An extremely draining time which goes from days to weeks to months to years. I had my moments where I myself thought i couldn't cope. I ended up living day by day for years.. Now as a single parent I'm learning how to live again.. After so many years it's hard in itself adjusting.  |
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I cared for my mum until April this year when she died....I now look out for my dad.
I feel so lost some days now as my life was my mum for over a year.....hence why I do volunteer work xx |
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"Being a carer is tiring and stressful. Glad the local carers group offer me good support. Don't struggle alone, get help and advice from your local carers association. "
Good advice to get help, otherwise you slip under the radar. In the end without someone to talk to you can end up slightly vulnerable yourself.
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"An extremely draining time which goes from days to weeks to months to years. I had my moments where I myself thought i couldn't cope. I ended up living day by day for years.. Now as a single parent I'm learning how to live again.. After so many years it's hard in itself adjusting. "
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Yes have been for over 4 years it is mentally draining and stressful day to day..especially knowing all you can do is be there but try to hold everything together for everyone else is the ball breaker.. |
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"Yes have been for over 4 years it is mentally draining and stressful day to day..especially knowing all you can do is be there but try to hold everything together for everyone else is the ball breaker.."
exactly.. sometimes felt like was going under without anyone else there was frightening. |
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I've been caring for an autistic son who also has ADHD, opposition defiance disorder since he was born. He's 15 now and I almost cracked a few weeks ago, ended up being sectioned. I'm better now but the toll that his behaviour puts on the family is immense. I so need fab; it's the only way I can be me. |
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"I've been caring for an autistic son who also has ADHD, opposition defiance disorder since he was born. He's 15 now and I almost cracked a few weeks ago, ended up being sectioned. I'm better now but the toll that his behaviour puts on the family is immense. I so need fab; it's the only way I can be me. "
Really sorry to hear that and hope you get the support you need x |
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Spent time over ten years caring for my mum who had dementia. ...very hard work at times....practically and mentally. Love her and now miss her dearly. A tough job...even when you love the person. Doing so was also one nail in my marriage coffin....but if you care and love....its a.must....what is life if not family....tho it helped break the one I made....and that is very sad for me to take.... |
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"I've been caring for an autistic son who also has ADHD, opposition defiance disorder since he was born. He's 15 now and I almost cracked a few weeks ago, ended up being sectioned. I'm better now but the toll that his behaviour puts on the family is immense. I so need fab; it's the only way I can be me. "
Feel for you. it's a long time to carry the weight of organising everything that others take for granted.
Really hope you get the support you need. it sounds intense.
Similar to me about needing a release with this place. Good luck and hugs. You're a saint.  |
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"Spent time over ten years caring for my mum who had dementia. ...very hard work at times....practically and mentally. Love her and now miss her dearly. A tough job...even when you love the person. Doing so was also one nail in my marriage coffin....but if you care and love....its a.must....what is life if not family....tho it helped break the one I made....and that is very sad for me to take...."
You shouldn't have guilt. You done what others wouldn't.. you stood firm. Be proud of yourself.
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I was full time for my dosabled son until he went into a residential placement and look after my sick father for a fortnight every six weeks to help my sister. Xx |
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"I've been caring for an autistic son who also has ADHD, opposition defiance disorder since he was born. He's 15 now and I almost cracked a few weeks ago, ended up being sectioned. I'm better now but the toll that his behaviour puts on the family is immense. I so need fab; it's the only way I can be me. Feel for you. it's a long time to carry the weight of organising everything that others take for granted.
Really hope you get the support you need. it sounds intense.
Similar to me about needing a release with this place. Good luck and hugs. You're a saint. "
We're just about to be assessed by social services to see what help we could get. I'm hopeful but a bit anxious.
My fab adventures really do take my mind off home. |
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"I've been caring for an autistic son who also has ADHD, opposition defiance disorder since he was born. He's 15 now and I almost cracked a few weeks ago, ended up being sectioned. I'm better now but the toll that his behaviour puts on the family is immense. I so need fab; it's the only way I can be me. "
know what you mean my aspergers daughter has been 5 years sectioned in January its the hardest job in the world ive only just stopped blaming myself for not doing the job right but know now it would never have been a different outcome |
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"I've been caring for an autistic son who also has ADHD, opposition defiance disorder since he was born. He's 15 now and I almost cracked a few weeks ago, ended up being sectioned. I'm better now but the toll that his behaviour puts on the family is immense. I so need fab; it's the only way I can be me. Feel for you. it's a long time to carry the weight of organising everything that others take for granted.
Really hope you get the support you need. it sounds intense.
Similar to me about needing a release with this place. Good luck and hugs. You're a saint.
We're just about to be assessed by social services to see what help we could get. I'm hopeful but a bit anxious.
My fab adventures really do take my mind off home. "
A distraction is essential.. Still waiting to find my distraction though.  Stay strong.  |
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Hats off to all of you
I look after people with dementia for a living and am full time carer for my son who has severe Haemophilia but his needs are more medical as opposed to physical/mental
You are all doing a fab job |
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