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Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used. |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."
swinging has evolved with a social theme but end result sex ,it's purely physical no emotion involved  |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.swinging has evolved with a social theme but end result sex ,it's purely physical no emotion involved "
What is the point in being intimate with someone I don't connect with? |
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Well said,
Sex connect us not only with another being, but with our own being. Sex when fully engaged in, is a always a tricky business, the concept of "SAFE SEX" is an oxymoron....
Falling in love, obsession, rejection, abandonment, loss of self, fear of annihilation.... all potential psychological side-effect of sex.
One spontaneous sexual encounter can change the course of a life, for better or worse...
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I like all types of sex, from wham bam thank you ma'am' to a slow lazy screw that lasts all day. Most of the time I'll never see those guys again. No 'connection', no relationship.
Saying something is so because you believe it is doesn't make it so. Others feel differently. |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.swinging has evolved with a social theme but end result sex ,it's purely physical no emotion involved
What is the point in being intimate with someone I don't connect with? "
Totally agree with you. If it was *just* sex, I'd charge. |
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"Well said,
Sex connect us not only with another being, but with our own being. Sex when fully engaged in, is a always a tricky business, the concept of "SAFE SEX" is an oxymoron....
Falling in love, obsession, rejection, abandonment, loss of self, fear of annihilation.... all potential psychological side-effect of sex.
One spontaneous sexual encounter can change the course of a life, for better or worse...
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."
Sex means a few orgasms. Therefore it means something xD |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.swinging has evolved with a social theme but end result sex ,it's purely physical no emotion involved
What is the point in being intimate with someone I don't connect with? "
I agree. No point whatsoever as far as I'm concerned. Some people are obviously happy to have sex with anyone just for the sake of it. I really couldn't do that. If there isn't a physical attraction and a connection then I'd rather be without. |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."
That implies that being sexually used is a bad thing......? |
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"Sex with anyone other than gimp is purely lust a laugh and connection, and friends, that is where i leave it. 
Her"
Sure I get that but if I did not have connection with some one I couldn't and wouldn't enjoy it, there has to be chemistry I don't care how beautiful the person is without connection there is no sex Iam aafraid  |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."
Agree hence my hesitation so far on here .. Struggle to detach the physical from the emotional |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
That implies that being sexually used is a bad thing......?"
Yes it does to me |
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"What about mutually using each other for carnal pleasure? "
I had a guy say that to me once. He spent all his free time with me, cuddled me when aunt flo was visiting, took me out for dinner and to the movies. But he said we were using eachother for carnal pleasure. He then fucked off one day and I've not heard from him since |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
Agree hence my hesitation so far on here .. Struggle to detach the physical from the emotional "
yes so do I its almost callous  |
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"I like all types of sex, from wham bam thank you ma'am' to a slow lazy screw that lasts all day. Most of the time I'll never see those guys again. No 'connection', no relationship.
Saying something is so because you believe it is doesn't make it so. Others feel differently."
I feel this way as well. Doesn't bother me to use someone and be used, we both wanted the same thing and enjoyed it so i don't see a problem. |
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"What about mutually using each other for carnal pleasure?
Define carnal pleasure please "
pleasures of the flesh. The feel of someone,the lust,the pleasure from pleasuring each other. No emotional attachment |
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"What about mutually using each other for carnal pleasure?
Define carnal pleasure please
pleasures of the flesh. The feel of someone,the lust,the pleasure from pleasuring each other. No emotional attachment "
Connecting with some one does not mean we
are emotionally attached to someone are we? |
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"What about mutually using each other for carnal pleasure?
Define carnal pleasure please
pleasures of the flesh. The feel of someone,the lust,the pleasure from pleasuring each other. No emotional attachment
Connecting with some one does not mean we
are emotionally attached to someone are we? "
Even with fuck n go there can still be a connection.
Everyone is different. |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names  |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names "
Phew!! Not just me then lol |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names "
I couldn't do that it is not me  |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names
I couldn't do that it is not me "
good for you, we are all different |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names
I couldn't do that it is not me
good for you, we are all different "
Yes agree |
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"Sex with anyone other than gimp is purely lust a laugh and connection, and friends, that is where i leave it.
Her
Sure I get that but if I did not have connection with some one I couldn't and wouldn't enjoy it, there has to be chemistry I don't care how beautiful the person is without connection there is no sex Iam aafraid "
connection and chemistry i can understand, but meaning to a degree is feelings yes?
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"Some I haven't seen their face, let alone fucking speak to them....
love that, just base needs being satisfied!!
Don't you miss the passion, kissing and the cuddling?"
nope. if I want that I know where to get it but sometimes just a good hard fucking is what I want. no need for names or chit chat or coffee, just orgasms and plenty of them!
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"Some I haven't seen their face, let alone fucking speak to them....
love that, just base needs being satisfied!!
Don't you miss the passion, kissing and the cuddling?
nope. if I want that I know where to get it but sometimes just a good hard fucking is what I want. no need for names or chit chat or coffee, just orgasms and plenty of them!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Some I haven't seen their face, let alone fucking speak to them....
love that, just base needs being satisfied!!
Don't you miss the passion, kissing and the cuddling?
nope. if I want that I know where to get it but sometimes just a good hard fucking is what I want. no need for names or chit chat or coffee, just orgasms and plenty of them!
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"Some I haven't seen their face, let alone fucking speak to them....
love that, just base needs being satisfied!!
Don't you miss the passion, kissing and the cuddling?
nope. if I want that I know where to get it but sometimes just a good hard fucking is what I want. no need for names or chit chat or coffee, just orgasms and plenty of them!
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names "
I'm seeing someone who I have no idea what his name is. Known him 18 months,can't really ask him now can I? |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names
I'm seeing someone who I have no idea what his name is. Known him 18 months,can't really ask him now can I? "
Just call him lol |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names
I'm seeing someone who I have no idea what his name is. Known him 18 months,can't really ask him now can I?
Just call him lol "
call him what?  |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names
I couldn't do that it is not me "
Are you Meatloaf? |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names
I couldn't do that it is not me
Are you Meatloaf?"
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used."
. Couldn't agree more, I would rather have no sex than empty sex. However most on here don't feel the same way.
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.swinging has evolved with a social theme but end result sex ,it's purely physical no emotion involved
What is the point in being intimate with someone I don't connect with? "
If you need a connection then perhaps swinging is not for you? There are many quite content with pleasant physical stimulation. Making love is however always best
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I like the connection too, I have to like someone's personality before I want to meet them, yes I also enjoy the kissing and cuddling and intimacy to a certain degree but the deep emotional feelings don't come out to play |
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"I like the connection too, I have to like someone's personality before I want to meet them, yes I also enjoy the kissing and cuddling and intimacy to a certain degree but the deep emotional feelings don't come out to play"
sometimes that just happens though, and that can be painful |
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"I like the connection too, I have to like someone's personality before I want to meet them, yes I also enjoy the kissing and cuddling and intimacy to a certain degree but the deep emotional feelings don't come out to play
sometimes that just happens though, and that can be painful"
Yes my sweet it can  |
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I think if you are single the chances are you will be needing some stronger connection than just a fuck, everyone is different of course, a lot depends on what's going on in a persons life some just want pure sex with no emotion as they don't require it from that person, that will probably be because they have the emotional ties with someone all ready , but pure sex without emotion can sometimes help people reach new heights in sexual pleasure I felt that at times, and it was amazing but after my need for more grew stronger.
So I've been in both mind frames and now it's more about a connection of the mind and body that does it for me I really want it all, not sure if I can find it here but I'm enjoying looking most of the time . |
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"Sex isn't good unless it means something. It doesn't necessarily need to mean "love" and it doesn't necessarily need to happen in a relationship, but it does need to mean intimacy and connection...There exists a very fine line between being sexually liberated and being sexually used.
what if I like being sexually used?
I have had amazing sex with people whom I didn't even know their names "
ha ha ditto!
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"I think if you are single the chances are you will be needing some stronger connection than just a fuck, everyone is different of course, a lot depends on what's going on in a persons life some just want pure sex with no emotion as they don't require it from that person, that will probably be because they have the emotional ties with someone all ready.......... "
Yes, I think that's why couples often _iew it differently to singles, I think that we are all naturally programmed to require some depth of intimacy somewhere in our lives.
To my mind it's a sliding scale, not an on/off, good/bad thing. I love all forms of intensity and I could have a hot session with someone that was solely about physical pleasure, based on nothing more than a superficial and possibly even transient animal attraction.
But I agree that does not have enough depth to satisfy me for more than five minutes, so I really prefer a connection that fully engages my mind, and yes, preferably my emotions too. I want to be overwhelmed with the intensity of it at the deepest level, and the deeper that is, the more satisfying it becomes to my mind.
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We agree to a level, hence why we have socials first we like to "know" the people we fuck and we have made lots of friends on the swinging scene.
We do occasionally do one offs but prefer it when we have regular meets |
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