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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?" try asking her? | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?" depends how much you're charging really. | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?" It doesn't seem that great a relationship if you want to change her into something she doesn't want to be. | |||
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"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure." So give her time! You don't seem to be very good at taking instruction if you can't understand that. I have to laugh at the last part of your post  | |||
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"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure." She might not enjoy it. As others have said, respect her wishes. Whatever they are. | |||
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"... I have to laugh at the last part of your post "If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be.... | |||
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"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure." Buy her a book, seriously. My second husband saw a bit of dom in me, i brought a book to give me some insight. Can't say as i enjoyed or didn't enjoy the role, but he did. She may well get pleasure from it as you say. Good luck to both of you..... But IMHO as she's the dom you wont be telling her to give you pleasure. You'll be on your knees begging for a chance to lick her shoes lol Mrs WD40 | |||
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"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure." So she's already trying and has compromised but you're still not happy and are trying to push harder even though she's asked that you take it slowly and give her time? Wow, aren't you a catch? | |||
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"... I have to laugh at the last part of your post
If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be.... "I got the brochures for Stepford, I think I'll be happy there  . I'm quite clearly suited to it ...... | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?" What's 'FLR'? | |||
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"... I have to laugh at the last part of your post
If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....
I got the brochures for Stepford, I think I'll be happy there . I'm quite clearly suited to it ......"The outfits are really sexy.  I love it. | |||
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"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure. So give her time! You don't seem to be very good at taking instruction if you can't understand that. I have to laugh at the last part of your post "This is typical of a lot of guys who think they are submissive. They want to be told what to do, but only if it's the things they want to do, and how they want to do them. As for the Dominant, they are expected to want to enjoy it because they are giving instructions. Never mind that they are being expected to give instructions according to what someone else wants. Some people have a really odd _iew of domination and submission! | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? What's 'FLR'?" Female Lead Relationship | |||
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"... I have to laugh at the last part of your post
If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be.... "Quite. It's my ultimate dream. | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? What's 'FLR'? Female Lead Relationship" Got it, thanks | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?" Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it I find women are generally into that sort of thing | |||
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"... I have to laugh at the last part of your post
If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....
Quite. It's my ultimate dream."You and me both.  | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it I find women are generally into that sort of thing "
Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon
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"Talk about it I'd say. Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing. " That's different though because he's sure she'd enjoy this if only she'd do as he wants... That's not the same as being forced to do something you're not into. She just doesn't realise how much she'd love it, so he'd be doing her a favour really...  | |||
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"... I have to laugh at the last part of your post
If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....
Quite. It's my ultimate dream.
You and me both. "Well, yes, we are equally subservient types so that makes sense  | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it I find women are generally into that sort of thing
Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon
"i would like my mrs to wear a bikini top and shorts when washing the car but she doesn't Does anyone have any advice how I can changer her | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it I find women are generally into that sort of thing
Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon
i would like my mrs to wear a bikini top and shorts when washing the car but she doesn't
Does anyone have any advice how I can changer her "Hide all her other clothes and hand her a soapy bucket and sponge! That should do the trick | |||
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"Thx for all the advice it because of respect for her that I don't push the idea. I can live in hope that in time her desires will be the same as mine" She's asked you for time yet you are still trying to change her and asking advice on how to change her! That's not pushing the idea? Really?! | |||
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"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure. So give her time! You don't seem to be very good at taking instruction if you can't understand that. I have to laugh at the last part of your post
This is typical of a lot of guys who think they are submissive. They want to be told what to do, but only if it's the things they want to do, and how they want to do them.
As for the Dominant, they are expected to want to enjoy it because they are giving instructions. Never mind that they are being expected to give instructions according to what someone else wants.
Some people have a really odd _iew of domination and submission! "This is the problem I have found with men saying they are submissive and then proceed to tell me what they want. My very submissive regular friend doesn't tell me what to do. He gets pleasure from doing or taking what I want. I'm rarely dominant with a man as I have a natural passive nature,but when a man is truly submissive my dominating personality comes out. You need to submit to her,if she has any kind of dominance in her it will come out | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it I find women are generally into that sort of thing
Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon
i would like my mrs to wear a bikini top and shorts when washing the car but she doesn't
Does anyone have any advice how I can changer her "Set an example and wear the same next time you clean the loo | |||
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"Talk about it I'd say. Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing. That's different though because he's sure she'd enjoy this if only she'd do as he wants... That's not the same as being forced to do something you're not into. She just doesn't realise how much she'd love it, so he'd be doing her a favour really... " he would indeed. | |||
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"a sub in control i looked into all this a while back - not to get into just curious about it all - if i remember rightly the sub is in control in a true sub/dom relationship as boundaries are kept to = maybe i got it wrong it was years ago i read about it " A person can only take what they can take physically. A person can always say no. That is the extent of control in my life. Relationships aren't always about the sexual side,it's about controlling what a person does. If they really are submissive to every extent they would tear their own heart out. No one does that. | |||
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"Does she know your on here ?" She does NOW | |||
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"a sub in control i looked into all this a while back - not to get into just curious about it all - if i remember rightly the sub is in control in a true sub/dom relationship as boundaries are kept to = maybe i got it wrong it was years ago i read about it " I don't think there's a one size fits all for the relationship between a Dom/me and sub, rather like swinging. I'm not owned or collared but willingly submit to my fwb who is Dom. This didn't happen overnight and came about through communication, honesty and being honest about boundaries. I'm not helpless at all as the Dom may push boundaries but will always respect the safety word, never had to use it so far
I'm a single bisexual female on fabs and some swingers may not consider me to be swinger, but what I do is no drama fun. Works for me | |||
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"Talk about it I'd say. Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing. That's different though because he's sure she'd enjoy this if only she'd do as he wants... Lovely start to the thread year
That's not the same as being forced to do something you're not into. She just doesn't realise how much she'd love it, so he'd be doing her a favour really...
he would indeed. " | |||
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"Does she know your on here ? She does NOW " You told her? | |||
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"Does she know your on here ? She does NOW You told her?" No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me 
Time for a talk methinks.......... | |||
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"Does she know your on here ? She does NOW You told her? No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me
Time for a talk methinks.........."Oh God! How awful...so sorry you had to see this. | |||
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"Does she know your on here ? She does NOW You told her? No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me
Time for a talk methinks.........."Good grief  | |||
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"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship? What's 'FLR'? Female Lead Relationship best you had Mr smith!!! Got it, thanks " | |||
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"Does she know your on here ? She does NOW You told her? No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me
Time for a talk methinks.........."In which case its probably best to leave it there | |||
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