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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've often said that age and maturity are not the same thing, but I'm curious to ask others which traits do people feel define whether or not a person is mature or immature?
For example, if I said 'I want to have my own way' that would sound immature on the surface, but couldn't knowing my own mind and what I want also be seen as a sign of maturity? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I've often said that age and maturity are not the same thing, but I'm curious to ask others which traits do people feel define whether or not a person is mature or immature?
For example, if I said 'I want to have my own way' that would sound immature on the surface, but couldn't knowing my own mind and what I want also be seen as a sign of maturity?"
You don't have to be mature to know your own mind but maturity would be to recognise that having your own way may hurt others and modifying what you do to avoid that.
Many an abuser just wants to have their own way but abuse isn't mature behaviour.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my son has always been wise and mature beyond his years - very obviously so
for you to want your own way and know why etc is possibly a mature thing how you go about it might not be
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yes its a sign of maturity to know your own mind and not be influenced by others."
But as Lickety suggested, could it not also be seen as being belligerent and bratty if you insist on always doing things your own way, even at others expense? |
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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago
here and there, thereabouts |
So, I am most likely wrong and couldn't find quite the right words...but to me Maturity is making the right or difficult decision even if it is not one you would prefer,being able to understand and acknowledge how your own wants/needs/actions affect other people,and working to understand other people's viewpoints.
The difference to me is that once mature you know the courage of your convictions but are more aware your weaknesses, immaturity you cannot conceed gracefully.
I don't believe and maturity go hand in hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yes its a sign of maturity to know your own mind and not be influenced by others.
But as Lickety suggested, could it not also be seen as being belligerent and bratty if you insist on always doing things your own way, even at others expense?"
well that depends on what you want to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yes its a sign of maturity to know your own mind and not be influenced by others.
Is a two year old mature? They know what they want right then and there and often cannot be swayed."
I wasn't thinking about 2 year olds I was thinking about men in their 30s which is this mans age.  |
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"I've often said that age and maturity are not the same thing, but I'm curious to ask others which traits do people feel define whether or not a person is mature or immature?
For example, if I said 'I want to have my own way' that would sound immature on the surface, but couldn't knowing my own mind and what I want also be seen as a sign of maturity?"
It's not about the statement itself, it's always going to be about the attitude that underlies it, and the behaviour that results from that. Mature behaviour I would suggest is usually calm, reasoned, and preferably empathetic whatever the purpose, even getting your own way. That will exclude the toddler tantrums, the teenage truculence, and even the self-centred adult domination. Maturity is about balance I believe.
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