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knock your confidence

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Been on fab for 2months now. Great site. One thing ive noticed thou is if a guy is confident. Ie puts body pictures up..happy with there looks..etc some people take it on themselves to try and knock that confidence out of you. Ie..your big headed because your happy with your looks or hide the body picture you fat cunt. Just 2 examples there. Im sure guys do it to you ladys aswell but i only chat to women. So my question is do any ladies/or guys look to put people down?

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Been on fab for 2months now. Great site. One thing ive noticed thou is if a guy is confident. Ie puts body pictures up..happy with there looks..etc some people take it on themselves to try and knock that confidence out of you. Ie..your big headed because your happy with your looks or hide the body picture you fat cunt. Just 2 examples there. Im sure guys do it to you ladys aswell but i only chat to women. So my question is do any ladies/or guys look to put people down?"
I think some people get off on it, ignore. You are who you are.....

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

No I dont look to put people down.

At times my wit and humour is lost on people, understandable when your talking with your fingers and a keyboard.

My advice; unless you ask for opinions, take no notice of them - its only the internet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been on fab for 2months now. Great site. One thing ive noticed thou is if a guy is confident. Ie puts body pictures up..happy with there looks..etc some people take it on themselves to try and knock that confidence out of you. Ie..your big headed because your happy with your looks or hide the body picture you fat cunt. Just 2 examples there. Im sure guys do it to you ladys aswell but i only chat to women. So my question is do any ladies/or guys look to put people down?"
look every negative is a blow to your confidence what some women don't realise is thoughtless blocks knock your confidence but think some people for the fun of it will knock you but ignore them ,plenty of good people here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had abusive messages in the past and they bothered me for a while but when I weighed up the amount of nasty messages I got to the compliments and offers, there was no competition

I couldn't careless what people think about how I look, at the end of the day, I'm happy with myself and how I look and that's what matters

Take absolutely no notice at all of the low life's who go out of their way just to be cruel. It's them that will be sat at home with their hand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be true to who you are as a person and to hell with others if don't like your pics ... Why worry you like and that's what matters not them . You cant let people put you down as some love doing that its and the thing they get off on .. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No definitely not, I don't look at other guys profiles, if I did I'd never put them down. I'd certainly never put a woman down about her appearance, it's a golden rule in life. Take it as a compliment mate, they're obviously jealous of you. Us humans come in all shapes and sizes and we all find different things attractive, just block them and forget about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And for the record, I certainly can't see any reason for you receiving abusive messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol its funny if some one messages with nasty messages their obviously a bit fucked up,i take it as a compliment lol its pure jealousy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Other people don't knock my confidence. Only I can do that by letting things get to me. That said, I've pretty much shot mine to pieces

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No definitely not, I don't look at other guys profiles, if I did I'd never put them down. I'd certainly never put a woman down about her appearance, it's a golden rule in life. Take it as a compliment mate, they're obviously jealous of you. Us humans come in all shapes and sizes and we all find different things attractive, just block them and forget about it

well said

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

If someone here gave me a bash Id think 'Fuck off'.

If someone in the street or whatever gave me a bash I would think 'Fuck off'.

I wouldnt take any notice of them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol its funny if some one messages with nasty messages their obviously a bit fucked up,i take it as a compliment lol its pure jealousy."
yes your right xx

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

There will always be those who can make themselves better by dragging others down .That can be anywhere , not just here . The main thing is why would a total strangers opinion on you matter anyway?

Just be you , look at the comments from the negative Nellies as an early warning that they ain't ppl you'd want to even meet. They just saved you wasting any further energy on them, move on to speak to the decent ppl on here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blocks aren't thoughtless. It's a way of preventing being messaged again by someone you aren't interested in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just ignore it all you do what you want

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By *educedWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

So what if they did!

I am me and there is nothing anyone can say or do to change that. If they don't like my pics or don't want to meet me, well there's plenty more fish in the sea!

To be fair, I am not knocked for looks (I get some comments about my pics being too tame) etc but I am treated as if I don't know/ understand how the scene/ life style works because I am relatively new to Fab.

Suckers!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with being proud of your body or physique but i think people like someone who may be a little humble as well, stating on your profile your fabulous may appear a tad conceited and arrogant.

A woman would like you to admire her body also and not vainly strut around like a cock in a chicken coup admiring your own and some women like an intelligent mind for conversation more than a parading guy.

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

"There is nothing wrong with being proud of your body or physique but i think people like someone who may be a little humble as well, stating on your profile your fabulous may appear a tad conceited and arrogant.

Fabulous - is in the pre set settings for body size though. When I see it written I take it as BBW

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By *tmmCouple over a year ago

harlow

With the age gap and sub/dom we get a large number of abusive messages mostly saying I'm abused or Phil is a child snatcher

(I've never been treated so well in my life)

One of my favourites though was a couple. The guy spent all day texting me various sexy scenarios, compliments telling me I was going to be a better shag that his wife. Then he was saying I should leave Phil and run off with him. Which I declined. There started the tirade of abuse calling me fat, ugly, fat legs etc. I "won" this by sending all his complimentary texts back to him saying "now tell me I'm fat." And he started begging for the meet to be back on...

That knocked me down really badly and I avoided fab for a few months. Sometimes this site is great and it has made me feel the best about myself I've ever felt but occasionally someone can break you back down to where you started.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

No one on this site will impact my self respect, confidence or self worth

And I try not to impact anyone else's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some will. Inferiority complexes or jealous.

OP your profile seems very confident but cheeky funny, not conceited. Exactly the sort of thing I like. Don't let people get you down.

Love your 'keks up the arse crack' pic!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just the way it is, I had my confidence stolen from me in the school years... Hanging out with my mate, his girlfriend at the time and her mate... Her mate turns round and states... "if you hung out with better looking friends we could double date"... Such a small comment that has stayed with me forever!

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By *ike4362ukMan over a year ago

Cheshunt

The only place I've seen it is in the chat rooms. Some folk seem to think they 'own' them and can be very rude. I just block them when they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The green eyed monster perhaps! Most so queer as folk!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Yes I've noticed that people do try and put others down on here for no apparent reason. It's very childish and says a lot about the poster/message sender that they need to belittle others to make themselves feel better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The green eyed monster perhaps! Most so queer as folk! "
nowt*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's easy to take every little thing as a knock back if you let.

People say things and not mean it how you take.

I have no time for the deliberately abusive I just think their up their own backside and a little sad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Blocks aren't thoughtless. It's a way of preventing being messaged again by someone you aren't interested in. "
some blocks are thoughtless its a matter of opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Blocks aren't thoughtless. It's a way of preventing being messaged again by someone you aren't interested in. some blocks are thoughtless its a matter of opinion

Exactly I look at them as stopping someone from wasting their time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There will always be those who can make themselves better by dragging others down .That can be anywhere , not just here . The main thing is why would a total strangers opinion on you matter anyway?

This.

It's a life skill fella. Some of the jealous or insecure will try to drag others down. It's your choice if you let them succeed with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I dont look to put people down.

At times my wit and humour is lost on people, understandable when your talking with your fingers and a keyboard.

My advice; unless you ask for opinions, take no notice of them - its only the internet."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sometimes confidence can come across as arrogance, this is what i see on here

(not aimed at the op btw)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have done it yourself though so why do you do it to others?

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By *icefellatwoMan over a year ago

hastings

"With the age gap and sub/dom we get a large number of abusive messages mostly saying I'm abused or Phil is a child snatcher

(I've never been treated so well in my life)

When you get people like that treat them with the contempt they deserve and block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

". So my question is do any ladies/or guys look to put people down?"

2 wrongs dont make a right and i am sure in the past you have done the same

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By *y2funMan over a year ago

DUDLEY

"some people take it on themselves to try and knock that confidence out of you. "

mate we ahve heard it all....... don't take any notice now... place is half full of time wasters and nutters

feel free to knock way!

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

From my experience, people who are busy knocking others have something missing, usually a life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many things have knocked my confidence over the years. But I won't let strangers and randomers who I don't know on an Internet site be one of them!

The Internet is full of trolls who are very brave behind an anonymous keyboard but who would run a mile if you met in person

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By *unPeteMan over a year ago

Near Bristol

Yes there are people on Fab that just want to put you down. Sad eh? this is how they get their kicks,

They do it because they can, think of them as jealous cowards and move on.

If it's really offensive, report the profile to admin.

Just remember all those fun people you've met so far !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Many things have knocked my confidence over the years. But I won't let strangers and randomers who I don't know on an Internet site be one of them!

The Internet is full of trolls who are very brave behind an anonymous keyboard but who would run a mile if you met in person

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yes your so right in saying this .

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By *bony in IvoryCouple over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Insecure people have to put others down and be nasty to make themselves feel confident

Confidence isn't walking into a room with your nose in the air... And thinking you're better than every one eles.It's walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone eles in the first place... Be yourself n keep it real

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Blocks aren't thoughtless. It's a way of preventing being messaged again by someone you aren't interested in. some blocks are thoughtless its a matter of opinion

Exactly I look at them as stopping someone from wasting their time "
let me give you an example messaging is very much detached from reality one person could read a message one way another reads it completely different,so a block without meeting having chatted for ages and got on I see as unfair because in reality you would probably get on with that person ,it also makes situations like going to clubs and interacting with the community in public areas such as this awkward it makes another person feel insecure in my opinion for little reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Blocks aren't thoughtless. It's a way of preventing being messaged again by someone you aren't interested in. some blocks are thoughtless its a matter of opinion

Exactly I look at them as stopping someone from wasting their time let me give you an example messaging is very much detached from reality one person could read a message one way another reads it completely different,so a block without meeting having chatted for ages and got on I see as unfair because in reality you would probably get on with that person ,it also makes situations like going to clubs and interacting with the community in public areas such as this awkward it makes another person feel insecure in my opinion for little reason

I agree but there's no easy answer I've turned people down on here and blocked - then met them at a club and got on

It's a time and numbers game

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