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Cuckolding and the Risks?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are those risks higher? Couples split even when they don't do any named sexual variation. Also in a cuck, swinger, BDSM or any variety are both in it for themselves or to please a partner, often the latter will later be cause for a split in the relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would probably depend on how strong a relationship the couple has and weather they can have fun on here but be able to leave it at that. If the fun starts to take over the relationship then there is going to be problems ie one part of couple may leave for someone they've met on here. I imagine it has happened a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy"
'every couple' Really? I think the truth is that the vast majority of couples who swing have solid, loving relationships and there's zero risk of 'love blossoming' with anyone else. |
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By *eldaziCouple
over a year ago
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If your relationship is weak then you will split up - it's as simple as that. If you have a strong relationship and you are able to be honest with each other then sex is just good fun. You're not falling in love, you're having fun with sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your relationship is weak then you will split up - it's as simple as that. If you have a strong relationship and you are able to be honest with each other then sex is just good fun. You're not falling in love, you're having fun with sex."
Put way better than the way we said it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy
'every couple' Really? I think the truth is that the vast majority of couples who swing have solid, loving relationships and there's zero risk of 'love blossoming' with anyone else."
aye..but not all solid loving relationships last forever..except in fairy stories and Hollywood movies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think my wife really fancied this one guy, she is usually shy/reserved but when she used to see this guy she'd jump on top and go for it. She never admitted it tho. If you agree to do it then yes it's a risk, but ain't that part of the thrill? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I have actually lost a girlfriend to cuckolding (who then subsequently married and had kids by him) and a hotwife to a BBC. The thrill still excites me though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think my wife really fancied this one guy, she is usually shy/reserved but when she used to see this guy she'd jump on top and go for it. She never admitted it tho. If you agree to do it then yes it's a risk, but ain't that part of the thrill?"
I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy"
True as people who know me know my husband left me for a single women we used to meet |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy
True as people who know me know my husband left me for a single women we used to meet"
But didn't you also say your relationship was on the rocks anyway? even to the point you didn't have sex?
( sorry in advance if this wasn't you who said it ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy
True as people who know me know my husband left me for a single women we used to meet"
Don't want to sound patronising but that has touched me,
V xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy
True as people who know me know my husband left me for a single women we used to meet
But didn't you also say your relationship was on the rocks anyway? even to the point you didn't have sex?
( sorry in advance if this wasn't you who said it )"
Yes that was me, its kind of long winded and complicated so I'll keep it minimal lol
Basically I was to fat for him so he stopped having sex for me but we used to meet together as it was easier for him to find meets with me than as a single guy, though we never had sex together on meets, we arranged a meet with a woman once but once he got to know her he meet her on his own and eventually left me
I never said we were loves greatest dream I just stated he left me for a woman we met through swinging I'm also not suggesting other guys in relationships will do the same |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy
True as people who know me know my husband left me for a single women we used to meet
But didn't you also say your relationship was on the rocks anyway? even to the point you didn't have sex?
( sorry in advance if this wasn't you who said it )
Yes that was me, its kind of long winded and complicated so I'll keep it minimal lol
Basically I was to fat for him so he stopped having sex for me but we used to meet together as it was easier for him to find meets with me than as a single guy, though we never had sex together on meets, we arranged a meet with a woman once but once he got to know her he meet her on his own and eventually left me
I never said we were loves greatest dream I just stated he left me for a woman we met through swinging I'm also not suggesting other guys in relationships will do the same "
Ah yes remember now.
I think the point I was trying to make though is, if the relationship wasn't strong enough, swinging will probably break it.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's all about 2 lines basically.....your normal relationship line and then seeing swinging for what it is line. Once you cross that 2nd line it will always get messy.
Believe it or not, 'cuckolding' and related search phrases is the 2nd most popular sex related search performed on Google.
So, it's fair to assume, this kink is much much bigger than we all imagine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think every couple in the swinging world is at risk with losing there partner to somebody else..? love can blossom anytime during intimacy
'every couple' Really? I think the truth is that the vast majority of couples who swing have solid, loving relationships and there's zero risk of 'love blossoming' with anyone else."
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"It's all about 2 lines basically.....your normal relationship line and then seeing swinging for what it is line. Once you cross that 2nd line it will always get messy.
Believe it or not, 'cuckolding' and related search phrases is the 2nd most popular sex related search performed on Google.
So, it's fair to assume, this kink is much much bigger than we all imagine!"
And we still can't seem to get a cuckold room in chat. |
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There's a big difference between those who talk and enjoy cuckold porn and those who live it as a lifestyle.
I think that is where the lines lies. For us swinging is fun. When the night is over we are back to just us two in a monogamous relationship.
However some live it 24/7. And if you are living cuckoldry 24/7 and involving emotional play. Then of course the risks are higher. But the numbers of people who 'enjoy' heartbreak and being taken to the point of regret by their partner is I'd imagine much more limited than those who just enjoy their partner describing hot sex with someone else and then jump on their partner to finish an enjoyable tease together as a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a number of contributers have commented - every case is different dependent both on the strength of your mattaige ans what you seek from the cuckold component - we can only comment on our own experience / position but hope it offers some interest and insight.
For us cuckoldery is not a casual sidebar to our marriage but instead an integral and important part of it though equally it is not a whole of life thing. We are very loving, strong and secure in our own marriage - but equally I have "relationships with my boyfriend's" rather than "casual swinging with bulls" - albeit in fact there is no boyfriend right at the moment (hence our current search) - Importantly, although my relationships with boyfriends need to be based around sex (rather than the love which is the bedrock of our marriage) - for that sex to offer what I really want and need (and my hubby knows I deserve) it needs to be somthing more than meeting for casual swinging as it were - chemistry, a social side, conversation and humour etc and even a touch of romance all set the tone for the level of intimacy that puts me in the right place to truly gain the most sexual pleasure - it also reminds my lovely hubby that whilst I love him so that does not accord him any rights as my main sexual partner - and he is the first to admit that this is right and proper for our marriage (of course for many couples this would not ait well at all). So in practice when my chosen boyfriend visits us at home then he becomes "the man of the house" whilst me going out on dates (something we originally thought would not be an acceptable option) is absolutely a matter of life (and typically that might mean dinner and back to his place with my hubby as taxi service). Certainly during dates both my hubby and I seem to naturally realise and accept that he will be sidelines personally and intimately rather than just sexually.
Hopefully from that you'll see that in our case the boundaries of intimacy have been opened up as a matter of course - yet we have never found any sense of risk of this splitting our relationship in favour of a boyfriend in anyway. We are always at pains to explain this balance to anyone who may be interested to meet us and tend to look for those with the maturity confidence and evidence of other life focusses, meaning they are less likely to grab at this as their main relationship. Although my hubby is sidelinwd at such times he is always included also ... Whether because he is present and acknowledged on the fringes or even just kept up to date with the odd text - We also make a real - almost ritualistic - point of formal reconciliatipn within our marriage after I have spent time with my boyfriend.
Clearly this approach could not possibly work for some but hopefully it illustrates that it is more probably the strength of the marriage than the presence of intimacy between wife and boyfriend that influences any split that might occur
We hope of some interest L ans C x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very interesting well thought out response. Thanks for posting.
Maybe if one of the three People involved in the situation feels like they are becoming to emotionally attached then they should knock the situation on the head.Before things become to complicated. |
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"As a number of contributers have commented - every case is different dependent both on the strength of your mattaige ans what you seek from the cuckold component - we can only comment on our own experience / position but hope it offers some interest and insight.
For us cuckoldery is not a casual sidebar to our marriage but instead an integral and important part of it though equally it is not a whole of life thing. We are very loving, strong and secure in our own marriage - but equally I have "relationships with my boyfriend's" rather than "casual swinging with bulls" - albeit in fact there is no boyfriend right at the moment (hence our current search) - Importantly, although my relationships with boyfriends need to be based around sex (rather than the love which is the bedrock of our marriage) - for that sex to offer what I really want and need (and my hubby knows I deserve) it needs to be somthing more than meeting for casual swinging as it were - chemistry, a social side, conversation and humour etc and even a touch of romance all set the tone for the level of intimacy that puts me in the right place to truly gain the most sexual pleasure - it also reminds my lovely hubby that whilst I love him so that does not accord him any rights as my main sexual partner - and he is the first to admit that this is right and proper for our marriage (of course for many couples this would not ait well at all). So in practice when my chosen boyfriend visits us at home then he becomes "the man of the house" whilst me going out on dates (something we originally thought would not be an acceptable option) is absolutely a matter of life (and typically that might mean dinner and back to his place with my hubby as taxi service). Certainly during dates both my hubby and I seem to naturally realise and accept that he will be sidelines personally and intimately rather than just sexually.
Hopefully from that you'll see that in our case the boundaries of intimacy have been opened up as a matter of course - yet we have never found any sense of risk of this splitting our relationship in favour of a boyfriend in anyway. We are always at pains to explain this balance to anyone who may be interested to meet us and tend to look for those with the maturity confidence and evidence of other life focusses, meaning they are less likely to grab at this as their main relationship. Although my hubby is sidelinwd at such times he is always included also ... Whether because he is present and acknowledged on the fringes or even just kept up to date with the odd text - We also make a real - almost ritualistic - point of formal reconciliatipn within our marriage after I have spent time with my boyfriend.
Clearly this approach could not possibly work for some but hopefully it illustrates that it is more probably the strength of the marriage than the presence of intimacy between wife and boyfriend that influences any split that might occur
We hope of some interest L ans C x"
Extremely well out and explained, thank you. With out previous regular this is what we were wanting to explore however, sadly, he didn't understand the dynamics of it all and how we were as a couple. |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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I think the point I was trying to make though is, if the relationship wasn't strong enough, swinging will probably break it. "
This is the point. 100%. Swinging is about shared experiences, not about individual fantasies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a number of contributers have commented - every case is different dependent both on the strength of your mattaige ans what you seek from the cuckold component - we can only comment on our own experience / position but hope it offers some interest and insight.
For us cuckoldery is not a casual sidebar to our marriage but instead an integral and important part of it though equally it is not a whole of life thing. We are very loving, strong and secure in our own marriage - but equally I have "relationships with my boyfriend's" rather than "casual swinging with bulls" - albeit in fact there is no boyfriend right at the moment (hence our current search) - Importantly, although my relationships with boyfriends need to be based around sex (rather than the love which is the bedrock of our marriage) - for that sex to offer what I really want and need (and my hubby knows I deserve) it needs to be somthing more than meeting for casual swinging as it were - chemistry, a social side, conversation and humour etc and even a touch of romance all set the tone for the level of intimacy that puts me in the right place to truly gain the most sexual pleasure - it also reminds my lovely hubby that whilst I love him so that does not accord him any rights as my main sexual partner - and he is the first to admit that this is right and proper for our marriage (of course for many couples this would not ait well at all). So in practice when my chosen boyfriend visits us at home then he becomes "the man of the house" whilst me going out on dates (something we originally thought would not be an acceptable option) is absolutely a matter of life (and typically that might mean dinner and back to his place with my hubby as taxi service). Certainly during dates both my hubby and I seem to naturally realise and accept that he will be sidelines personally and intimately rather than just sexually.
Hopefully from that you'll see that in our case the boundaries of intimacy have been opened up as a matter of course - yet we have never found any sense of risk of this splitting our relationship in favour of a boyfriend in anyway. We are always at pains to explain this balance to anyone who may be interested to meet us and tend to look for those with the maturity confidence and evidence of other life focusses, meaning they are less likely to grab at this as their main relationship. Although my hubby is sidelinwd at such times he is always included also ... Whether because he is present and acknowledged on the fringes or even just kept up to date with the odd text - We also make a real - almost ritualistic - point of formal reconciliatipn within our marriage after I have spent time with my boyfriend.
Clearly this approach could not possibly work for some but hopefully it illustrates that it is more probably the strength of the marriage than the presence of intimacy between wife and boyfriend that influences any split that might occur
We hope of some interest L ans C x"
Very well explained...and if in such a relationship and reach this level.....the intensity is immense..
Very critical is respecting the couples need space to re kindle. |
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