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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Unsurprisingly compliments get passed around a lot on here, particularly toward women, but how many people distinguish between complimentary words, I mean are they all equally good or do they have varying degrees of complimentary value? For example, I'd usually say 'pretty' is a lower level of good-looking than 'beautiful', which would be the apex of physical attractiveness, but some faces the word pretty just seems to fit better, like it describes a more fresh faced, girly kind of appeal, rather than beautiful which is more mature and womanly, a bit like if a woman said she met a 'cute' guy I'd imagine he was young and boyish looking, whereas a 'handsome' man would be a more chiselled, square jawed and rugged look.

Overthinking? Maybe, but I like to be precise when telling a woman why she appeals to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

...and yes of course, a woman can be appealing in more than just her good looks, but this thread was inspired by peoples faces.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No compliments mean anything to me on here if a guy mails me with compliments I know its just bull shit, I'd sooner them just be honest and say you'll do rather than tell me I'm gorgeous and have a great body when quite clearly I'm not and I don't

I'm a realist

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I hear stunning a fair bit, and gorgeous, both of which are absolutely ridiculous when applied to me.

Attractive to some? Yes, maybe. Pretty? Perhaps, to some beholders.

Stunning? Only if I hit them with a frying pan.

Gorgeous? No. Patent "I'm saying what I think you want to hear" bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use.

and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks

starts with 'ok looking'

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I get a lot of messages saying I am stunning and they love my pics, which I take with a pinch of salt as my only public pic is of my back. Now I do think I have a particularly good looking back, but stunning? I doubt it. Therefore I don't believe any compliments I receive on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you are overthinking things for on here....most will disregard any compliments anyway, and those that don't probably aren't that bothered what words you use...they will lap up any compliment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unsurprisingly compliments get passed around a lot on here, particularly toward women, but how many people distinguish between complimentary words, I mean are they all equally good or do they have varying degrees of complimentary value? For example, I'd usually say 'pretty' is a lower level of good-looking than 'beautiful', which would be the apex of physical attractiveness, but some faces the word pretty just seems to fit better, like it describes a more fresh faced, girly kind of appeal, rather than beautiful which is more mature and womanly, a bit like if a woman said she met a 'cute' guy I'd imagine he was young and boyish looking, whereas a 'handsome' man would be a more chiselled, square jawed and rugged look.

Overthinking? Maybe, but I like to be precise when telling a woman why she appeals to me

I agree with this

There are lots and lots of compliments thrown around in here as you say, they're all nice to hear (or rather read) I associate them all with slightly different meanings too so a variation is nice.

I'm never really sure about the 'girl next door look'. I've never had hot neighbours though.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

There are so many compliment the person above threads that compliments do get bandied around a lot.

I accept pretty. My face is one of those that pretty fits better than beautiful. However, I know that to a handful of people I look beautiful.

I have spent the last 18 months learning to accept compliments. Anything genuinely given should be accepted with grace.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use.

and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks

starts with 'ok looking'

If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me.

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

The words used to describe faces are as much about the descriptor as the descriptee. What I consider pretty/beautiful/cute etc. is entirely down to my own aesthetic judgement so the words I choose are accurate only in my own perception. I assume the same in others and also have a healthy dose of cynicism as to why they may be using them. Someone I don't know messaging me out of the blue to tell me I'm pretty or whatever carries less weight than someone I know or have been chatting to telling me the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use.

and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks

starts with 'ok looking'

If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me."

Some people don't find giving compliments easy, I'm one of them

if I found a guy drop dead gorgeous the best he would get out of me is your OK, cause I just don't find expressing my feelings easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What does good looking mean them

I never get told I'm pretty, cute, gorgeous etc but I get told on a regular basis, in real life, I'm a good looking woman

Usually followed by where are you from

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The words used to describe faces are as much about the descriptor as the descriptee. What I consider pretty/beautiful/cute etc. is entirely down to my own aesthetic judgement so the words I choose are accurate only in my own perception. I assume the same in others and also have a healthy dose of cynicism as to why they may be using them. Someone I don't know messaging me out of the blue to tell me I'm pretty or whatever carries less weight than someone I know or have been chatting to telling me the same thing."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're thinking too much.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think your current avatar is beautiful. It is my favourite.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"You're thinking too much."

this to a point..

can see why certain terminology may be deemed spot on and appropriate however on such a site as this puddings are over egged daily..

go with how you see it..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use.

and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks

starts with 'ok looking'

If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me."

Thats my way of saying 'i dont find you attractive, but your not ugly'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only word I dont like to use or receive is the word nice. To be a nice guy, in my experience is indicator your in the dreaded friend zone!

Some words I find inappropriate almost for example would you describe a 45 year old woman as cute? Id say sexy, in control ect rather than cute

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use.

and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks

starts with 'ok looking'

If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me.

Thats my way of saying 'i dont find you attractive, but your not ugly' "

I use cute for that situation, to me cute means not ugly but not my type

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

just to clarify..

when getting a response of 'fuck off you ugly munter' that's not someone teasing..?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I never quite know what to say when guys I do find attractive send me their face pic.

Saying nothing is a bit pants. Saying whoa, you're hot sounds daft.

Thanks for the pic, I'm heartened to see you don't have 2 heads?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Compliments said in person to my face are more credible to me. You can see in the person's eyes if they are being truthful. I have had women and children tell me I'm pretty with no make up. Compliments don't swell my head or boost my ego,it's nice to get genuine ones but I don't crave them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you."

Wow what a lovely post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats my way of saying 'i dont find you attractive, but your not ugly'

I use cute for that situation, to me cute means not ugly but not my type"

Although its part of my username, its a general comment i get..

down to a rounded face, big eyes and dimples i think .. i dont mind the term, can understand why some might not like it though.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I tend to disregard compliments on here... especially the OMG you are beautiful/stunning/gorgeous ones - all my profile shows is my back and arse, for all they know I might have a face like a well melted wellie boot...

Away from fab, I accept genuine compliments, but do find it hard... I was the plain girl growing up who never got dates or interest from boys... and still find it odd that anyone would be interested.

But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you.

Wow what a lovely post. "

agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Basically seems that something along the lines of...." Yeah, OK. you'll do, grab yer coat then, you've pulled." Might actually be the best approach?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you."

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Basically seems that something along the lines of...." Yeah, OK. you'll do, grab yer coat then, you've pulled." Might actually be the best approach?"

With a wink, yes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't throw compliments about for the sake of it. If I find a guy/woman gorgeous I will say. It's not just empty words.

I personally do not find myself attractive whatsoever but Hex does and tbh it's his view of me that matters the most. If someone here tells me (insert whatever compliment) then I try to accept it, even if I think it is a load of crap, and say thank you.

But beauty is in the eye of the beholder. While you may not think yourself beautiful/hot/gorgeous/whatever else, someone else will.

Hids

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

One of the "compliments" I believed most readily, which someone on a site similar to this wrote on seeing my face photo was that it was a pleasant surprise and I was better than he expected.

We're still friends, several years on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would never demean myself by giving a false compliment whether on or away from Fab.

I completely understand why women on here have become hardened to recieving compliments, clearly many are not sincere. That though is not my concern.

The integrity of my compliments is very important to me, I therefore always choose my words carefully. Pretty is very different to beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you.

Having met you Lickety, your face Exudes warmth, and freindlyness,your smile is infectious, you have a beautiful, memorable face! I think I told you as much, in a round about way.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If I get a compliment I say thank you for the compliment. I don't over think the compliment I take it as it is.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you.

Having met you Lickety, your face Exudes warmth, and freindlyness,your smile is infectious, you have a beautiful, memorable face! I think I told you as much, in a round about way.

Agree with this. My first veri for Lickety commented on her beautiful face and I meant it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning."

I think everyone's scale is a bit different then, I always think of 'beautiful' as being the epitome - saying more than gorgeous or stunning, but that could be because I think they as compliments are wrapped up more with an element of sexual attraction. But beautiful for me means literally pleasing to my senses...so I can appreciate someone or something as aesthetically beautiful without having any attraction to them whatsoever.

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By *onbons_xxMan over a year ago

Bolton

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not many people are beautiful, pretty or attractive maybe. I like to be told I look nice when I meet someone.

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By *uby0000Woman over a year ago

hertfordshire

I prefer if they say they find me attractive and wonder if we would get on after reading my profile

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you.

Having met you Lickety, your face Exudes warmth, and freindlyness,your smile is infectious, you have a beautiful, memorable face! I think I told you as much, in a round about way.

Agree with this. My first veri for Lickety commented on her beautiful face and I meant it."

Thank you both of you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No compliments mean anything to me on here if a guy mails me with compliments I know its just bull shit, I'd sooner them just be honest and say you'll do rather than tell me I'm gorgeous and have a great body when quite clearly I'm not and I don't

I'm a realist

"
don't agree with this at all , you can't tell someone what they do or do not find attractive , after all your never going to be attracted to yourself , and why would any one say those things on here if they didn't find you sexually appealing or pretty Ect , people won't sleep with people they don't fancy , think your selling yourself short Hun and also to a degree judging people in the assumption there "bull shitting " x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning.

I pretty much (but not beautifully much

) agree, sometimes I can refer to a woman as stunning and in my way that means I really do think she's something VERY special in terms of her sexual appeal, but beautiful really is the very top of the measuring stick - it means there's something about her I'd compare to flower petals, green grass, wind through the tree leaves and rays of sunshine, there's a strong emotional engagement in that word, something that crackles with positive energy, excitement, inspiration and wonder.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never believe a compliment a guy says until after ive slept with him because then they usually tell the truth once theyve had what they wanted!

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By *ibanditMan over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm Scottish, so if I do deign to pay a compliment, you'd better take it serious!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning.

I pretty much (but not beautifully much

This is positively beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a number of women in the public eye who to my eye are not what one would call beautiful, yet overall they look stunningly attractive, eg Darryl Hannah.

Then there are the supposed "beautiful" ones like Princess Diana, who for very "good" photo there are many where she looks shite, not to mention her character.

Beauty in the eye of the beholder and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm Scottish, so if I do deign to pay a compliment, you'd better take it serious!"

Me too

Hids

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning.

I pretty much (but not beautifully much

This is positively beautiful."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

I'm a realist

Well believe me or not but you do have a pretty good body, judging by your profile pics anyway. So maybe you're not being the realist you think you are.

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Overthinking? Maybe, but I like to be precise when telling a woman why she appeals to me

I get gorgeous and stunning all the time on here, which is laughable without face pics!

I would agree that compliments have varying degrees though. I'd rather be beautiful than pretty (but i'll take pretty thanks very much)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm Scottish, so if I do deign to pay a compliment, you'd better take it serious!

Me too

Hids"

Me three lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one can pass an opinion on how i look unless they have met me but different people see different things,

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By *nleashedCrakenMan over a year ago

Widnes

"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer.

Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present.

As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for.

And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women.

We have to move past beauty being just one type of look.

The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26?

So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We get lots of complements but can not get a meet how's that work lol

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