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check ups and telling people
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have never had to do this because i have always been clean but..
has anyone ever found out they have had something and not told other people in the swing world that they have played with
1)because they are unable to contact them
2)because they didnt want their swing rep ruined
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We both get checked on a regular basis and if we had picked anything up would contact previous meets and not meet anyone else until it was cleared up.We would never put anyone else at risk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will say that if either of us were unlucky enough to pick up an infection even though we always use a condom for penetration I have contact details of all previous playmates and would feel it my duty to inform them
If you don't then you're only allowing infection to keep being spread around
Now if someone told you they had been checked and had picked up an infection from somewhere would you play with them again?
Or would you run a mile and think of them as "unclean"? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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in all fairness honeypot i would say that depends, if that couple were regulars and i had played with them many many times before i would play with them again obviously once we are all clean as i only meet people who use protection and will assume its an accident but other than that i would run a mile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"in all fairness honeypot i would say that depends, if that couple were regulars and i had played with them many many times before i would play with them again obviously once we are all clean as i only meet people who use protection and will assume its an accident but other than that i would run a mile "
how do you know you only play with people who use protection?
You dont know what others are doing on other meets
i could tell you i only ever use condoms, dont mean i do
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will say that if either of us were unlucky enough to pick up an infection even though we always use a condom for penetration I have contact details of all previous playmates and would feel it my duty to inform them
If you don't then you're only allowing infection to keep being spread around
Now if someone told you they had been checked and had picked up an infection from somewhere would you play with them again?
Or would you run a mile and think of them as "unclean"?"
i would actually respect them for being honest, because i would think theres more people who wouldnt tell you than who would |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"in all fairness honeypot i would say that depends, if that couple were regulars and i had played with them many many times before i would play with them again obviously once we are all clean as i only meet people who use protection and will assume its an accident but other than that i would run a mile "
Thats very honest of you,but someone somewhere gave one of you regulars an infection,so while you are only playing with your regulars they are obviously playing somewhere else too so you're not as protected as you think
Im just trying to look at it from a different point of view and it was'nt meant for you in particular incase you think it was,I just thought id ask the question  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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well they always have condoms ready  etc even though i have my own they come prepared to
come to think of it i have only ever had one meet wher condoms wernt mentioned but i still had my own |
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Back in Scunthorpe, they used to offer a service, where if you tested positive for anything, they took numbers for the people you had been in sexual contact with, and they rang them. Leaving it anonymous.
Don't know whether they do that everywhere though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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well honeypot i would be using protection with them when i would go back as it doesnt matter how much of a regular they are I would not play russian roulette with my health and even though i would be using protection they would need to be clean first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well honeypot i would be using protection with them when i would go back as it doesnt matter how much of a regular they are I would not play russian roulette with my health and even though i would be using protection they would need to be clean first"
We always use protection too but its never 100% guaranteed which is why people go and get checked in the first place
You say people would need to be clean before you play? how do you do that? do you all go to a clinic toogether first?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we will all go in holding hands lol
no but if they were that regular thier would be alot of trust thier all ready as i wouldnt want to meet people over and over again otherwise
pluss how would they know they had a pacific something without being checked in the first place? they would then get treated. nobody would like to leave an std untill it gets to the stage wher your knob looks like it is going to fall off!!! |
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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago
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"pluss how would they know they had a pacific something "
What,an Ocean?
"without being checked in the first place? they would then get treated. nobody would like to leave an std untill it gets to the stage wher your knob looks like it is going to fall off!!!"
Who's to say that they are suffering any outward effects of any STI? Some people are asymptomatic, they might not see such an urgent need for treatment if it isn't causing them pain. Who makes sure they finish their treatment course? They might go back and get re-infected immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we will all go in holding hands lol
no but if they were that regular thier would be alot of trust thier all ready as i wouldnt want to meet people over and over again otherwise
pluss how would they know they had a pacific something without being checked in the first place? they would then get treated. nobody would like to leave an std untill it gets to the stage wher your knob looks like it is going to fall off!!!"
I'm sorry...I don't trust anybody!!!
I take 100% responsibility for my body, I do not and would never take the word of a playmate about their sexual practices whether they were regulars or not. I wouldn't be their only regular...the amount of people they could come into sexual contact with his mind boggling!!
Would you really put that to chance because you "trust" them?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we will all go in holding hands lol
no but if they were that regular thier would be alot of trust thier all ready as i wouldnt want to meet people over and over again otherwise
pluss how would they know they had a pacific something without being checked in the first place? they would then get treated. nobody would like to leave an std untill it gets to the stage wher your knob looks like it is going to fall off!!!
I'm sorry...I don't trust anybody!!!
I take 100% responsibility for my body, I do not and would never take the word of a playmate about their sexual practices whether they were regulars or not. I wouldn't be their only regular...the amount of people they could come into sexual contact with his mind boggling!!
Would you really put that to chance because you "trust" them?!! "
i have said severall times i would still use a condom even with trust. in the swinging world i wouldnt even know weather to go bareback or not with my own girlfriend (that is meaning if i had one) haha
the only time i will not use a condom is in a serious long term relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone should be tested regularly when indulging in swinging - whilst the majority of us wear condoms for penetrative sex, many dont for oral, though it has to be said that the risk is very small. Its just sensible to have a check up if you have a hobby, as we all do.
GUM clinics are anonymous too so thats the great thing about them. Theyve heard and seen it all before, its no biggie for them. In fact they encourage and welcome everyone through the doors because the ones through the doors are the sensible ones. I wouldnt go to my doctor and tell him i was a swinger because I know him professionally.
I dont like the words "clean" or "unclean" though. It makes it sound very sordid and dirty. If you pick up an infection, the majority of them are treated easily and painlessly. Chlamydia is extremely common and is treated very easily. OK there are the biggies, HIV and the Hepatitis lot are not too friendly and if left untreated can cause serious complications.
Its a good idea for a clinic to get in touch with other sexual partners you may have had. Be horrible if you had a call though wouldnt it. |
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