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Not meeting anyone at moment - not playing at the present time etc etc
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive seen this on a few peoples profiles
can i just ask - if you are not playing or swinging, what exactly are you on here for then?
Am I being thick 
(And im not being nasty or sarcastic, Im just wanting to know why people put this). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive seen this on a few peoples profiles
can i just ask - if you are not playing or swinging, what exactly are you on here for then?
Am I being thick
(And im not being nasty or sarcastic, Im just wanting to know why people put this). "
They are doing what they say.
I say it sometimes.
It is self explanatory.
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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago
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we aren't playing or meeting at the moment because we are temporarily in another country but we don't want to give it up and when we are back in the UK on holidays we try to make it to a couple of socials.
People use the site for different reasons, not just for arranging meets |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So if people do this, they are just using the forums to chat.
Ive seen it more on single womens profiles. I was wondering whether single women are really looking for men long term on here, like a dating site i guess. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im doing it at the minute to be honest, my guy is away and im obviously not playing while hes working abroad. I can understand how people love forums and find friendship here, I love them too, am totally a forum junkie.
But i just noted that ive seen it mainly on single womens profiles and i just wondered whether that happens a lot, women meets up with a guy on here, they have a great time and start seeing each other sex, give up meeting others, and then go back to it when either themselves or the guy gets bored and wants other partners again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some single women say it in the hope it stops the huge influx of mail
Or they're busy with current contacts but won't rule out what they think could be exceptional new contacts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile is hidden, and I'm not playing, I'm poorly but still able to chat in forums mail etc. It was also hidden when the little one was off school for the holidays, not many mums were able to meet then. Lots of ppl have lots of reasons these are just two of mine. Next week I may have not meeting/profile hidden as I'll be catching up on all the shags I've missed recently!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Romance via FAB is possible, been there, done that, got the T-shirt so to speak!
I would include such a statement in my profile if I have sufficient playmates to keep me busy without the need for flesh blood!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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surely it makes no difference if someone says they are not playing at present, doesnt mean they are never gonna play, some people enjoy other things on the site no just the getting laid part....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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probably if they didn't say it and they refused the many shags offered from the guys in the area that day...... they would be branded a cock teasing timewaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you considered that some people have a life and other priorities other than swinging.
There are many reason's people put this on their profile's. Family and work being the main pulls away from swinging. We will be putting something similar on ours very soon as we have an Uncle with terminal cancer. So we will be concentrating more on our family. Personally I believe priorities have to be established or lose what we really hold dear.
As Granny say's it's self explanatory. Respect the statement and except it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol - ah i see, ive not been using the profile and forums for that long and havent got the full potential of them yet. I have only just found out where to put the statement about not being able to meet as "he" is away and if id have sorted it sooner then i wouldnt have to keep emailing with the same explanation lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol - ah i see, ive not been using the profile and forums for that long and havent got the full potential of them yet. I have only just found out where to put the statement about not being able to meet as "he" is away and if id have sorted it sooner then i wouldnt have to keep emailing with the same explanation lol.
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What ? You are unable to meet ??? What ARE you doing here then ? 
Worth a post to find out sommat innit ? x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you considered that some people have a life and other priorities other than swinging.
There are many reason's people put this on their profile's. Family and work being the main pulls away from swinging. We will be putting something similar on ours very soon as we have an Uncle with terminal cancer. So we will be concentrating more on our family. Personally I believe priorities have to be established or lose what we really hold dear.
As Granny say's it's self explanatory. Respect the statement and except it. "
lol ooooo put me in my place why dont you and untangle your knickers for gods sake
i have just seen this in quite a few profiles. I didnt say it was wrong, now that some women have answered in a nice way and said they have too many single men contacts at the minute, or they are busy with work and dont want to have sex at the moment, but want to write on the forums, and come back to the meets later, then that is the explanation isnt it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are People not entitled to take a break?
Or simply use the site to chat?
I never question the reasoning for being here!
Paddy xx
"Ive seen this on a few peoples profiles
can i just ask - if you are not playing or swinging, what exactly are you on here for then?
Am I being thick
(And im not being nasty or sarcastic, Im just wanting to know why people put this). "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wasnt referring to granny
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Oops, sorry!  "
dont be sorry, nothing to be sorry about. Its sunday afternoon, i didnt get to sleep until 2.30am, im tired - it was a silly thread i guess, i didnt take a lot of time to think about it, just had seen a few messages with it on and asked the question. I might not have worded it correctly or in the best way, it was just light relief. Im just astounded that some people take everything so literal and get really shirty over stupid things.
People are people I guess, some will take any opportunity to jump down your throat for something which quite frankly is meaningless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wasnt referring to granny"
No that was for me.
I can assure you I never get my knickers in a tangle anymore. Life's to short for that! I was just trying to suggest some reason's why others may put that statement on their profile.
If I see that on a profile I just think they may have other priorities at that time. I don't question it as it is not my business to.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you considered that some people have a life and other priorities other than swinging.
As Granny say's it's self explanatory. Respect the statement and except it. "
yes you're correct I was referring to you. And to the above statements in particular. I accept my forum post was a bit silly and not the most intellectual - but on seeing some of the other posts people have made - ie; wheres the worst place to get an itch" then i expected that it was ok to be a bit silly and not take it all serious and just throw out whatever question. My mind was working along the lines of, are single women really on here to find a bloke and when they do they dont play. It was one dimensional and when others gave their reasons, which are all perfectly acceptable, I could see why people would put it.
The written word is much more difficult to accept than the spoken word and people can read various other scenarios into what is said. However some of us have a life, was, to me quite rude, and I read it as you were inferring I didnt have a life. Now you dont know me, you dont know what i do for a living or anything about me, so i thought it was inapprropiate to be honest. lets face it, you are doing the same as me right now, you are sitting in front of your pc, so maybe both of us dont have a life.
i could of course be reading this completely wrongly and as Ive stated the written word is difficult to interpret and I apologise if you werent being rude. But I have to say that that is how i interpreted it. But lets move on cos lifes too short - its only a swinging site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"probably if they didn't say it and they refused the many shags offered from the guys in the area that day...... they would be branded a cock teasing timewaster."
Mmmm I'd love to waste time teasing cock!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you considered that some people have a life and other priorities other than swinging.
As Granny say's it's self explanatory. Respect the statement and except it.
yes you're correct I was referring to you. And to the above statements in particular. I accept my forum post was a bit silly and not the most intellectual - but on seeing some of the other posts people have made - ie; wheres the worst place to get an itch" then i expected that it was ok to be a bit silly and not take it all serious and just throw out whatever question. My mind was working along the lines of, are single women really on here to find a bloke and when they do they dont play. It was one dimensional and when others gave their reasons, which are all perfectly acceptable, I could see why people would put it.
The written word is much more difficult to accept than the spoken word and people can read various other scenarios into what is said. However some of us have a life, was, to me quite rude, and I read it as you were inferring I didnt have a life. Now you dont know me, you dont know what i do for a living or anything about me, so i thought it was inapprropiate to be honest. lets face it, you are doing the same as me right now, you are sitting in front of your pc, so maybe both of us dont have a life.
i could of course be reading this completely wrongly and as Ive stated the written word is difficult to interpret and I apologise if you werent being rude. But I have to say that that is how i interpreted it. But lets move on cos lifes too short - its only a swinging site "
I apologies if what I said came across as rude. That was not my intention. I also was not inferring you didn't have a life outside swinging. You are right. I don't know you and the written word can be misinterpreted sometimes. I obviously did misinterpret your OP and for that I apologies.
I think enough has been said and I'm now going to untangle them damn knickers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im doing it at the minute to be honest, my guy is away and im obviously not playing while hes working abroad. I can understand how people love forums and find friendship here, I love them too, am totally a forum junkie.
But i just noted that ive seen it mainly on single womens profiles and i just wondered whether that happens a lot, women meets up with a guy on here, they have a great time and start seeing each other sex, give up meeting others, and then go back to it when either themselves or the guy gets bored and wants other partners again. "
I agree with you, the written word can be misinterpreted as I took your post at single women using the site for dating and put the notice up til their boyfriends found them boring and they resumed the hunt.
Thing with open forums people will have differing views to you. I don't see the need to get uppity if someone doesn't agree with you.
Fair play to the ladies who felt the need to justify their preferences to you in a polite mannner. |
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By *omaMan
over a year ago
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In a few weeks we will be taking a break from meeting others.
This is our personal choice, we ll be back. We feel its good to take time out.
The reasons are no one elses business but our own. We dont feel we HAVE to have a reason.
The fact we take time out doesnt mean we are not entitled to be on FAB... and anyone who takes offence at our absence while still maintaining a valid profile must take a serious look at him/herself and ask what they themselves are doing on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive seen this on a few peoples profiles
can i just ask - if you are not playing or swinging, what exactly are you on here for then?
Am I being thick
(And im not being nasty or sarcastic, Im just wanting to know why people put this). "
There are so any different reasons to list. If some one has not meeting on their profile it means just that. I wouldn't expect someone to feel the need delete their profile if they are not meeting for the foreseeable future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What has it got to do with anyone else, who, why people are not meeting? Is it in the rules when we join that we have to be answerable to those who are more interested in other peoples lives than their own? |
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as already said people have several different reasons, i have serious illness in the family at the moment, so my status says "not meeting". and people my find a fb and not want to meet other single guys/ladies.. etc.
Although its a swingers site it dones not mean people cannot chat on here, i know a cpl of people who go to socials and like to mix with others but there aren't into swinging. |
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Illness
Lowered sex drive
Life events taking over
Other commitments
Busy with work
Moving house
Decorating
Going on holiday
A queue of potentials
Bored with the shite quality of messages
Happy with their current circle (or cycle) of friends
Found something else they like doing better
Decided to only meet people a=they already know
Only meet at clubs
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The list goes on and on..... so the question should be - why shouldn't they be here. |
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" I was wondering whether single women are really looking for men long term on here, like a dating site i guess."
Keep wondering
I'd find that less offensive if you added the word 'some' before 'single women' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you considered that some people have a life and other priorities other than swinging.
As Granny say's it's self explanatory. Respect the statement and except it.
yes you're correct I was referring to you. And to the above statements in particular. I accept my forum post was a bit silly and not the most intellectual - but on seeing some of the other posts people have made - ie; wheres the worst place to get an itch" then i expected that it was ok to be a bit silly and not take it all serious and just throw out whatever question. My mind was working along the lines of, are single women really on here to find a bloke and when they do they dont play. It was one dimensional and when others gave their reasons, which are all perfectly acceptable, I could see why people would put it.
The written word is much more difficult to accept than the spoken word and people can read various other scenarios into what is said. However some of us have a life, was, to me quite rude, and I read it as you were inferring I didnt have a life. Now you dont know me, you dont know what i do for a living or anything about me, so i thought it was inapprropiate to be honest. lets face it, you are doing the same as me right now, you are sitting in front of your pc, so maybe both of us dont have a life.
i could of course be reading this completely wrongly and as Ive stated the written word is difficult to interpret and I apologise if you werent being rude. But I have to say that that is how i interpreted it. But lets move on cos lifes too short - its only a swinging site
I apologies if what I said came across as rude. That was not my intention. I also was not inferring you didn't have a life outside swinging. You are right. I don't know you and the written word can be misinterpreted sometimes. I obviously did misinterpret your OP and for that I apologies.
I think enough has been said and I'm now going to untangle them damn knickers.
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Sorry too - and ive managed to untangle mine from this afternoon as well, very uncomfortable they were too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So to the OP, where is the worst place you have had an itch????? "
Lol lol lol i loved that post, truly I did, it was fun and silly and doesnt have to be intellectual all the time.
Worst place was all over, after having a course of antibiotics for cystitis and being allergic to the damn antibiotics. There wasnt a place on my body that didnt have a spot on it - yes even my labia.  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"So to the OP, where is the worst place you have had an itch?????
Lol lol lol i loved that post, truly I did, it was fun and silly and doesnt have to be intellectual all the time.
Worst place was all over, after having a course of antibiotics for cystitis and being allergic to the damn antibiotics. There wasnt a place on my body that didnt have a spot on it - yes even my labia. "
whats intewotsit mean???? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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well lets hope its an experienced man that is floating your boat.
I am missing my own guy, my gorgeous C, he has left me to go up to Scotland (not permanently I hope) and then he is working in Berlin after that, so i wont get to see him until the 1st week in September, seems like a lifetime to wait. But we are going away for a weekend together and I intend to be all fired up and raring to go - the bugger wont be able to walk afterwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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logic would say that this is a polite way of letting people know that they are not active so that people don't waste their time making approaches. Simples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing that worries me about a thread like this is that it can make people feel uncomfortable about not meeting. I thought it was all about choice after all. And are swingers not meant to be judgemental of others regarding sexual issues?
Maybe I am one of the odd ones out thinking that people should be able to make their own choice and not feel they should be doing something they would rather not just to fit in.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have thought that the majority on here would'nt take a blind bit of notice of a forum thread if they were not playing but wanted to keep their profile up and running for their own reasons
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have thought that the majority on here would'nt take a blind bit of notice of a forum thread if they were not playing but wanted to keep their profile up and running for their own reasons
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Your probably right but some like to keep up with the Jones's and others try to fit in as best they can. Not every one is confident enough to speak out for them self which is a shame. Individuality is great i think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have thought that the majority on here would'nt take a blind bit of notice of a forum thread if they were not playing but wanted to keep their profile up and running for their own reasons
Your probably right but some like to keep up with the Jones's and others try to fit in as best they can. Not every one is confident enough to speak out for them self which is a shame. Individuality is great i think."
Too true...
theres only one of me, thank god. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have thought that the majority on here would'nt take a blind bit of notice of a forum thread if they were not playing but wanted to keep their profile up and running for their own reasons
Your probably right but some like to keep up with the Jones's and others try to fit in as best they can. Not every one is confident enough to speak out for them self which is a shame. Individuality is great i think.
Too true...
theres only one of me, thank god. "
Your not a twin then Mind you twins can often be as different as chalk and cheese. I love the fact there are so many different types of people on here and most are not easily led and do their own thing. Its great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have thought that the majority on here would'nt take a blind bit of notice of a forum thread if they were not playing but wanted to keep their profile up and running for their own reasons
Your probably right but some like to keep up with the Jones's and others try to fit in as best they can. Not every one is confident enough to speak out for them self which is a shame. Individuality is great i think.
Too true...
theres only one of me, thank god.
Your not a twin then Mind you twins can often be as different as chalk and cheese. I love the fact there are so many different types of people on here and most are not easily led and do their own thing. Its great."
Ohhhhhh me mother would have had a dicky fit if i had been twins. lmao
enough trouble on me own |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would have thought that the majority on here would'nt take a blind bit of notice of a forum thread if they were not playing but wanted to keep their profile up and running for their own reasons
Your probably right but some like to keep up with the Jones's and others try to fit in as best they can. Not every one is confident enough to speak out for them self which is a shame. Individuality is great i think.
Too true...
theres only one of me, thank god.
Your not a twin then Mind you twins can often be as different as chalk and cheese. I love the fact there are so many different types of people on here and most are not easily led and do their own thing. Its great.
Ohhhhhh me mother would have had a dicky fit if i had been twins. lmao
enough trouble on me own "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put this on my profile once a month for obvious reasons, Are you saying that if we are not playing etc then we shouldn't be on here???? I love the forums no matter if i'm sexually active or not, I drink diet pepsi FFS but it doesn't mean i'm on a diet (I should be before you get smart) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ohhhhhhh how you know ?
well mainly because hes old and he has lots of experience - and ive seen him in action with quite a few ladies. And he has a speciality - you tell me what his speciality is and ill tell you how many women ive seen him do it too "
Kin marvelous.....
says me fella giving it large and then disappears when i wanna know more.
lmao.
Think she on about someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ohhhhhhh how you know ?
well mainly because hes old and he has lots of experience - and ive seen him in action with quite a few ladies. And he has a speciality - you tell me what his speciality is and ill tell you how many women ive seen him do it too
Kin marvelous.....
says me fella giving it large and then disappears when i wanna know more.
lmao.
Think she on about someone else. "
I was just about to respond. Peaches I think we've got our wires crossed, which is my fault cos im tired but i cant sleep yet - nooo im not on about your fella, i was on about mine. Ive never met your guy. I remember asking what you had to be happy about etc, and i remember your post saying that he was experienced etc and i said yes hes experienced with lots of women not just you and so on and so forth but i meant my own guy, i dont know about yours. Oh im confused, lol, its me not reading properly (i dont have my contact lenses in), no just to clarify, i have never met your guy, ever, no hes not giving it large, why would he with those boobs to come home to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lmao .,
Thought i was in the twilight zone ya know. ....
No worries....he gonna be giving it large this week....
And all mine too.......well on that day anyways |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Romance via FAB is possible, been there, done that, got the T-shirt so to speak!
I would include such a statement in my profile if I have sufficient playmates to keep me busy without the need for flesh blood! "
Ooh hello and was that fresh blood you ment or you into new things ? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thing that worries me about a thread like this is that it can make people feel uncomfortable about not meeting. I thought it was all about choice after all. And are swingers not meant to be judgemental of others regarding sexual issues?
Maybe I am one of the odd ones out thinking that people should be able to make their own choice and not feel they should be doing something they would rather not just to fit in.
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I would worry more about meeting adults without a mind of their own who would do anything to "keep up with the Jones'" in order to get a meet.
Gee, how desperate would you have to be, besides how can you be all things to all men?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I won't be meeting once the new arrival is here but I'll still be coming into the forums and maybe adding my point of view, that's still allowed right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its still the school holidays so its alot harder to go to meets as all the kids are at home. so just havin a break over the summer doesnt mean they are going to delete thier profile |
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