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Abuse for no reason.

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had one recently and 'she' got both barrels back.

Not bothered by any abuse we get, it's quite funny and just shows up the senders for the morons they are

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By *andy_tomMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

Best not lower yourself to there standards, ignore or report them .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's abusive, I just report and block. Ain't nobody got time for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

Why do you get abuse id be giving compliments to you

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I report, delete, and move on. I don't bother engaging, especially rudely, because there's a chance they'll report my response and I'm not risking me getting kicked off the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd just block and report. They probably get off on the attention you give them. Don't give the sad fuckers any satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

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By *p4funCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"I report, delete, and move on. I don't bother engaging, especially rudely, because there's a chance they'll report my response and I'm not risking me getting kicked off the site."

Have to agree they're not worth it just report and block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Negativity breeds negativity.

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By *andy_tomMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

"I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

rise above it ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

I used to give alot of shit back. In real life they would get worse, but I got a warning for giving abuse back. They arent worth the hassle. They are just sad fuckers not worthy of your attention.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

'Giving shit back' is not the mark of a strong woman.

Giving shit back is being them or even worse , being yourself.

Use the block button.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually closed my single profile because I couldn't put up with the abuse I was getting. Name calling from std whore a danger to their health because of my veri's even though they were all socials lol. Been called a racist and men saying they feel sorry for my bf having to shag me. And all this because I said thanks but no thanks. Some of the messages I would get as an opening message.

You can only report abuse for so long before it gets too much xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its kids or those with a childish mentality. They think its funny and can often find angry responses funny too. "Trolling" has been a part of the internet for the last 20 years. Try not to be offended by it and Block / report it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find this so sad, do you think it's fakes (ie people who have no intention of meeting) I admire your resolve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...

'Giving shit back' is not the mark of a strong woman.

Giving shit back is being them or even worse , being yourself.

..."

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

Oh dear.

Answer me this ... who is worse. A man sending what he considers to be a sexual come on ( no matter how vulgar you find it ) or a woman who thinks abuse from behind a key board will sort them out?

The intentions of each is clear.

One is worse than the other.

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By *aywalton1Man over a year ago

Walton on the Hill

"I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

You go girl! Give them hell

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never had this. they are low human beings in my opinion, not worth it

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Can the mods see all the messages that are sent and so see the stupid abusers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had it once from someone I respectfully disagreed with on the forum.

The PM I received was quite honestly some of the most vile and vitriolic abuse I've ever read.

I bit my tongue and reported it, no point in getting into a slagging match with a moron.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

'Giving shit back' is not the mark of a strong woman.

Giving shit back is being them or even worse , being yourself.

Use the block button. "

Well maybe i am like them. I don't honestly care. I can be a vile bitch when provoked but i embrace it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

Oh dear.

Answer me this ... who is worse. A man sending what he considers to be a sexual come on ( no matter how vulgar you find it ) or a woman who thinks abuse from behind a key board will sort them out?

The intentions of each is clear.

One is worse than the other. "

No you've misunderstood. They're was no come on. Just abuse for no reason and really I'm not too fussed which is worse.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I got my first last week, I looked at the profile and laughed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

rise above it ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dint want to report. I want them to eat shit.

Oh dear.

Answer me this ... who is worse. A man sending what he considers to be a sexual come on ( no matter how vulgar you find it ) or a woman who thinks abuse from behind a key board will sort them out?

The intentions of each is clear.

One is worse than the other. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Almost appears as if you are courting the abuse you say you are receiving, appears as a veiled challenge.

You don't meet, your profile appears quite confrontational, so is this forum post an advert to attract more abuse?

We don't want to take part in any abuse either giving or receiving, friendly chat only for us, so will leave you to what you like.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Only the one, so I doubt this is a widespread problem. If you get more than one, then I'd be asking myself why

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

I've been here seven years. I've been "abused" on the forums because I have a mind of my own and could really care less if I tried.

I can count on one hand and still have room to make a rude gesture, abusive messages I've received. You can see the first few words so I simply delete unopened. I think total indifference rankles more: besides, why waste your time on non entities?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really dislike the implication from some posters above that people only get abuse where they court it. I have probably the least aggressive profile of any I've ever read on here, but I get probably two or three really nasty messages a week.

I don't engage with them, just report, block, delete - mainly because I can't be arsed and I don't care enough. But I do NOT court them, encourage them or deserve them, even though I'm married which is what appears to be behind most of them.

I don't agree with replying with a worse message, but it's not right to suggests people deserve it or bring it on themselves.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

some reap what they sow...

some.

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By *abes in the woodWoman over a year ago

wales

I get abuse for nothing but got so fed up gaveit back then block as they think they own you but not saying all lot of nice ones too just block delete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really dislike the implication from some posters above that people only get abuse where they court it. I have probably the least aggressive profile of any I've ever read on here, but I get probably two or three really nasty messages a week.

I don't agree with replying with a worse message, but it's not right to suggests people deserve it or bring it on themselves. "

Nobody deserves it..especially when it's unsolicited and replying gives them what they wish, a reaction.

I will of course send you abuse when I'm 46 and outside your age range

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't agree with replying with a worse message, but it's not right to suggests people deserve it or bring it on themselves. "

But your profile is direct yet informative and polite so wouldn't understand why you get abuse, but when you read others it appears exactly that's wht they want x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been here over 7 years and not one letter like that .... only nasty stuff I got was on cam and was from ladies not on this site on the old one I was on ....... Never here and if I had a worry I would report or chat to mod .. its why I love fab as my old site never had mods was a free for all .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I don't I just report them and delete message, not stooping to their low level

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't agree with replying with a worse message, but it's not right to suggests people deserve it or bring it on themselves. "

Some do deserve it and bring it on themselves. They are abusive then whine when people are abusive back.

Some. Not all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I don't I just report them and delete message, not stooping to their low level"

your right why would worry or bother with it as its a no one and not in your life. Some will get off on people righting back even if nasty so best to report and say nothing and block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

People just want to go out of their ways to be dick because they probably dont have anything else yo do with their lifes. I usually point this out to them which usually gets me sworn at and then blocked. The truth hurts. Also laughing at them hits a nerve to. I don't actually need to swear at them at all.

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People just want to go out of their ways to be dick because they probably dont have anything else yo do with their lifes. I usually point this out to them which usually gets me sworn at and then blocked. The truth hurts. Also laughing at them hits a nerve to. I don't actually need to swear at them at all.

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

No need to ever explain your situation... it's no-one else's business why you are or aren't meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

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And some not all will get off on you doing that to them ... in more ways then one . lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had it before because i would not meet ( not on this site) i dont care what abuse they write really, i find it sad as we are online.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

Sorry I should of elaborated, of course not meeting is not an offence far from it, I was merely speculating that as you don't meet and the way your profile reads it could be assumed that provocation and verbal exchanges are the reason you are here. Maybe your just unlucky to get the amount you receive, who knows?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

And some not all will get off on you doing that to them ... in more ways then one . lol

oh well cant win them all.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't tend to give them the satisfaction of giving them shit back when I do get abusive messages which is not often, I tend to delete and block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Report and block or have a little fun with them lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Abuse? Does that mean some people on here receive messages?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

And some not all will get off on you doing that to them ... in more ways then one . lol

oh well cant win them all. "
They will look at you as Dom and miss whip lash with words and be wanking over your pics . lol And think ooo give me more .. xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Abuse? Does that mean some people on here receive messages?

Oh hush up you....your inbox gets filled on a daily basis...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've not had one of those messages yet. I would feel sorry for the poor person sending it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Only ever had one abusive message in 8 years and that was via a forum thread where the person was sending abuse to everyone.

I often wonder what people consider abusive.

To be honest op you font come across as a strong woman but someone who seeks justification in their actions. I find strong women don't feel the need to tell everyone their strong women, they would just report, move on and not start threads about messages.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I seem to get quite a few first messages calling me names.

Now it doesn't bother me at all. I give them triple the shit back and make them wish they hadn't started. I think they do it because they can't cope with a strong minded women.

Anyway do other women get abuse for no reason? Do you report or give shit back?

I really hope you give them hell.

'Giving shit back' is not the mark of a strong woman.

Giving shit back is being them or even worse , being yourself.

Use the block button. "

Agree with this.

Strong women walk away. It clearly does bother you or you wouldn't have to make such a fuss of it. If you are as secure in the persona you put across on here as you would like us to believe then you wouldn't have to do anything but move on.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

it does provide huge dividends at times, the grandstanding of how horrid the bad person has been, brings volumes of platitudes.

within minutes, another person posts to get the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to get abuse when I politely say no thank you.. depending on the severity of the abuse I will report other than that I block

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And im i looking for confrontation?! No but i am direct and i don't apologise for it at all. Its also a method to filter mailers.

Why am i not meeting atm? Because i have no time right now and my child is at home. Didnt realise it was an offense.

No you are assuming that its a provocation because of this tread. I doubt that is what you would have thought otherwise. Im sure i could makes some wild accusations about your profile and posts if i wanted doesnt mean they have any truth to them. Im sure thatS what all these abusers think. That they have some provocation no matter if its real or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I often wonder what people consider abusive."

I often wonder that too. I've never had what I would call abusive messages. I put up a social meet request thingy once and turned two men down and then I became old and fat, a time waster, a tease, and a fake with stolen pictures.

I'd say they were rude not abusive but we're all different I suppose. I just blocked and moved on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Abuse? Does that mean some people on here receive messages?

Oh hush up you....your inbox gets filled on a daily basis...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've not had one of those messages yet. I would feel sorry for the poor person sending it"
Oh don't feel sorry...I'm banging the keyboard with laughter as I type abuse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I thought a message was abusive I would delete and move on. Can't see the point in fuelling the fire. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people do it purposely so you'll respond, even if it's just to argue with them it's still giving them attention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the only abuse I get is on the forums, very rarely get nasty messages from men, only men who are paying members can contact me and not women, otherwise I might get more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just report they will think twice before doing it I hope. And the ones reading this .. who like doing it at times ... report and show fab your mail from that person .

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"the only abuse I get is on the forums, very rarely get nasty messages from men, only men who are paying members can contact me and not women, otherwise I might get more."

You think women are more likely to send nasty messages? I've never had one from a woman.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

I receive a fair bit of weird or filthy messages but rarely abusive messages from sad lonely losers

But once I refuse to meet, the the same sad lonely losers turn nasty. They send an abusive message and then block me before I get a chance to give them a piece of my mind

In the past I have reported these messages. But these days, I rarely bother

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I report, delete, and move on. I don't bother engaging, especially rudely, because there's a chance they'll report my response and I'm not risking me getting kicked off the site."

This - every time!

Not been many to be honest - just guys that I decline .

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If you receive abusive messages then there isnt really a need to start a thread about it in the forums.

Report, delete, block.

Enjoying the drama and being abusive back - chances are you'll end up with a ban as well.

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