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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been trying to talk to several girls on here, and I either get no response or they just delete their notes.
I'm trying to be all polite about it and all, but I just don't seem to be having any luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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was any advice taken from your last post about getting started?
your profile pic is terrible I'm afraid.
you cant accom...and only really free during daytimes...thats pretty limiting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No need to be snippy about it ^^;
And I can only work with the times I have. As for the photos, I'm a bit shy of putting my face out there PUBLICLY, it doesn't mean I won't have a problem with sending a picture over a PM. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Girls?
Those *women* didn't fancy you or weren't interested in talking to you. It's not necessarily anything you're doing wrong.
This place is like real life. There's no magic word or secret answer to getting meets. It takes time. There are a lot of men on here and not that many women by comparison. You need to make the effort to present yourself as well as possible and then find the people with whom there is mutual interest and get to know them.
Perhaps your expectations of this site were wrong?
What were you expecting?
There aren't hundreds of female nymphomaniacs desperate to get instantly naked with anyone who asks.
Getting to know people here is just like in real life, but more difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Girls?
Those *women* didn't fancy you or weren't interested in talking to you. It's not necessarily anything you're doing wrong.
This place is like real life. There's no magic word or secret answer to getting meets. It takes time. There are a lot of men on here and not that many women by comparison. You need to make the effort to present yourself as well as possible and then find the people with whom there is mutual interest and get to know them.
Perhaps your expectations of this site were wrong?
What were you expecting?
There aren't hundreds of female nymphomaniacs desperate to get instantly naked with anyone who asks.
Getting to know people here is just like in real life, but more difficult."
To be honest, I'm not really expecting anything. I'm just going by luck and seeing what comes of it. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"No need to be snippy about it ^^;
And I can only work with the times I have. As for the photos, I'm a bit shy of putting my face out there PUBLICLY, it doesn't mean I won't have a problem with sending a picture over a PM."
Ahhhh, the difficulty begins to show itself.
OP, Paddy's response was perfectly reasonable and bang on the money. You are the one getting snippy with someone offering you valid advice.
It's difficult to get meets here for most men. Your situation is only going to make it more difficult. You're going to have to make more effort and be patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No need to be snippy about it ^^;
And I can only work with the times I have. As for the photos, I'm a bit shy of putting my face out there PUBLICLY, it doesn't mean I won't have a problem with sending a picture over a PM."
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I was not being snippy about it.
I never mentioned putting your FACE on here.
it is a bad pic of you in a fleece n trackie.
and I gave all the other reasons why most of your success is limited...
if you cant see all that as advice I dunno what you think it is...offer a helping hand, when I could be typing on another thread for my own benefit.
cheers. |
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your profile pic is terrible I'm afraid.
I must admit when I first viewed it, I thought 'middle aged lesbian volunteer at the cat sanctuary' "
There's no need to bring the cat sanctuary into this! Poor homeless pussies! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also found that not giving a fuck about meeting someone helps improve my visit on the site
I've chatted a lot to some nice people and the forums is where I started, I at first got pissed off like you but lower your expectations to just talking on here and you eventually make some friends
Forum I think is a good place to show your personality and start chatting :D
Plus the women get like 1000 a day I'm told so it's not surprising we get ignored, after all there are six packs and 10" cocks flying about, just be patient
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They technically could have just said 'Your profile picture isn't that good' or 'it could be better' - terrible was a bit blunt"
Blunt but accurate
It really does you zero favours
I posted a bitchy remark above, one that in retrospect wasn't deserved so apologies for that.
However, a slobby fleece and a pair of old trackie bottoms is hardly likely to show anyone in a favourable light, man or woman.
We all have them, but few would be naive to believe they are attractive to those we seek. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"They technically could have just said 'Your profile picture isn't that good' or 'it could be better' - terrible was a bit blunt"
terrible is being a lot more tactful than i would have been....
if you want blunt.... here it comes....
your profile is all about you... and nothing about the person you are after!!!... go and read it!!!!
your pictures are awful....
and you only get one chance to make a great first impression.... and to be honest that has failed miserably.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They technically could have just said 'Your profile picture isn't that good' or 'it could be better' - terrible was a bit blunt
terrible is being a lot more tactful than i would have been....
if you want blunt.... here it comes....
your profile is all about you... and nothing about the person you are after!!!... go and read it!!!!
your pictures are awful....
and you only get one chance to make a great first impression.... and to be honest that has failed miserably...."
Maybe it would have been better to have withheld a comment there - to quote what it says when you're making a post: Don't badmouth other members or "name and shame |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"They technically could have just said 'Your profile picture isn't that good' or 'it could be better' - terrible was a bit blunt
Blunt but accurate
It really does you zero favours
I posted a bitchy remark above, one that in retrospect wasn't deserved so apologies for that.
However, a slobby fleece and a pair of old trackie bottoms is hardly likely to show anyone in a favourable light, man or woman.
We all have them, but few would be naive to believe they are attractive to those we seek."
I'm going to do a profile pic in a slobby fleece now, as an experiment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just get a better picture up. I bet my house, car and all my worldly possessions that you will never ever get a meet on here with that profile picture."
I bet no one has said that to you hahaha |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Maybe it would have been better to have withheld a comment there - to quote what it says when you're making a post: Don't badmouth other members or "name and shame"
but your profile is all about you..thats is factual!! go and read it and then let me know where you get to the bit about what type of person you are after!!!
if you only hear what you want to hear.... if you can't "help yourself" help yourself then others aren't going to
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Maybe it would have been better to have withheld a comment there - to quote what it says when you're making a post: Don't badmouth other members or "name and shame
but your profile is all about you..thats is factual!! go and read it and then let me know where you get to the bit about what type of person you are after!!!
if you only hear what you want to hear.... if you can't "help yourself" help yourself then others aren't going to
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Truth hurts sometimes ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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your profile pic is terrible I'm afraid.
I must admit when I first viewed it, I thought 'middle aged lesbian volunteer at the cat sanctuary' "
Errrmmmm..... Im a middle aged lesbian volenteer at the cat sanctuary and i certianly do not look like that ok!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They technically could have just said 'Your profile picture isn't that good' or 'it could be better' - terrible was a bit blunt
Blunt but accurate
It really does you zero favours
I posted a bitchy remark above, one that in retrospect wasn't deserved so apologies for that.
However, a slobby fleece and a pair of old trackie bottoms is hardly likely to show anyone in a favourable light, man or woman.
We all have them, but few would be naive to believe they are attractive to those we seek."
Well said...what's the saying....a man in a well cut suit is as attractive to women, as a woman in sexy lingerie is to a man... There are many photos you could use/create without showing your face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just get a better picture up. I bet my house, car and all my worldly possessions that you will never ever get a meet on here with that profile picture.
I bet no one has said that to you hahaha "
Not yet but they could, if they did I would promptly change it to try and maximise my success |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You fail miserably at the first post!! Your profile pic is appalling, your profile lacks anything of interest.
Both say to me that your incapable of looking after yourself, so no guy is going to trust you with their partners/wife.
If that's blunt, tuff you asked the question. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"They technically could have just said 'Your profile picture isn't that good' or 'it could be better' - terrible was a bit blunt
terrible is being a lot more tactful than i would have been....
if you want blunt.... here it comes....
your profile is all about you... and nothing about the person you are after!!!... go and read it!!!!
your pictures are awful....
and you only get one chance to make a great first impression.... and to be honest that has failed miserably....
Maybe it would have been better to have withheld a comment there - to quote what it says when you're making a post: Don't badmouth other members or "name and shame"
Look, OP, put the hurt feelings away. You asked. People are telling you the truth. Just because you don't like that truth doesn't mean they are badmouthing you.
Your profile photo is terrible. Your profile isn't appealing and is all about you and what you want.
The women (for goodness sake lose the "girls" from your profile, please!) here are not here for your benefit. If you don't appeal, they aren't going to chat with you, or meet you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not averse to trying to show different images, but I'd still have to crop my face from them for public viewing
Just get rid of the fleece
Please"
I'm with you on this, big time!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just get a better picture up. I bet my house, car and all my worldly possessions that you will never ever get a meet on here with that profile picture.
I bet no one has said that to you hahaha
Not yet but they could, if they did I would promptly change it to try and maximise my success "
I doubt that profile picture ever needs changed! Please don't put a fleece on |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I'm not averse to trying to show different images, but I'd still have to crop my face from them for public viewing
I'll lend you my Maccy bag if you promise not to cum in it. "
Hey, Ryan, waddaya reckon? Slobby fleece and clogs photo? I'd pull for sure, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"was any advice taken from your last post about getting started?
your profile pic is terrible I'm afraid.
you cant accom...and only really free during daytimes...thats pretty limiting."
An elf that bullies others
Poor sod couldn't take you having a go so he left the site!!
You should be ashamed of yourself! |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I'm not averse to trying to show different images, but I'd still have to crop my face from them for public viewing
I'll lend you my Maccy bag if you promise not to cum in it.
Hey, Ryan, waddaya reckon? Slobby fleece and clogs photo? I'd pull for sure, right? "
Do it |
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"Girls?
Those *women* didn't fancy you or weren't interested in talking to you. It's not necessarily anything you're doing wrong.
This place is like real life. There's no magic word or secret answer to getting meets. It takes time. There are a lot of men on here and not that many women by comparison. You need to make the effort to present yourself as well as possible and then find the people with whom there is mutual interest and get to know them.
Perhaps your expectations of this site were wrong?
What were you expecting?
There aren't hundreds of female nymphomaniacs desperate to get instantly naked with anyone who asks.
Getting to know people here is just like in real life, but more difficult.
To be honest, I'm not really expecting anything. I'm just going by luck and seeing what comes of it."
Going by luck? Hope isn't a strategy. I know they mean two different things but intrinsically linked.
You did ask people what was wrong and better that you are hurt by the bitter truth than the sweetest lie!
Your profile needs a lot of work mate. You're on here to sell yourself. So you need to really think realistically what you want and realistically what you can achieve and craft your profile around this.
Pictures need to be better and appealing. Profile needs more detail and maybe you should get to some swinging clubs and meet people, so they can verify you.
As for single females. The market is very small and of this small market, it can be divided up into smaller groups, which leaves you with a smaller footprint of ladies.
And that small section is going to be targeted by a hell of a lot of males, couples and females, so you need to bring something to the table.
My advice, cut your efforts now, start again and create a new profile now you are equipped with this constructive advice people have given you. Otherwise you will live in fear of being "fleece man" on fab and that's not cool bra.
Maybe watch crazy stupid love and see how Ryan Gosling mentors Steve Carell to success.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just get a better picture up. I bet my house, car and all my worldly possessions that you will never ever get a meet on here with that profile picture."
Think I should change my profile pic too;/ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the picture quality was good..from a technical camera standpoint..
the advice was change a terrible pic firstly!-if it were a couple,fem or god forbid a fleece/trackie wearing trannie...I would have said the same thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just get rid of the fleece man!
Burn it, stamp on it, feed it to the geese
Post it to the other dude on the forum, he likes parcels!
Just get rid of it"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the picture quality was good..from a technical camera standpoint..
the advice was change a terrible pic firstly!-if it were a couple,fem or god forbid a fleece/trackie wearing trannie...I would have said the same thing."
What would you know about photography? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"was any advice taken from your last post about getting started?
your profile pic is terrible I'm afraid.
you cant accom...and only really free during daytimes...thats pretty limiting.
An elf that bullies others
Poor sod couldn't take you having a go so he left the site!!
You should be ashamed of yourself!"
ashamed of myelf.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone wanna tell me what I'm doing wrong? I can't get any women to gang up on me and take turns to pleasure me
Any tips "
Yeah...ffs man, get a fleece on, your bollocks will be the size of peanuts...the world will then be your oyster! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone wanna tell me what I'm doing wrong? I can't get any women to gang up on me and take turns to pleasure me
Any tips
Yeah...ffs man, get a fleece on, your bollocks will be the size of peanuts...the world will then be your oyster!"
I'm going to get the biggest, hairiest fleece that the world has ever seen and then I'm coming to seduce you all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the picture quality was good..from a technical camera standpoint..
the advice was change a terrible pic firstly!-if it were a couple,fem or god forbid a fleece/trackie wearing trannie...I would have said the same thing.
What would you know about photography? "
I might photoshop myself between your legs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"was any advice taken from your last post about getting started?
your profile pic is terrible I'm afraid.
you cant accom...and only really free during daytimes...thats pretty limiting.
An elf that bullies others
Poor sod couldn't take you having a go so he left the site!!
You should be ashamed of yourself!
ashamed of myelf...."
Don't blame your elf!! He's just there to help out at Xmas! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I might photoshop myself between your legs "
go for it... then I will get B to photoshop you between the legs of a fleece wearing lesbian who is actually a man from Romford! |
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Damn I hope he's taken advice and left. Was a bit quick.
Or fab is going to be hit with an anti-bullying campaign.
Might stick a fleece on and some crimpiline trousers on in support |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone wanna tell me what I'm doing wrong? I can't get any women to gang up on me and take turns to pleasure me
Any tips "
Right ok, your profile content is nice, your profile picture of the manjina, I don't know how I feel about it, maybe show more of your shaft but not all of it! I dunno I've found I'm partial to more bum shots lately, and not bums with stupid pants on or bums with butt plugs hanging out, just blue jeans with white boxers on pulled down to show the bum cheeks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone wanna tell me what I'm doing wrong? I can't get any women to gang up on me and take turns to pleasure me
Any tips
Right ok, your profile content is nice, your profile picture of the manjina, I don't know how I feel about it, maybe show more of your shaft but not all of it! I dunno I've found I'm partial to more bum shots lately, and not bums with stupid pants on or bums with butt plugs hanging out, just blue jeans with white boxers on pulled down to show the bum cheeks! "
Thank you for your input, I am a little offended that I have to remove the butt plug, Do you know how long it took to get in there? I don't know how I feel about showing my butt coz I've got roberto Carlos thighs and makesy butt look big (or maybe it's just a big ass) haha |
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"I've been trying to talk to several girls on here, and I either get no response or they just delete their notes.
I'm trying to be all polite about it and all, but I just don't seem to be having any luck "
*Sifting through our pics and deleting any fleece pics before the fab fleece police lynch us.
Tough crowd you lot lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just heard on the news that a man has been found naked and almost frozen to death in a room at the TravelLodge in Norwich clutching a blue fleece and babbling incoherently about being fabulous...Police are saying they've never seen anything like it and have issued a warning that its cold out there and you should keep you're fleeces on during this cold spell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really wish i'd seen the fleece!"
You really don't! I'm still traumatised. It was on a par with *gulps* crocs!! With ankle socks!! And Bermuda shorts!!
S x |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Am I daft for worrying about o.p?
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He'll be fine. He wasn't down, just butthurt at being told actually he wasn't coming across well. He was looking for validation and sympathy, and for a queue of women to form to meet him. He got stroppy when he didn't hear what he wanted.
It was a tantrum from a guy who thought he should get laid without having to make any effort.
He's probably sulking and will be back within a week. |
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