Hi,
I never understand why people put themselves down on their profiles, a little bit of wit if fine.
In my experience we are all attractive to someone and attraction comes in a many forms not just physical.
Am i off the mark on this  |
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"Reverse psychology perhaps.
If I put myself down maybe someone will message me and say how Im not.
Falls under attention seeking. In some cases"
Ask the ladies who blocked me after seeing my face pic...
Maybe I should invent munting? Then I would be a munter looking for a muntee? |
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I'm pretty insecure and was an ugly kid - or so the school bullies told me. As a defence mechanism I started to put myself down in a jokey way before anyone else could do it for me! It's a hard habit to break!!  xx |
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Sometimes it is a personality trait, people can be naturally self-deprecating 
Sometimes it also useful to try and avoid coming across as arrogant - there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. One is a major turn on, and one a major turn off. |
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By *ouseCarlMan
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty insecure and was an ugly kid - or so the school bullies told me. As a defence mechanism I started to put myself down in a jokey way before anyone else could do it for me! It's a hard habit to break!! xx"
Well, you have the last laugh mow ! ?? |
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"Reverse psychology perhaps.
If I put myself down maybe someone will message me and say how Im not.
Falls under attention seeking. In some cases"
100% this  |
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By *ouseCarlMan
over a year ago
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"Hi,
I never understand why people put themselves down on their profiles, a little bit of wit if fine.
In my experience we are all attractive to someone and attraction comes in a many forms not just physical.
Am i off the mark on this "
Attraction may come in may forms. ..and I have none of them. ??... I have humour and self deprecation. .. so I fill my boots with both.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Putting oneself down as an attention seeking strategy will only work for one gender type and not the other, because attention always comes seeking for them whether they are expectant or not.#trutalk |
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"I'm pretty insecure and was an ugly kid - or so the school bullies told me. As a defence mechanism I started to put myself down in a jokey way before anyone else could do it for me! It's a hard habit to break!! xx
Well, you have the last laugh mow ! ??"
Yes and no! Let's just say I don't see what some others seem to see - but I don't think i'm ugly either! Xx |
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"Putting oneself down as an attention seeking strategy will only work for one gender type and not the other, because attention always comes seeking for them whether they are expectant or not.#trutalk"
Is it looking for attention or are people so body conscience these days |
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"Hi,
I never understand why people put themselves down on their profiles, a little bit of wit if fine.
In my experience we are all attractive to someone and attraction comes in a many forms not just physical.
Am i off the mark on this "
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I'm fairly self deprecating. I wouldn't put it on my profile unless it was funny. I aim to be humorous in my self deprecation, but I'm shit at it so fail quite frequently  |
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I never understand why guys come on here and big themselves down! Average this, average that - not much to look at etc... I guess they believe they're being realistic or honest - but holding such a poor self image of yourself is only doing yourself a great disservice.
Self love and appreciation for what you are is very important for your own well being! |
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"I never understand why guys come on here and big themselves down! Average this, average that - not much to look at etc... I guess they believe they're being realistic or honest - but holding such a poor self image of yourself is only doing yourself a great disservice.
Self love and appreciation for what you are is very important for your own well
being!"
I am average though. Some people think I'm an ugly fucker and some think I'm handsome. So unless they are all lying I've got to accept I'm average. But at least I'm not mean.  |
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"I never understand why guys come on here and big themselves down! Average this, average that - not much to look at etc... I guess they believe they're being realistic or honest - but holding such a poor self image of yourself is only doing yourself a great disservice.
Self love and appreciation for what you are is very important for your own well
being!
I am average though. Some people think I'm an ugly fucker and some think I'm handsome. So unless they are all lying I've got to accept I'm average. But at least I'm not mean. "
But if your constantly projecting that out there on here and in your real life - when you look in the mirror. What real value does that give to yourself?
You ain't average Steve - your unique!  |
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I like to think I'm very confident person and definitely don't go in for self deprecation on my profile.
However I do sometimes in chat or on the forums. Maybe it's my inner mouse trying to get out. |
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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago
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For what its worth a little self deprication, usually means that someone is at least a little humble..
No matter what you say that is a far more attractive quality than someone saying I am a superfly, good looking, stud muffin, bastard and all you ladies should be proud to be in my queue!!
I read a profile that said "Alpha Female" What the fucking hell does that mean.. She is basically saying.. I am better than all of you so only seriously hot, cultured, superfly males apply... Well good luck with that.. I know for a fact the type of guys you will attract.. You can spend your meet looking in the mirror!!
Just my opinion but someone who is ever so slightly humble is far more attractive than someone who is brash and self obsessed...
I will put this soap box away now!!
Respectfully
Arthur J Muntington of Munting Ohio |
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Define self depreciation....
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Just because someone is being honest doesnt mean theyre putting themselves down.
I look at it as being confident of who they are and by putting such statement they can avoid getting messages from people who are not into their type.
As for seeking attention, in this site...who doesnt..? |
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