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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When did the majority of people stop dressing up to go out to dinner.. We were at a restaurant this evening and the majority of people in there were in jeans and t shirts..
That and letting your child suit through the meal playing on an iPad now seems acceptable behaviour...
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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Guilty as charged. 
Mrs looked great in a blue dress and heels, some nice jewellery, make up and hair done. Me, hmmm, jeans, T shirt but I did have a blazer jacket on and a pair of boots of some sort. I know where you're coming from, I did feel like I should have been a bit smarter tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When did the majority of people stop dressing up to go out to dinner.. We were at a restaurant this evening and the majority of people in there were in jeans and t shirts..
That and letting your child suit through the meal playing on an iPad now seems acceptable behaviour...
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shocking, just fucking shocking  |
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I don't know when people stopped dressing for dinner possibly when it became less of an occasion for ordinary people like us.
We always dress if we're going to a restaurant but only seldom at home  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends which restaurants you frequent  "
Indeed it does. However there does seem to be a general decline in standards and discipline in a lot of the restaurants these days. I don't think the fact that a particular establishment is part of a chain should excuse this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't eat anywhere that I had to dress.
A meal is to be enjoyed and relaxed, ergo I wear what I am relaxed in, which is, by far and large, jeans.
'Dressing up' is not something I enjoy. I spend all week in shirts and trousers and jackets.
At weekend, I want to wear something different. Again, for me, that is usually jeans. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me the chance to go out in shirt and trousers is a rarity, when I get the chance I enjoy it.
It seems that kids on electronic gadgets are the norm now, anything to keep the child quiet. But then look at some adults spending most of the evening on their phone. |
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I think phones and gadgets should be banned from restaurants, if you need to check a babysitter go outside and do it. As for dressing up another bug bear, but it depends were you are I wouldn't expect anyone to dress up to go to wetherspoons but a decent restaurant then yes.
I've been go restaurants with a dress code and still seen people looking scruffy but that's the restaurants fault
If I'm paying £35 to enter a restaurant then I expect people to be smartly dressed
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I get mighty fed up in restaurant if someone is talking too loudly either into a mobile or to their companions, it's inconsiderate nobody wants to hear it. I'm not that bothered what other people wear but would never go to a restaurant in jeans myself, that's mostly because I enjoy dressing up and it's all part of the.occasion for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe find places with a dress code?
I agree tho its nice to get dressed up and feel smart, and better if everyone else is dressed up also.
But definitely a case of dressing for the occasion.
Still see couples getting dressed up to go to the pub for a drink Sunday lunchtime tho.
It's nice to look smart sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Agreed no need to dress up for a weatherspoons as I'd class that more as a pub...
The table next to ours the entire family spent the entire meal in silence engrossed in screens and flashing lights... Why even bother going out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agreed no need to dress up for a weatherspoons as I'd class that more as a pub...
The table next to ours the entire family spent the entire meal in silence engrossed in screens and flashing lights... Why even bother going out."
It disgusts me, the amount of parents that don't talk to their kids. Under 10's eating their meal in silence while the shit parent reads the paper or their phone. Sometimes the shit parent even has earphones in.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we go out im a standard black or brown shoes, jeans, white shirt and suit jacket, I know it's a bit last year but I'm comfortable dressed like that, Donna is usually skirt and blouse or dress |
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"Agreed no need to dress up for a weatherspoons as I'd class that more as a pub...
The table next to ours the entire family spent the entire meal in silence engrossed in screens and flashing lights... Why even bother going out.
It disgusts me, the amount of parents that don't talk to their kids. Under 10's eating their meal in silence while the shit parent reads the paper or their phone. Sometimes the shit parent even has earphones in. "
If I'm going out I'll tend to dress smart casual. Jeans and a nice top or something unless it's a special occasion then I'll make more of an effort. I don't tend to concern myself with how others in the restaurant look, I'm more interested in my evening being enjoyable.
As for kids....my niece and nephew are 9 and 3 and are perfectly behaved in public without the need of an ipad babysitter. We have always engaged with them and involved them in the event when we go out. They are polite and actually very good at being involved in the conversation around them, even the 3 year old.
I hate it when parents think.it's the rest of the restaurant's responsibility to look after theor children as well...letting them run riot, getting under the staffs feet as they are carrying plates of hot food etc. |
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FFS its 2015 the days of dressing for dinner and tugging forelocks to the gentry are thankfully long gone, people still eat out as a treat generally so should be able to dress as they wish unless it is a really upmarket place which I doubt they want us lower classes entering anyway and say "no vacancies" |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I love dressing for dinner - its nice to make an effort.
Obviously there are places where it might mean a nice top and jeans (local pub etc) and others where its a dress and heels.
My nearly 6 year old son is a great dinner companion, and is never plugged into an electronic device while we eat (although if I am meeting close friends with him, I do occasionally allow him a downloaded cartoon so we can chat after dinner without him feeling bored) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"FFS its 2015 the days of dressing for dinner and tugging forelocks to the gentry are thankfully long gone, people still eat out as a treat generally so should be able to dress as they wish unless it is a really upmarket place which I doubt they want us lower classes entering anyway and say "no vacancies""
And therein lies the issue I think, as "dressing for dinner" was seen as a upper class / posh thing to do, to want to dress nicely for dinner has been made to be a bad thing. I think this has a part to play in the lack of interest and discipline shown in the actions of some parents and children.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm paying £35 to enter a restaurant then I expect people to be smartly dressed
Is your £35 better than their £35 ?yes if there's a dress code
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How does that work then ?
What has dress code got to do with cost ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont get many chances to dress up so when kids took me to a lovely italian restaurant for a birthday treat on went the frock (they dressed up too) - if we decide to eat out at say the local indian jeans are fine - |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"FFS its 2015 the days of dressing for dinner and tugging forelocks to the gentry are thankfully long gone, people still eat out as a treat generally so should be able to dress as they wish unless it is a really upmarket place which I doubt they want us lower classes entering anyway and say "no vacancies"
And therein lies the issue I think, as "dressing for dinner" was seen as a upper class / posh thing to do, to want to dress nicely for dinner has been made to be a bad thing. I think this has a part to play in the lack of interest and discipline shown in the actions of some parents and children.
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I don't think it's a bad thing, I just think it isn't for me.
If I want to spend my money in a restaurant, I'll wear what I am comfy in.
I am not interested in what others are wearing or what's going on other tables either (providing of course what is going on is not consistently disruptive to other diners).
I am interested in whoever I am dining with and the food we are served. Little else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm going to a restaurant I'll usually wear something smarter than the pub. But it more depends on where I'm going - big difference between a weekday lunchtime at Nandos and a Michelin starred place in the evening.
Other people don't annoy me at restaurants unless they're really loud, or swearing all the time - twats  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to dress more for the occasion than the restaurant regardless whether it's a chain or not. (Unless there's a dress code in place)
With regards to children and electronic gadgets at the table. I let mine use them (sound off / earphones in) but the kids interact with the grown ups as well. They join in the chat when they want too & we generally end up playing a Guess Who type of game.
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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It depends who I am eating with and the weather
I hate the cold, so I end up wearing a shirt or a shirt and jumper and jeans, with shoes.
If I am out on my own eating when I do then I will eating in jeans and a sweat top....
I think for me it depends on the resteraunts a |
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If I'm paying £35 to enter a restaurant then I expect people to be smartly dressed
Is your £35 better than their £35 ?yes if there's a dress code
How does that work then ?
What has dress code got to do with cost ? "
if your paying a cover charge to go to a restaurant that has a dress code or any restaurant that has a dress code that says either no jeans and trainers or shirt and jacket then that's what you expect, I can't see why its so difficult for you to understand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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someone been spending too much time watching downton abbey? I go to a restaurant for good food, not to pretend I'm something I'm not. I detest snobishness. I'd much rather go somewhere that has a friendly atmosphere with really good food. I agree with the iPod thing though. Kids should be involved in the conversation as much as the adults. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm paying £35 to enter a restaurant then I expect people to be smartly dressed
Is your £35 better than their £35 ?yes if there's a dress code
How does that work then ?
What has dress code got to do with cost ? if your paying a cover charge to go to a restaurant that has a dress code or any restaurant that has a dress code that says either no jeans and trainers or shirt and jacket then that's what you expect, I can't see why its so difficult for you to understand "
It isn't hard to understand now you have been more explicit than in your initial post.
I just wouldn't eat at those restaurants.
I had several disagreements with the ex Mrs on this one too btw.
It's not just you |
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If I'm paying £35 to enter a restaurant then I expect people to be smartly dressed
Is your £35 better than their £35 ?yes if there's a dress code
How does that work then ?
What has dress code got to do with cost ? if your paying a cover charge to go to a restaurant that has a dress code or any restaurant that has a dress code that says either no jeans and trainers or shirt and jacket then that's what you expect, I can't see why its so difficult for you to understand
It isn't hard to understand now you have been more explicit than in your initial post.
I just wouldn't eat at those restaurants.
I had several disagreements with the ex Mrs on this one too btw.
It's not just you "
exactly that's the point you would choice to eat elsewhere, I spend plenty of time in wetherspoond or such like but if I'm going somewhere special I want it to be nice  |
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"FFS its 2015 the days of dressing for dinner and tugging forelocks to the gentry are thankfully long gone, people still eat out as a treat generally so should be able to dress as they wish unless it is a really upmarket place which I doubt they want us lower classes entering anyway and say "no vacancies"
When my kids were younger they behaved when taken out for a meal
And therein lies the issue I think, as "dressing for dinner" was seen as a upper class / posh thing to do, to want to dress nicely for dinner has been made to be a bad thing. I think this has a part to play in the lack of interest and discipline shown in the actions of some parents and children.
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If you want to dine in the company of suitably attired diners, go somewhere there is a dress code.
Personally, I couldn't care less what people wear as long as they're not smelly, loud or otherwise invasive in terms of my personal enjoyment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not really taken much notice in others when out to dinner, apart from the company I've been with...I always like to dress up when I go out for an evening...it's not often I get to feel glam "
I like dressing up. It's not often I can either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own. As long as fellow diners are decent, pleasant and not rowdy then I am not interested how they dress.
I would only think otherwise if the place had a dress code, which was not adhered to. Then this is the venue to blame for letting people in who are not dressed adequately.
As for children with iPads I am not a parent so I cannot say much but if this keeps a child occupied and not disturbing other guests then I personally don't see the problem. I would be too busy eating my meal to concentrate on what others are doing. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I eat out a lot in a lot of different places. I have never been to a restaurant with a cover charge and explicit dress code.
I think codes come into play based on expectations of a place, it's decor, the style of food and other clientele, plus the time of day.
One of my favourite restaurants might be considered posh by some, just on the menu and price tag, but there is no explicit dress code and you will see people in everything from jeans and shirt to a wedding dress, tie and tails.
If it's a special occasion then I like to dress up. If it's a business meal then I dress for work. If it's a family meal out just because then we wear what we're wearing.
That said, if a restaurant has an actual dress code then it is up to them to enforce it. If they are not enforcing a dress code then I think no such code exists and it's whatever your own expectations are and you can make a choice not to eat there.
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