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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just not bothering with Christmas this year? I haven't bought a single present, card, bit of festive food....nothing.....not a shred of tinsel....and I won't be either.
I'm not particularly grouchy, I simply just don't really get it, I don't believe in the religion so it feels a bit two faced celebrating it, I'm not one for following the pack and celebrating it just because its what people do and also the novelty seems reduced every year and now its just gone altogether....
I understand those with kids won't have a choice...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've not brought each other presents this year.
We told crystal's parents last week that we are likely going away next year to avoid it. We figures 53 weeks notice might ne enough!
Even by my normal standards I'll be glad when it's over this year. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I didn't have kids I wouldn't bother "
I see why parents like doing it for their kids....smiling faces on Christmas morning and all that.....but as a singleton.....i just don't get bitten by the bug...
Maybe I'm really grouchy but I just don't know it......I dont feel grouchy.....hmm.... |
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"If I didn't have kids I wouldn't bother
I see why parents like doing it for their kids....smiling faces on Christmas morning and all that.....but as a singleton.....i just don't get bitten by the bug...
Maybe I'm really grouchy but I just don't know it......I dont feel grouchy.....hmm...."
No I think you're doing what you want to
and since nobody else is being affected there's no problem  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We've not brought each other presents this year.
We told crystal's parents last week that we are likely going away next year to avoid it. We figures 53 weeks notice might ne enough!
Even by my normal standards I'll be glad when it's over this year. "
53 weeks has to be enough notice for most things I would think!
Might take a leaf from your book....have Christmas as a little holiday away someplace....enjoy it my own way....some food for thought there..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually enjoy Xmas Day, with all my family, but can't be arsed with the before and after. I think most nowadays just spend the time off drinking and laying about. I'm not the least bit religious but I do like to see my family all together for at least one day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like Christmas but I can understand why people wouldn't. I think if you don't want to celebrate you shouldn't feel obliged to "
It's not that I particularly dislike it really....i'm just very indifferent to it....it's a big a blip on my radar as say Passover or Ramadan and I don't dislike those...it just doesen't really register as an event to me personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do have kids and haven't bothered.
We celebrate their birthdays, they get spoilt then and it's spread out the cost so they get better stuff, without half the crap people think makes good presents. Sorry but the shops stock up on pretty crap so that people who don't know what to buy for others will spend money on crap, and if that's not a reason to cancel christmas then i don't know what is.
The saying it's the thought that counts comes from trying to hide the fact that people have not thought about what gifts someone would actually want and will buy any old shit because they think they have to buy something.
Bah humbug. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like it for the one occasion a year I get to spend with my family, but don't bother with decorations or a tree at home, can't see the point. "
Perhaps I'm lucky in that I get to see a lot of my friends and family regularly so Christmas doesen't really have a bearing....I see why many like it for that reason though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't celebrate my birthday,I haven't since I got married. I like everyone getting together at Christmas time as it's one of the few times I get to see all my children and grandchildren together. I love the lights,the carols and the rubbish Christmas television. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, not doing anything.
I loved making a big thing of it when I was with somebody very special, but it only brings sad memories now.
Never mind - soon be over and we can look forward to Spring, and running around naked in the sunshine!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've not brought each other presents this year.
We told crystal's parents last week that we are likely going away next year to avoid it. We figures 53 weeks notice might ne enough!
Even by my normal standards I'll be glad when it's over this year.
53 weeks has to be enough notice for most things I would think!
Might take a leaf from your book....have Christmas as a little holiday away someplace....enjoy it my own way....some food for thought there..... "
I've been away a few times before. And I've volunteered too. I'd recommend either
And you'd think 53 weeks would be sufficient wouldn't you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No, not doing anything.
I loved making a big thing of it when I was with somebody very special, but it only brings sad memories now.
Never mind - soon be over and we can look forward to Spring, and running around naked in the sunshine!!!
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And where will you be doing this running about of which you speak? Do you have a grid reference and some directions perhaps? |
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I loathe it. People spending too much money on crap they don't want or need and getting stressed with it all.
A few years back we decided that instead of buying any gifts, we give an appropriate amount of cash to a charity instead.
We don't have much family in the UK so this year will be a quiet day at home, the two of us, play some games, watch Dr Who, drink rum and generally have a nice day. What more do you need? Certainly not giftwrapped crap we can buy any other time of the year.
(acknowledge: if we had kids, it might be different) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Quite honestly, if we thought there was any chance of a social / play meet, we'd gladly host it!"
If I was closer to Brighton I'd be fishing for an invite.....it'd be the most interesting christmas day and would surely beat any other option I have just now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't celebrate my birthday,I haven't since I got married. I like everyone getting together at Christmas time as it's one of the few times I get to see all my children and grandchildren together. I love the lights,the carols and the rubbish Christmas television. "
I can understand that.....
If I had children and grandchildren I'm sure I'd be singing a very different tune |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For the first time in a few years I've got my whole family together. Including the girls partners and 2 grandchildren.
Found out yesterday the rest of my family and close friends have been taking bets when the first row of the day will be in my house 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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GRINCH!!!!
I haven't got a little reason for all the fuss running about being all excited have I?
All set for tommorrow btw? I imagine excitement levels are running fairly high today? X "
Its been nuts but i'll chat later about it, we spent 5 hours at my work place today (initially just to deliver cards and say hello) bringing xmas cheer to many,, started a few random carol singing outbursts and was lush. People dancing and laughing x
Good deed for December done 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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GRINCH!!!!
I haven't got a little reason for all the fuss running about being all excited have I?
All set for tommorrow btw? I imagine excitement levels are running fairly high today? X
Its been nuts but i'll chat later about it, we spent 5 hours at my work place today (initially just to deliver cards and say hello) bringing xmas cheer to many,, started a few random carol singing outbursts and was lush. People dancing and laughing x
Good deed for December done
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Get you and your spreading of Christmas cheer
I'm guessing you'll be run ragged prepping for tomorrow but give me a message later when you've done and fill me in on yer shinnanigans |
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I have bought a couple gifts for the kids. but I dont really feel like xmas ..I dont bother with decs or trees and stuff. 3 or four years ago OH put up some lovely new lights on a tree in front garden They were stolen within a week. Makes me so angry .
Will only have company xmas day the rest I will be on my own. Back to work on monday.
Be glad when all the fuss is done with and we get back to normal.
Bah Humbug
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like the tree and decorations, not bothered about food though, only buy it because of my son. me and my hubby would just eat what we normaly eat, one thing I hate about xmas is you get tempted to eat too much food that isn't good for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not doing anything.. skint and got beans on toast. Dentist just gave me a nice pressie of a filling, so thats good.. right?? lol"
That's not bad at all!.....oh......hang on....like a tooth filling? Not the good kind of filling? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like the tree and decorations, not bothered about food though, only buy it because of my son. me and my hubby would just eat what we normaly eat, one thing I hate about xmas is you get tempted to eat too much food that isn't good for you."
That's very true....as a recovering fatty I don't like the endless scoffing of food....last year I literally just had turkey and veg......that was all.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have bought a couple gifts for the kids. but I dont really feel like xmas ..I dont bother with decs or trees and stuff. 3 or four years ago OH put up some lovely new lights on a tree in front garden They were stolen within a week. Makes me so angry .
Will only have company xmas day the rest I will be on my own. Back to work on monday.
Be glad when all the fuss is done with and we get back to normal.
Bah Humbug
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That's crap...some scrote robbed your lights!
It'll be nice when its all done and the month long circus that is Christmas has buggered off....we can get concentrating on easter then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like the tree and decorations, not bothered about food though, only buy it because of my son. me and my hubby would just eat what we normaly eat, one thing I hate about xmas is you get tempted to eat too much food that isn't good for you.
That's very true....as a recovering fatty I don't like the endless scoffing of food....last year I literally just had turkey and veg......that was all...."
sounds good.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For the first time in a few years I've got my whole family together. Including the girls partners and 2 grandchildren.
Found out yesterday the rest of my family and close friends have been taking bets when the first row of the day will be in my house
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So kicking off is a bit of a thing with your lot then? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well it's just me and the cat here, the tree is up, heaps of presents under it, food and drink delivered today, enough to feed an army!
Willing to share, but not my baileys "
Well, I'm not so fussed about Sharing the Bailey's....or the food really...which leaves.....you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My worst Christmas was when I split from my ex husband only a couple of months beforehand. That wasn't fun.
Christmas is great when you are happily married with young kids. It is very different when you are single.
My husband is hating Christmas this year, as he does every year, as the kids behaviour goes off the charts crazy. We are all tired, not well, and it's difficult when they are off school and around 24/7.
I'm sat here wondering when one of my kids will go to sleep. He's supposed to be asleep by 8. I can't leave the room until he drops off. It's 8:23 and he's say eating rice cakes as he refused to eat much dinner earlier as he was too busy running around and creating chaos. |
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I absolutely love Christmas, and probably do go over the top. I'm from Canada so that's prob half of it and that's just how it is there... Brits do tend to play down the holidays, that's just how it is here.
Even before I had kids and was on my own I used to decorate my one bed flat haha.
I do understand though it isn't for everyone and for some it's the worst time of the yr, remembering the death of loved ones ect. My heart always goes out to all those people. Xx |
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"I can't wait!!!!!!!!!
I'm afraid you'll have to "
But not for long!! We have a day of Xmas eve fun planned tomorrow, Santa jigsaws. Hot choccies. Xmas movies and books. It all starts in the morning |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I don't do anything at home (apart from my Christmas chocolates). There are no decorations and the cards are in a pile.
I have the presents wrapped and there are foody things for the Christmas Eve party and Christmas Day feast but it's really just here as overflow fridge space and an extra oven. Everything happens across the road.
We have two days of lovely things and just enjoy being a family together.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only bothering because my sister is visiting. Otherwise would be in caravan with friend Loz....n just having a normal chill day like we do most weekends. |
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"I like the tree and decorations, not bothered about food though, only buy it because of my son. me and my hubby would just eat what we normaly eat, one thing I hate about xmas is you get tempted to eat too much food that isn't good for you.
That's very true....as a recovering fatty I don't like the endless scoffing of food....last year I literally just had turkey and veg......that was all...."
I'm being careful this year! Just dropped over 2 stone and I'm not finding half of it again for the sake of a couple of days! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I can't wait!!!!!!!!!
I'm afraid you'll have to
But not for long!! We have a day of Xmas eve fun planned tomorrow, Santa jigsaws. Hot choccies. Xmas movies and books. It all starts in the morning "
I took three children to see the Penguins film today - it's good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't wait!!!!!!!!!
I'm afraid you'll have to
But not for long!! We have a day of Xmas eve fun planned tomorrow, Santa jigsaws. Hot choccies. Xmas movies and books. It all starts in the morning "
Sounds like a lush day! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like the tree and decorations, not bothered about food though, only buy it because of my son. me and my hubby would just eat what we normaly eat, one thing I hate about xmas is you get tempted to eat too much food that isn't good for you.
That's very true....as a recovering fatty I don't like the endless scoffing of food....last year I literally just had turkey and veg......that was all....
I'm being careful this year! Just dropped over 2 stone and I'm not finding half of it again for the sake of a couple of days! "
No exactly.....
There's plenty turkey though and that's not so bad, loads of veggies and I'm sure a few other bits you can fill up on with the minimum of guilt.....
That's what I did last year...just avoided all the stuffing and pigs in blankets and roasties and such...there are some good pickings for the weight concious at christmas really... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm only buying presents for my 3yr old girl and seeing her Saturday, I'm not celebrating Christmas this year as I lost my mom suddenly and unexpectedly in August first Christmas in 34 years without her,but will make the effort and smile to make it a happy & exciting Christmas just fir her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm only buying presents for my 3yr old girl and seeing her Saturday, I'm not celebrating Christmas this year as I lost my mom suddenly and unexpectedly in August first Christmas in 34 years without her,but will make the effort and smile to make it a happy & exciting Christmas just fir her "
Aww mate that sucks.....it's rubbish any time when a loved ones not with you any more but always seems magnified during the holidays and such times.
Hope the day passes as well as it can and I hope your little one has a brilliant day of it....*hugs* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, I've done a quick search and there are lots of men and even a few women with meet requests for Christmas Day. You should all get together and have a party.
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Hehe, check you out...like a wonderous seasonal social p.a
I might have a browse for noseyness sake and see.....thankyou |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm only buying presents for my 3yr old girl and seeing her Saturday, I'm not celebrating Christmas this year as I lost my mom suddenly and unexpectedly in August first Christmas in 34 years without her,but will make the effort and smile to make it a happy & exciting Christmas just fir her
Aww mate that sucks.....it's rubbish any time when a loved ones not with you any more but always seems magnified during the holidays and such times.
Hope the day passes as well as it can and I hope your little one has a brilliant day of it....*hugs* "
Thanks much appreciated I'm sure my daughter will have a great time and looking forward to see that little happy face of hers, that's my Christmas present
So not all doom and gloom
Hope you have a good one too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well it's just me and the cat here, the tree is up, heaps of presents under it, food and drink delivered today, enough to feed an army!
Willing to share, but not my baileys "
I'm on my way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is enough misery and despair already in this world we live in, so we will celebrate it. Any opportunity to spread a bit of togetherness is ok by us xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just me and my mum ..
first Xmas without my nana, so just enough food in til Saturday."
Aww more hugs...to you and yer mam....again, its never great, holidays with someone absent from our lives....you will have each other though so take some heart in that...
Hope it's a nice a day as can be for you |
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We love it but don't go overboard, a few simple prezzies and we are only allowed to spend £10 on each other. Christmas dinner is a trip to Bradford to our favourite curry house, take our own Booz and really enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I love it, stop being a bah humbug. It doesn't have to be religious just about spending that one day with the people you love. "
Aaah hello you! What you doing in here? how's your trip away going?
And yeah I know you love it, that's just you, all glitzy...suits you just fine...
Anyhow...when ya back? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I love it, stop being a bah humbug. It doesn't have to be religious just about spending that one day with the people you love. "
And sorry...to answer your actual comment..no I guess it doesn't have to be religious, I just drew that as an example as across all faiths there's a holiday most weeks probably, many pass un noticed by many, and Christmas is that kind of thing for me to an extent
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have a mooch every now and again. Trips ok, although I feel like a teenager and not in a good way. Back on Saturday I think x"
You should mooch more its ok in here... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I haven't written many cards this year. I have felt less Christmassy this year but generally I like all that is Christmas "
In which case I hope you soon return to your former christmassy self |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe I will, I do get myself a bit confused with end as there 3 in the year then the in laws have a few extra celebrations x"
Ah...I had to think about that for a second then...but of course, I forgot the overseas link.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wasnt going to bother but now have two trees enough lights you can see the house from space and have bought my niece and daughter waaaaaaayyy too much plastic shite |
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