Right, now that I have your attention, I'm looking for a little advice.
Short version: I want to move up north.
Long version is a little complicated.
Has anyone ever relocated to another part of the country?
Did you already have a job to go to?
What do you do if you have no job and no place to live?
I need to do this for me. There's nothing for me down south. And I can't afford a place of my own blah blah.
I'll turn my message filters off if anyone wants to pm me about this.
I'm not even sure what sort of advice I'm looking for.
Ps. Sorry about the misleading thread title xD x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I moved about 150 miles away from home a few years ago. I had a job, relocation payment and help with accommodation.
I wouldn't have done it without any of those, it was fucking lonely and I regret doing it, but it was worth it financially and for the experience. |
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over a year ago
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I'd imagine it's only as difficult as you make it for yourself.
If you have no financial commitments where you are or contracted in a job then I'd imagine it no more difficult than trying to move locally and finding a new job. |
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"Why north ?
Long story. Short version: I'll be moving with a friend, and it seems like the best place for us both "
Don't be kidded into believing it is all cheap up here.
Some places you can get a flat for £300 to £400 a month.
Others, like central Manchester, you'd be lucky see change from £700 a month in rent alone |
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"Why north ?
Long story. Short version: I'll be moving with a friend, and it seems like the best place for us both
Don't be kidded into believing it is all cheap up here.
Some places you can get a flat for £300 to £400 a month.
Others, like central Manchester, you'd be lucky see change from £700 a month in rent alone "
2 bed down here is £1200+ pcm. But it's not about the cost |
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over a year ago
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh "
Care work is often a field of work that i see advertised a lot |
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over a year ago
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh "
In that case let me sell hull to you
Once you get past the special kind of retards that hull breeds the rest of us are fairly normal
Fairly cheap to live here
Ok night life
And plenty of variety of jobs
Shame you didn't post this before Xmas, just sold a house I could of rented out |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've contemplated this as well, but obviously moving south, but when you have a settled job, a mortgage and the thought of starting again all on your own, it is a scary prospect!
It's a bit like the chicken and the egg storey, what do you do first? |
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh "
Just think about it and, plan, plan, plan.
Get some money behind you. A deposit & first months rent could be anywhere from £800 to £2 grand.
Do some job searches online, come up a few times and get a feel for the region. See if you like it before you make any moves.
Assume you need enough to sustain living up here on your own.
There's no saying your friend will stick around or meets a northern lad n piss off with him ... |
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over a year ago
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh
In that case let me sell hull to you
Once you get past the special kind of retards that hull breeds the rest of us are fairly normal
Fairly cheap to live here
Ok night life
And plenty of variety of jobs
Shame you didn't post this before Xmas, just sold a house I could of rented out"
she had no job or finances behind her to pay you rent .. |
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh
Care work is often a field of work that i see advertised a lot"
And I know I'm capable of doing it, so I don't think I would have a problem getting a job in care. Or as a receptionist. Or a cleaner. Or in a hotel. There's lots of things I could do, really x |
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh
Just think about it and, plan, plan, plan.
Get some money behind you. A deposit & first months rent could be anywhere from £800 to £2 grand.
Do some job searches online, come up a few times and get a feel for the region. See if you like it before you make any moves.
Assume you need enough to sustain living up here on your own.
There's no saying your friend will stick around or meets a northern lad n piss off with him ..."
She's already got a northern lad, and she is pissing off with him xD but she doesn't want to live with him. But her daughter needs her dad. So I think that's why she wants to move |
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"I've contemplated this as well, but obviously moving south, but when you have a settled job, a mortgage and the thought of starting again all on your own, it is a scary prospect!
It's a bit like the chicken and the egg storey, what do you do first? "
I don't have any of that, and it's still a scary prospect. If I'm lucky, I'll be able to find a place to stay until I'm earning. But even then, there's a chance I wont. And with no money behind me, and any money I earn being spent on living down here, it's gonna have to be a leap of faith |
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh
Just think about it and, plan, plan, plan.
Get some money behind you. A deposit & first months rent could be anywhere from £800 to £2 grand.
Do some job searches online, come up a few times and get a feel for the region. See if you like it before you make any moves.
Assume you need enough to sustain living up here on your own.
There's no saying your friend will stick around or meets a northern lad n piss off with him ...
She's already got a northern lad, and she is pissing off with him xD but she doesn't want to live with him. But her daughter needs her dad. So I think that's why she wants to move "
Seriously, the move has to be for YOU, not your friend or it will likely end up in tears, tantrums and tiaras.
I know I might sound like a dreadful old stick in the mud, but if you do move, it'd be a great shame if it didn't work out for you. |
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"Have you already got a job sorted
If not what sort of job would you like
No, nothing. But I don't have a job here anyway. I'd be happy with any job tbh
Just think about it and, plan, plan, plan.
Get some money behind you. A deposit & first months rent could be anywhere from £800 to £2 grand.
Do some job searches online, come up a few times and get a feel for the region. See if you like it before you make any moves.
Assume you need enough to sustain living up here on your own.
There's no saying your friend will stick around or meets a northern lad n piss off with him ...
She's already got a northern lad, and she is pissing off with him xD but she doesn't want to live with him. But her daughter needs her dad. So I think that's why she wants to move
Seriously, the move has to be for YOU, not your friend or it will likely end up in tears, tantrums and tiaras.
I know I might sound like a dreadful old stick in the mud, but if you do move, it'd be a great shame if it didn't work out for you."
I want to move for me anyway. It will just be easier if she comes with me. Her and her daughter are my whole life. They're the only thing keeping me here |
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I want to move for me anyway. It will just be easier if she comes with me. Her and her daughter are my whole life. They're the only thing keeping me here "
Fingers crossed for you then  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I've contemplated this as well, but obviously moving south, but when you have a settled job, a mortgage and the thought of starting again all on your own, it is a scary prospect!
It's a bit like the chicken and the egg storey, what do you do first?
I don't have any of that, and it's still a scary prospect. If I'm lucky, I'll be able to find a place to stay until I'm earning. But even then, there's a chance I wont. And with no money behind me, and any money I earn being spent on living down here, it's gonna have to be a leap of faith "
No offence, but if you have no ties where you are just now, in my eyes, you haven't much to lose so go for it! |
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"Actually, you're the accident prone one aren't ya ?
Where's north ?
Do I need to look at upping my insurances ?  "
Yes. In fact I have just made my neck bleed by scratching it. So I think you should definitely up your insurance! |
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"I've contemplated this as well, but obviously moving south, but when you have a settled job, a mortgage and the thought of starting again all on your own, it is a scary prospect!
It's a bit like the chicken and the egg storey, what do you do first?
I don't have any of that, and it's still a scary prospect. If I'm lucky, I'll be able to find a place to stay until I'm earning. But even then, there's a chance I wont. And with no money behind me, and any money I earn being spent on living down here, it's gonna have to be a leap of faith
No offence, but if you have no ties where you are just now, in my eyes, you haven't much to lose so go for it! "
My family live down here but we've never been close. I think a new start is what I need  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love how nobody is asking me to stay, but I'm being told to move here and there xD guess I'm set on leaving then! Haha "
I read it you were asking for advice, not assistance ? |
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"Love how nobody is asking me to stay, but I'm being told to move here and there xD guess I'm set on leaving then! Haha
I read it you were asking for advice, not assistance ? "
I mean, none of the southerners are asking me to stay down south haha. So unloved! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why north ?
Long story. Short version: I'll be moving with a friend, and it seems like the best place for us both
Don't be kidded into believing it is all cheap up here.
Some places you can get a flat for £300 to £400 a month.
Others, like central Manchester, you'd be lucky see change from £700 a month in rent alone "
Those rent prices are nothing compared to the South East, and in London you'd be lucky to get a room for that price! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've contemplated this as well, but obviously moving south, but when you have a settled job, a mortgage and the thought of starting again all on your own, it is a scary prospect!
It's a bit like the chicken and the egg storey, what do you do first?
I don't have any of that, and it's still a scary prospect. If I'm lucky, I'll be able to find a place to stay until I'm earning. But even then, there's a chance I wont. And with no money behind me, and any money I earn being spent on living down here, it's gonna have to be a leap of faith "
Don't you live with your mum now? If it all went wrong you could always go back to her place?
If you trust your mate I'd say go for it too. Could be brilliant. Good luck. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We've both done it. I moved to London because I'd met a girl and it seemed a good idea, had enough money to last a couple of months and somewhere to stay short term. No job but this was before the recession so not really an issue and I was working within weeks.I had friends down here anyway so it wasn't that difficult to get a social life. I wouldn't recommend doing it like that though and with hindsight would have tried to make it a lot more secure!
crystal did it the opposite way, she had a job that took her there but knew no one, didn't know London at all and found the whole experience more than a little intimidating and overwhelming.
As cliched as it sounds, i do think upping sticks and moving somewhere new is undeniably character building and well worth doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why north ?
Long story. Short version: I'll be moving with a friend, and it seems like the best place for us both
Don't be kidded into believing it is all cheap up here.
Some places you can get a flat for £300 to £400 a month.
Others, like central Manchester, you'd be lucky see change from £700 a month in rent alone
Those rent prices are nothing compared to the South East, and in London you'd be lucky to get a room for that price!"
Oh I know that, but for a young girl without a steady or well paid job, it's still a bloody big chunk of money.
I just wanted to make her aware that, in certain areas, renting still isn't cheap up here.
But on the rooms front ...
OP maybe you could look into house shares too ? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Love how nobody is asking me to stay, but I'm being told to move here and there xD guess I'm set on leaving then! Haha
I read it you were asking for advice, not assistance ?
I mean, none of the southerners are asking me to stay down south haha. So unloved! "
Hardly! This was your post about moving  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I moved from Eastbourne to Chesterfield, via Birmingham, was a gradual drift, uni in brum then up here for work. Helps if you have a job to go to, they may even help with relocation costs. |
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If things don't work out you can always go back.
I'd get looking at jobs first, then see where you become successful. Or if your friend has a job lined up, and you end up at a major city, you'll be able to find work if you're determined enough.
Don't give yourself limits |
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"Why north ?
Long story. Short version: I'll be moving with a friend, and it seems like the best place for us both
Don't be kidded into believing it is all cheap up here.
Some places you can get a flat for £300 to £400 a month.
Others, like central Manchester, you'd be lucky see change from £700 a month in rent alone
Those rent prices are nothing compared to the South East, and in London you'd be lucky to get a room for that price!"
Cost me £550 a month for a tiny box room when I lived in London. Shared a house there for 18 months |
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"The way I see it, what's the worst that could happen? Nothing drastic or permanent.  "
That's the sort of positive attitude that will see you okay in the end
We did this. We both lived in Bristol after uni, but gradually all our friends disappeared to find better schools as their kids reached school-age.
It was quite liberating, but also daunting, knowing we were prepared to go anywhere in the country.
Sorted a new job for me first, then we rented while we checked out the area before deciding where to settle down, finally sorted job for mrs ddc.
Best of luck, feel free to pm if you like.
Mr ddc |
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