 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I met for a coffee today
After weeks of email and texts and cam chats we finally met in the flesh
It was just for coffee
And you never said a word
It was uncomfortable and a little sad
So now the email I get is full of gushing adjectives for a great afternoon?
Where was I in this little jaunt because in the real world I was left wondering what had gone wrong !  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Oh don't worry the meet person is not on this site
And it was posted more out of wanting to share the frustration of a meet that didn't go that well . Not out of temper
Although I was a little sad |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
Forum Mod |
Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today
I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today
I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this "
Lol thats what i was thinking, thought she had put it here by mistake |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today
I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this "
I think a lot of experiences are shared here and I see nothing wrong in sharing the not so great times as well as the good times
It's not a dig at my meet as my meet isn't on this site - and I see so many people sharing different experiences on the forum I thought it was applicable
Having said that I'm also aware of how these forums can respond sometimes - but I took that chance |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
Forum Mod |
"Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today
I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this
I think a lot of experiences are shared here and I see nothing wrong in sharing the not so great times as well as the good times
It's not a dig at my meet as my meet isn't on this site - and I see so many people sharing different experiences on the forum I thought it was applicable
Having said that I'm also aware of how these forums can respond sometimes - but I took that chance "
If the guy is'nt on this site then thats fine,I was'nt aware he is'nt from this site when I posted
It would'nt have been a fair thread if he was a site user too |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
Forum Mod |
"everyone happy and friends now  "
Why are you rolling your eyes
I have a job to make sure that no-one would feel like shit if they read this thread and it was about them as a site user too
If thats ok with you  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I met for a coffee today
After weeks of email and texts and cam chats we finally met in the flesh
It was just for coffee
And you never said a word
It was uncomfortable and a little sad
So now the email I get is full of gushing adjectives for a great afternoon?
Where was I in this little jaunt because in the real world I was left wondering what had gone wrong ! "
Ive had this happen to me too think they have the secutity of their screens but when they come face to face with ppl they dont actually have any social skills at all so instead of a screen they have a brick wall  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I can empathise with you on this Sometimes, I think you build up an expectation or a familiarity when you speak regularly or write to each other regularly, but meeting face to face is a different thing all together. A different set of senses take over and you see a different person in front of you to the one you thought you knew |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
whoops i read it as an open message to the user, didnt realize he wasnt on this site. Maybe you could send him the message to see why he behaved in such a manner. Some people can be extremely shy and use the pc to take that shyness away yet when it comes to meets clam up.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Yes I think your right cumplaywithme - so much had been said and done by text it left a certain expectation
Not sure how to not repeat the situation but it's nice to know I'm not alone  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Perhaps that person enjoyed him/herself by your presence. Perhaps he/she needs to get out more?!
Personally, I do not find shy introverts fun to have around, and would think twice about meeting someone whose messages via FAB fail to grip my attention.
If I find them hard work via PMs and chats, then it is likely they will be hard work face to face!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
That's what was so odd Pearl as we have chatted to the wee hours on text
I honestly didn't see it coming but I guess real life just didn't match up for either of us!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That's what was so odd Pearl as we have chatted to the wee hours on text
I honestly didn't see it coming but I guess real life just didn't match up for either of us!!"
.
Some people are bolder behind the safety and security of a computer screen, and often appear to be a lot more outgoing/arsey/confrontational/whatever than when meeting face to face!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I met for a coffee today
After weeks of email and texts and cam chats we finally met in the flesh
It was just for coffee
And you never said a word
It was uncomfortable and a little sad
So now the email I get is full of gushing adjectives for a great afternoon?
Where was I in this little jaunt because in the real world I was left wondering what had gone wrong !
Ive had this happen to me too think they have the secutity of their screens but when they come face to face with ppl they dont actually have any social skills at all so instead of a screen they have a brick wall "
I doubt it's a brick wall they're facing !! lol  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I agree with Pearl. When ever I get a message from a guy saying 'im a little shy at first' I politely decline. What good is shy ?"
I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Well. I didn't think this thread would go this far but I guess the thing I take from this is that initial meets may need a different approach to the one you have on line
Perhaps I scared them - perhaps not but it's been interesting reading all your notes and quite comforting actually - so thankyou x
Andy & dee - cheque is in the post you little darlings |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ayceeCouple
over a year ago
northampton |
"
I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance "
I find leaning over you and sticking my tits in your face gets rid of those nerves Jack hehe |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Perhaps you didnt live up to his expectations and he was too polite to leg it. "
That did cross my mind !!! First thing I thought of
Shouldn't stop a chat though - but I guess for some it dies |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance
I find leaning over you and sticking my tits in your face gets rid of those nerves Jack hehe "
Yes, Jem, that worked a treat |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I agree with Pearl. When ever I get a message from a guy saying 'im a little shy at first' I politely decline. What good is shy ?
I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance "
You are not shy Jack. Seriously xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have to admit to being really nervous when first meeting anyone,but jeez,you got to make conversation!
I think too much msn and texting can take the edge off things. Get a social (and I mean social)meeting and you will know in the first few minutes whether there is anything there or not. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
lol no cheque needed was a great way to have spent a sunday afternoon with 2 great hosts, we have similar meets 1 cpl we had emailed and spoke on the phone with was fantastic pic`s was great too but was all taken alone and in different settings when we met, they was older than pic`s and gained lots of weight it turned out they had only been together 3 months and married a week or 2!!!!! and had faces like a smacked arse, it was the worst meet we ever had and was pleased to leave the pub and go to a back up cpl who was plenty of fun and had been swinging for yrs and pics was up to date, the other cpl was threatening to sue the pub for serving him a dodgy burger causing a massive scene very embarrassing, soon after there profile was deleted thank god lol, happy swinging to all but it just goes that way sometimes x andy n dee |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
, your doing a fab job crack on
