My lads out with his dad today. Has been since 9am, asked him when he collected him if he was giving him his dinner before he bought him back. He says I'll let you know later.
3pm still no text I'm waiting to stick a chicken in the oven to roast. So I text to ask and get told no I'm dropping him off after we have our photos taken won't be doing his dinner.
He has his dinner around 5 every day, and at the moment I have to put him to bed at 6.30 to allow the poor lad some fidget time to get comfy with his arm in plaster before he goes to sleep.
It's now half past 5 and I'm getting irate. There's a bath run going cold and I've not even started dinner (bar the chicken which is keeping warm) because he's not even told me he's left his house yet which is 20 mins away.
I wonder if I ask Santa nicely if I can have the gift of being able to punch him on the nose just once without getting into trouble.  |
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Just leave something by the door he can trip over and hopefully smash his face into the floor!!!
If not i hope Santa grants it.. Failing that i'll do it for you! |
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"Let him be with his dad on his terms. You are forcing your schedule onto him."
I'm trying to do what's best for a tired 3 year old with a possibly fractured elbow that doesn't sleep well.
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Children need a routine.. if the child is tired he wont eat .. then he wont sleep and will be really cranky tomorrow. The least a Dad can do when they have a child for the day is to feed them two meals and get him home at a reasonable hour.
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my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top. |
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"my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top."
She never said she was going to deny him access!  |
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"Children need a routine.. if the child is tired he wont eat .. then he wont sleep and will be really cranky tomorrow. The least a Dad can do when they have a child for the day is to feed them two meals and get him home at a reasonable hour.
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"my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top.
She never said she was going to deny him access! "
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"my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top."
If you knew the back story like some of the other posters on here then you would understand.
And like I said. His arm is in plaster. He's not sleeping well. He is very uncomfortable and as a result needs to get settled at a decent time or he fidgets so much with his arm that he gets in a right state and then it's me that has to calm him down. His dad knows this. I normally don't mind as long as he's fed and home in time for bed or not fed and home at a reasonable time to eat so I can get him to bed. He didn't sleep great at the best of times, no matter what time he goes to bed he doesn't get up any later so yes..that half hour (or an hour now in this instance) makes a huge difference so tomorrow he will be shattered and cranky.
But that's ok coz it's only me that has to put up with it!!  |
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"my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top.
She never said she was going to deny him access!
"His dad is lucky he gets to take him anywhere he's already on his last chance. ""
Yes that's not from bringing him back late though!! Criminal records, violence, smashing up my house with me and my son in it, the list goes on! |
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"my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top.
If you knew the back story like some of the other posters on here then you would understand.
And like I said. His arm is in plaster. He's not sleeping well. He is very uncomfortable and as a result needs to get settled at a decent time or he fidgets so much with his arm that he gets in a right state and then it's me that has to calm him down. His dad knows this. I normally don't mind as long as he's fed and home in time for bed or not fed and home at a reasonable time to eat so I can get him to bed. He didn't sleep great at the best of times, no matter what time he goes to bed he doesn't get up any later so yes..that half hour (or an hour now in this instance) makes a huge difference so tomorrow he will be shattered and cranky.
But that's ok coz it's only me that has to put up with it!! "
Yes you are right I don't know the backstory and I apologise if I upset you but you are posting on a public forum. Did you expect everyone to just agree that his dad is a right so and so when as you say nobody knows what the situation is. I've never had that problem with my kids because me and their mum get along fine. When I have my kids over the weekend I'm in charge of their well being and their schedule. I wouldn't appreciate being told how to spend my time with them. If they are going to be late though I will always text so I'll give you that one. |
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"my children never had a timed to the minute schedule. Does 30 minutes really make that much difference?
It's obvious you and the dad don't get along but to deny him access only harms the child. There are good reasons to not allow access to the father if he is abusive or totally unreliable, but being late for a bath or having his rest half an hour late is a bit over the top.
She never said she was going to deny him access!
"His dad is lucky he gets to take him anywhere he's already on his last chance. "
Yes that's not from bringing him back late though!! Criminal records, violence, smashing up my house with me and my son in it, the list goes on!"
Then you are right, he is lucky to have any access. |
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