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over a year ago
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"Date someone that was unemployed? I don't mean when you met them and had a job then lost it...I mean when you first met them they had no job to start off with?  "
The only reason I wouldn't would be if they didnt want to work and had no interest in looking for a job, other than that I would as some people are unemployed due to certain circumstances or no one will employ them at the present time
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Depends. If they were unemployed and actually making an effort to find work or unemployed for a good reason then yes. I wouldn't date a lazy fucker that never worked a day in their life and never intended to.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meet yes, date no, if I was dating an unemployed man would I be expected pay for everything? Cause listering to people on here you dont get enough to live on never mind date on, I'm all for paying my way but I have kids and I'm not paying for everything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends. If they were unemployed and actually making an effort to find work or unemployed for a good reason then yes. I wouldn't date a lazy fucker that never worked a day in their life and never intended to. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my youth I wouldn't have done. I liked to go out all the time and someone who was unemployed wouldn't have been able to keep up. Wouldn't have sopped me having a casual thing with them though. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Probably not. Financial imbalance affects relationships in really negative ways.
I am a generous spendthrift who likes to treat others and myself. I don't expect anything from anyone else but I would hate for them to feel that burden of being given things that they cannot reciprocate.
In an existing relationship it is different as you have built up the give and take, trust and knowledge of each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes lots of people are unemployed through no fault of their own.
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I agree and I'm not judging people by if thy have a job but let's be honest dating costs money, your not going to take a new person round to your house for a drink on a date are you? Dating as a rule involves going out, having a drink, going for a meal, getting to know someone till you take them home to meet your kids, if you have any, and all that costs money and I'm not prepared to pay for it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I worked from when I left college until mid 2005 when I fell ill.
My employer, whom I had been employed with since 1998, operated a Salary Security scheme, which was intended to provide financial security in the event of long term illness etc.
This was provided by a third party insurer, who, in my case, opted not to honour this contract and denied my claim.
In this event, my employer subsequently terminated my employment.
I took them to tribunal on a number of issues, (one of which was settled prior to the hearing) but was unsuccessful, largely because the employer could afford a legal team whereas I could not.
Once I had recovered from my illness, I began diligently looking for employment, regrettably without success. Even getting an inter_iew proved difficult - possibly due to the fast paced nature of the industry I had worked in.
After a conversation with my helpful adviser at the local jobcentre, I attended a business course in May of last year and have begun my own business.
This is actually my preferred option owing to the huge flexibility it provides.
It's rather daunting to begin with, and takes a while to get going, as you need to market yourself (tricky with no prior marketing experience), but things are now beginning to look up.
So I agree with the comments about those who find themselves unemployed through no fault of their own. It can happen to anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have done. It wasn't an issue, and when we moved in together she sorted out a good job.
I don't think someone's employment status when you meet them is a fair indication of who they are... Just the circumstances they are in currently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends. I have a friend who is only early 40's, sadly widowed and has no need to work. So she is unemployed, but financially independent.
I guess I wouldn't want to date someone who had never ever worked, through pure laziness. That is different to someone who is made redundant after working for a lot of their life. If they have never worked, because they are just mega rich and have a dodgy ticker - give me their number now!  |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think it depends. I have a friend who is only early 40's, sadly widowed and has no need to work. So she is unemployed, but financially independent.
I guess I wouldn't want to date someone who had never ever worked, through pure laziness. That is different to someone who is made redundant after working for a lot of their life. If they have never worked, because they are just mega rich and have a dodgy ticker - give me their number now! "
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it wouldnt make any difference if they was unemployed working or not to date or meet its like saying i aint going out with a single parent as they are too tied down to go out and have fun
either scenario is still the same and they still both claim does it make any difference in the first place
it certainly wouldnt in my eyes though it may make it harder for those that cant afford much but it dosnt make them triers in doing what they can do best |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
As someone who was on benefits for a long time, and a single parent (yes, I know, scum, how dare I?)
I gave up work before having my son, and then when he was 1 discovered my husband was a cheating wanker, and left him.
I chose not to work and spend the time with my son, but now he is in school, I have a great job (I actively volunteered to keep my skills set up for the kind of work I wanted to get into) but it was flexible and much less pressure than a paid job was. Also, I would not have been able to afford childcare to work the hours I do before he was in school.
I have dated whilst I was not working, and whilst not able to do flashy things every other weekend, I was not too tight to pay my own way either. Thankfully they didn't judge on me not working, as it was a discussion that as soon as my son went to school, I would find work - so it was circumstances not laziness that stopped me working.
I actually saved enough to take him away for a long weekend, so its not like not working = financial drain. I paid my own way in most things, and he was understanding about that. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I don't date
but if I did, I would say Yes and I would help them try and find a role. I am quite knowledgable in recruitment, however if i didnt see the drive to secure a role then that would more than likely cost the relationship... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had 2 kids with someone who wasn't working when i met him. He also hadn't ever had a job at all either.
He'd been to university, inherited some money, owned his own home and taken a year off, living off custard creams (so he told me).
He took a couple of training courses while i was with him, did volunteering, and eventually it paid off and he became an assistant manager of the place he volunteered in. So it paid off in the end, and for a few years too.
12 years later he's back to being unemployed, is volunteering again to give him something to do. He isn't lazy, he can be relied upon, works hard.
He's a good, loving, supportive, dad too, glad i had kids with him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends. If they were unemployed and actually making an effort to find work or unemployed for a good reason then yes. I wouldn't date a lazy fucker that never worked a day in their life and never intended to. "
This. Been there, done that, never again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah not a problem.
J doesn't work
In years to cone, I dare to say his salary will far outstrip my own.
I have never had a relationship where the two parties have earned the same.
I have earned far less than some and far more than others.
I guess money and materialism doesn't figure that highly for me relationship wise. |
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