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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually thought they where all not a true reflection on how people play but the very extreme. But yes agree with you he was basically saying that the bigger male or female or not sexy or good looking. |
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over a year ago
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Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
As for the programme was ok nothing most of us don't know about anyway, actually thought it was a great advert for swinging in a way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense. |
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense.
Agreed. "
Does that not apply to most people insecurity? He is so far up himself, few on here though so we cant judge... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
As for the programme was ok nothing most of us don't know about anyway, actually thought it was a great advert for swinging in a way "
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By (user no longer on site)
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It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact."
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about. |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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He came across as a twat. A big part of swinging for me is embracing differences. Whether aesthetic or sexual preference, the fact it's not judgemental.
Man so glad I didn't see this programme before I decided to give swinging a bash
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense."
Yes, totally agree. Was far better than anyone had any right to expect really. |
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"Actually thought they where all not a true reflection on how people play but the very extreme. But yes agree with you he was basically saying that the bigger male or female or not sexy or good looking. "
So?
Is his opinion not valid? Are you, somehow, better and judgemental?
Oh honestly, get a grip. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I thought it was pretty crap x"
I didn't bother watching it as these sorts of programs are usually edited in such a way to to portray the producers view / opinion / understanding of the subject rather than reflect the facts.
I think similar comments were made last year about 'Benefits street' or something like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about."
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
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By (user no longer on site)
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These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually thought they where all not a true reflection on how people play but the very extreme. But yes agree with you he was basically saying that the bigger male or female or not sexy or good looking.
So?
Is his opinion not valid? Are you, somehow, better and judgemental?
Oh honestly, get a grip."
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
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Welcome to Fabswingers forums, you must be new here!
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
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It was a documentary about exclusive sex parties, though. Rather than 'the scene'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
Welcome to Fabswingers forums, you must be new here!
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That actually made me laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about."
If you re-read my post, my comments are about the documentary, NOT the parties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense."
Agreed, but I like the way it may change the perception of swinging to become socially acceptable within the wider society
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
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I'm not sure what you mean about the scene? There are those who only play privately, those who like clubs, those who go dogging etc etc. 'The scene' comes in all shapes and sizes. Ch 4 would have to dedicate a whole evening of viewing to cram it all in. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I really don't understand the whole 'swingers are open minded and not judgemental' bullshit.
They bloody well aren't!
(Ok... 'some' aren't.)"
Hehe, exactly. Sexually open minded, yes. As for the rest, swingers are just like anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
It was a documentary about exclusive sex parties, though. Rather than 'the scene'."
No it was called 'Sex Party Secrets' not 'Laid in Chelsea'. It didn't have to take the approach it did.
I didn't like it. Others did. Vive la différence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense."
We think the older guy shagging the youngest fellas wife exclusively then asked the question "where do you want this to go" replied "i want her to leave him to be with me" has put the single male back to the stoneage...lol and he is meant to be a swinger!!! gotta be hard enough without muckle heads that just do not understand the game  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense.
Agreed, but I like the way it may change the perception of swinging to become socially acceptable within the wider society
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+1 this ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I liked the programme and would happily attend the parties if selected.
A lot of things mentioned were situations me and my partner can relate to as we've been to clubs/private parties.
You have to remember it's a documentary about Sex Parties not swinging in general. That would take a series to cover not just one show.
Don't have a problem with the exclusivity side of it. It's what they want to do with their business and they are successful in doing so.
I've been rejected from attending certain private parties organised through Fabs. Does it bother me? No. I move on and seek other opportunities.
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense.
Agreed, but I like the way it may change the perception of swinging to become socially acceptable within the wider society
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+1 this ! "
Here here |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
It was a documentary about exclusive sex parties, though. Rather than 'the scene'.
No it was called 'Sex Party Secrets' not 'Laid in Chelsea'. It didn't have to take the approach it did.
I didn't like it. Others did. Vive la différence. "
'About the programme:
This frank documentary enters the hidden world of the UK's 'sexual elite', meeting the meticulously vetted guests fulfilling their fantasies at exclusive sex parties.'
That's how Channel Four described the programme. It seems you wanted the programme to be about something other than that which the programme makers advertised. |
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
It was a documentary about exclusive sex parties, though. Rather than 'the scene'.
No it was called 'Sex Party Secrets' not 'Laid in Chelsea'. It didn't have to take the approach it did.
I didn't like it. Others did. Vive la différence.
'About the programme:
This frank documentary enters the hidden world of the UK's 'sexual elite', meeting the meticulously vetted guests fulfilling their fantasies at exclusive sex parties.'
That's how Channel Four described the programme. It seems you wanted the programme to be about something other than that which the programme makers advertised."
Our thoughts exactly. Having attend some high end parties in London we felt It portrayed these events perfectly for what they are. They are not bring a bottle house soirées,(which we also love) these are well organised, well hosted very private affairs. And because the organisers put so much effort it to set them up why shouldn't they hand pick who the feel are hot or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought it was a very good attempt by C4 to capture and portray many aspects of a 'secret sex party' in one hour.
They could have chosen to try and portray the scene as seedy, uneducated, lowlife or any other negative description you care to add. They didn't.
I think it was very accurate. People invariably invite people they like to their parties. This just happened to be stereotypical physically attractive people trying to surround themselves with similar others.
Anyone who suggests this scene isn't judgemental hasn't been on the forums very long.
Some of the comments on these threads do leave me wondering whether jealousy is playing it's part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What was with the masks,how many of us go round in those type of masks anyway."
How would you suggest they interview people who don't want to reveal their identity? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What was with the masks,how many of us go round in those type of masks anyway.
How would you suggest they interview people who don't want to reveal their identity? "
They could of pixalated them instead of way out masks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Missed it, forgot it was on, lol, but no doubt it will be repeated umpteen times so i'll catch it next time. "
It's on 4oD, i'm watching it now. Bit boring so far tbh. |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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"Don't think we'll bother to watch it judging by what's been said on here it sounds like it's parties for the pretty people and not real swinging with real people ! "
Why aren't they real people? |
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I honestly thought it was a load of balls
Bit ott for me but like the idea of a big sex orgy in Ibiza......not bothered about all the lavish expensive drinks and food
But we all have our own opinions and I doubt we would ever get chosen for something like that plus I wouldn't pay their prices |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
I'm not sure what you mean about the scene? There are those who only play privately, those who like clubs, those who go dogging etc etc. 'The scene' comes in all shapes and sizes. Ch 4 would have to dedicate a whole evening of viewing to cram it all in."
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It was too dark at times and too censored, wasnt enough vagina's on show, how you supposed to knock one out to that?
Also the wind was blwoing so my reception was even worse than normal, I got bored and went to bed just as it said 'so n so Bachelor'.
That guy who went jogging at like 2am also got on my tits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought it was a very good attempt by C4 to capture and portray many aspects of a 'secret sex party' in one hour.
They could have chosen to try and portray the scene as seedy, uneducated, lowlife or any other negative description you care to add. They didn't.
I think it was very accurate. People invariably invite people they like to their parties. This just happened to be stereotypical physically attractive people trying to surround themselves with similar others.
Anyone who suggests this scene isn't judgemental hasn't been on the forums very long.
Some of the comments on these threads do leave me wondering whether jealousy is playing it's part."
Especially the last sentence! |
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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It was interesting to watch how many of the interviewees admitted to being from broken relationships, partly based on the sexual differences within their relationships. Overall, it was an okay program.
I'm not sure what the OP meant about Chris Reynolds-Gordon being a tw*t, to us he came across as someone who understands his market, knows how to organise a party and how to make money doing so. -Mr. |
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I knew people would bitch aboutvthe exclusive nature of the parties.
I know I'd never get in to one but it doesn't upset me that they happen. That's just one aspect of it.
It was interesting to see some of the people admit to not wanting a relationship with other swingers and that guy admitting he wanted his fuck buddy's leave her husband. I don't think it shows them as broken, just that they have the same emotional issues as not swingers and that they are human.
The young guy was a bit of a knob 'I'm just lucky to have friends that lend me their £30m house!' but it works for him. If you don't like him,don't go to one of his parties.
Overall it was what I expectwd from a c4 documentary. Even some of the questions asked by the interviewer showed the bias they wanted to put on it. |
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"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
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Open legged maybe but not open minded  |
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"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded ! "
Isn't that a contradiction of itself?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
Isn't that a contradiction of itself?
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Thats just being pedantic. |
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We have yet to go to a large party or a club, up to now we've been worried they'd be packed full of people we didn't find attractive.
Now we realise we'd be the ones everyone else wouldn't find attractive!!
Mask? Off to find a bloody big paper bag!
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"Having read the previous thread on this we found the level of jealousy, bitterness etc quite shocking considering this is a swinging site and people are supposed to be open minded !
Isn't that a contradiction of itself?
Thats just being pedantic. "
What does 'Pedantic' mean?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What was with the masks,how many of us go round in those type of masks anyway.
How would you suggest they interview people who don't want to reveal their identity? They could of pixalated them instead of way out masks."
The masks looked pretty didn't they? A more elegant way of concealing identity, perhaps that was the idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoyed it for what it was, a Ch4 documentary, I didn't particularly think about it in depth.
We mainly attend private parties, I guess there can be an exclusive element, but the organisers have the right to choose who they in relation to the mix of people attending |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't understand the whole 'swingers are open minded and not judgemental' bullshit.
They bloody well aren't!
(Ok... 'some' aren't.)"
Swingers can be very very judgemental you only have to read some profiles here.. Read the forums to see that .. There is not a lot of difference . Sure some think the name swinger makes them cool .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As usual lots of people on the programme lied and exaggerated, but it was informative in how to get around licensing and planning permission laws, eg its a friends house! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What were people thoughts? Did anyone else find the young guy to be a complete TWAT! LOL"
There are a lot of insecure people but to hid it behind arrogance is twattish!! He did come across as a bellend. Not because he was selective about people who came to his parties.
I think the lady in Ibiza said something spot on "It is the lies that hurt people". |
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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago
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Watching it a 2nd time to get a better understanding of what they're into.
There were few really genuine people on there, the hosts were into making money from their "clients" hiking the prices yet borrowing houses from friends yo hist their events and selling it as exclusive "for every 100 that asked to come to our parties over 2000 were told no" one admitted that he us a bankrupt ex millionaire.
Then there were those who were snobs as though anyone over 40 was ugly and uninteresting.
There were a lot of cut glass accents, middle class young gym bunnies and an underlying theme of wealth and privilege.
Not a really representative programme of swinging or the lives of swingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Watching it a 2nd time to get a better understanding of what they're into.
There were few really genuine people on there, the hosts were into making money from their "clients" hiking the prices yet borrowing houses from friends yo hist their events and selling it as exclusive "for every 100 that asked to come to our parties over 2000 were told no" one admitted that he us a bankrupt ex millionaire.
Then there were those who were snobs as though anyone over 40 was ugly and uninteresting.
There were a lot of cut glass accents, middle class young gym bunnies and an underlying theme of wealth and privilege.
Not a really representative programme of swinging or the lives of swingers"
That's because it wasn't about swingers ! |
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By *W69Couple
over a year ago
Bournemouth |
This documentary from the perspective of Channel 4 has in our opinion delivered against it's program synopsis as previously mentioned by a poster above;
"This frank documentary enters the hidden world of the UK's 'sexual elite', meeting the meticulously vetted guests fulfilling their fantasies at exclusive sex parties"
Perhaps some of the problems people have with the reportage style of this style documentary and the many similar threads currently active on the forum are that people are trying to identify "common ground" with their lives, parties and "swinging activities". This was not the aim of the production team at Channel 4, whose clear objective was to create headlines about it and generate viewing/controversy. Which clearly they have succeeded in doing.
In our opinion, although perhaps certain aspects and interviews could of been less biased and the editing not so skewed it was primarily about those who want to attend parties labelled as "elitist" and the freedom of the organisers to choose who they want to attend.
Not directly related to the program however what tickled us most was the amount of spelling mistakes and grammar used by the Ibiza party organisers on their site advertising the parties, plus broken links and dead pages.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I thought it was a very good attempt by C4 to capture and portray many aspects of a 'secret sex party' in one hour.
They could have chosen to try and portray the scene as seedy, uneducated, lowlife or any other negative description you care to add. They didn't.
I think it was very accurate. People invariably invite people they like to their parties. This just happened to be stereotypical physically attractive people trying to surround themselves with similar others.
Anyone who suggests this scene isn't judgemental hasn't been on the forums very long.
Some of the comments on these threads do leave me wondering whether jealousy is playing it's part."
I thought the same as you and I did think I was watching a different programme to the people on the other thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What was the deal with that guy who was in love with the married woman? Didn't get that bit, was he sad or happy about it? I felt sorry for him but not sure i should. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was not as bad (or vilifying) as it could if been, but it was not what I would call a good documentary. In fact it was laughable in parts.
For all the 'open mindedness' in swinging mentioned above, it was not something which shone through in that documentary - quite the opposite in fact.
These were private parties. The people who run them are allowed to set their own criteria. It's then up to others to decide if they want to attend. I struggle to see what the fuss is about.
I do not see it as a fair and balanced view of the scene, something I would expect from a documentary.
It was a documentary about exclusive sex parties, though. Rather than 'the scene'.
No it was called 'Sex Party Secrets' not 'Laid in Chelsea'. It didn't have to take the approach it did.
I didn't like it. Others did. Vive la différence.
'About the programme:
This frank documentary enters the hidden world of the UK's 'sexual elite', meeting the meticulously vetted guests fulfilling their fantasies at exclusive sex parties.'
That's how Channel Four described the programme. It seems you wanted the programme to be about something other than that which the programme makers advertised."
Simple question....what is the criteria for "elite" ? |
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over a year ago
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"What was the deal with that guy who was in love with the married woman? Didn't get that bit, was he sad or happy about it? I felt sorry for him but not sure i should."
hes a single male wanting more obviously with the comment " i want her to leave him for me" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been to parties particularly non swinging ones that have ranged from a bottle of take out and pickled egg from the pub and all turn up on the common to watch the sunrise, to tuxedo wearing fully catered events and everything in the middle. can't say I favour one style over the other, though impromptu parties tend to only happen when everyone wants one to, so often they are great.
Life would be dull without variety
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over a year ago
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"What was the deal with that guy who was in love with the married woman? Didn't get that bit, was he sad or happy about it? I felt sorry for him but not sure i should.
hes a single male wanting more obviously with the comment " i want her to leave him for me" "
Thanks, didn't hear him say that bit. Aw. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite unfair and abusive to label a member on here a Twat OP. "
Agreed
As a event organiser some of the stuff we have to put up turns us greyer everyday which probably is why we can't get into these exclusive parties.
Perhaps we should stop hosting, get out more hair dye and put fake ages on here then we may stand a chance!
A few have moaned about the exclusivity of these parties, that's what they are "exclusive" it's a bit like moaning it's not fair some people drive Bentleys lol get over it xx |
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over a year ago
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"What was the deal with that guy who was in love with the married woman? Didn't get that bit, was he sad or happy about it? I felt sorry for him but not sure i should.
hes a single male wanting more obviously with the comment " i want her to leave him for me"
Thanks, didn't hear him say that bit. Aw."
yeah he said it towards the end |
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over a year ago
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"At least the guy didn't give up and sign on when he lost the lot, good on him !
It is the opposite end of channel 4's "Dogging Stories" which aired a while ago"
Yup. He takes care of his body looks good and made something of himself after suffering a few knocks along the way. Yet people are abusing him on here.
Speaks volumes.
Hope he carries on his success.
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"At least the guy didn't give up and sign on when he lost the lot, good on him !
It is the opposite end of channel 4's "Dogging Stories" which aired a while ago
Yup. He takes care of his body looks good and made something of himself after suffering a few knocks along the way. Yet people are abusing him on here.
Speaks volumes.
Hope he carries on his success.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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He was very egotistic, the kind of host we would avoid even if we were invited! Being confident and looking after your body is one thing, putting himself on a pedastal is another thing all together! |
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over a year ago
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I didn't like chris, the young guy with the beard, I didn't think he was attractive at all, not to me anyway, and I thought he was too serious and boring. The women wearing the masks looked good except the men all seemed to have grey hair so I was thinking they must have been quite old.
It was an interesting program though, be good to see some more like it. |
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over a year ago
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It was a specific party (sex party), upper classes have parties were they disappear and play same thing. Let's have red wine party or a beer party lol. Frame of reference, everybody, sees, believes, experiences everything based on there life experiences. The word Documentry is no longer fixed its manipulated by the producers. Watched first 20 min then switched over, found it boring. |
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"Watching it a 2nd time to get a better understanding of what they're into.
There were few really genuine people on there, the hosts were into making money from their "clients" hiking the prices yet borrowing houses from friends yo hist their events and selling it as exclusive "for every 100 that asked to come to our parties over 2000 were told no" one admitted that he us a bankrupt ex millionaire.
Then there were those who were snobs as though anyone over 40 was ugly and uninteresting.
There were a lot of cut glass accents, middle class young gym bunnies and an underlying theme of wealth and privilege.
Not a really representative programme of swinging or the lives of swingers
That's because it wasn't about swingers ! "
I thought it should have had something about baking in it. And tennis. It had nothing in it about those things! Bloody crap innit. |
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"At least the guy didn't give up and sign on when he lost the lot, good on him !
It is the opposite end of channel 4's "Dogging Stories" which aired a while ago
Yup. He takes care of his body looks good and made something of himself after suffering a few knocks along the way. Yet people are abusing him on here.
Speaks volumes.
Hope he carries on his success.
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Somewhat surprising views on here - I'm sure at least some Fabbers have been to these sort of parties at some point. However, there seems to be a lot of resentment being bandied about.
I guess that given the views expressed here most of those that HAVE attended are keeping a low profile!  |
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"What was the deal with that guy who was in love with the married woman? Didn't get that bit, was he sad or happy about it? I felt sorry for him but not sure i should.
hes a single male wanting more obviously with the comment " i want her to leave him for me"
Thanks, didn't hear him say that bit. Aw.
yeah he said it towards the end "
I probably was tired near the end, found most of the programme boring but did like that guys part. |
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By *iceduoCouple (FF)
over a year ago
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"classic singleton attitudes in evidence. "I'd never marry someone who goes to parties like this" see this time and again on fab."
i desperately hope to marry someone that goes to parties like that jen x  |
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"I didn't like chris, the young guy with the beard, I didn't think he was attractive at all, not to me anyway, and I thought he was too serious and boring. The women wearing the masks looked good except the men all seemed to have grey hair so I was thinking they must have been quite old.
It was an interesting program though, be good to see some more like it."
Oi. I have grey hair and I'm only late 30s .......like a silver fox ! Then again that's why I shave it off. |
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"What were people thoughts? Did anyone else find the young guy to be a complete TWAT! LOL"
I watched about 30 seconds of this programme. In that 30 seconds I saw a man in a mask with a long nose, a distant view of some naked people with some sexual noises and guy suggesting £20 as a fee. I decided it was all a bit twattish as well. |
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over a year ago
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"I will join one of them sex parties one day. I liked the program "
Why not go to a forum social at a club? You'd be with people you know from the forums and be able to see what goes on in a club, and see if you like it or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The dorset one is actually a good event
It looked like it might be good, not that I would go though. "
Ive been to a few select parties in my active sex life
The one I went to was a memorable night.
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"Don't think we'll bother to watch it judging by what's been said on here it sounds like it's parties for the pretty people and not real swinging with real people !
Why aren't they real people?"
Yes why?
Can hot,pretty people with good bodies and money to burn not be real swingers??
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over a year ago
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We enjoyed the progam, though we'd be too old and ugly for the Elite parties.
Good luck to all invovled.
Anything that can make people think about their attitudes to sex and realtionships etc can only be a good thing. Whether it's for you or not.
Overall, watchable and entertaining if nothing else. |
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We fell asleep that's how good we thought it was.
As mentioned it was about private parties and not swinging in general, so really of no interest to us.
We did have a laugh at matety with the mask with the long beak and thought he would do so serious damaged if he wore that while playing lol.
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"We enjoyed the progam, though we'd be too old and ugly for the Elite parties.
Good luck to all invovled.
Anything that can make people think about their attitudes to sex and realtionships etc can only be a good thing. Whether it's for you or not.
Overall, watchable and entertaining if nothing else."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been to any so not really qualified to comment but I found the masks and the fake? voices a little bit offfputting to a newbie. As others have said though, the guy with the blue hair, seemed the best one imho |
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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago
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Private parties held for profit by people who have found a gap or created one in the market, one of the guys confessed he had lost millions in property speculation, so maybe he was trying to get back some of what he had lost.
Am trying to guess why C4 actually went to the trouble of making to be honest as they usually have a hidden agenda, caught a whiff of exclusivity for a certain class or type of person who attends, middle class professionals and wealthy.
Sad part of it was the old guy who had fallen for a woman he met at a party, that's not going to end well. |
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over a year ago
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I find it fascinating it shows that you get all different types going to these parties, not just the types you seen on the dogging program, I think they should make more programes about the different types who are into swinging. |
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I thought the prog was one of there better ones and made for the audience intended, if it was about the average persons party it would have been made to look seedy and lowlife so different to their norm.
Being a better class of people they may have been concerned about being sued if they made it look sleezy.
The parties reminded me of Chrome girls parties where the person/s pays £1000 each gets picked up by a chauffer to take them to the party in a luxury car, they get a complimentary bottle of champagne and have fun with a bunch of beauties for 2 hours...totally different to the real world we live but it really happens like these parties.
Louis Theruox made a more realistic prog even though it was in the states it was more like the parties most of us are used to.
We have been to a similar party in Weybridge Surrey which was totally different to what we are used to and comfortable with but we cant say we didnt have fun. |
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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago
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"The guy in question admitted to being insecure and so all that swaggering was just bullshit. He'll still feel insecure in the morning no matter how many people he's played with.
I thought it was a decent programme. Obviously, it played on the whole exclusive angle, but there were some good points made. The woman in Ibiza made a whole heap of good sense."
and a lot of money. |
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"I thought the prog was one of there better ones and made for the audience intended, if it was about the average persons party it would have been made to look seedy and lowlife so different to their norm.
Being a better class of people they may have been concerned about being sued if they made it look sleezy.
The parties reminded me of Chrome girls parties where the person/s pays £1000 each gets picked up by a chauffer to take them to the party in a luxury car, they get a complimentary bottle of champagne and have fun with a bunch of beauties for 2 hours...totally different to the real world we live but it really happens like these parties.
Louis Theruox made a more realistic prog even though it was in the states it was more like the parties most of us are used to.
We have been to a similar party in Weybridge Surrey which was totally different to what we are used to and comfortable with but we cant say we didnt have fun."
That should have said "one of their better ones" lol |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"It was too dark at times and too censored, wasnt enough vagina's on show, how you supposed to knock one out to that?
Also the wind was blwoing so my reception was even worse than normal, I got bored and went to bed just as it said 'so n so Bachelor'.
That guy who went jogging at like 2am also got on my tits."
Running at 2 am was probably something chorus renalds Gordon had done. In Hus 20's he was gb's best male 1500m runner. |
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over a year ago
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I saw the programe and enjoyed it for what it was, not about swingong was about sex parties.
I can't understand all the bashing that goes on about it whats the problem?
So a lot of them were rich or at least well off people enjoying thier lives 
You only have one life and if you can afford it then best of luck to all of them.
I know if I was loaded I would be partying like that every weekend LoL
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over a year ago
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"Don't think we'll bother to watch it judging by what's been said on here it sounds like it's parties for the pretty people and not real swinging with real people ! "
What do you mean by 'real people', was the dogging documentary more palatable for you? |
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"Don't think we'll bother to watch it judging by what's been said on here it sounds like it's parties for the pretty people and not real swinging with real people !
What do you mean by 'real people', was the dogging documentary more palatable for you? "
Would be interested to know also what you mean by "real people" |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Just watched it
Pretty accurate of that kind of set up - I thought it was very reasonably documented, far from the dogging tales hilarity.
Did have a laugh at the pile of used condoms on the carpet! Guess swingers clubs and exclusive parties have some things in common - rich, poor or average, there are some lazy fuckers around who don't clear up after themselves!
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"Don't think we'll bother to watch it judging by what's been said on here it sounds like it's parties for the pretty people and not real swinging with real people !
What do you mean by 'real people', was the dogging documentary more palatable for you?
Would be interested to know also what you mean by "real people" "
I think they meant the average person and average party compared to parties costing £200-£500 a couple.
Having been to a party like this as guests (we didn't have to pay and wouldn't pay these silly prices lol) they are not much different apart from some think they are above the norm as usual but not much different to cheaper parties, just because it costs more it doesn't mean you get a better clientele. |
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over a year ago
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"Actually thought they where all not a true reflection on how people play but the very extreme. But yes agree with you he was basically saying that the bigger male or female or not sexy or good looking. "
It seemed genuine enough to us. We've found that swinging is no more democratic or socially blind as any other interest. The couples and singles who blather on in their profiles about being 'professional', having a 'high standard of living' etc are a small kernel of this type of swinging. Good luck to them. To each their own. We wouldn't wish to play with snobs anyway, however stereotypically attractive they may be. |
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Watched it last night with one of my partners who hasn't swung yet, it was certainly interesting the way it was presented.
I don't understand though why so many people were saying that they felt they would have to give up their lifestyle or date someone who wasn't a swinger, etc. And that they weren't looking forward to having to be monogamous. I guess I wish that more people knew about poly and how wonderful it can be. |
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"I will join one of them sex parties one day. I liked the program
Why not go to a forum social at a club? You'd be with people you know from the forums and be able to see what goes on in a club, and see if you like it or not. "
Yes good idea there, might do that one day to x. |
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I've been to clubs, been to private house parties. Not been to anything with a price tag like shown on this but what was shown was pretty accurate I thought.
House parties I've been to have had the people attending 'hand picked' by the hosts, it's their home so they can choose who they want there
Can't see how that's any different from what the younger guy is doing for the nights he runs?
Like everything in life, different ways of doing things, different things people want
Compared to some of the TV approaches to alternative lifestyles there have been, I didn't think this was too bad at all |
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