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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess I do a little on occasion on this site but I also know that if I met them that would change as I come across better in person than online....as for anything else not really and I don't feel the need to change for anyone   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing or nobody is out of our league, if people we thought were don't like us then hey ho, no big deal. We'd never refrain from contacting someone for that reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see anyone as being out of my league - we are all people with individual characteristics
Unfortunetely most of the people I contact seem to feel that I aren't in the same league as them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing or nobody is out of our league, if people we thought were don't like us then hey ho, no big deal. We'd never refrain from contacting someone for that reason."
 Just mail them anyway. What's the worst that could happen? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thus isn't all about people out of your league.
How many people do you regularly hear say "oh I could never do that" ?
Do you just accept that or think...here's how I can achieve that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing or nobody is out of our league, if people we thought were don't like us then hey ho, no big deal. We'd never refrain from contacting someone for that reason.
Just mail them anyway. What's the worst that could happen?"
exactly, we've had responses ranging from 'we were hoping you'd get in touch' to 'no thank' to 'go away uglies'
Hardly gonna shatter our existence to be rejected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it all boils down to whether you are a negative person or generally a positive person. I like to think that I will at least be willing to give most things a go and if it doesn't work, at least I have tried. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is nobody I would consider out of my league. But there are a number of people on here...so far up their own asses that they consider themselves out of other peoples leagues. Often the kind of people, who may be superficially great...but you wouldn't necessarily want to know them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is nobody I would consider out of my league. But there are a number of people on here...so far up their own asses that they consider themselves out of other peoples leagues. Often the kind of people, who may be superficially great...but you wouldn't necessarily want to know them."
And they aren't always superficially great .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Thus isn't all about people out of your league.
How many people do you regularly hear say "oh I could never do that" ?
Do you just accept that or think...here's how I can achieve that?"
Sometimes. Sometimes I do it anyway.  
Why not?  |
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"I guess I do a little on occasion on this site but I also know that if I met them that would change as I come across better in person than online....as for anything else not really and I don't feel the need to change for anyone "
I'm surprised that you would initially feel like that. Your photos show a sexy, vivacious, lady. Anybody would be lucky to meet you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without. "
I'm often outside height or age range though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without.
I'm often outside height or age range though."
Do people put real thought into that when they fill out preferences ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess I do a little on occasion on this site but I also know that if I met them that would change as I come across better in person than online....as for anything else not really and I don't feel the need to change for anyone
I'm surprised that you would initially feel like that. Your photos show a sexy, vivacious, lady. Anybody would be lucky to meet you."
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without.
I'm often outside height or age range though.
Do people put real thought into that when they fill out preferences ?
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I think they do with age. The height one is a sort of joke as my ex (he's on here) gave my height as a reason for us splitting. We're still best of friends. |
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Having reached a nicely mature age of 50 there is obviously the divide of age that creeps in. Either in my thinking that a couple or lady are too young for me to contact, or that have chosen not to have men of my obvious maturity contact them.
As an introvert I also feel that many women are so beautiful that I feel intimidated in even thinking of contacting them. Perhaps I should; other posters are quite right that the worst that can happen is that I get ignored or turned down, neither of which can actually hurt me! |
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Lets be honest about this... There is always a "league"... We all generally know which league we are in and we all look at others and kinda know if we are in with a shout or not... Just look at the profiles on here with age restrictions, height, weight or race/colour restrictions.... No bald guys... Slim only..attractive only...six pack required etc..the list goes on and on... We may all chance our
arm (as we do) now and then and go for a real hotty but we are realistic enough not to get upset if we dont get a reply back.... Thats just life... Move on.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without. "
and I've turned men down because they have met some real stunners I like to feel happy on a meet. |
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" Thus isn't all about people out of your league.
How many people do you regularly hear say "oh I could never do that" ?
Do you just accept that or think...here's how I can achieve that?"
Never think people are out of our league although we know there would be no common ground between us and certain people but that isn't the same thing.
Same goes for things I either thing I'd like to do something, own something or not......if I want to I'll try and do it or get it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always think woman are out of my league as I'm like marmite , 6.1 18 stone and bald , goes one way or the other either get told being muscly is horrible or that they love it , that being bald is horrible or they love it , often that I look like a boxer so they like the rough look but also that woman don't like me because I look like I want to ripp someone's head off lol !
So my answer is yes I often think woman are out of my league , but anything anything else is possibly , money doesn't have preferences , cars , and other material things don't have a type so they have no choice they can't be out of my league if I want them I can usually get them through hard work BUT woman yea some you grow on but some you just don't , they know what they want and weather we like it or not they rule tee roost |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Sometimes I get the odd message from a chap saying he'd like to meet, but feels I'm out of his league . Yes, I know, unlikely, but it has happened. It irritates me a bit, because if they feel that way, then why should I meet them? |
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Having in my life met people from all walks of life including extremely wealthy, titled, famous as well as people on the breadline and all inbetween. I know that we are all human, with the same needs, so I would never set myself any boundaries based on Leagues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All of my regular partners are way above me in the financial and physical league. One is a long way ahead of me in the education league and world travelled. I'm a nothing in the world compared to what they have achieved and have. But, they like me,we have a good time together. We would never date or go beyond a sexual relationships and I'm happy with that. I don't see anyone on here as out of my league,some are much nicer than others but that's a different league altogether |
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I work on the principle that hot girls sometimes say that no one asks them out as they think they will be turned down.
So far they have all turned me down
But I am a glass half full kind of guy so remain hopeful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to assume that there were ladies on fab who were in another league. But once you chat and mingle with them (on fab) you find like the old saying goes, opposites attract..... |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I've always been more of a nothing ventured, nothing gained type. The first guy I met on here was way out of what I then considered my league. Cue moment of realisation that 'leagues' are all in peoples' own heads and there is much fun to be had if you chat to and/or meet those that interest you regardless of how hot you think they are (their own opinion may be somewhat different to yours). |
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I really try not to go on looks but some pics people post on their profile beggar belief!
I'm attracted to personality, a smile and nice eyes (which I suppose I think I have). Therefore yes, I'm looking for people in my own league. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I quite often think the men who message me on here are 'out of my league' and I'm still constantly surprised when they do want to meet.
I never think that about other things in my life. If I decide I want to do something, I'll go for it and not half heartedly either. I'm still gloating that I've managed to complete two marathons, albeit walking ones, they were still 26.2 miles each. Built for comfort not for speed |
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" Thus isn't all about people out of your league.
How many people do you regularly hear say "oh I could never do that" ?
Do you just accept that or think...here's how I can achieve that?"
From "special ed", council estate, never expected to have more than a secondary education: that was the blue print handed to me and my parents accepted.
It wasn't acceptable to me and my parents thought perhaps I had ideas above my station but supported me...a little. 43 years later my sisters and I "live the dream". My Youngest at 23 lectures to undergraduates whilst studying for her PhD.
I wish my parents and my ex husbands parents had lived to see it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without.
I'm often outside height or age range though.
Do people put real thought into that when they fill out preferences ?
I think they do with age. The height one is a sort of joke as my ex (he's on here) gave my height as a reason for us splitting. We're still best of friends."
That went over my head.
I agree on the age thing. ..but..u would always be the lower limit. I'd feel uncomfortable having contact with younger people, on the basis that I'd feel I'm doing them wrong ...odd I know.
Interesting replies...maybe I will try for that objective. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just ask the bottom league people to wear a mask of someone from the A+++ league, it does dent their confidence, but I spunk quicker...."
but in fairness you did say you were up your own arse so you can tell them they're being a bit anal if they complain.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I just ask the bottom league people to wear a mask of someone from the A+++ league, it does dent their confidence, but I spunk quicker....but in fairness you did say you were up your own arse so you can tell them they're being a bit anal if they complain. "
and I am |
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When I joined I never thought like that at all but now I have realised that I am in the non-league when it comes to others (very rarely any interest from women I message, over 2 years & only 1 meet) lol
I have always thought how I can get promoted but Height & Penis enlargement costs way too much ha ha ha
Keep trying hopefully I will win the Cup one day lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, but in the FAB world it's a little easier to approach people. Getting knocked back on here is second nature. If I where out and saw a girl I thought was out of my league I'd be more inclined to keep my distance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel that so many women are 'out of my league' so much as 'not my style/I'm not theirs' - there are some people who are so fundamentally different to you in their personalities and needs that you'll never appeal to them because you simply don't have the right software, on the other hand, there are also some wonderful people who you might just get a shot at one day, if you're willing to be the best that you can be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple but we are both different people.
Sometimes our taste in women differs quite a lot
I know what the op means though but there has also been threads about hot women with ugly men & vice versa
Just down to preferences I'd guess |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
I often console myself with the notion I was out of their league . right after theyve said no thanks..
Always strive for better if you don't achieve it try try and then give up.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there are probably some people who are out of my league on here and in real life. But I'm not looking at those people wanting to meet. I generally feel more comfortable with people who are like me, with a few imperfections. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one has mentioned personality leagues? It's not just looks.
I know a guy who is by far and away not the best looker, and very VERY short, but he has a personality that is so sexy and confident it's hard not to be drawn to him and just be desperate for him to throw some of that attention your way.
He's a photographer and works with a LOT of hot women.
Conversely, I've always struggled to fit in places because I have a lot of aspergers traits so unless it's a one on one conversation (where I talk too much about myself with no breaks!) in a group I tend to go dead quiet or say or do something inappropriate.
It's not deliberate, and it's cost me a lot of friendships I suspect. And I've regularly been put down or left out because of it.
I am in awe of charming people. They are often out of my league.
Looks are easier. I can lose weight, get a boob job and a fake tan and dress better. But I struggle learning social skills. So I can't jump leagues in that respect! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here? No! No one's out of my league - but some people would consider that i'm too old for them, not big breasted enough, not attractive enough etc etc! It's impossible to be everyone's type I think!
I also don't consider other people to be 'not in the same league' as me - though i'm relatively specific about what I find sexually attractive. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I'm in anyone's league after last few meets lol. I think maybe I'm too old fat and ugly and boring as I only meet socially first"
As do I generally! Stick to your guns and do what makes you feel happy and comfortable love! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
What could you do, to get promoted to the next Division ?"
No such thing as leagues! Imagine it like a FA cup knock out. Everyone has a shot you just need to play well on the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined I thought a lot were out of my league, but they all said how gorgeous I was and I met many back then. Until, I realized a lot of men are just desperate for a meet, any meet, so aren't fussy!!! I'm not into being somebody's pity shag so now it has to be genuine attraction on both sides and a lot more talking so I believe that!! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On here? No! No one's out of my league - but some people would consider that i'm too old for them, not big breasted enough, not attractive enough etc etc! It's impossible to be everyone's type I think!
I also don't consider other people to be 'not in the same league' as me - though i'm relatively specific about what I find sexually attractive. Xxx"
Well Paula Whatever league you're in I'd love a couple of fixtures with you- home or away lol |
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"I guess I do a little on occasion on this site but I also know that if I met them that would change as I come across better in person than online....as for anything else not really and I don't feel the need to change for anyone "
Exactly the same for me. I have never been photogenic and i actually hate pictures of myself, but i am absolutely 100% confident in my personality and conversation skills....and actually im not bad looking in real life lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
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There ain't no-one out of this stalkers league,,, "
my mum said there's always someone bigger and tougher than you....did she mean you soxy ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
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There ain't no-one out of this stalkers league,,, my mum said there's always someone bigger and tougher than you....did she mean you soxy ? "
Noooooooo I'm not big and tough... it's just the way I walk in high heels that make's me look that way... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
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There ain't no-one out of this stalkers league,,, my mum said there's always someone bigger and tougher than you....did she mean you soxy ?
Noooooooo I'm not big and tough... it's just the way I walk in high heels that make's me look that way... "
Cool...The world's a better place for variety and high heels of course. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No one should be made to feel like they are out of anyone's league...we are who we are. We won't always be attractive to some but we will be attractive to others "
We can be attractive to anyone...just in different ways. |
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"No one should be made to feel like they are out of anyone's league...we are who we are. We won't always be attractive to some but we will be attractive to others
We can be attractive to anyone...just in different ways."
Possibly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't subscribe to this 'out of reach/league' business.
If wanted enough, and good honest work and charm is applied, then anyone is attainable. If we apply that logic, then I would have met absolutely none of the people I have done so far.
I'm more of the _iew that preferences and tastes mean that not everyone is for everyone. For example, I'd be hard pressed to successfully arrange a meet with a woman or couple who are not interested in slim/thin guys or guys with no personality Lol
I have found that the two things I've painted above get blurred when it comes to here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" True Trav but this post wasn't just about people. ..it was about achievement and goals too."
Ah I suspected as much, thanks for clearing it up.
In that case, the first bit (with added 'or anything') probably applies most :D
My job for example, I was told I didn't have the experience or knowledge to do it, but I still went for it and I got it. I'll be apply the same logic, work and determination to attain my next job |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
What could you do, to get promoted to the next Division ?"
Frequently.
Act in spite of the fear that holds you back. I don't believe fear to be a terrible thing, you have to learn how to make that fear your drive.
Hone your skills and strengths, and learn to acknowledge your weaknesses as everybody has them.
Try anyway, even if you truly believe you will fail, but try to the best of your ability so that should you fail you know that you have been true to you.
I believe that goes for both things and people.
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
What could you do, to get promoted to the next Division ?
Frequently.
Act in spite of the fear that holds you back. I don't believe fear to be a terrible thing, you have to learn how to make that fear your drive.
Hone your skills and strengths, and learn to acknowledge your weaknesses as everybody has them.
Try anyway, even if you truly believe you will fail, but try to the best of your ability so that should you fail you know that you have been true to you.
I believe that goes for both things and people.
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Advice I will be taking! |
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"Nothing or nobody is out of our league, if people we thought were don't like us then hey ho, no big deal. We'd never refrain from contacting someone for that reason.
Just mail them anyway. What's the worst that could happen?exactly, we've had responses ranging from 'we were hoping you'd get in touch' to 'no thank' to 'go away uglies'
Hardly gonna shatter our existence to be rejected"
Shit. If they think your ugly what chance do I stand.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm often outside height or age range though.
Do people put real thought into that when they fill out preferences ?
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No I don't!!!
I am (luckily!) not as judgemental in real life as I (might) appear online! |
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"I wouldn't bother pursuing it if I felt they were only wanting to meet me out of desperation. I want to feel desired by the person I'm with, so I'd rather go without. and I've turned men down because they have met some real stunners I like to feel happy on a meet."
But you're a real stunner. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No one should be made to feel like they are out of anyone's league...we are who we are. We won't always be attractive to some but we will be attractive to others "
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Do you ever think things or people are out of your league?
What could you do, to get promoted to the next Division ?"
Nope
and if others like to believe they are in a league of their own, let em get on with it
I am quite happy doing what I'm doing and being who I am |
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. Confidence thing I'm sure. 
