it to the point they can get uncomfortable.
A simple apology and off I tootle, happy. "
A retail worker did this to me once. He walked up very close to me, into my dance space, and said 'I'm sorry but you have the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen'.
Turned round and walked away! Lol left me a little speechless (highly unusual). Sweet though...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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During eye contact,stream of messages are sent through the air and often misconstrued and some people are left in fear afterwards.
The flirty eye contact is best known to cause weakness of the knee to some people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it's very important in a lot of walks of life...I deal with the public a lot with my work and find eye contact helps me get people to do what I want them to do....its a very usefull way of coveyining how I mean something, weather I'm being serious, reasonable, cheeky or jovial or whatever...
Eye contact during sex can speak so many words too, even just in conversation eye contact adds so much to what your trying to say so yeah, it's something I've learned to use to great effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love eye contact. Out in public and in the bedroom.
You can tell lots by looking someone in the eye..
I'm told I've a cheeky glint in my eye that spells trouble.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In everyday life yes eye contact does not bother me but in quite an insecure person so if its someone I like or fancy I get all flustered and find it hard to make eye contact "
That coyness in it's self speaks wordless volumes.....a lack of eye contact and how the eyes don't contact says a lot.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm ok with looking directly at a person's eyes but I tend to watch the mouth a lot. Sometimes I struggle to hear what people say and it helps me to understand them. I also think mouths are quite erotic to watch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm ok with looking directly at a person's eyes but I tend to watch the mouth a lot. Sometimes I struggle to hear what people say and it helps me to understand them. I also think mouths are quite erotic to watch "
Add it all up and the face as a whole speaks volumes... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember reading that there's a triangle made up of the eyes and mouth where its good to look at a person. It helps to build trust and indicates that as a listener you're paying attention. In a retail context I find it very rude if the person won't make eye contact |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say I'm quite a confident person and will always look someone in the eye if I'm talking to them. Eye contact is very I,portent, when speaking to a group as well, I try and look each and everyone in the eye (granted I don't do lady Gaga big performances, more uni presentations to a group of up to 50...
Eye contact in sex is super hot. When I'm coming I tend to close my eyes a lot, but with my latest fella, I try and keep them open for him, so he can see what's going on!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't feel comfortable around anyone who can't maintain eye contact when having a conversation
Its weird and its unsocial "
totally agree. looks deceitful sometimes. |
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"I've noticed recently that when I'm served in a shop, the person serving often never makes eye contact. They look down, even give you your change without looking in your eyes. I think it's far nicer to catch someone's eye, even give a smile!
I think if I was serving you I would be looking down at the two beauties you have
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a difference between sexy eye contact and like...fucking staring... 
What I mean is..I used to kiss with my eyes open till a chick asked me what the fuck I was staring at... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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do you all make eye contact with everyone or just people you find attractive / someone who interests you ? if a nice lady gave me prolonged eye contact then I would be pleased by it but someone I didn't find attractive or another man then I wouldn't like that. If you are a woman would you welcome eye contact from a man you didn't find attractive ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"do you all make eye contact with everyone or just people you find attractive / someone who interests you ? if a nice lady gave me prolonged eye contact then I would be pleased by it but someone I didn't find attractive or another man then I wouldn't like that. If you are a woman would you welcome eye contact from a man you didn't find attractive ?"
depends if he looked lecherous
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"do you all make eye contact with everyone or just people you find attractive / someone who interests you ? if a nice lady gave me prolonged eye contact then I would be pleased by it but someone I didn't find attractive or another man then I wouldn't like that. If you are a woman would you welcome eye contact from a man you didn't find attractive ?"
depending on what we all class as 'attractive' which is quite subjective but with some people the eye contact can tell you more about them as a person than any of what some in society or the media infatuation with 'beauty and perfection' ever will.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if I see a pretty girl walking towards me I look at her but if she glances and sees me looking I look away, I think I do it instinctively. I wish I could hold her gaze and smile but I think I lack self confidence |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
In my first job when I was 18 or so, one of the gaffers had eyes that looked in different directions. I never knew were I was supposed to stand in relation to her eyes, so sort of shuffled between spots.  |
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I guess I'm a very confident person. I have no qualms about making and keeping eye contact and I find it's a very good communicator, ESPECIALLY in retail.
If you're on meet-and-greet, eye contact and friendly Hello to each customer speaks volumes - To most, it's an indication that you are there, are approachable and actually listening when they talk to you, and to shop-lifters, it's a clear indication of "I'm watching you".
Eye-contact is the best way to close a deal and let people know that you are listening.
I guess it also stems from growing up in London. I refused to be one of those people who walks along with their eyes glued to the floor. If somebody gets too close or looks dodgy, looking them in the eye usually gets them to back off or re-evaluate.
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In my first job when I was 18 or so, one of the gaffers had eyes that looked in different directions. I never knew were I was supposed to stand in relation to her eyes, so sort of shuffled between spots. "
My first ever interview, the interviewer had eyes like that. Somehow I still got the job.
Bugsy - the guinea pig on the film Bedtime Stories has the best eyes ever! |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
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"I guess I'm a very confident person. I have no qualms about making and keeping eye contact and I find it's a very good communicator, ESPECIALLY in retail.
If you're on meet-and-greet, eye contact and friendly Hello to each customer speaks volumes - To most, it's an indication that you are there, are approachable and actually listening when they talk to you, and to shop-lifters, it's a clear indication of "I'm watching you".
Eye-contact is the best way to close a deal and let people know that you are listening.
I guess it also stems from growing up in London. I refused to be one of those people who walks along with their eyes glued to the floor. If somebody gets too close or looks dodgy, looking them in the eye usually gets them to back off or re-evaluate.
- Amy. x"
I'd agree with all of this; though I dont consider myself particularly confident I am perfectly comfortable with eye contact, and feel I am capable of where and when to use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One of my best weapons! Love it
Your eyes are weapons ? Who are you James bond ?
Haha yes that would also be pretty cool  "
Yes he always cops off lucky sod lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work in retail and always feel im connecting with the customer more if i maintain eye contact, and it shows im listening to what they have to say too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Eye contact is important, if you can't look me in the eyes, I immediately think you're hiding something. Much like a handshake, for me it just has to be firm, not bone crushing, just firm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've noticed recently that when I'm served in a shop, the person serving often never makes eye contact. They look down, even give you your change without looking in your eyes. I think it's far nicer to catch someone's eye, even give a smile!
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Worked in retail 2005 to 2012. Always tried to give the best service possible and not just to establish myself.
Most assistants aren't like that, but it can be a soul destroying job. No advancement, horrible customers, crap pay, crap hours, stupid cliques and politics = "shove your social values, I just work here."
However there's a difference between that outlook and just being a terrible retail assistant. Only recently was I faced with one at TK Maxx; a very dapper lad with the nerd specs and trendy hair. Clearly moisturised too.
He actually kept trying to avoid me, refused to take money from my
hand until I put it on the counter, took half a minute to properly pick up my horrible icky change from out of the horrible icky cash register with his bare hands (which he hadn't even emptied out of the money bags, bless) and then wouldn't hand me it until I removed my hand so he could dump it in front of me.
He said Merry Christmas, I said, 'good luck with that!' Haven't seen him since. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"In my first job when I was 18 or so, one of the gaffers had eyes that looked in different directions. I never knew were I was supposed to stand in relation to her eyes, so sort of shuffled between spots. "
My best friends ex had this. Problem being that me and my best friend have the same name so you could never tell who he was speaking to....
Half the time I joined in conversations that were nothing to do with me and the rest of the time I completely ignored him when he was talking to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work in retail and always give eye contact.
I do give eye contact to mainly anyone, but if there's a guy that I'm dating and I like him I cannot give him full eye contact because I'm shy aha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say I am terrible at eye contact, I tend to look at people's mouths and read their lips as they talk to me.
Unless it is a very well endowed woman with a low cut top on, I do try hard not to look honest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup, a firm handshake and eye contact when meeting new people at work or in social situations.
A cheeky slip of the hand around the lower back with non stop eye contact when kissing the woman I'm meeting on both cheeks when I meet her! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interviewed someone recently for a job who didn't make eye contact with me at all (but did with the male interviewers on the panel). It was palpably awkward! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup, a firm handshake and eye contact when meeting new people at work or in social situations.
A cheeky slip of the hand around the lower back with non stop eye contact when kissing the woman I'm meeting on both cheeks when I meet her! "
That's a good hello |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have Aspergers traits and one of these is finding eye contact so intense in certain situations that it's overwhelming.
It's a bit scary to think that I'm "weird, deceitful, untrustworthy" and more because I have a genuine problem with this?
Weirdly when I am in flirty mode, I'm much better and I'm better when I first meet someone as I can "fake it"(when I'm concentrating and remember to) but as I get to know someone better I am shocking at it.
Just remember not everyone avoids eye contact because they are shifty. |
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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago
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As a retail worker I always endeavour to make eye contact, but sometimes I admit to letting my mind wander to the next job at hand or I will serve one customer whilst watching a potential shop lifter... I generally realise and apologise to my customer though if I feel I've been rude in any way.
I have no fear of eye contact, I love it when you're greeted with equally happy face.
Lost count of how many times customers have said to me "it's too early/late to be that happy" or generally commented on my excited manner - but really, since taking on management roles, I rarely get to spend the time with the customers that made me love my job so much!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have Aspergers traits and one of these is finding eye contact so intense in certain situations that it's overwhelming."
I work with people with autism and this is quite common, I've also been told that in some cultures looking directly at your "elders and betters" is a sign of disrespect. |
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Oh I always do the eye contact ... Is a thin line between enough n too much tho lol ...
Know some people are genuinly shy and can usually tell that ... As a rule tho, I find it quite shifty and dodgy if someone can't look me in the eye when they talking to me ( as in everyday life, as well as meets etc )
I do have a very expressive face and like to see that in others too ... Eyes can tell me alot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have Aspergers traits and one of these is finding eye contact so intense in certain situations that it's overwhelming.
I work with people with autism and this is quite common, I've also been told that in some cultures looking directly at your "elders and betters" is a sign of disrespect. "
Which cultures? Maybe I need to move! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always do, I can't stand weak willed people, and lack of eye contact - along with giggling after each sentence - is a sign of lacking confidence."
And piss weak handshakes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always do, I can't stand weak willed people, and lack of eye contact - along with giggling after each sentence - is a sign of lacking confidence.
And piss weak handshakes"
Yuk wet fish handshakes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yup, a firm handshake and eye contact when meeting new people at work or in social situations.
A cheeky slip of the hand around the lower back with non stop eye contact when kissing the woman I'm meeting on both cheeks when I meet her!
That's a good hello "
Always works for me Mav!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often try to make eye contact, especially if I like someone, but apparently my gaze is rather intense and can make some people uncomfortable, I've been told people can FEEL me looking at them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me eye contact is a sign of both confidence and openness.
I do appreciate people can be shy but in terms of sexual attraction, eye contact can speak a thousand words |
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I am very good at eye contact, I meet different people every 5 mins in my job, plus I have to give instructions to them, so yes eye contact is a must for me.
P.S. I love eye contact when having passionate sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am very good at eye contact, I meet different people every 5 mins in my job, plus I have to give instructions to them, so yes eye contact is a must for me.
P.S. I love eye contact when having passionate sex "
if we can keep eyes open when we come together its fkn special - talk about reaching in deep - love it but tend to close my eyes in the moment Sx |
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"I often try to make eye contact, especially if I like someone, but apparently my gaze is rather intense and can make some people uncomfortable, I've been told people can FEEL me looking at them."
that would freak me out someone staring at me
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