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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok, I know this subject is one that will have many of you rolling your eyes, and telling your screen to get a life, but this is a genuine question, and it's about........race!

I know I know see the thing is, people fancy who they fancy, it is up to you entirely who you choose to meet, I respect that totaly, and it's in no way racist, just as it's not homophobic that I don't want to meet men, my question is, what is it that puts you off? And can every one who answers on the thread please respect each others views, or keep your nasty comments to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You see there are quite a few women on here that are after bbc only, that's fine but I tend to stay away from those profiles, because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype"

Its interesting how the theme of this thread appears to be 'don't prejudge people', yet that's exactly what you just did?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You see there are quite a few women on here that are after bbc only, that's fine but I tend to stay away from those profiles, because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype

Its interesting how the theme of this thread appears to be 'don't prejudge people', yet that's exactly what you just did?"

No not a judgement just how I feel about it, if that is what they want then more power to ya, it's just not what I want

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted."

As it should be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted."

this. I don't get why some get so worked up about those that don't want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married or Bi men.

And profile names like c*ntsmasher or cum launcher. You could be the hottest person in the world but with a stupid profile name forget it.

And cock pics while on the toilet. Just not sexy!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You see there are quite a few women on here that are after bbc only, that's fine but I tend to stay away from those profiles, because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype

Its interesting how the theme of this thread appears to be 'don't prejudge people', yet that's exactly what you just did?

No not a judgement just how I feel about it, if that is what they want then more power to ya, it's just not what I want"

And how you feel about it is based upon your own preconceived ideas of why some women specifically want to meet black guys, and therein lies your answer as to why some people don't want to meet others.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I think I understand. I never reply to men who say they are really into older or mature.

I see myself as a person first and don't really enjoy sex with those who have tick lists.

BUT ... your question is really unanswerable.

There will be as many reasons as their are women.

Each woman will have her own reasons.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

I prefer to meet the person and not the colour or the size of their cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I prefer to meet the person and not the colour or the size of their cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You see there are quite a few women on here that are after bbc only, that's fine but I tend to stay away from those profiles, because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype

Its interesting how the theme of this thread appears to be 'don't prejudge people', yet that's exactly what you just did?

No not a judgement just how I feel about it, if that is what they want then more power to ya, it's just not what I want

No, how I feel about it is based upon my need to be viewed as a person, I have no preconceived ideas of why women want to meet specifically black guys, all I know is I'm more than a race, I'm a man with a beating heart, who wants people to see "me" not my skin colour, I don't care what your preference is, but I personally don't want to be objectified and cast as some kind of stereotype, it's like saying "black guys are all the same" were not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's something you just have to accept.

I've been turned down for being bald, for having facial hair and for not being gym fit.

Just move on mate, you can drive yourself mad asking "Why????"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted.

this. I don't get why some get so worked up about those that don't want to meet them."

Ego and entitlement

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't distinguish between race or colour, I like someone for themselves. Same as I prefer people to be attracted to me as a person and not to do with my size or age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a preference. I can see why it might annoy you to be objectified but ultimately you also have expressed a preference not to meet people that are fixated on the idea of BBC.

Worrying about other people's preferences is probably the easiest way to drive yourself crazy on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its the same as men who mention looks on their profile or message, it puts me off because I don't want to meet someone who thinks looks are so important.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understand your frustration but there are just as many profiles that say white men only. I try not to take offence and have to put my own presumptions aside.

I have had a couple stop talking to me the instant they saw my face pic, even though they got in touch with me. I had already seen that their profile said white men only, but I was keen to see if that was a hard rule. So what do I make of that?

In the end, this is a sex site where some of society's normal rules don't apply, as many of us are here to explore and fulfil fantasies. That might mean that someone you like won't pay you mind, but that's what we have to accept here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype, I'm more than just a race, I'm a person with feelings,"

Feelings don't really come into in Swinging...

Swinging is swinging.

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I am primarily attracted to black men. But I wouldn't say that any of the men i've met conform to a mould or a stereotype. I actually prefer those who don't.

I also have met white men. All of them very different from each other.

The fact that i'm more physically attracted to black men doesn't mean I will meet any black man, or discount a white man. It's all about the whole package. I like men who are educated, gentlemanly types, regardless of race. Not into thugs of any race or men who write one line emails of any race.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me there are just certain nationalities i just don't fancy, some nationalities have striking features that are different to others that I'm just not attracted to and some i am, I like people but I'm not attracted to everyone and though I may like them as a person I'm not going to have sex with someone if there is no physical attraction

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't have a physical type that I go for, just something catches my eye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted."

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's to say that somone looking for BBC isn't interested in the man as a whole? Why does everyone assume that because you find a particular feature attractive then you don't care about the rest of the package? That assumption to me is just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype, I'm more than just a race, I'm a person with feelings,

Feelings don't really come into in Swinging...

Swinging is swinging. "

Do feelings not come into swinging?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not keen on men with facial hair and can't stand women with facial hair. Skin colour is not one of my selection criteria. I have loads of preferences but when someone doesn't meet one, the bit I do like about them overrides it - I have a gestalt and holistic view of who I meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype, I'm more than just a race, I'm a person with feelings,

Feelings don't really come into in Swinging...

Swinging is swinging.

Do feelings not come into swinging?"

to some no

to me yes, I'm always awear of the fact there is a real person on the other end of the PC and would never say anything to hurt or upset anyone, some on the other hand are very rude and don't consider people's feelings

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By *oo hotCouple over a year ago

North West

"Ok, I know this subject is one that will have many of you rolling your eyes, and telling your screen to get a life, but this is a genuine question, and it's about........race!

The very worst thing is that people have hang ups and issues about others if their preferences happen to exclude them.

Can't speak for anyone else, but for us this is not about dating and emotions. For us, this is about fulfilling fantasies with people who can do that for us. Those people are most unlikely to fit the bill if they have issues themselves about the inclusiveness (or exclusiveness) of other people's preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I love white women as well as women of my own culture simply because growing up I've grown up with a lot of white British people in my life hence why I'm attracted to white British girls mmmm

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Quite simple. If I am attracted to someone, then I am attracted.

this. I don't get why some get so worked up about those that don't want to meet them.

Ego and entitlement"

this... i don't get why people spend of my time trying to change the ones that don't want to meet them.... as opposed to focusing on meeting the ones that do want to meet....

its like the thril of the chase, when you know the chase isn't leading anywhere, but you already knew that from the beginning.....

wasted energy, then complaining to every that energy has been wasted

i don't see why people believe that they have to be attractive to everyone, and in effect thats what the opening post does...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get it. Why are so many white males motivated to post the same question???

I don't get the 'only BBC' crew but then it's the same as why is 29 year old ok but not a 30 year old. Preferences on here are not meant to be considered logical or tasteful by all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get it. Why are so many white males motivated to post the same question???

I don't get the 'only BBC' crew but then it's the same as why is 29 year old ok but not a 30 year old. Preferences on here are not meant to be considered logical or tasteful by all.

Good point lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype, I'm more than just a race, I'm a person with feelings,

Feelings don't really come into in Swinging...

Swinging is swinging.

Do feelings not come into swinging?

to some no

A few people have quoted me here..

So just to PUT INTO CONTEXT what I actually meant.

There are "feelings" and "FEELINGS"

I have to like the person, converse with the person, the person needs to be able to tell me to shut the fuck up when I need to hear it..and we have to get on.

BUT...

When "feelings" are along the lines of "this could be more than Sex"

..I tend to freak the fuck out.

I think "this person is great and I like this person" is fine in swinging..

But..

When people start explaining themselves to me, telling me things I don't really NEED to know, I just freak out.

That's just me.

$0.02

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't really have any race based preferences. But for those who do I always assume it's mainly a looks thing. e.g. I won't meet anyone shorter than me because I don't like the way I look next to them. And I'm not really keen on blond men because I don't trust people where you can't see their eyebrows. Maybe someone just prefers the look of black/white/Asian men.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't know why people bother about other peoples preferences. One person can't be attractive to everyone whether it be race height or whatever. I'm mature, short and fat, two of those things I can't do anything about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i cant say why i dont like it i just dont, same as why im not attracted to all white men there is just something that isnt fired in my brain that makes me go oh yeah i want him

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

"You see there are quite a few women on here that are after bbc only, that's fine but I tend to stay away from those profiles, because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype

Its interesting how the theme of this thread appears to be 'don't prejudge people', yet that's exactly what you just did?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I fuck any women of any colour as I need variety

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you have just done what you are talking about, you say you keep away from profiles saying BBC only, ive met many woman within the interracial party seen who may have that on there profiles.Yes there are many couples and single woman who want the stereotypical BBC,however there are many that use the thrase on there profile to attract blackmen in general as they are attracted to them, alot of the woman I know get to know the personalities and the way they connect getting to know them, meeting them socially or at parties, where your know if you ever been to a bmfc party its alot about the social side aswell as maybe play if both decide

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will answer your question from my point of view. I am and have been attracted to men of many races. The ones I'm not attracted are Inuits,Japanese,Hawaiin and Mongolian men. I don't feel any physical attraction when looking into their faces. I'm attracted to handsome men,I see that in a lot of different races with different facial features. I sometimes feel the attraction before meeting face to face,if a warm personality comes across in text. I have met some men in person and not felt the attraction. The people who will discount whole races do it for their reasons,they may not be able to tell you why. I would say of the nationalities I stated there may be exceptions but I haven't met them yet

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Ok, I know this subject is one that will have many of you rolling your eyes, and telling your screen to get a life, but this is a genuine question, and it's about........race!

I have a preference for Caucasian (as in White Northern and Western European) and Black people

I have met people from other races and liked some. But as a general rule, I am not attracted to their facial characteristics nor their behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, I know this subject is one that will have many of you rolling your eyes, and telling your screen to get a life, but this is a genuine question, and it's about........race!

I have a preference for Caucasian (as in White Northern and Western European) and Black people

I have met people from other races and liked some. But as a general rule, I am not attracted to their facial characteristics nor their behaviour"

When you start assuming what someone's behaviour is based on race or nationality, it stops being a sexual attraction preference and becomes something else.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Ok, I know this subject is one that will have many of you rolling your eyes, and telling your screen to get a life, but this is a genuine question, and it's about........race!

I have a preference for Caucasian (as in White Northern and Western European) and Black people

I have met people from other races and liked some. But as a general rule, I am not attracted to their facial characteristics nor their behaviour

When you start assuming what someone's behaviour is based on race or nationality, it stops being a sexual attraction preference and becomes something else. "

No it doesn't; it still remains a preference based on past experiences

Just like I have noticed from past experience what Indian or Oriental people look like. I don't need to personally meet each and every Indian or Oriental person on the planet to re-verify that they indeed have similar facial features

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Ok, I know this subject is one that will have many of you rolling your eyes, and telling your screen to get a life, but this is a genuine question, and it's about........race!

You see there are quite a few women on here that are after bbc only, that's fine but I tend to stay away from those profiles, because I want women to be interested in the person not the stereotype, I'm more than just a race, I'm a person with feelings, so in the spirit of gauging public oppinion, what is your view?"
I like what I like, MY preferences that count, not others opinions of them, apart from those I may message, if they don't like it, I won't lose sleep over it.

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