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"You love looking at pictures but they have a "very impotent element" lol couldnt resist. Nothing wrong with looking at pictures and messaging someone you find attractive AS LONG AS you have also read their profile to see if you meet with their criteria. Think thats what most do"  | |||
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"Agree with all above, but have noticed many even hiding code words within the profile to ensure that you hve studied, and taken note of each word. At times I simply want to say I contacted you because you are damned sexy, yet some would pefer that you read about their lives outside of swinging also. " i'm not dissproving your criteria, but that's your criteria... it's not everyones. some folk want to know that you have read their profile and match their criteria as what's important to them is that there is a mental as much as a physical match. no-one's insisting you read about them, but it could be to your detriment if you don't, so i guess it depends how sexy you find them as to what effort you put in. | |||
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"Agree with all above, but have noticed many even hiding code words within the profile to ensure that you hve studied, and taken note of each word. At times I simply want to say I contacted you because you are damned sexy, yet some would pefer that you read about their lives outside of swinging also. " If other single men share your attitude, is it any wonder single men get blocked! 
Physical attraction is a must, but it has to be a two way street.
If you're not what someone is looking for, and you can't be bothered to read what others want I think that's disrespectful as you appear to only see the person as a piece of meat for your gratification.
If your approach works for you...you go get em Tiger!  | |||
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"You on that phone again Sassy "Lol...erm yes!
Keeps freezing, raining cats and dogs here buggering up the wi fi and telly!
Think I'll go and read a book! | |||
"Physical attraction is a must, and as we look for NSA sex, then that is the first thing that will attract me. The person still has to be able to converse to want us to meet him, the prettiest person we won't meet if they can't....but nevertheless, physical attraction still comes first." Yes, I agree, despite the fact that I really like pretty guys, I just won't meet them unless they have a couple of brain cells to rub together. | |||
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"Agree with all above, but have noticed many even hiding code words within the profile to ensure that you hve studied, and taken note of each word. At times I simply want to say I contacted you because you are damned sexy, yet some would pefer that you read about their lives outside of swinging also. If other single men share your attitude, is it any wonder single men get blocked!
Physical attraction is a must, but it has to be a two way street.
If you're not what someone is looking for, and you can't be bothered to read what others want I think that's disrespectful as you appear to only see the person as a piece of meat for your gratification.
If your approach works for you...you go get em Tiger! "Fair point Sassy, however, I would not like to be portrayed a someone who would only use someone as a piece of meat. I do find that point way off the mark and would not like anybody else to have that idea of me. The forums are the perfect place to get to know a persons attitude, beliefs and outlook on this great lifestyle. Using youself as the perfect example: I know from forums of your sexual preferences, ground rules that you play by and expect to abided by, and also realise that I would not be of interest to you sexually, however, I also enjoy your witty remarks, and at times valid points in these forums. That would not prevent me from engaging you in conversation in an open forum like this, nor at a social, club or any other venue we may frequent. My point was merely that I prefer a picture to words. I have come acoss profiles where some would write of the need to be safe in play and insist on contraceptives yet in pictures clealry indulge with different partners without. I just believe that at times a picture may speak a thousand words. Do you not sometimes believe that the wording on profiles are at best a sales pitch? saying what people want to hear, and not a true reflection? Not being an oil painting myself, I do heavily rely on my personality, in which case I should expand on the wording in my profile, but find it hard to write anything outside of the usual that most write. IIf this does get me blocked by some, then I have to accept that, however, I do hope this is not the general concensus. When settling down and seeking a partner for an emotional relationship I will seek similar things as some do on their profiles here, and obviously would enjoy time spent with others with similar interests, but don't hold the same emphasis on people I would engage with on here as I would when describing my perfect partner. In all honesty I do not think that I would ignore the advances of a lady who held diferent beliefs if I found her physically attractive, unless they were extreme. I hope I have clarified my point without causing offence.... ggggrrr (my impression of a tigers roar) | |||
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"I just skim read this Topic, and got a feel for the general content, and an overview of the key-points of the participants... I think that by adhering to narrow criteria, you risk throwing the baby out with the bathwater? You mention all the people who you met, but didn't really like; how about all the people you've chosen not to meet, but might have clicked with? " I always attempt to not be rude, and hope that I NEVER appear that way. A polite no thanks to a sexual meet, should not mean that I would not interact with them in any other way. Were I fortunate eniough to meet all of the people I have spoken with I would hope that we could still enjoy each others company. Nobody has ever been rude towards me, and without sounding like I am sitting on the fence I believe that an evening with many I have met in forums, or through pm would be the recipe for a fun evening! | |||
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"I know that this will be greeted quite sternly by some, but I would like to know if I am just a perve or if there are others like me out there!!!! I like to view pictures and consider physical attraction as a very impotant element in making a choice when contacting someone I would like to play with. I hold my hands up as being one of those guys that would see an attractive lady's avatar or pictures on profiles and make contact. I also hold my hands up and say that I do skim read some of the longer profiles, mainly to see if the person/people would not welcome contact from someone who meets my criteria. I use the same when casting my eye in clubs, bars even on the road or in supermarkets! So many people seem to object to contact from someone who initially finds them pleasing on the eye. I know that some believe this to be the wrong way to play pefering to find attraction on an intellectual level more so than physical. I just want to know if others prioritise meets in the same way. I have met with some that I thought were physically attractive, only to find that they are not really people I would befriend, yet remained glad that I had made their acquaintance. Am I wrong to admit to this? but I don't want to feel that I should lie and for example say that it was a persons welcoming pofile that made me contact them, when on occassion it is the lovely pictures that caught my eye? " I see absolutely nothing wrong with this in all honesty. Too many act like they want to be more than basic instincts but the fact is we all like people we find attractive, it's how animals work. If I arranged to meet a man that I had not seen but had connected with - ahem - "mentally" and he showed up and turned out to be a 40 stone tracksuit wearing slob with porkpie hanging out his mouth... would I sleep with him? No. Might have a chat, but that's it. My view, the more honesty we have on sites like this, the more we meet the RIGHT people for us. | |||
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"Whoops I forgot to add that, of course, personality DOES count, just that it's not 100% of the deal." Neatly saved, there... :p | |||
"Whoops I forgot to add that, of course, personality DOES count, just that it's not 100% of the deal. Neatly saved, there... :p" Hehe yeah, I usually get someone or other jumping on me and commenting before I get my fix in Wanted to buy: Edit button! | |||
"If I arranged to meet a man that I had not seen but had connected with - ahem - "mentally" and he showed up and turned out to be a 40 stone tracksuit wearing slob with porkpie hanging out his mouth... would I sleep with him? No. Might have a chat, but that's it. My view, the more honesty we have on sites like this, the more we meet the RIGHT people for us. " That's what the profile is for. And if you thought there was a spark - you'd want to see a photo. And take it from there. There is always the possibility that the physical reality will diverge from the claim. That's why we chat to build up a level of trust with the other person. But there are no guarantees... | |||
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